#being anti-gender doesn't inherently mean you're a radfem

[butchgtow]

how are you shameless enough to claim to be a radical feminist while believing that in non-sexual contexts, coerced decisions should be treated as freely made choices, particularly in analytics?

"financial coercion? whatever, she made her choice. violent coercion? whatever, it was her choice.

"it was all her choice. the intentional limitations placed by either an individual, a set of individuals, or the system oppressing her have no place in consideration."

you aren't a feminist -- especially not a radical feminist. you refute fundamental feminist philosophy of coercion as nonconsent (with rape as the only exception). you deny materialism.

you're directly encouraging the sex data gap and its intended, ever-successful outcome of women's global economic exploitability with your statements in this very moment.

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anyway book recommendation because this user is a reactionary contrarian who loudly and proudly refuses to read it: Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez.

[demonic-shadowlucifer]

Let's talk about Radical Feminists and TERFs: Another collection of hate.

(Content Warning: Pretty much everything, but especially transmisia, particularly transmisogyny, eugenics and other Nazi rhetoric, racism, intersexism, slur usage, mentions of not sfw topics/not sfw sentences and mentions of sexual assault. Reader discretion is especially advised on this, as this is probably one of the most triggering posts I've ever created). Additional Disclaimer: Like with my "Let's Talk about Exclusionists" post, I've collected multiple screenshots of the horrid things TERFs and other Radfems have said or done. Not all of those screenshots are mine, some of them are things I have found on the web. Credits to especially radfemstruggles (Twitter), terfism-harms-women, terf-cringe and other anti-terf pages/blogs I've found these on. As always, I don't condone harassment. Just because someone is a TERF doesn't give you the right to harass them, especially considering a good chunk of TERFs I've noticed are literal teenagers (of course, that never excuses their actions). Just report them and block. Pride month is over, but that doesn't mean queer folks are going away.

However, neither are the bigots, and especially not the TERFs. Nope. They're still out there and as harmful as ever. "Now, wait a minute Shadow. What even *IS* a TERF anyway?" Well, you're gonna be in for one hell of a ride, so buckle up sunshine.

TERF is short for Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist. Put simply, Transphobic "feminists". TERFs align themselves with Radical Feminism- Radfem for short, a very extreme branch of feminism. However, not every Radfem is a TERF, though Radfems are still best to be avoided due to their extreme ideology. (Likewise, not every feminist is a Radfem, let alone a TERF). How to Identify a TERF: Common Dogwhistles and Nicknames. TERFs won't call themselves a TERF by themselves. In fact, some consider the term to be a slur (News flash: no it is fucking not lmfao). There are many dogwhistles, and I can't fit all of them in here. However here's the most common ones: Gender Critical - a very *VERY* common identifer by TERFs. MERF - Short for Male Exclusionary Radical Feminist. It basically calls trans women men and also ignores the fact that there are, contrary to popular belief, men that are also feminists. "TERF is a slur/Cis is a slur" - A common dogwhistle. The latter is also used by transphobes in general. Misandrist/Proud Misandrist - Misandrist refers to hatred of men. The term originated from misogynists as a counter to feminism, however the term has been reclaimed by radfems. However, a good majority of folks who identify with this term are transphobic, so it should best be avoided. Womyn/Wombyn and their varients - Alternative spellings of "woman/women". Per Wikipedia, "Some writers who use such alternative spellings, avoiding the suffix "-man" or "-men", see them as an expression of female independence and a repudiation of traditions that define women by reference to a male norm." The term "womxn" is also used in some cases, however that term should not be a sole identifier, as "womxn" is also sometimes used by agender individuals. "Womyn" alone is also not a sole identifier, as there are some who try to reclaim it (that and there's also something about it being used in AAVE, but I can't find much info on that). However, "Womyn-born woman" should be an instant red flag. KAM - Short for K-ll all men (i). Even without the TERFy connections, I don't think I need to explain why this is bad. --It should also be noted that any variation of "all men are trash" is inherently TERFy, no matter how you look at it. You'll see why in a bit. Hygenic - Another term used by TERFs. It also references eugenics, explained further in this post. FebFem - Short for "Female Exclusive Bisexual Female". This term is common in TERF spaces, especially with Bi TERFs. However, there have been attempts to reclaim the term from the group. Similar groups that overlap - Should also be avoided:

