I took myself on a little date this morning. I went to the local cafe, got myself a small coffee and a little english muffin breakfast sandwich for a total of about $5, and sat by the window. I just spent that time quietly observing everything around me without trying to distract myself on my phone or anything.
I studied the foam in my coffee, I payed attention to how the light interacted with the rain droplets on the metal fence, I overheard bits and pieces of the conversation coming from the table next to me. When walking back to my car, I made sure that I consciously took deep breaths and noticed how the chilly rain-infused air felt going in and out of my lungs.
In my car on the way to the grocery store where they have the cheapest eggs, I sang my heart out to a specific song that had been stuck in my head at the cafe. I was doing my best to match the notes without putting pressure on myself.
I took my time at the grocery store. I got my eggs, my vitamins, and ultimately decided that yes I should get that chocolate that is on sale. I saved about $16 with my rewards card.
On my way home, I let myself take my time even more deliberately. I drove slower than I normally would, and if there was nobody behind me, sometimes even slower than the speed limit. My windows were down most of the time, and I just let myself relax with my music.
Recently, I have been very stressed and constantly busy, going from one place to another and not really have any time for myself. Even during evenings when I'm supposedly "chilling" in my room, I can't fully relax because I'm always thinking about what I need to do next.
Today was an exercise in letting myself let go a little. My situation has not changed, and yeah maybe in my current financial state I should have used that $5 for something more practical, but for a little while, I was just experiencing my life without it being about anything or anyone else.
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soft!abby headcanons - part two ♡
sfw, these are kiiiiinda lazy but i promise i'm sort of working on a proper oneshot/possible multi-chapter fanfic but who knows when that'll be done
♡ abby is a little overprotective, if you injure yourself on patrol she immediately stops to patch you up and make sure you're ok before moving on. if someone else on the team gets injured, she'll stop and wait for them to tend to themselves, but she won't help them with it. her tender, loving side is reserved for you only.
♡ when you get back home later she always checks up on you to make sure you're doing ok, mentally as well as physically, and cleans the wound if necessary. she'll pull you into her lap when she's done and you two will cuddle up on the couch together, abby opening one of her favourite books and reading aloud to you.
♡ abby struggles to sleep whenever you're not there, eventually giving in and getting up to grab your favourite hoodie. she holds it close and allows the smell of you to wash over her as she falls asleep, feeling a little more comforted.
♡ abby LOVES hugs from behind. she loves wrapping you in her big arms and burying her face in your neck while you're busy. or, if the roles are reversed she'll feel you snake your arms around her waist and your cheek press against her upper back, not quite tall enough to see over her shoulders without standing on tiptoes.
♡ abby loves teaching you things and helping you learn. her favourite is when she's helping you adjust your aim and she just HAS to touch you in order to help you. it's purely educational, no other reason.
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Unknown, Ep 11: To Grow Taller
Alright y’all, I just want to say that I am not super thrilled with how Episode 11 went. I felt like they completely obliterated the emotional build up to the change over after they did such a great job of navigating it in Episode 10.
So as much as there were some lovely images of hands, I’m not that interested in writing about it. So it is time, it is time to do the thing I should have done long ago.
It is time to write about Lili and San Pang.
Hands down my favorite part of this episode (and probably one of my favorite scenes of the series) was seeing the two of them interact, of seeing more of Lili’s inner workings, of understanding that she knows more than she lets on. I loved Yuan telling Qian that Lili is smart, and I loved the proud little smile Qian had when he heard that.
The most important scene in this episode, to me, starts with the height wall. That thing has been causing me psychic damage since episode one. It pans down to Lili. I like how long the camera lingers on her eyes. Lili has seen everything that has happened in their lives and she’s been spared from a lot of the violence, but that doesn’t mean she hasn’t beared witness to it.
I was really struck by her words to San Pang:
“When we were little, Qian was always there to help us with everything we did. He would measure our height every year. I always wondered when I could grow taller than him. Then I could protect him.”
