#maybe it's the user making me uncomfy but still

[i-like-her-like-that]

Sighs

[gabessquishytum]

Inspired by the cringe experience of sending a (horny!) ask to the wrong mutual who then published it in good faith:

Dreamling tumblrinas where Dream runs a blog on writing and when Hob sends the most beautiful erotic short fic he's ever read he has to wax lyrical about it but then Hob begs him to delete the ask.

I keep thinking that maybe one day I'll write a fic where Hob has a porny tumblr blog.... so this is very much adjacent to the way I'm thinking atm.

And remember my friend. There is no cringe. Only freedom.

So Dream runs this blog and its very sfw actually!! He posts romance fiction and moodboards and occasionally fantasy things, plus generalised writing tips. And he also publishes asks from other writers who want to be anon/just want somewhere to share their work.

And then he gets this VERY nsfw piece from an anon writer, something he'd usually be uncomfy about but it's SO GOOD. Dream posts it and gushes about the quality of the writing and how the author has managed to write believable smut that is also so beautiful.

He gets a panicked DM from another user (Hob) who's like omg im so sorry, that was meant to go to an nsfw blogger, i can't believe i sent unsolicited porn pls forgive me.

And Dream stalks the user's blog and falls totally in love with their aesthetic. Hob posts snippets from his writing, photography (a lot of nude self portraits) and academia themed moodboards. Dream immediately reads everything that Hob has ever written and still craves more... how can he possibly persuade Hob to drop beautiful nsfw asks in his inbox as a regular thing?

Bonus: they actually know each other in real life as acquaintances, and work in the same library. It's not until their eyes meet over a stack of spicy romance books that Dream makes the connection between fully dressed, beige slacks and jumper wearing Hob... and the nude photos on that tumblr blog <3

[be-the-glenn-to-my-maggie]

I don’t know why I’m here but you gotta know about it. TW mentions of child abuse

There is an actual dead dove poster in the Spider tags now 💀 posting creepy shit and doing it openly on a platform with a shit ton of minors. I saw only one before filtering the tag out but it was a Spider x Quaritch post where they discussed how people "sleep on their dynamic" and "imagine the Stockholm syndrome"

I sent them an ask and said that they should perhaps keep that to themselves or at least out of the general tags bc surprise surprise! Users don’t want relive their past trauma while scrolling through fucking tumblr and hey legit laughed and mocked me in their response. The worst part is it’s an actual 33 year old and despite the fact that they’re apparently ace I just can’t understand what fucked up morbid curiosity can drive a person to become, and I quote, a “dead dove connoisseur” and enjoy reading about sexual child abuse? Make it make sense.

It’s not even a preference thing. It’s basic human decency. What part of “don’t post about how you love fictional child abuse when there are kids looking through the tags and some people can get triggered by it” is so hard to understand? Anyway, this is just a heads up that you might see their post one day, so now you know.

Don't be shy anon drop the @.

You are absolutely right, a preference for writing about child abuse/incest is super not okay, and it's always in young fandoms and around characters like Quaritch. Despite there being whatever proper tags people think are there, I really don't think that content needs to exist. People STILL don't know what they are getting into. Case in point: I know we all stalk the Avatar a03 and we all unfortunately saw the newest gross Quaritch/Spider fic posted. Well, I clicked on that shit, because my dumb ass thought maybe it would be comfort focused enough we could skip around that bc Quaritch was already dead in the fic. When I tell you I have been so uncomfy for the last twelve hours, I cannot scrub that shit from my brain. I wish it had never been written! I wish I was dead! There are very few things that can still make me feel genuinely bad on the internet, and that managed it. I feel icky.

Anyways this just became about me resenting my decisions, I will definitely be reporting anything I see like that and I hope my followers do the same. Thank you for warning us. Tumblr is not always the safest place for minors, but hopefully we can make sure this community is.

[musicfeedsmysoul12]

A list for the next crop of pairings

This is for the photos/videos (Mission: Woo Izuku) verse. it is also on AO3

Hey everyone!

I posted this for two reasons: One, there was a guest commenter who, not once or twice but three times, commented the same thing on every chapter of the most recent updates. 

 Write another part with Rody, Melissa, Shindo, Hawks and Dabi for the next round. Include Class 1B, Natsuo Todoroki, Tensei Iida, Saiko Intelli and flect turn in this round if you could please.

