see my brain just doesn’t register the idea of anyone having a ‘one true love’ which is why the common fandom tropes of making canonical love interests terrible in order to justify why your ship is better always bugs the shit out of me. it feels like the only reason you would do that is if the idea of the characters in your ship having any other sort of romantic relationship that was important to them, even in the past, is a threat to their current one, therefore all their past relationships need to be demonized in order to make them ‘not real love’ so that they remain pure and chaste and ready for the True Love of the endgame ship.
married firstprince au set 10ish years in the future where alex is a victim of an assassination attempt while him and henry are apart and the absolutely heartstopping, bone crushing fear when henry gets the call........ bonus points if they were in the middle of a fight at the time............. hold on. i'm throwing up on myself....
hey just a reminder….some people will never be able to come out. like ever. the be-all end-all goal of any lgbtq person doesn’t have to be to come out. it is just to live a happy life. that’s the goal of any human person really. to live a happy life. we may have to live our lives differently, suffer a bit more, sacrifice a bit more for happiness. but no one should be forced to come out. and to those people who know they will never be able to come out. I see you. I hear you. I am one of you. And it will get better eventually. And if it doesn’t, we still have each other.
reading queer historicals does something to me because the characters are never totally safe but they find ways to be happy anyway. they find people they're safe around. they find ways of living in the world without attracting attention. ways to be happy that will let them exist even amidst a hostile society
and it's... i guess it's encouraging, sort of, when the world feels so hostile. to remember both that there has been progress, and also that we can find ways to be happy even when the world seems determined to make that as hard as possible. that it's possible to endure, and keep existing, and find joy, even when you can never be entirely safe
but
but i want to be safe. i don't want to have to fight to find my own joy. i don't want to have to build a future before i can live in it. i just want to feel safe
My current analysis of deep space nine is that the six degrees of separation rule is applicable to everyone on the station, but instead of just knowing someone (which is easy when living in a space port with people going on and off) it is that that everyone has slept with someone who has slept with someone else etcetera, so all residents on the station are six one night stands (or less) away from each other.
sorry to be jughead-like but genuinely in this era if you don't want a casual thing and you're actually looking to date someone with the express purpose of having a committed long-term relationship and eventually getting married, you're in good company........ conservative christian freaks..... military dudes........ uhm. I am not doing it like u guys. that's cringe. I'm doing it gayly and transgenderly okay?