SWERF - Short for Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminist. This group is against the objectification of women, sex trafficking and the exploitation of women in pornography. Sounds harmless right? Wrong. While it appears good intentioned at first, most SWERFs are against sex work overall, believing that women can't *truly* partake in sex work willingly. This group also overlaps with TERFs, 99% of the time, though not every SWERF is a TERF. Due to sex work being a topic that gets pretty NSFW, I won't be going over this group in this post any further outside of mentions, since I'm not qualified to talk about NSFW topics as a minor. There are, however, probably several other posts that talk about this particular group. TEHM - Short for Trans Exclusionary Homosexual Males. The same as TERFs, but with homosexual men instead of women. Enby Skeptics - A group skeptical of nonbinary identities, as shown by the name. Some TERFs may identify with this term. Longsword Lesbian/Gravity Knife Gays/Gold Star Lesbian - See here for more information regarding these groups. LGB/LGB Drop the T - A movement that claims that being Trans isn't queer. It should go without saying - TERFs aren't harmless. TERFs aren't just some weird basement dwellers on the internet. Nope. They exist *everywhere*. You know JK Rowling? She's a TERF! And probably one of the most recognizable TERFs out there (she's also a lot more bigoted beyond transphobia, so yeah). However, this post will mostly cover the online aspect of TERFism, since even the online world can seep into danger in real life. So, without further ado, let's get into the hate. Note: This post covers Radical Feminism in general, however the main focus is TERFs and similar groups. Of course, you have the transphobia, slurs and suibait.

(Image: Two Tumblr anons side by side. One word has been covered in red. One anon reads "You troons sure love playing the victim. 😂😂No won-der people can't stand you". The second reads "Hng yourself gendie". End ID).

(Image ID: An anon that reads ""They can't even say woman" Not everyone who menstruates is a woman." The reply is "Yes they are. Nonbinary isn't real, only two genders exist. Gender and sex are the same thing. Your personality and clothing preference doesn't define your sex. Your biology does. Have a good day!" End ID) ...Having pronouns is misogynistic? Really? You know women have pronouns too... right?

(Image ID: A user's twitter bio. Their username is covered. The bio reads "All I think about is karma. Pronouns in bio signify membership of misogynist cult". End ID) Seriously they're not even trying to hide the transphobia.

(Image ID: A Tumblr bio that reads "trans activism is misogyny").

(Image ID: A post from user "radfem-moira" that reads "Transwomen are men and it shows when they speak").

However, the transphobia, as despicable as it is, is not the only thing that makes TERFs dangerous. TERFs have also even went as far as to advocate for violence, as shown here.

(Image ID: A post from user "terf-vengeance" featuring artwork of an individual wearing a crop top covered in blood, reading "I punch trans activists". Below the artwork reads "Is it okay to punch transtrenders? Yes two thousand times, yes, punch them!" Also, here is something I've noticed. Notice how Radfems talk about abuse, particularly sexual abuse. In conversations regarding such a topic, women are usually brought up as the victims. Male victims are almost never mentioned, and when you bring them up they accuse you of not caring about male victims because you brought them up when talking about women. Well, you might not think much of it, but it goes deeper than just misinformation and being insensitive. TERFs don't care about male victims either. In fact, they don't care about sexual assault survivors at all if you look hard enough. In fact, if the victim is a male, they actually *encourage* it. And will sometimes admit to even *wanting* to do the same thing to men. Here's one *literally* repeating a common misogynistic argument, but with men at the focus.

(Image ID: A Twitter post with the individual's username and profile picture covered. The post reads "Males are only tools for sex and labor. THATS IT". End ID). ...this post makes me sick just by looking at it alone.

(Image ID: A Twitter post from a person named "aoi". Some information is covered. The post reads "Young boys are degenerates beyond any help. I wouldn't even oppose them getting their ass rped by grown men (they deserve that) if it wasn't for the risk that other grown ass men would also start to advocate for pedophilia on girls. I can't care less about boys". End ID). And this one is even *worse*

(Image ID: A Tumblr post featuring an anon asking "What are your thoughts on male sex workers?". The reply is "Male "sex workers" make up an incredibly tiny amount of "sex workers", and while I think prostituted men deserve to get out of it as well, they're pimped and rped by men, which makes it a male-on-male issue and not a priority for feminists"). The point of feminism is gender equality for ALL and fighting the patriarchy. This however is not feminism. This only shows that you don't actually care about gender equality. Here's one straight up admitting to want to abuse people.

(Image ID: A Tumblr post with the individual's name blacked out. The post reads "i won't lie the urge to manipulate, gaslight and psychologically torture a man and lead him to suicide has been festering inside me for a while now. studying psychology too, i genuinely think i could pull it off. they grow attachments very easily and if i could just find one that was already mentally ill i think i could do it easily". End ID). ...All I'm gonna say about that one is that I hope this individual never EVER gets into a relationship or has kids, and if they're already in a relationship I genuinely feel sorry for their partner and I hope said partner leaves them. And here's someone who sent a sexual assault wish to a literal *minor* (And when called out on it they said the screenshot was "fake").

