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hey y’all i made a goodreads page for pansexual and panromantic books!!!! there’s currently 1.7k+ books sorted into helpful shelves. if you’re looking for books to read with pan rep or know someone who is, i’ve definitely got you covered!!! 💖💛💙

this goodreads page has shelves for:

age range (middle grade/young adult, new adult/adult)

genre (contemporary, fantasy, historical, horror, mystery thriller, nonfiction, romance, science fiction)

gender (man, nonbinary, woman)

character (love interest, main character, more than one, side character, species/culture)

rep (author, pan squared romance, panromantic, panromantic plus, pansexual, pansexual plus)

theme (coming out, realization)

type (on page, on page another book, out of text)

and as always, my pan rep masterlist is linked on the page for anyone who is interested in more details and sources (as well as more pan rep in other forms of media!!) on these characters!!! https://pansexualrep.carrd.co/

if you're wondering about any of these shelves, i will briefly explain them:

regarding genre, nonfiction is for nonfiction books by pan authors or about/discussing pansexuality.

regarding gender, i’m using nonbinary here as an umbrella term for all genders outside of exclusive man and exclusive woman.

regarding characters, a main character is a character with pov chapters; a love interest is a main character’s romantic/sexual interest without pov chapters; a side character is neither of those; more than one indicates a book has more than one pan character; and species/culture is when a book has a world or group of characters that are pan normative.

regarding rep, author indicates the book has pan characters and a pan author; pan squared romance is when a romance has at least two pan characters; panromantic/pansexual plus indicates a character uses a pan label along with other romantic/sexual labels.

regarding type, on page means the pan label/flag is used on page in the book; on page another book means the pan label/flag is used on page in another book in the series; out of text means the author has used the pan label/flag on social media, in interviews, etc.

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I saw a Facebook page for bisexuals that said bi is regardless of gender. I thought, ok, cool, I agree. It seemed like a regular bisexual page but when someone asked in the comments what the difference between bi and pan was (on a post responding to if pansexuals are allowed to follow the page and stating they can but it’s first and foremost a bi space), the owner of the page posted a link to an article addressing myths about bisexuality instead. I didn’t even bother to read the article. Idk if I’m over thinking this but to me it just felt like a dismissal of other mspec identities like pan, omni, ply, etc. and dare I say it, erasure even. This page thinks there’s no difference between bi and pan, which is fine to have personal opinions, but for a lot of people there is a difference and it’s important and meaningful to them, something the page did not acknowledge. I’m sick of bisexuals invalidating our identities. We exist, and we are valid. I’m sick of seeing panphobia, omniphobia, etc from bisexuals who should be standing in unison with us. We are part of the mspec community and we need to bring each other up, not down. And this includes mspec minorities.

see for me, defining bisexuality broadly as regardless of gender is the first red flag. because while some bisexuals use that definition, it has never been the general, community definition. then add to that saying pan people can follow but it's a bi page first and linking an article about bisexual myths when someone asked the difference......i'd give that page a hard pass if i were you.

i'm sure the people running that page think bi is an umbrella term that pan is included in, so it's interesting that they say the page is first and foremost a bi page. pan people (and omni and ply and all other non-bi mspec folks) are stuck in this in-between place where we're constantly told bi includes us but bi spaces/events/etc. aren't for us.

but yeah, you're right. panphobia, omniphobia, plyphobia, etc. from bi folks is super frustrating and disheartening. especially because of how it's never addressed or called out by anyone but us. it's never taken seriously. and when we address it, we're accused of being the bad guys, of talking over people, of making everything about ourselves. we're the most invisible people in the mspec community, so it's hard to get people to listen to us.

folks need to do better and stop trying to make the queer community about exclusive little groups with their "you can't sit with us" mindset. because who does that help? who is benefiting from that?

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latest on medium — pansexual and kink: a brief history

have you heard of cynthia slater? club x? carol queen? play parties? the national leather association? tony deblase? paddleboro? in this article, i explore the connection between pansexual and kink, through various different community leaders, events, clubs, and moments in time, including those mentioned above and more.

we often hear that the use of pansexual in kink communities discredits it as a sexual orientation label, but being part of a rich history of a community that not only is “built upon the ideals of consent, honesty, and respect,” but also strove to be inclusive and flexible and played a key role in queer history is pretty rad.

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you’d think since pansexual and asexual are consistently the top volunteered identities of queer survey participants who choose “other” for their sexuality, researchers would’ve stopped literally othering them as write-in identities and started providing them as options by now.

some studies note that they include pansexual and asexual as options due to the high number of “other” participants who wrote them in in the past but reading “most common write-ins are pansexual and asexual” in 2024 is super disheartening. just include them as options already!

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Not sure if you've been told about this yet. But I've recently checked out a 18+ dating sim game called 14 Days With You that was recommended to me. And discovered some of the characters in it are canonly pan. Just wanted to share this info with you. 💗💛💙 The info can be found on their blog pinned post, along with the characters pronouns too.

