#fatkid

[ithappensblog]

beyond the fat kid - part 1

Growing up as "the fat kid" in a society that places an unwavering emphasis on appearance is a struggle that leaves a lasting imprint on one's sense of self-worth. My life has been riddled with challenges, self-doubt, and a battle to navigate a world that often values appearance over anything else. Yet, through it all, I've come to realize that the most significant transformation begins within, and my commitment to self-love is a legacy I'm determined to pass on to my daughter. As a child, I was often left to play alone in the schoolyard. I was rarely invited to birthday parties or social gatherings. Once, I even had a "friend's" Father refer to me as "the fat girl down the street." In high school, shopping trips with friends turned into disheartening experiences as we couldn't shop in the same stores or sections. To top it off, boys were never attracted to me like they were to others; instead, they were often repelled, a reflection of the toxic mindset that if you weren't skinny, you didn't fucking matter. It felt as though the world had drawn a line between people based solely on appearances. Growing up as the fat kid sucked. Growing up fat was a lonely battle, a constant struggle to prove my worth in a world that seemed intent on defining it for me. Those early years left me with deep emotional and physical scars. Self-harm and self-hate became my companions, a response to the notion that my worth was dictated by the number on my scale and the size of my clothing.

When I became a Mother, my journey took on a new dimension. As my daughter got older, I recognized the urgent need to break the cycle of self-doubt and body shame. My daughter's innocence and curiosity about my body challenged me to rewrite the narrative to encourage her to foster a healthy relationship with her own body, to prioritize self-love over societal expectations, and most importantly to be kind to others. Conversations with my daughter about body positivity have been crucial. She's noticed that my body is different from others, and we've had open discussions about accepting everyone as they are. It's my responsibility as her Mother to guide her with the wisdom that beauty extends far beyond appearances, and our worth is derived from the strength of our character not by the number on our jeans. If my journey as the fat kid has taught me anything, it's that people of all ages are exceptionally cruel if you look different than the media tells you to. Yet, amidst the sea of external judgment it's our own internal dialogue that holds the most power. And, the people we choose to surround ourselves with can make or break you. Our words, especially when spoken in front of impressionable young people such as our children, have the potential to shape their future. Our kids mirror us and it's this realization that ignited my commitment to set a good example and provide my child with an environment where loving yourself is a priority. In our home, we have a zero tolerance for bullying (including ourselves) and we frequently discuss with our daughter that people come in all shapes and sizes, and beauty goes deeper than your looks. All of this rambling is just to highlight the importance of instilling affirmations in your children. It is imperative not only to recognize your own value but also for your kids to see theirs too. Demonstrate kindness and empathy in your interactions with yourself and with others because you're laying the foundation for your children to follow suit. It all starts at home.

[mklopez]

#Sergios claims their chocolate mousse is only 100 cal. I'm not going to ask questions. #fatkid #lunchtime (at Sergio's Cuban Restaurant) https://www.instagram.com/p/CqDyDn9OD-4/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[bickley]

I’ll miss the #McRib noting like your inner #fatkid screaming “the McRib’s back!” When you see the sign. https://www.instagram.com/p/Ckt8sD_ODRf/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[anna-neko]

ok fine.... getting older and fatter is a thing... I can live w/ needing new bras and my oldest dresses no longer fitting....

BUT WHY DID MY DAMN FINGERS HAVE TO GET TOO PLUMP FOR RINGS?!?!?

somehow feels personally attacked ya know..... ( ɵ̥̥ ﹏ ɵ̥̥) these no longer look like dainty piano-playin hands**

**i ain't musical, was just always told my fingers looked delicate etc etc

FUN FACT: lil turtle was from highschool days. His head and lil legs wobble around!