(Image ID: Two Tumblr convos side by side, both have two messages, the first one reads, from stopglorifyingkillers, "I never called you a pedo, please point out where I had.". itchy-astroterf replies with "I hope your stupidity and misguided trust in trans gets you rped. Maybe then you'll see my fucking point.". The next convo reads, the first message from actuallyabused, "ah yes, you totally dont want anyone to get rped.". To which itchy-astroterf replies with "That's copyshopped, you dingus".) Oh yeah. You know how TERFs argue that "Trans women are predatory"? Well... about that. (Full post here - CW: Pedophilia, sexual assault, ableism, uncensored slur).

(Image ID: Three posts from Tumblr user "homohooker". Reading, in this order, "You look beautiful with makeup on !", "You're so cute 😍😍😍 but this isn't gay babes this would be straight" and "Its a sexual orientation like being lesbian or gay lol you're a fucking"- the final word is blanked out. Next to the username reads either "taling to a minor" or "talking about pedophilia" in red text. End ID).

(Image ID: A Tumblr User's bio reading "Right back at it again" in bold black text. Below it reads "Riley, 21, femle, lesbian, map, kids can consent, men aren't lesbians". End ID) This one wasn't in the post but it's from the same person sooo.

(Image ID: A Tumblr post that reads "ok but who doesn't think 12-17 year old girls are cute". End ID) Honestly, it's posts like these that make me *really* hope it's a troll. Also, let's not ignore the fact that TERFs and Radfems are more than transphobic. In fact, they can be other kinds of bigoted for example. Arophobia and biphobia in ONE.

(Image ID: A tumblr post from user "guncase". The post reads "Men cannot love. It is not in their nature to stay monogamous. You can look at the Bible, you can look at recorded history, you can look at present day - you can even look at your own experiences with men. Their love is one sided. They only love themselves, and not even each other. Find love within yourselves, your fellow women, and keep it safe, because the minute you let a Man find that love, the minute you lose it.") More biphobic crap. (I should also add that there is a huge debate in radfem spaces on whether or not bisexual women are welcome or if their "traitors", just throwing that out there).

(Image ID: Two Tumblr posts/asks with usernames censored. The posts read, respectively, "because your nullye! stop making thousands of fucking accounds and talking to yourself. go d homophobe" and "first off you're female and if you said that you're actually dating a man that makes you fucking hetero. I really doubt that you're actually dating".) I'd also like to add I had to censor an anti-schizophrenic slur in the first one, so there's that.

(Image ID: A Tumblr ask from an anonymous user. The ask reads "I hope you di in a violent and torturous way. I hope your genitals get mutilated. You are a disgusting person for even liking a male. Fuck you." End ID). And let's not forget the intersexism! (Disclaimer: Using it/it's pronouns is valid. Using "it" to describe *all* intersex people however... is shitty).

(Image ID: A Twitter post from an individual who's name is censored. The post reads "If you have XX chromosomes your pronouns are she, if you have XY chromosomes your pronouns are he. If you're intersex your pronouns are it. No way in hell I'm calling an intersex thing 'she'. You are not to appropriate my gender") Oh speaking of ableism, a lot of TERFs can be pretty fucking ableist too. ...Towards each other.

(Image ID: A Tumblr post from user "femaleinsight". The post reads "i hope all autistic men fucking di the most painful fucking death that could ever be experienced on this earth. signed, a tired autistic woman <3") (First of all, what is it with disabled/neurodivergent terfs and wanting their own kind *dead*?) ...And some can also be PRETTY FUCKING RACIST :D (Had to censor the n-word in this one).

(Image ID: A Twitter post that reads "You know saying TERF to someone is like calling someone a ner. Which are terms that are insults and pejorative"). For context, MENA is short for Middle East and North Africa. Make what you will of this screenshot.

(Image ID: A Twitter post that reads "if you see me with a machete randomly k*ll*ng mena males mind your business").

And sometimes, two and two can actually go together! A while back, I reblogged a that talked about TERFs using the word "hygienic" to mean "cis", like this individual shown below (Edit: link and reblog removed since OP fit my DNI + one of the folks adding to it was hacked and became a scambot, and I'd rather not expose people to that).

