#i'm a private person so if i wouldn't be okay with ppl knowing X about me i won't post X about someone else even if they're a public figure

[mybrainproblems]

i just wish literally ANY of my debunking posts made it past a handful of likes/reblogs. i'm not looking for plaudits or brownie points on this stuff, but i've spent a not-insubstantial amount of time tracking down the source of some popular rumors/conspiracies and have managed to piece things together by crowdsourcing info from ppl who were There in addition to my own internet dives.

i'm not even really begging for notes tbh, i just that i wish the info could get out there. it just gets annoying to see the same things that are honestly not that difficult to debunk keep getting spread around and see new people latch onto them and spread them, bc repeating conspiracies is more fun than fact checking (unless you're a freak like me who loves a good internet spelunk)

i'm not even mad at ppl or anything bc i get it! conspiracies are fun! i've even bought into a couple! but then when i went to source them, i realized that oop! there's not a good source or it's been taken out of context! sometimes it's stuff that's been distorted via fandom telephone! and sometimes it's a complete fabrication or intentional misinfo, which is wild!

i guess i'm just bummed that The Truth Is Out There and yet we're still seeing the same debunked things circulate within the fandom.

maybe i'd get more traction if i was confrontational about this stuff but i try to come from a place of curiosity and good faith and give ppl benefit of the doubt and assume that others are coming from a place of good faith as well unless/until proven otherwise. i'm also happy to revise my stance if folks can offer a decent rebuttal - for all the research i may do, i can still be wrong! i encourage other ppl to fact check what i'm saying!

there's plenty of stuff that i have theories about that are wholly vibes-based and don't even have anecdata to back them up, so i just... don't talk about those publicly so as not to spread them. or i make extremely clear that i am just spitballing or spinning a word salad conspiracy as a joke.

and yeah, this is specifically about spn fandom but it applies to the real world as well. misinfo spreads so easily and it's extremely hard to stop it spreading or debunk it once it reaches critical mass and/or it gets the illusion of truth by coming from mainstream news sites (or popular blogs). it just feels like ppl are becoming more and more fundamentally un-curious and refuse to exit the echo chamber both in fandom and irl.

[thehusbandoden]

LOV x Gn!Reader With an Eating Disorder *platonic*!

Important message: I'm not very familiar with any type of eating disorder, so I apologize if I get something wrong or even trigger, insult, or upset anyone! I promise I wouldn't be trying to, and please reach out to me if so; so I can fix my mistake! <33

*Trigger Warnings!*: eating disorders, mentions of food and ppl trying to pressure you into eating, bullying, and a mention of murder. If I miss anything, please tell me! <3

General info:

Genre: fluff/comfort \\ wc: 694 \\ friendly reminder! For personal reasons, I do not write for Toga or Twice in any way, thank you for being so understanding and patient! <33 \\ Gender neutral reader + platonic relationships.

Requested! Couldn't find the exact wording, but they wanted a lov x reader platonically, where Shigaraki is like a father figure; and them reacting to you having an ed.

Dabi was the first one to notice it.

He viewed you as his little sister, and though he denied it; he cared about you. Which is what led him to discover your eating habits- well lack of eating.

It started off small. Missing a brunch here, and turning down a snack there. Nothing to cause concern.

But when you started making excuses for almost every meal- that's when he started to get worried.

When the rest of the leauge was eating breakfast you'd simply grab an apple, telling everyone that you "had stuff to do".

Okay, no big deal.

But when you skipped lunch, and hardly touched dinner? Dabi was now keeping his eyes on you.

And then it happened four times after that.

Dabi was quite upset.

He started having you sit next to him, staring at you to pressure you to eat something. He knew that it was kind of mean, but he just wanted you to stop losing weight. You were starting to look thinner every day- which scared him.

After a while of this and realizing it wasn't working, Dabi knew what he had to do.

After making sure you were out of the hide out, Dabi brought Shigaraki in a semi private place to discuss your poor health.

Shigaraki was furious and hurt.

Furious at Dabi for not tellin ghim for two weeks, and hurt that you wouldn't care for yourself properly.

Though you two weren't very far apart, he still saw you as a daughter; and needed you to be taken care of.

After devising a plan Shigarki and Dabi started to work to increasing your self esteem.

They would subtly compliment you every day, telling you how beautiful you were, and how much they love tolerated you.

((I'd just like to say that they would indeed love you, and that you are dearly loved in the real world. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise, and if you need, or even just want to, I'm always here to chat about anything and everything (unless I say I'm uncomfortable with a certain subject, but you can always ask!) <33))

Your self esteem started to grow again, and they hoped that that was the end of the problem.

But you still weren't eating well, and that concerned them further.

