#bbb.txt

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Let's show some love to those who are bigender and consider themselves to be 100% one gender and 100% another. Let's also recognize those whose genders are split exactly in the middle so that they are half one gender and half another. Don't forget people who have many pieces that make up their two genders, or who are mostly one gender and only a little bit of another gender. There are also those who are unsure if they have two genders or three, or who can't tell what their genders actually are. And also, there are people who have "conflicting" genders, such as being genderless and having a gender, or having an abinary gender and a binary gender. There are many ways to be bigender!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[helldreamz]

taking art requests B]

[vrson]

bro idk why tmlr hates us, when the springy one was fronting earlier they tried to make our theme all pretty but tumblr said "no fuck you it will be grey" even tho they tried like 2wice

[aboveprechistenskyblvd]

guys you should really stop reblogging all those anne hathaway memes she’s actually pretty awful (source)

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Microlabels aren't just a placeholder for more "socially acceptable" terms to replace them in the future. They aren't meant to be some phase that someone will eventually grow out of.

There are people who are and will be grown adults who use microlabels, who are xenogender or kenochoric or who have four, five, ten, or twenty specific genders. There are those who use unconventional alignment systems, who use the split attraction model and have a dozen labels for their orientation, who are transitioning in ways outside of feminine, masculine, and neutral, who call themselves nonbinary in the same way we call a constellation a group of stars, whose genders change in the same way that the seasons change. There are people who are kingender, systemfluid, and autiflux all at once because their alterhumanity and neurotypes affect how they view their genders.

All of these examples are people who have their own unique experiences - just like those who use much broader labels or no labels at all - and they are just as valid for existing in our spaces as any other queer person. When we start to pick and choose who is a more "acceptable" and "palatable" queer, we start to lose focus on why this community exists in the first place.

Microlabels get a lot of hate, but they're not going anywhere. - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

My fullest support and love for genderless people, people who don't care about gender, who use any pronouns at all, who refuse pronouns, who present in an androgynous way, who mix and match their presentation, who are unsure what name to use, who change names frequently, who aren't sure about labels, and who reject labels altogether. You're doing great!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Being gender inclusive means making space for those who are intersex. There is no way to be inclusive if we assume that all bodies need to fit neatly into one of two boxes - that's just not how humans work! When talking about transitioning, sex (in the biological sense), and other similar topics, be aware that intersex people exist and are a part of this community. They're just as important! - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Multigender men and women are still a part of the larger trans man and trans woman community! Being multigender - whether it's genderfluid, polygender, or demigender - does not disqualify you from your manhood or womanhood. You don't have to force yourself into some third category far removed from the binary if that doesn't feel right for you.

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

To all the nonbinary people who use she/her or he/him who get they/them'd constantly: I truly hope people see you for who you are and learn to respect your pronouns. I hope it gets better for you. No one in this community ever should feel erased.

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

You are not in the wrong for asking to be referred to with certain pronouns, names, or gendered terms. But this is merely the more common experience for trans people.

Sometimes, we also ask that people refer to our bodies or clothes in a certain way according to our level of comfort. It's not unreasonable to ask "Hey, could you please not refer to my underwear as 'panties'? That makes me uncomfortable." The same goes for other articles of clothing or accessories.

We often ask that our bodies are talked about in neutral terms. "Don't call them breasts. Please just call it my chest." or "Please don't call my genitals X or Y. Just use neutral terms."

And all of this is totally okay! We all have different levels of comfort when it comes to our bodies, our language, or our clothing. It's okay to want to feel comfortable and safe. Keep setting boundaries unapologetically.

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Polygender, multigender, bigender, trigender, genderfluid, genderflux, etc... You can use whatever language you want to refer to having more than one gender! Yes, even if you only have two genders, you don't have to call yourself bigender. Or, you can call yourself trigender even if you think you might have four or more genders. Who even cares? You are you, and you define you. No one else gets to do that. - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

It is very important not to use transfeminine as another word for trans woman, and transmasculine as another word for trans man. Anyone of any gender experience can be transmasc or transfem, and being a certain gender doesn't automatically make you one of those two.

I am a trans man. But I am not transmasculine. And many transmasculine people are not men in any kind of way.

Let's do better! /positive /notmad

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Some people are far removed from masculinity and femininity. Some people experience maverinity, xenity, outherinity, extrinity, aporinity, and a number of other gender expressions and qualities!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

I'm thinking about trans and nonbinary folks who feel isolated, who feel forgotten, who have trouble making friends, who don't have contact with their families, who feel alone where they live. I'm the same way right now! I feel very alone but I'm realizing that I'm never truly alone. I have this amazing community who accept and support me. You have that too. You have an entire community who will stand by you. You're not alone or forgotten.

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

It is totally fine to want surgery to give yourself alternate sex characteristics. It's okay to want surgery to have atypical genitals. That's fine. But we cannot "want to be intersex" or to wish for a body that "looks intersex". Intersex includes a number of chromosomal conditions that don't always look like a combination of primary and secondary sex characteristics. In fact, you can't always tell by looking that someone is intersex and a lot of intersex conditions can't simply be obtained through physical transitioning. It's not possible.

We need to be better allies to intersex people and listen to them when they say that you can't just change your body to be intersex, because it's something you are born with and not something you can just choose to be. Let's have some better compassion and understanding for intersex people. - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

The nonbinary experience is vast and varied! Knowing that someone is nonbinary doesn't really paint the whole picture, because that term can encompass countless experiences with gender - multigender, genderfluid, genderflux, demigender, and many, many more! When someone says they're nonbinary, it can mean just about anything. Don't hesitate to ask us what nonbinary means to us. We love the chance to tell our stories!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