(Image ID: A Tumblr post from user "dykexy" that reads "petition to change the word "cis" to "hygienic"". End ID) Now you might be wondering, why am I bringing it up again? Well, someone in the comments of said post mentioned that it reminded them of "Racial Hygiene". Now, what is "Racial Hygiene"? Well... according to Wikipedia, it refers to "an approach to eugenics in the early 20th century, which found its most extensive implementation in Nazi Germany (Nazi eugenics)." So basically, it's eugenics. Specifically, Nazi eugenics. And with TERFs using the term "hygienic", they're saying that Trans people are inherently dirty by genetics. You might think this is a reach, but with everything shown here, there's clearly more to it.

Then again, what else do you expect from folks who do *this*

(Image ID: A Twitter post that reads "I'm not really going to spend another Saturday taking photos of trans people and running them through the sex-change filter on FaceApp to see what they looked like before, am i? I am". End ID) And act hypocritical (TERFS: "Trans women fetishize real women!" Also TERFS:)

(Image ID: A Twitter post that reads "It is so weird to me when trans people show a "before and after" when they get their first binder. If you have bad enough chest dysphoria to buy a binder in the first place, why are you showing the whole internet your tits?" End ID) And make nonsensical posts/replies like THIS.

(Image ID: A Twitter user replying to a post that reads "Me and my good friend texting about the #BodyBlitz thing: "People need to get used to gender non-conforming bodies"". The reply reads "Gee, so you are in favor of rpe culture? Telling women to "get used" to rpists and perverts in women's spaces? Really?" End ID) Seriously. Don't let the "feminist" label fool you. TERFs and Radfems do not care about gender equality or women's rights. They are using the feminist label and women's rights as an excuse for their transphobia and other bigotry. They do not care about sexual assault survivors. They do not care about women of color. They do not care about disabled women. In fact, they only advocate for the very abuse they claim to be against. They advocate for the racism and nazism they claim to be against. Don't let them fool you.

Other posts talking about TERFs, Radfems and the like, as well as additional resources: Caelan Conrad's "Gender Critical" series. A bunch of Jessie Gender videos on TERFs and Gender Criticals. The TERF to Fascist Pipeline by Kayley Whalen. The FASCIST Links Of Anti-Trans Activism Exposed by Owen Jones. Tips for Allies of Transgender People. How Can I support someone who's Trans or Nonbinary? Shinigami Eyes - A browser extension that detects anti-trans content.

[reveregret]

Do not interact / Blocklist

- TERFS / radfems / gender-critical / truscum / transmed / anti-neopronouns / anti-xenogenders

- Racists / anti-semites / white supremacists / anti-BLM

- Pedophiles I'm mostly fine with people with paraphilias being around so long as they are able to recognise what's wrong and don't use terms like "non-offending" to justify it. Pedos are less welcome than others for trauma reasons

- DDLG / DDLB / DMLG / DMLB & ABDL or any variants

- NSFW / kink blogs It doesn't have to be exclusively. If you're posting this kind of content every 15 posts (esp. untagged) I'm going to block you.

- Yan fetishists / "wannabe darling"s

- Yan roleplayers / writers I don't really mind if you do these things, but if this is the theme of your acc please don't touch my posts. I don't appreciate my struggles being put into a fictional context!

- Believe any mental illness is inherently abusive

- Blank blogs A profile picture or like/follow list doesn't offer much. Update your blog description.

Before you follow

- If you dislike people who do "yan stuff" irl then I am not for you! I don't condone associated things but I'm working through some habits and mindsets.

- I check the blog of every note I get. This is to make sure they're respecting my DNI. If you follow, however, this means that you are subject to semi-regular checks.

- If you've read through this, please send "lichen" to my ask box! It's a way to signal that you acknowledge what's in this post. Liking only shows that you found this, so please spare the extra moment! Your chances of getting blocked increase otherwise.

[randomkitcat]

Intro under the cut

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Byi (before you Interact)

My instances are neuship, neu para/kink, anti contact, pro endo, radinclus(pro contradictory labels, etc. Not including radqueer identities)

We are multigenic system of 3 beings(one is dormant but she still counts)

Im a cat and sheep therian, and angelic/angelkin, i'm also a furry. I have other alterhuman identities that you can check on my pronouns.cc further in this post

You may call me "Lamb", or "Ash", or simply "cat". My gender is gxrl and cistrans, my xenogenders are angelkinic and invinepgender, my orientation is aroflux and bi-straight, my safe pronouns to use are she/its, you can also call me a he too. Im achronal but bodily a minor. My zodiac is leo(solar) and capricorn(ascendent), and my mbti is infj

My first language isnt english so i may commit grammar mistakes.