@/14dayswithyou

thanks for letting me know!! 🧡

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Hello, I hope you're having a wonderful day, I was wondering, under the LGBTQIA acronym what letter do you think covers pansexuality? Would you add a P, would you label it under the Q, or another third secret option?

hi! my day is fine! personally, i don’t use the acronym, i just say queer. the only time i really use it is when i’m quoting someone who used it. so i haven’t really thought about it. i guess i’d consider pansexuality included by the q. i wouldn’t add a p because it would never catch on. the more letters added, the more of a mouthful it is, and less people would use it. i mean, people struggle to use lgbtqia+. the most common ones are lgbt+ and lgbtq+. so while i’m sure a lot of people would appreciate having their identity represented in the acronym with a letter, and i’d never judge or fault anyone for adding their letters whenever they use the acronym, i’m beyond caring about it personally.

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Have you ever heard of/discussed the society of janus? They've been a self-described "pansexual organization" since 1974, and (as I've recently learned) were at the forefront of the safe kink/bdsm community, and were some of the earliest people documented to give what we now call safewords a specific word and discuss the concept in depth.

Just something I learned today via Watts the Safeword and the SOJ website that I thought was kind of neat, and I figured I'd share!

i have! i actually have a post in the works that touches on janus and how cynthia slater, who founded it, was regarded as the “mother of pansexuality”! i think it’s neat, too. the history of pansexual in kink communities is super interesting and i’m excited to share my post about it.

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Hello! I came across your blog and I wanted to ask as a new lgbtq person what do exactly people mean by gender preference?

I tried asking around and searching it up but no one seemed to be able to answer me!

So I’m a little confused is it preferring some genders over others or is it preferring different things in different genders?

i hope this doesn’t comes off as weird!

hi!! gender preference can mean different things to different people. to some it might mean they experience stronger or more frequent attraction to one gender over others, to others it might mean they prefer to date people of one gender over others, to others still it might mean they like different things in different genders. i’m sure there are other experiences people describe as gender preferences, but those are off the top of my head! i hope this is helpful, and no worries, it’s not weird!

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i was wondering if you either do a blog or if there's a blog similar to yours that posts content like this but bisexual?

i don’t, but there are definitely lots of bi specific blogs out there.

anyone have recs for anon?

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hi! i wanted to say/ask two things: one - have you ever done a roundup of videogame pan characters? i've only seen you do books i think (i recently learned that all bg3 companions are pan so i wonder)(also i am working on a game that has a pan4pan main couple bc we gotta do good things for ourselves), and two - i know that you use "pan antagonism" to mean that we're being antagonized but i keep misinterpreting it as like, a phenomenon of having a pan antagonist in a story lol

hi!!! i don’t think i’ve made a post about pan characters in games (my memory is terrible), but i do have a game section on my pan rep masterlist!

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deadpool is pansexual. deal with it. 💗💛💙

deadpool has been depicted in text as queer for decades through subtext and coding and explicitly confirmed out of text as queer since almost a decade ago. and when i say queer, i mean both sexuality and gender wise. it’s all there, if you care to pay attention and acknowledge it for what it is.

but people love to deny and doubt it, so here i am, detailing deadpool’s pansexuality and general queerness and challenging the arguments made against it. even though it would send a deadpool co-creator into a twitter bitch fit. maybe even especially because it would.

one of my first posts on here was 6 years ago about deadpool being one of the only two pan characters i knew of at the time (wild!!!! i now have a list of over 1000 pan characters!!!!) and how pissed off i was that people said he isn’t valid/good queer rep, so it’s very on brand for me to have eventually ended up writing a whole ass essay defending his pansexuality and bringing as many receipts as i could.

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a pansexual explaining their identity at a 1977 pride parade, as shown in the 1978 documentary gay usa 💗💛💙

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some reminders for pan week!! 💗💛💙

pan people have always been included in the bi community!!

pansexual has existed since at least the 1960s!!

identifying as pansexual is not biphobic or transphobic!!

there are more pan identities than pansexual and panromantic!!

pan means attraction to all genders or regardless of gender!!

one can identify as both pan and bi!!

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💗💛💙 the pansexual bookshelf 💗💛💙

kicking off a new series where i highlight and discuss books with pansexual or panromantic representation that fit different themes, categories, or other marginalizations.

first up is realization and coming out stories, with a total of 9 books.

i love seeing characters discover pansexuality: the questioning, denial, confusion, exploration, caution, excitement, acceptance, and finally, celebration. i can’t help but imagine the impact pansexual realization/coming out stories could have on people, especially young ones. they could be a game changer. and we deserve to have that.

(as i note in the article, these aren’t necessarily my personal recommendations, just pan books that fit the bill.)

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pan week is a great time to learn about pansexual people’s health and wellbeing, so here are some statistics on the suicidality of pansexual people, from 2017-2022. the findings of these surveys and studies, as well as others, are pretty grim.

for more sources on pansexual statistics: https://pansexualstatistics.carrd.co

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One of my friends is in a bi group online and yesterday someone gave an incorrect definition of pan, and my friend got SO mad because they were completely invalidating me and my experience and label and she SET THEM STRAIGHT. She was so fired up about it that nobody bothered to argue because she WOULD have turned it into a fight. Anyway, I love my friend and I love pan allies.

we love to see it!!! 💘

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happy pan pride day!!! and pan week!!!!! i hope y'all are having a good day!!!! here are some quick reminders about the pansexual label!!! 💗💛💙