#disclaimer : i am in no way saying that you shouldn't explore your sexuality if you're in love

[the-sun-is-also-a-star]

my favourite hc is that remus is unlabeled. he's always known that he likes boys too but he doesn't care enough to label himself. it's always been sirius for him and that's all that mattered.

[not-so-dirty-talk]

WHY RAISING YOUR CHILDREN IN A SEX POSITIVE HOUSEHOLD IS BENEFICIAL

**disclaimer age appropriate sex Positivity is being referred to in this post. I am in no way suggesting you encourage your very young children to explore sex, and in no way am encouraging any form of pedophilia**

1. No matter what your opinion as a parent, and how you talk to your children about sexual concepts, they're going to engage in these activities when they feel ready. If they decide that they are ready for sex at the age of say 16, it doesn't matter if you say they need to wait until they're 18, or married or not living under your roof. They'll sneak around behind your back to do it if you express not being okay with them doing it. They'll go to their partners house, they'll find a car, they'll sneak their partner into your home when you're not there, they will find ways if they want to do it. They're going to do it anyway, why not be supportive?

2. If, as a parent, one is not supportive of these activities, the child is not going to have the tools to be safe. Safe sex means knowing about consent, contraceptives, birth control, sexually transmitted infections, and pregnancy. Yes, some of this is taught in school, but if it's also openly discussed in the home it makes it much easier for children to ask for help. If your child is planning to engage in sexual activities but cannot afford condoms, why wouldn't you want them to come to you and ask if you could buy them a box or ask for the money for it? If you have a daughter, whether for sexual or health reasons, why wouldn't you want her to come to you to ask questions about the different forms of birth control to find the right fit for her? As a parent, it's your job to give your children the tools and support to be successful in life, why should sex be any different?

3. Consent doesn't just mean being able to say no...it also means being able to say yes. If you're teaching your child about Consent, that includes both yes and no answers. Consent is a personal choice, not up to anybody but the self. To tell your children they cannot have sex is to take the decision away from them, and completely contradicts the entire teaching of consensual autonomy.

4. To raise your children in a sex positive household, means to have open conversations where questions can be asked and looking things up isn't frowned upon. When these discussions and research topics are allowed, children are given more useful information on sexual topics beyond what sex is. They are free to talk about and ask questions about sexuality and gender, pleasure, masturbation, consent, menstruation and all things sex involved.

5. For most people, sexual pleasure is a natural human function or need. There are benefits to engaging in these activities and exploring them. As adults, we most likely know this because of experience, so why would we want to take that away from our children. You don't need to encourage it by any means, you just shouldn't shame it.

6. Shaming and closing the door on sexual topics leads to shame and guilt. If you talk about sexual activities as being "dirty" and "wrong", you're conditioning your child to be shameful of a natural thing. This will continue into adulthood, when sexual activities become more acceptable in society.