I won't engage in any kind of discourse and If you try to drag me into It, i'll instantly block you

I block antis and anyone who i don't like on sight

Asks and dms (direct messages) aren't encouraged but If you need to, they are open

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Dni (do not interact)

I can't control who interacts, so anyone "can" interact with my posts, but, i, please, ask to not If: you're racist, ableist, xenosatanist, part of the radqueer movement, pro-c for non consensual paras, a map(nomaps are fine), a bestialist(non contact zoophiles are fine), anti recovery, anti endo, fakeclaimer, pro harassment, suibaiting, anti otherlink(funlink, copinglink, etc), anti furry, anti mspec mono/contradictory labels, anti liom(aldernic, chronosian, alterhuman, neurodivergences, etc)/mogai/lgbt, terf/radfem, BaB, LsL, GkG, exclusionist, "hardcore" proship, "hardcore" antiship, thinks fiction inherently affects reality, thinks fiction can't affect reality in any way, thinks paraphilias are inherently harmful, thinks paraphilias can’t be harmful, ai "art" supporter.

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Qna (question and answer)

"You're pro para? You support zoos/maps/necros?"

No, im in general neu paraphilia and anti contact for non consensual ones, while i don't support zoos/maps/necros, i want them to get help and live their lifes as equal as any other being. But im against those who act on these paraphilias.

"What do you mean 'if you think fiction inherently affects reality'? And 'hardcore antiship?' You're a profic/proship?"

No, im actually neuship, why? Because i don't want to be associated with neither sides, wich both are very toxic. And i personally think that fiction doesn't affect reality, as long as you dont let it affect your reality. And i dont want to interact with antishippers that tell others to kill themselves and only post about complaining and reminding about proships. In the end i'm not proship neither antiship

"you identify as a cat, sheep and angel? Are you crazy?"

If what you call "Crazy" is to experience involuntary urges, insticts and other experiences and wish to fully embrance this part of me that makes myself, then yes, i am crazy. Sure, i know i'm in a human body, but my mind and soul is not, and If you don't agree with me, it's ok, everyone can have opinions, but please, kindly dni If you're not willing to learn that my ways of living aren't hurting anyone and i'm Just being myself.

“You’re a furry? You’re a zoophile”

Anthropomorphical characters aren’t irl animals that can’t give consent, so obviously not.

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Asks and dms

I Will answer any ask that i feel comfortable to, If you need help with alterhumanity and other terms, feel free to ask me, either on my dm or on the ask inbox, about it.

If you wish and try to insult me on my dms or asks because of my beliefs or identities, kindly dni

[hotpinkcyanmillie]

getting incredibly bored of the “when men express emotions its actually predatory” thing

[eulangelo]

callout for @genderfluidlucifer

google docs

tw for transmisogyny + TERFs + emotional manipulation

Transmisogyny

Lucifer is a huge transmisogynist who will complain 24/7 about how TERFs hurt the ace community, but the moment @randomclustermissile , a trans girl (who is not an exclusionist at all) tries to point out transmisogyny in inclusionist circles (in the most vague and general way possible, without pointing fingers nor calling anyone names) Lucifer will immediatly jump to block her and so they did with me (another inclusionist) and i have to suppose to everyone else who agreed with that post, even arriving to vagueing about us in private group chats to suggest that we were “sympathizing with exclusionists”. all because we dared point out transmisogyny in inclusionist circles. lucifer is TME but apparently they think they’re the authority on TERFs and their talking points but actual trans women are not, according to them, since this is the stuff that they would go and spew to other people. (screenshots from @enbyoctoling​)

here’s more examples of Lucifer (again, a transmasc person) going deep in detail about how according to them, TERFs/SWERFs hate aro/ace people and are an active threat to us

1. link

[Image ID: Three screenshots of a post by Genderfluidlucifer. The first screenshot is of a paragraph that reads, "Hey. So I can actually answer this. Anon your commentary about how you thought terfs would approve of sex repulsed aces is sort of it. Except...not. Basically terfs hate ace people for not wanting sex in the approved by terfs way. Terfs are actually extremely interested in [forcing] amatonormativity onto everyone. Because for as sex negative as terfs are...they don't want to actually acknowledge or change the fact that amatonormativity is at the root cause of rape culture and misogyny."

