There's nothing like sharing in a moment where genuinely gifted individuals realize their giftedness.
Or, for the first time, acknowledge they are gifted.
And own it.
Friend of mine recently explained it to me this way: "People would tell me how talented I am but all I could think was yeah, but who am I?"
They also put it this way:
"Who am I to deserve that talent?"
And, by extension, who are they to take advantage of the opportunities that talent unlocks?
So they do nothing with it.
They don't pursue it.
They may shine a little from time to time but they don't allow their gift to become a lifelong professional passion.
In the meantime, there are people who wrongly overestimate their own abilities. They have such a dysfunctional self-awareness that they wield a breathtaking confidence to which people actually respond in a positive way.
Turns out confidence alone can take you a long way in this world. Not gonna lie.
In some ways these people feel like a modern riff on "The Emperor's New Clothes" by Hans Christian Andersen. In this case, there is no there there.
It's all attitude. No talent.
Yet.
Hidden away in the corners, along the sidelines, are the legitimately gifted. The marvelously talented.
There are, of course, many many many reasons why they are where they are. I can't presume to say I know all the reasons or understand each one fully. I only know what I've been told by incredibly talented people who live outside the spotlight. Bear in mind, too, that causes can be multivariable. There doesn't have to be just one cause. There can be several that, for lack of a better way of putting it, collaborate. As I understand them, there's a spectrum of mental health challenges, there's substance use prompted by all kinds of circumstance, there's trauma, PTSD, and then the factors of friend groups, income, neighborhoods and communities, opportunities, and families of origin.
Families of origin, by the way, is a full spectrum deal. There can be trauma there, yes. There can be physical, mental, sexual, emotional abuse, yes. There can be neglect. There can be family biases toward certain professions and away from others so that everyone knows what's expected when they become adults, yes. There can be dysfunctional relationships, you bet.
However.
There can also be this:
Creatives who are born into families that are not.
And yeah. People who aren't creatives, who are quite concrete individuals, often find it impossible to either understand creatives or value and delight in those things in which creatives value and delight. Definitely, people who aren't creatives don't process the world around them in the same way. A verbal processing creative in a family that can't similarly engage... is merely one example. And in that kind of mismatch within a family environment, the lack of encouragement is nothing more than a lack of understanding. Of not getting it.
Or.
It's a straight up inability to engage. As opposed to a choice not to.
Again. There's no enmity here. No ill will. No intent or condescension.
Just different personalities with different values focused on different areas of life.
Again, there are any number of reasons for a creative to not blossom. It takes a lot to grow 'em. It's no surprise then, that many never emerge from their cocoon. They never combine their mind boggling gifts with breathtaking confidence. And they never grab hold of opportunities in the relentless pursuit of a lifelong career.
They never step into the spotlight.
So there is.
There's nothing like sharing in a moment where genuinely gifted people actually own their giftedness. Where they realize who they are, what they're capable of and, most importantly, how rare they are.
How rare.
They are.
There's nothing like being there to unequivocally validate that feeling and relentless encourage them.
It's a moment that's all kinds of reasons for applause and cheers. And we will continue to normalize the idea that when you're gifted...
You don't have to be anyone.
You're already as much as you need to be. All that's left is to know that's who you are. For real.
And be that person in the world.
😊
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costas visibly lost weight between saw vi & saw 3D and even though it probably had very little to do with the role i do like to hyper-analyze these films so. you know
tonight i’m thinking about how he most definitely stopped caring for himself after he lit the bodies of perez and erickson on fire—the last threads of strahm’s presence—he completely lost his stitched together concept of humanity as their bodies burned. angelina’s death took the light from his eyes and strahm’s death took the light from his soul. he was drinking by the time (assuming he’d stopped) strahm chased him to his house
and after he cheats the reverse bear trap he douses his wound in whiskey
he’s already relapsed by the time saw 3D takes place. he’s a full tilt alcoholic fighting for his life not only against jigsaw’s final pieces but also actively hiding from and pursuing the police simultaneously. all while observing a complex game he presumably somehow set up in spite of it all. he watches the game. he watches the cops. he watches the game. he chases jill. all he is capable of at this point is violence. there is little point to the games aside from a sadistic ‘liars like you’ element. the innocent, the ignorant and the desperate die at the hands of the guilty. he watches. he chases. he watches.
over the course of it all, hoffman’s appearance slowly begins to match his mind. he’s starved, desperate and neglected with the scruff on his face and the blood of innocents he’s long past trying to wash from his hands. over the course of the films we watch him stop flinching, the point that he stops crying. the ideology behind the violence is gone, and in its place is just a hollow substitute, an excuse for brutal vengeance against the world’s forces. john’s true point exposed.
