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[mentalillnessmouse]

I'm not sure if this'll make sense but I've been thinking & going back on how/why I've always thought everyone hates me at some point(bc of either one person that doesn't like me or just gaining that perspective of me)bc of the way I'd be treated back in like pre-school or early elementary school days,& summer camp(being the only filipino/black kids in school in an all black community besides my other siblings)& I'm just trying to slowly pull myself away from that mindset, can I have some tips?

Hi there!

Here are some great resources on setting up boundaries. They are more to do with current people bothering you, but I feel as if they will still be useful for you:

10 ways to build emotional boundaries

Creating emotional freedom

Healthy personal boundaries

Emotional boundaries

Mental Support Community, a forum to talk about bullying in any form and how it affects your life.

5 strategies to help teens cope with bullying

Here are so general mental health resources to help:

You Feel Like Shit – An Interactive Self Care Guide is a website that will take you through steps to feeling okay during times when you don’t feel well.

Superbetter is an interactive way to focus on recovery from pretty much anything. It was created by a video game designer when she was recovering from a traumatic brain injury and can be used to help with recovering from various mental or physical health issues.

Mood Gym is an interactive website that allows you to learn cognitive behaviour therapy skills for preventing and coping with depression. The techniques can additionally be applied to a range of mental health issues.

Help Guide, a site containing articles to help understand, help numbers,  “tool kits”, and self help.

Mental Help, a site that has basic information, resources, articles, and a list of books that might be helpful.

Annnnd lastly, here are some resources to cope with flashbacks:

Coping with flashbacks

AboutHealth tells you about coping with flashbacks.

Here are some tips and tricks on coping with flashbacks.

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insightfully-curiouslyconfused said: Can you suggest books with an Asian Protagonist?

1. Girl in Translation by Jean Kwok

2. Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell

3. The Year She Left Us by Kathryn Ma

4. The Fire Horse Girl by Kay Honeyman

5. To All the Boys I've Loved Before by Jenny Han

6. Shanghai Girls by Lisa See

Thanks for the question! 

[mentalillnessmouse]

does it make any sense to try to guilt trip someone into going back to college when they've made it clear they don't want to??Some of my extended family and my mom especially have been trying to guilt trip me into going back to school and I've made it super clear that my soul can't just live for what everyone else wants me to do and just go after what I've always wanted any it was music. I'm just basically asking how to properly deal with it or how to tell them to basically just deal with it.

Hey!

It isn’t right for anyone to tell anyone what to do, especially when their advice isn’t asked for. They are most likely worried about your future and that you’ll regret it, but that is no excuse. It is your life and your decision on where to lead it.

A good place to start might be to schedule yourself a time to sit down with them to discuss this, if you are able to. With a set date/time to talk to them about it, you give yourself time to mentally prepare yourself as well as to really think out what you are going to say. A rehearsed speech, although still difficult, will always be easier than an impromptu one that is a result of an argument. It might even be a good idea to have examples of plans that you would pursue instead. There are also tons of articles that explain why college isn’t always “necessary” for success.

Here are a few:

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/is-college-the-right-path_b_5191648 - A Huffington Post article

https://lenpenzo.com/blog/id15280-4-smart-reasons-why-college-isnt-for-everyone-2.html This guy puts it pretty bluntly

https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/is-college-for-everyone-10-alternatives-to-the-traditional-4-year-college/ This article lists alternatives to college

It might be worth mentioning that if you want to go back to college later on in life, you 100% can go back, no matter the age. My own mother graduated college at the age of 49 when I was a freshman in my college.

I think that the fact that you’ve thought this out and researched options should show your family that this a decision you’ve made and not a last minute impulse. If they cared about your success, in my opinion, they should support this decision.

I won’t lie; this might take time for them to process and try to understand. Sometimes people will never reach that understanding. It’s most important that, in most circumstances, you know what’s best for yourself and you should do what you need to do. Sometimes your best support system is from the family you’ve built instead of the one you are born with

So, take a deep breath, and go get this because for every nonbeliever, there are 3 more who believe in you, including me.

-Mod Aesh