The second screenshot is a zoomed in section of the post that reads, "So yeah no I have NO idea where exclus allies are getting this idea from that terfs would even remotely care about the sexual rights of ace people. Terfs generally hate any sexualities in the LGBTQ+ acronym that aren't LGB because they can't force a gender binary onto those sexualities. At least, not as easily. That's why it's actually a massive sign of someone who doesn't call themselves a terf being a crypto terf if they use the term LGB in a positive manner. Along with the term SGA, as it is deliberately exclusive of nonbinary and not inherently SGA centric queer-aligned sexualities. /END ID]

link to the full post, these are just excerpts but the whole thing is just a very long rant about how TERFs hate ace people and so on (i think it’s worth noticing that although the actual post is kinda long, trans women are never once brought op in a conversation about TERFs issues and the only time transmisogyny is mentioned is not relevant to the conversation)

2. link

[Image ID: A screenshot of a reblog by genderfluidlucifer. The original poster is nothorses. It reads, "Because apparently I have to say it: Testosterone is not a 'violent' hormone. It doesn't make you 'more aggressive' or a worse person, it doesn't make you 'dangerous,' or 'toxic.' Transmascs do not need to be 'warned of the dangers of T.' We do not need to spend our transitions terrified that we're going to become a danger to those around us - that HRT is going to turn us into a monster.

Everyone experiences mood swings during hormonal shifts (pregnancy, menstruation, menopause, estrogen HRT, etc.) and while you might have grumpy moments or feel anger/frustration that you need to learn to handle differently, that doesn't make you a bad person.

Testosterone can change the way you access/process emotions somewhat, but if you're already thoughtful about how you handle your feelings and treat others, you're going to be fine. It's normal to lash out on occasion, by accident, then apologize and work to do better. It doesn't make you a bad person. Everyone on HRT is prone to this, and everyone experiencing hormonal changes is prone to this.

Getting HRT should be positive and affirming; you should not have to spend your entire transition terrified of becoming a monster."

The post then has a reblog by captainlordauditor that reads, "The big danger of T is that needle ouchy." /END ID]

here’s them reblogging from known transmisogynist user @nothorses (once again, the irony that a post about how testosterone is seen as the "aggressive hormone" does not mention transfem at all which are literally the main victims of this rethoric in the first place)

3. link (1), link (2)

[Image ID: Two screenshots of posts by genderfluidlucifer. The first screenshot reads, "Queer exclus: We're not repackaging terf rhetoric! Saying that is transmisogynistic! Also queer exclus: Remove the plus from LGBT!" and has tags that say, "I will pay these people to grow some god damn self awareness. Imagine being this dense. Queer discourse." The post has 15 notes.

The second screenshot reads, "Honestly it is so stupid and frustrating to see ace exclus continue to deny that the ace discourse was started by terfs. Proof was given countless times. And a big name terf like galesofnovember even admitted to starting it. Those of you who demand proof but ignore all of this never wanted proof to begin with." and is tagged with, "ace discourse. The post has 38 notes. /END ID]

heres another two post of theirs conflating TERFs with ace exclusionism

4. link

[Image ID: A screenshot of a reblogged post by furbearingbrick. The original poster is boxlizard, Lucifer's old account. The original post reads, "By the way for people still in denial about it, here's galesofnovember, a terf, admitting that she intended to start the ace exclus movement. She's taking credit for it. Normally if the victims of this behavior weren't ace/aro or other queer identities y'all be ready to rightfully lynch her. But since it's us, y'all just still wanna stamp your feet and go, 'Nuh uh!' instead of acknowledging facts." The part that says, "admitting that she intended to start the ace exclus movement" is a link to a galesofnovember post.

There is then a reblogged addition from furbearing brick that reads, "archived versions of the receipts" and has two links to the webarchive. The tags read, "Bringing this back since it's apparently still relevant. Terfism mention. Aphobia mention. Queerphobia mention. Blocklist." and has 1,455 notes. /END ID]

this is their post that ive already talked about but basically they found a 52 notes post made by a TERF in 2012 and this one person said "i dont know why i dont get to be the princess of the anti-ace-brigade" and apparently they are convinced that this means TERFs started the ace exclusionism movement and that this is one of their goals. which is insane when TERFs in real life only care about making life miserable for transfem people first and foremost.

5.link

[Image ID: A screenshot of a reblog by genderfluidlucifer. The original poster is yu-gay-fudo. It reads, “Just in case you happen to be unaware, some of the “radfem lite” they post to warm you up to their rhetoric, just off the top of my head:

- Ace/aro exclusionism

- Bi exclusionism or claims that bi people are “less queer” bc of “straight passive privilege”

- Saying you have to be dysphoric to identify as transInvalidating nonbinary people

- Calling queer a slur regardless of context, saying people can’t identify as queer, and saying that it can’t be reclaimed

- “Mogai hell”, “kweer”, or otherwise mocking less common labels and claiming they are “just cishets who want to feel special”

- Excluding sex workers from feminist discussions or claiming that sex work is inherently evil

- Basically anyone who thinks they can determine what other people identify as”. The tags read, "queerphobia tw. twerfs tw. no id." and has 70,727 notes. It was reblogged on March 22nd, 2021 /END ID]

another example of conflating radfems to things that, while wrong, have little to nothing to do with them because being a radfem, again, is something very specific that has all to do with transfem oppression.