[kasaneteto]

Re: standing up for yourself - I'm kinda sad because each school I went to, elem/mid/hs etc, I never got in a real fight. Never got a chance. I always one-and-doned people and they went down. Never got messed with after but I never really got any catharsis. Idk. Maybe this is a silly thing to complain about but as a perpetually bullied fatkid I at least wanted the people I was somewhat afraid of to have a spine. Lmao. The last one I walked up to with intent to actually start something and slapped him but I accidentally cupped his ear and blew his eardrum out and he, uh, ran off crying. I'd've felt bad if he didn't threaten to come to my house with a bat once a week.

are you some kind of supervillain with a tragic past or something. why are you telling me this

[thebestpartofwakingup]

The internet being kind of bad right now reminds me a little of TV/fashion being kind of bad circa 2010 because I was like 11 and not vibing with shooters as a #girlgamer or low waisted jeans as a #fatkid and I just had this sense of like “man it sucks that this is how the world is” but then those things changed

So like with the internet and Twitter stuff right now I’m sort of trying to take it on with that mindset. Maybe the internet kind of sucks right now. Probably isn’t going to suck forever, although how we use it may change.

lot of people without emotional investment in the internet or tech are in charge right now. Oh well. generations roll in and out of power. I used to mourn PC adventure games and hate how PC gaming wasn’t treated seriously, and now PC-centric Indie games are a huge thing!

“Stretch pants” used to be demeaned as mom pants and then leggings became a sensible wardrobe icon and even “rebellious”

I used to destroy my feet and ankles because I was humiliated the only shoes I could wear without injury were wide new balances, a “dad shoe”, and now they’re in fashion (or were? Not a sneaker person)

Every year there used to be a Saw movie and then a Paranormal activity and then an A24 movie

[obsessive-bear-walking]

Dudes I'm suddenly driven insane by the fact that I have no idea of the other half of my teenage unhealthy lowkey erotic friendship is alive. Where r u Sandina r u ok.

R u a trad wife now where did you goooooo

I'm willing to forgive you for being an asshole if u tell me if ur alive my love pls

Borderline ready to put posts in tags like "If u know a woman in her 30s named Sandina who used to teach a fat kid Bosnian and used to talk about our kids getting married. Tell her to call the fatkid his number never changed" I won't but. It is tempting.

[swextcrwature]

growing up fat is damaging. your grandma starts weighing you everytime you visit her when you're 9. your parents think that you should dress up more appropriately by the time you're 13 while your skinny cousin can wear whatever she wants. people start sexualizing you by the time you're 14. your friends think you're annoying when you're 15. you realize how much attention you get after you start sexualizing yourself at 16. no matter how much weight you lose you still see that fat kid on the mirror when you turn 17. you realize all those years you dealt with so many fucking versions of ED at 18 and you're still alive.

[food00]

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[msvaluable]

My girlfriend Thervie Faye will be like this soon ahaha

[mklopez]

In a pickle. #fatkid #lunchtime #geeklife https://www.instagram.com/p/CqDvtUPOSNL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[joshof13thfloor]

Been a minute since I posted a shitty, public restroom, #selfie. You're welcome. #me #fatkid #classy #clutch https://www.instagram.com/p/CH_bxqepZtT/?igshid=uu2juqekhr9d

[anna-neko]

the problem with being a fatkid is that no matter how perfectly the piece of clothing is .... made to your exact measurements.... you still feel like its off somehow >_<;;;

[[insert sad joke about lolita skirts hiding half the insecurity in the ruffles & fullness]]

EDIT: its a very specific category of "am i wearing it wrong" insecurity, that can only be compared to wearing wrong size bra for years because every mall store said this was it, but then you go to that One Store where they measure you carefully, and find The Actual Correct Size so everything perfectly sits just so and its like angels now hold up your bosom, feels so perfect Now take that feeling of underwire digging into side weirdly and apply to basically your entire being.

[adjmass]

I haven't made queso since sometime last year. Like I can't even remember when. LONG OVERDUE! . 💀 .. 💀💀 ... 💀💀💀 .. 💀💀 . 💀 #queso #laborday #FoodPorn #FatKid https://www.instagram.com/p/CE2DAHaFxRc/?igshid=14zcxf383d5qf

[moldybreadguys]

So I learned yesterday was #nationalonlychildday and my sleepy tit forgot to do this post. I mean, normally I just lampoon #nationalsiblingday as an only instead, but ya know hwhat? I'll do a post about it anyways #justforalaugh. Tldr on being an only: it was great not having to share, but it sucked not getting to share. Anyways, here's me at 15 since I don't have a lot of #childhood photos of me doing things to share. . . . . #teenpic #earlyselfie #unimportant #accurate #measateenager #fatkid #keepscrolling https://www.instagram.com/p/B-7-iaVn8qe/?igshid=6ylft37wrs44