don't wanna derail the post I saw this discussion on- it was all in the notes anyway, so it certainly isn't op's problem. I'm gonna say this with so much love:
Calling somebody a 'theyfab' is not punching up. If someone's being transmisogynistic, say that, or call them a bigot. Naming the tangible harm done to you will always be the most effective thing to do.
The cis people who created that term made it with the explicit intent to mock and insult people's identities. No matter what you mean when you say it, this is its origin and to most people, its only meaning. It describes nothing about the discrimination you face.
People afab are marginalized, especially if they're queer. You cannot "punch up" on a fellow oppressed group. I understand the specific vitriol that they inflict on you hurts.
You don't need a word to call somebody, you need and deserve adequate justice for the tangible harm done to you; and my heart aches that nobody queer- especially trans women- ever seems to receive that.
I'm aware I can't make anybody do anything, so I'm not gonna try to tell you not to use that word. I just want to say it can't ever address, undo, or heal any harm done to you. It can only redirect it.
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this disability pride month, include anosmics and ageusics.
this disability pride month, stop using the s slur, saying "delulu" "delusional" "deluled" ect when you disagree with someone, stop using "sch*zoposting" and just overall treat schizospecs better.
this disability pride month, stop saying "psychopath" "sociopath" and "narcissistic".
this disability pride month, be kinder to people who hallucinate and experience delusions.
this disability pride month, stop stupidifying those who have trouble with "basic skills", people with learning disabilities, ect.
this disability pride month, stop villanising cluster b's.
this disability pride month, stop saying youre such a "pyromaniac" for lighting something on fire or saying youre "a kelpto" because you stole something.
this disability pride month, stop fakeclaiming did/osdd systems.
this disability pride month, stop saying "im so ocd" after cleaning something up.
this disability pride month, stop being rude and impatient with people with intellectual disabilities.
this disability pride month, stop infantilising non verbal people.
this disability pride month, stop treating autism and adhd as the cutesy disorders.
this disability pride month, stop excusing yourself by lying that youhave adhd when youdont. people need those recourses, youdo not get to take them away.
this disability pride month, normalise people with little to no empathy.
this disability pride month, stop using "attention seekers" (especially on your fellow hpds and npds).
this disability pride month, stop reality checking those who dont consent to it.
this disability pride month, stop bullying those who "smell bad" or "look weird" or whatever. (you never know what someones going through)
this disability pride month, stop giving weird looks to those who have bald spots, or cant stop picking their nose, or cracking their knuckles or whatever. (this is mainly focused on bfrbs)
this disability pride month, stop saying "everyone has anxiety" to those with anxiety/panic disorders.
this disability pride month, be normal about zoocanthropes/lycanthropes.
this disability pride month, treat those with personality disorders like youwould any other person.
this disability pride month, just stop bullying little people. just acknowledge people with dwarfism.
this disability pride month, dont stare at that mobility aid user so much. eyes off of them, they dont need to be in the spotlight for a physical disability. (unless they want to xoD /silly)
this disability pride month, stop judging those with facial/body deformities
this disability pride month, be normal about those with physical disabilities, and stop silently judging them.
this disability pride month, stop saying "pride month 2" or "wrath month". we dont even acknowledge disability pride month at all.
this disability pride month, stop differentiating "queer pride month" and "disability pride month" as "pride month" and "disability pride month". they are both pride months so call them by their full names.
this disability pride month, acknowledge not all disabilities are visible.
this disability pride month, give up your seat to someone who needs it.
this disability pride month, actually treat disabled people with rights and respect.
disabled people are people to. you failing to acknowledge that is your abelism. treat us like youd treat any other normal human being. and maybe, just maybe, after this disability pride month, youcan start treating disabled folks like living beings of society and not like your little pity pets/scary monsters/silly cutesy babies.
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