Emotional manipulation

Lucifer has done nothing but block, break boundaries, spread lies and vague about people, some of which were even mutuals with them knowing they would see the posts. when confronted about it Lucifer's only answer was "just say you hate me and block me" but they actually ended up blocking everyone first, making it impossible for anyone to set some boundaries with them or even just to calmly confront them about anything.

[proof: Io(popncourse) and Lucifer had a disagreement in a shared discord server, which prompted Lucifer to vague Io in a vent post. Io confronted them, as being vagued is one of buns triggers, to which Lucifer initially agreed to delete the vent post, but then proceeded to victimize themself and immediatly blocked Io. later on, Jude(malewifedeckard) was confronted by Lucifer, then after Jude told them “I’m worried that you’ll vague me just like you did with Io” they proceeded to block Jude and vagued about him too. when Io made a post (which was not a callout, it was just bun setting buns boundaries) explaining what Lucifer did, Lucifer immediatly jumped to victimize themself, acting like they were being called out and straight-up lying, even going so far as to say that no one tried to hear them out, which is a blatant lie if you consider the aforementioned Io and Jude’s attempts at doing so, with Lucifer immediatly blocking and cutting ties with the both of them. ] 

(screenshots taken by @popncourse and @malewifedeckard)

as seen in the proof above Lucifer’s behaviour is not ok because they don’t accept any kind of confrontation and immediatly jump to blocking, and after blocking, they'd immediatly go and vague about the people who confronted them pacificly, spreading more lies and painting themself as the victim and even arriving to say “no one hears me out at all” which is simply not something you can say when you block people who are trying to hear you out in the first place.

this is by no means an invitation to go and harass them, send them hate or anything like that. i absolutely don’t want anything even remotely hateful or negative to be sent their way after this post. 

this post was only made because:

1. as an ace person who fully supports the inclusion of aspec identities in the lgbt+ community i don’t want to support an enviroment that costantly downplays transmisogynistic oppression in order to be taken seriously. there are hundreds of ways to make aspec activism without acting like we(as in TME aspecs)are the victims of a system that seeks for the annihilation of transfemenine people in real life everyday. i especially don’t want to support TME individuals who act transfem-friendly but then block any transfem who tries to speak on transmisogyny without a second thought.

2. Lucifer’s behaviour has hurt two friends of mine and i don’t want to associate with someone who actively breaks people’s boundaries without taking accountability when messing up.

3. i cannot associate with someone who spreads lies about me accusing me of sympathizing with exclusionists all while having me blocked so that i can’t see it nor defend me. they complain about people not hearing them out but they’re the very first person who does not try to hear people out, and instead jumps to spread baseless rumors. this is not someone i can nor want to associate with. 

(image descriptions provided by @malewifedeckard)

[gettin-bi-bi-bi]

Hey Maddie, thanks for answering my question about internalized biphobia, it helps knowing someone else, a well-known activist no less has dealt with or talked about it.

You don't have to answer this, or feel free to link to a different post since I'm sure you've answered things like this countless times, but I think those thoughts specifically come up when I find a man attractive--recently there's been a really attractive mail man that comes in to where I work but that's a different story lmao. Although sometimes they come up without reason too. It is silly and frustrating, (and other synonyms), because like I've said, I accepted and love that I'm bi and I thought I'd gotten over those hurdles but I guess not/they still linger. My attraction to men can be and is queer and it doesn't take away from my liking women.

I suppose it can be challenging to get over radfem talking points when that's sort of what you grew up consuming, specifically the "all men bad" one, since it's used as a joke a lot.

The shitty thing about biphobia is that it's like... you can't catch a break. No matter whom you are attracted to there's this nagging anxiety that you're doing it wrong for one reason or another. When you (a woman) have a crush on a woman there's the whole load of (internalised) homophobia and a fear of being "too queer" in a society that's still overwhelmingly heteronormative. Then when you have a crush on a man you get the fear of being "not queer enough" and that fear gets amplified by biphobia from within the queer community.

So, again, I can only recommend to keep reminding yourself that there is no right or wrong way to be bisexual and that any experiences you make will always be through the lense of bisexuality/queerness. That does 100% include your attraction to men.