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Man this is so random but this theory is stuck in my head and I wanna see how other people feel about it because I don't see people talk about it a lot (I have no clue if the link will go through properly since I've never put a link in a ask box)
https://www.tumblr.com/art-w0rm/667910993425350656/theory-time
Oh god not this theory again. I really truly try not to be mean to people for no good reason on this blog, but this theory is literally one of the stupidest fucking things I've ever seen in my entire life. I don't talk about this theory because to me it's like the walten files theory equivalent of that tubby custard mechanically separated chicken post.
Most of the time I genuinely don't even consider it worthy of my time, because it's nonsense, but this is a very nicely worded ask, and I really don't mean to dedicate any of the vitriol I hold towards this theory to You, poor anonymous person, so I will deconstruct it. I will go through the theory point-by-point and deconstruct why I disagree with it.
First up, this:
Showbear is not a character in The Walten Files anymore. Showbear was fully retconned and is never going to appear in the series again. He was effectively just a cameo of ThunderingStatic's (one of Martin's friends) OC, but when The Walten Files blew up and people started assuming Showbear was Martin's character, Static decided to withdraw his character from the series and focus putting him in other projects.
Martin talked about this on Twitter forever ago, but I wouldn't be able to find that tweet now. But here's a bit from the interview he did with KnowYourMeme back in 2021 where he talks about it:
Now this:
This is just stupid to me? Like a complete logical incongruity? I barely even know how describe what is dumb about this because I can't even fathom how anyone draws this conclusion from this information. How is it strange for a man to say 'if my wife isn't home by the time she said she was going to be, let me know, in case something happened.'????? Why would Rosemary be out cheating on her husband with her fucking daughter with her??? If Rosemary was cheating on her husband why would her whole life collapse when he went missing? If Rosemary was cheating on her husband why would she show up at the restaurant every day after he disappeared asking if anyone had seen him and hoping to find him alive??? Why would she make paintings of herself and him together after he disappeared????? What the fuck are you talking about?
Ok now this:
Whatever. This is maybe the most coherent part of the theory, to me. I definitely agree that Sha evokes a 'wolf in sheep's clothing' sort of aesthetic, but I do remember Martin saying something in a Twitter Q&A at one point about how that wasn't actually intentional, and that Bon was the character he actually meant to seem unusually predatory. I looked for a while and couldn't find a screenshot of that, but I did find this one where he says the thing about Bon:
So whatever. take that with a grain of salt.
I don't even know what to say. here. Whatever. sure she was rolling in the hay
yeah Rosemary is asking if she's still beautiful because she cheated on her husband and not because she was chopped up and stuffed inside a big animatronic sheep. I think this is correct and is the True Deep Lore.of the walten files. I'm sure this doesn't have anything to do with the recurring motif of the double-meaning behind the word Beautiful either.
I don't know why it's weird that the lost lingering spirit of a mother would be calling out to her only living child. I Don't know why that needs additional explanation involving this batshit infidelity conspiracy theory.
Sha's chest is also ripped out
So is Banny's, honestly? Just a little less?
ok now this:
I guess I can't disprove this except that I think this is dumb. I think this is a really incredibly stupid logical leap to make. Y'know I really meant to go into this levelheadedly and very calmly go through every point and talk about why I think it's Decisively Disagreeable or whatever but I can't. I really can't. I just cannot keep my patience with this sort of thing.
You'd think if there was an infidelity aspect here it would've been lampshaded in some respect, at all, in the old /sophiewalten findjackwalten page text. Where it's literally Sophie talking to Jenny about what she remembers about her family.
Especially if the idea is that Sophie is meant to have been there. You'd think something like that would have come up here. Not 'she was nice and a good mom until my dad disappeared and her mental health started getting worse'
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