Mr. Compress started to notice, and Spinner soon after.

Getting frustrated, Shigarki started having you eat with him, making sure that you ate at least a little bit.

After a while of you continuing to grow skinnier and skinnier, Shigarki lost it.

Pulling you into a comforting, warm hug he stroked your head before asking;

"Y/n/n, please tell me what's wrong with you. Gorgeous, you know you can tell me anything."

Sighing, you finally tell him how some pro heroines commented on your "weight" and how you grew self conscious. After a while of this agonizing feeling you decided to eat less and less to lose weight.

Honestly, Shigarki was angry. Really angry. Already planning on finding and murdering the scum that dared make you feel this way, Shigarki simply smiled down at you before pecking your forehead; much like a parent would.

"Y/n, my dear. You should have told me. I promise you, that you are the most beautiful person I've seen in my entire life. So please belive me when I say that you don't need to worry about loosing weight. I liked how you looked before, and though you do still look gorgeous- you look better healthy."

Tearing up, you clung to Shigarki as you sobbed, finally letting out all the pain and anger you've been holding back for the longest time.

After comforting you and making sure you ate, and got to bed, Shigarki went to tell Dabi about your conversation.

You were not prohibited from looking at the news for the next two and a half weeks.

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[posi-pan]

i doooooont get how hearts not parts is problematic, i just explained it in my post not in the ask because it's lengthy, please if you could explain it to me, i want to understand. ill tag you so it's easier to find

okay so i've explained this a bunch of times and i'm not sure how else i could explain it if the post of mine that you linked in your post didn't help, but i guess i'll try.

"its not dismissive toward gender? it says nothing about gender at all"

the dismissive attitude about gender referred to "genderblind", not "hearts not parts", as my post was about both terms.

"conflating gender and sex? again it says nothing about gender. maybe because its about sexualities it does imply something about gender, but it's dismissing the physical parts not your gender?"

the phrase is saying those who use it care about a person's heart, not their genitals, the implication being the typical type of attraction is based on genitals. attraction has come to be defined in terms of gender, not sex. hence this phrase conflating the two. (again, dismissing gender was not about this phrase.)

"'an implication that non-pan people only care about genitals' emmm, does "love between men is pure" imply that all other love is impure?"

as i explained, the implication is there in the phrase setting itself apart from everyone else through the idea that the standard type of attraction is caring only or mostly about "parts". because if that wasn't the idea the phrase is built on, there wouldn't be a need to declare that your attraction isn't like that.

"'an erasure/invalidation of aromantic people' same as the previous point, the fact that we are talking about romantic love atm, don't mean we invalidate aromantic people."

a phrase that prioritizes hearts (or romantic attraction/love) over parts (or sexual attraction/sex) can be alienating to aromantic folks who are already vilified and alienated because of how they experience attraction.

"'misrepresentation of what it means to be pan in general' what does it mean? pan x-attraction to any of the genders. what is it misrepresenting? all (ignoring the people who don't consider trans or intersex people people) sexualities are attracted to the heart (soul, being, person including their gender/lack there of) not their private parts, so if anything it could be any orientations slogan, but doesn't really sound right for one gender attracted people, that i admit. idk why. prolly bc it's been associated with bi pan omni ppl. idk."

my post specifically said what the phrase means to convey isn't the issue, and what it means to convey is attraction that isn't about gender (gender is how attraction is defined, not sex, even if the phrase uses the word "parts"). and while that intended meaning is fine for some people, not all pan folks relate to or use that definition. which is why pan is also defined simply as attraction to all genders.

and if what the phrase means to convey was the common understanding or experience of sexuality in general for everyone, it likely wouldn't exist or become the "slogan" of a specific type of attraction.

"'and an idea of superiority over other identities' not sure at all about this one. as I established no sexualities are actually attracted exclusively to parts. Hearts not parts is not implying anything about superiority or other orientations at all."

there are people whose attraction is specific to certain genders (or sexes, for those who don't believe attraction is based on gender). and there are plenty of people who feel that they are more enlightened or openminded than those people because their attraction isn't limited to any specific gender (or sex), and sometimes this phrase is how they express that.

i don't know if any of that helped you understand why people take issue with the phrase. i tend to ramble and become longwinded which doesn't always help clarity. if there's something i can explain more or better, let me know and i'll try.

but i do want to say again that what the phrase is meant to convey isn't the issue and not everyone who uses the phrase has bad intentions or is a bad person who should be yelled at or accused of being queerphobic or anything.

the point is to just spread awareness as to why pan and non-pan people alike don't particularly like the phrase or appreciate it being used as "the" understanding of pansexual and why it has seen a bit of a decline in use over the years.