Bi women have overlapping experiences with straight women and with lesbians but that doesn't mean we are off-brand versions of either of them. We are our own thing with our own understanding of sexuality and the way gender plays a part in it or not.

Monosexism (the idea that a person can only be attracted to exactly one gender and thus bisexuality doesn't exist) has created this idea that any attraction you have for one gender takes away from your capacity to also be attracted to another gender. That's also where the biphobic sentiment comes from that we're all eventually going to "choose a side". But committing to one person (if we want a monogamous relationship) doesn't mean that we have turned off a part of our sexuality.

To come back to your message (sorry, I'm kinda going on long tangents in these asks lately): it's pretty common for bi women to have those internalised biphobia moments especially as a response to experincing attraction to a man. It's always along the lines of "not queer enough", "choosing heteronormativity" and "betraying the sapphic community". All of that is stuff I have read on this blog before and heard offline from bi women. But attraction to men is something amazing, it's beautiful, it can be fun and sexy and exciting because men have the same capacity to be beautiful human beings and great partners as women and non-binary people. Men aren't inherently worse people or "monsters" or whatever radfems try to make us believe. Men are also just... people. Some of them are assholes, some of them are sweet and kind and funny and loving and sexy.

So, maybe just try to celebrate your attraction to men in the same way as you celebrate your attraction to women. One isn't "worth" your pride more than the other. All parts of your sexuality are inherently enriching and exciting and you're allowed to enjoy all of it and get pleasure out of all of it.

Very concretely that means that you might have to cut out any radfem-y stuff that still crosses paths with you - offline and online. Got a friend who's very anti-men? Distance yourself. Follow a blog that posts stuff that even smells the slightest bit of biphobia (even just bi erasure) or radfem rhetoric? Block them. And fill those holes by connecting to the bi community and making bi friends aka people who understand you, people who accept you as you are and don't question any of it.

Maddie

[haemosexuality]

But you're following people who are trans-exclusionary/"gender critical" while being radical feminists and agreeing with their trans-exclusion/trans women are predatory men invading women's spaces posts? And why focus on the afab aspect without the LGBT statistics of them, especially since their suffering comes from their trans identity, especially when coming out/not passing?

Radical feminism isn't trans exclusionary per se, it is male/amab exclusionary. Which does not mean we hate or cant support trans women at all, its just a movement that prioritizes females/afab, which doss include trans men/nonbinary females! And like, not every group is gonna be for everyone that is opressed, you know- like, black lives matter isn't about asian lives matter, which doesn't mean asian people are't opressed or doesn't suffer from racism, it just focused on black people. There are, as I said, people on radblr that are actually just transphobic, which are people that I really try to avoid. Ive even been in kinda of an unfollow spree lately.

And, being gender critcal just means two things- we are critics of the concept of gender, which are originally gender roles (females have to be feminine and submissive and males masculine and dominant), analyze how those roles affects society and fuels female opression/homophobia/transphobia etc, and want those roles to end. We want gender to stop being a thing, and people from both sexes can wear and behave whatever way they like without having to suffer for it or invent new labels for them.

And I don't think trans women are predatory men, no. I do believe that most trans women, outside of the vocal internet part, are just dysphoric people trying to survive in a transphobic, homophobic, misogynist and racist society. But I also know that there are men that take advantage of this group and of trans activism, just like there are men that take advantage of anti racist groups, feminist groups, even radfem groups. And I also believe that being female or male in a patriarchy is something inherently political, and that even opressed groups of males/amabs can be misogynists, because that's how they were raised to be. Not only trans women, but gay men, men of color, disabled men, etc. And I think it's important we are aware of this, and that we call it what it is (male violence, misogyny) and that we refem to them as males because of it. since it harms many people (even trans people tbh, look at the case of that-famous-trans-women-that-raped-afab-trans-people-and-people-are-always-defending or turning an blid eye to, I forgot the name)

And I'm not sure I got the second part of the ask right, I undertood that youre asking why I dont talk about lgbt afabs and their suffering (if its not sorry akdjla)

and like, I do, a lot. Lesbians, bisexual women, trans men, all of them-I do talk about it and a lot! And about transphobia they suffer too- all females, and all types of opression they encounter not only misogyny, are prioritized in my feminism. (I actually get people saying im not radfem enough or even a fakefem when I defend trans men from transphobic radfems lmao,,). There's even this term, coined by a nonbinary/trans men (who is no longer on radbld), Incorrect Feminism, which focuses on trans, gnc, butch etc females which I support a lot