#falloutnoi

[cosmogyros]

Hej, de kie vi estas? :) Ŝajnas al mi ke vi loĝas en Germanio, sed ke vi ne estas denaska parolanto de la germana.

Hi! Gxuste kaj gxuste :) Mi venas de Usono kaj mi denaske parolas nur la anglan. La tutaj aliaj lingvoj, kiujn mi konas, estas ankoraux je pli suba nivelo.

(Pardonu min, se estas eraroj en mia skribo. Mi ne ofte havas okazon uzi Eo.)

[aliceblack12]

Get to know me tag! Tag 9 people you wanna get to know better!

I was tagged by @waytoomanyships, we had been mutuals for over a year before I reached out, and now it’s been over 5 months -and two years of being mutuals 😊

1. Top Four Ships: Drarry, Brotzly, Merthur (bizarrely enough I love the ship, but I haven’t seen beyond the second season of the show) and Johnlock.

2. Last Album: I keep two lists of varied artist that I listen to constantly, one is all female mainly gay, and the other one is stuff I love and it’s mixed. If that doesn’t count, then probably Cheap Queen by King Princess or Melodrama by Lorde.

3. Last Movie: Documentary: Miss Americana (2020) by Lana Wilson. Comedy Special: John Mulaney and the sack lunch bunch (2019) by Rhys Thomas. Fiction: A little princess (1995) by Alfonso Cuarón. I keep track of every movie I watch 😆

4. Reading: Fanfics (right now a Merthur one). If not, I recently finished The annotated Pride and Prejudice -which I always re read because I love understanding how things worked socially, since I’m terribly bad at social stuff.

5. What food are you craving right now?: chocolate and ice cream, my favorite kind is chocolate chops and cream or nocciola or Marroc-ice-cream. I miss ice cream so much.

6. Tagging: I’m tagging my friends @giulsomino (tumblr is not letting me tag you!), @ninjaminion and @tulipsandsake. Plus @official-lucifers-child, @raisins-are-okay, @gay-matty-boi, @livingdeadsara, @falloutnoi and @thesparkofafiredemon.

[cosmogyros]

falloutnoi replied to your post “I am wearing possibly the most “feminine” outfit today that I have...”

Vi aspektas ĉarma!

Ahhhh dankon :D

[cosmogyros]

falloutnoi replied to your post “Hej, de kie vi estas? :) Ŝajnas al mi ke vi loĝas en Germanio, sed ke...”

Vi sufiĉe bone parolas. Se vi ŝatus pli ofte uzi Esperanton mi rekomendus al vi telegramo.org

Dankon! Mi ne konis telegramo.org, sed ĝi ŝajnas interesega.

[introvert-traveler]

@falloutnoi I’ve been told that you can’t really ask a person that kind of stuff, because sometimes people don’t think things through, they just go “let’s see what happens”. And that by asking what a person wants, I’m pushing them to know what they want, and being intimidating and pushing them away.

So one friend told me I need to go with the flow, even if it just gives me more anxiety and confuses me a lot.

Wondering about dating behavior

Can please someone explain me human dating behavior? Because I’m feeling extremely lost.

Two weeks ago, on the last weekend of December, I went out with this one girl that exhuded calm energy. It was lovely, and I enjoyed her a lot. She was nice, and interesting. I was extremely nervous, and made a mess of myself.

Somehow, it seemed to be quite clear she wasn’t interested. She didn’t seem to want to really keep talking to me, the conversation were stunted and I felt like k was carrying it and forcing it to go on, when she really didn’t want to. She wouldn’t ask questions and it would take her days to write back very short answers I didn’t know what to say.

I’m a high energy-chatterbox that can be stoped, and she is a woman of measured words, and a relaxing and calming energy. Extreme opposites.

So, one conversation that managed to end on a non-answerable thing, I decided no to keep forcing it and let it go. That was last Sunday. Today, she messaged me to ask how I was doing.

Now, keep in mind, the whole week after we went out, she hadn’t asked many questions at all, even if I did, as if she didn’t really want to know much about what I was doing. So I didn’t want to force her to keep talking to me. I felt like I was bothering her.

Even if I found her cool, pretty and interesting, I dislike bothering people. I avoid it. I dislike ghosting people, so I found an out in a goodnight, and left it there. I never thought she would message me at all.

So know, I’m confused. I’m not sure what is that she want. And I don’t know what to expect or what to do. I’m gonna keep writing back, till she gets bored again.

Why are people so complicated and difficult to read???

Since I’m quite on the not understanding end, I try to show I’m interested by keeping the conversation alive and asking questions, because I can’t say I like a person if I don’t know what they think. I find it refreshing when someone tells you they didn’t like you in a romantic way, at least then you aren’t wasting their time and they aren’t wasting yours.