I know we have seen Lili constantly take a back seat in this story. We have seen her even acknowledge Qian’s focus on Yuan multiple times throughout the show. We don’t see her doing as much for Qian as Yuan does. She doesn’t know how to wrap up leftovers, she’s not a great cook, she doesn’t try to pay the household bills. But that’s because she loves Qian like a sister does, she’s got a secure position in the household, she’s not trying to be Qian’s partner, and it is a testament to Qian’s love for Lili that she does not know how to do some of the basic life things, because it means that she’s been so well taken care of she hasn’t been forced to learn.
There are all these little elements scattered across the series that show Qian’s love for Lili. The picture on his desk at home is of him, Yuan, and Lili at Qian’s graduation. He has the magazine she’s featured in on display. He immediately softens on his anger towards her relationship with San Pang when she asks him to go on a family vacation.
She has seen how much Qian has suffered, and she loves Qian enough to want to shield him from any more harm.
And San Pang is so lovely in this scene, with his head resting on the stair railing, a sleepy look of love on his face as he stares at Lili. I love the way San Pang smiles to himself when she tells him this. Because Qian is family to San Pang and San Pang is family to Qian. San Pang loves Qian and wants what is best for him always. And I do think there is a difference there between the soft, dreamy, comfortable expression he has when looking at the woman he loves, and the small smile that lights up his eyes at the thought of Lili loving her brother enough to want to protect him.
Lili’s face is serious, and she does not always look in San Pang’s direction when she talks:
“Even though he is a few years older than us, his hands are always covered in scars and calluses.” Lili tells the ground. It’s interesting to me to see when she is comfortable enough reviving a memory to look San Pang in the eyes because she doesn’t do so until partway through her hand cream story:
“One year, I took the hand cream my classmates gave me” she looks at San Pang “and rubbed it on his hands at midnight.”
The camera cuts to San Pang who is listening to Lili absolutely enraptured by her. And I do have to commend the show for how they have navigated Lili and San Pang’s relationship change. In very few frames, with little fanfare or flare they have made San Pang and Lili’s relationship clear, understandable, and believable. We’ve had like, two minutes of them together up through now, and all I need to believe these two will be together forever is all in the way that San Pang looks at Lili. That man is not only head over heels in love with Xiao Bao, he’s ass over tea kettle in love with her as well.
“He scolded me for it. Do you know why?”
“I do.” San Pang says with a smile. And I love that because we remember that San Pang and Qian have grown up together. San Pang has been helping take care of Qian and the rest of the family for years. You know in the way that San Pang smiles that he is remembering Qian as a young man complaining about Lili lotioning his hands in the middle of the night. Hell, I can picture Qian’s rant right now. “Because it smelled like roses.”
Lili laughs and covers her face in embarrassment. “That’s right.”
But like a lot of scenes in this show, the transition from lighthearted to more serious changes on a dime. Lili’s face slips back in to a frown as she turns over a thought. “Nobody cares about Qian.”
And this is what it feels like sometimes, with how stubborn Qian is, with how much weight he wants to carry for himself, with how much debt he owes to the likes of Le, Xiong, and San Pang. But they don’t expect repayment, they did this because they care about Qian. San Pang has helped Qian weather many many storms. He has pushed when Qian needed pushing, he has pulled when Qian needed to be held back.
“Yes, they do. We all love your brother.”
Qian has so much love in his life, if only he stopped long enough to see it. If only he let go long enough to feel it. I was not thrilled with how they fumbled so much of the emotional weight of Qian and Yuan getting together in this episode, but I am glad the show took time to highlight how much they all love Qian and to show the audience that they want to protect Qian just as much as Qian wants to protect the rest of them.
All this to say San Pang and Lili work incredibly well together as a couple, and I’m so happy that we got to have this little moment between them, both to breathe a bit more life in to their relationship and to remind us all that Yuan is right. Lili is not as naive as she seems.
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