Look, I’m happy to see this. I like people engaging and this, one time? Would have been AWESOME. However, the fact that this happened on three different chapters? Dude. That’s being a fucking asshole. I have deleted the comments and put back on ‘registered users only’. 

Due to this, I thought I would post my ‘list so far’ of various pairings that I’ve been working on. This is subject to change. 

The other reason is because… why not? It’s fun and I think a lot of people would be interested in reading this.

 So, here is the list so far for the next time Izuku gets tagged by the Quirk: Matchmaker! 

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Yes

Melissa

Rody

Hawks

Dabi

Camie

Shindo

Natsuo

Inasa

Toga

Fuyumi

Poly

Shinsou/Todoroki/Izuku

Shinsou/Monoma/Izuku

Shinsou/Hatsume/Izuku

Iida/Todoroki/Izuku

Iida/Uraraka/Izuku

Kaminari/Sero/Izuku

Sero/Ashido/Izuku

Uraraka/Ashido/Izuku

Yaoyorozu/Todoroki/Izuku

Yaoyorozu/Kaminari/Izuku

Iida/Todoroki/Uraraka/Izuku

Yaoyorozu/Hatsume/Izuku

Iida/Yaoyorozu/Izuku

Maybe

Tetsutetsu (maybe they didn’t like lock eyes?)

Spinner 

Rumi (maybe? I dunno just yet.)

Saiko Intelli (I need to figure a way out for her to be here because I have… plans.)

1B in general. (As per the ‘canon’ of the Matchmaker Quirk, Izuku needs to have met them even somewhat briefly. So if they didn’t show up before, they wouldn’t really show up now? Unless I can make shit up)

No and Reasons

Mr. Compress- an anon on Tumblr asked but I decided no due to the larger age difference compared to the other gaps. 

Iida Tensei- the age gap is the same as the one as Mr. Compress. Which honestly, this would have been HILARIOUS to write, but age gap was to much for me this story.

Bakugou- for obvious reasons

Uraraka/Izuku/Asui- honestly? I kinda hate this polycule only because of how often I see it and how frustrated I get with it. I have issues with the Uraraka/Asui pairing being often in Todoroki/Izuku fics and it’s obvious that they’re only paired up to remove Uraraka from the competition. And then it’s like every time I see these three together I’m like: WHAT ABOUT IIDA? But that’s just due to how often I stumble upon ‘Izuku is bisexual and has a harem but it’s all women’. I understand female-leaning bisexual people exist. It’s just like… if you’re going to have 1B girls in the pairing when you have male characters we KNOW and love, then it feels homophobic. I ain’t taking that back. More so when you NEVER bring up Izuku’s bisexuality other then one throw away line you can remove. Just have Izuku be straight! There’s nothing wrong with it! Sorry, rant over. (And yeah the fics are good I won’t deny it just feels… bleh.)

-0-

 I am still thinking about adding more. Again, with some of the age gaps I will be having them all in one chapter so if they make people uncomfy they can skip. How I write age gaps is usually there is no contact between them while the younger isn’t of age, or there is minimal contact at all. (A hero rescuing Izuku/meeting Izuku once or twice to talk).

[v-tired-queer]

Hi! 👋😃

I'm Blaine, and this is my blog! Here's a bit about me and my DNI list 😊

✨️ About Me: ✨️

My pronouns are they/them ⚧️

I am:

Demiflux 🩶🩷💛🩵🩶

Lesbian ❤️🧡🤍🩷💖

Demiromantic 💚🤍🩶🖤

Demisexual 🖤🩶🤍💜

Truth be told, I'm still figuring things out about myself, but over the last couple of months I've learned to be kinder to and more patient with myself in the process. It's still a process, but I'm learning to enjoy it instead of put unnecessary stress and pressure on myself over it 🩷

Do with the above information what you will ✌️

I love to read, write, and draw! 📚✏️💕

I have non-epileptic seizures 🧠⚡️

And also dyslexia, dyscalculia, OCD, and depression, but things are getting better! 💙

I'm a Lutheran so I might post or reblog things Christian-specific during holidays and such ✝️

I'm a Christian but I'm also a witch! So some things may pertain to that, too🕯✨️🪻

I'm in a few famndoms, including: Voltron: Legendary Defender; Avatar: The Last Airbender; Supernatural; Red, White & Royal Blue; Boyfriend Material; Invincible; Percy Jackson; The Song of Achillies; Bright Falls series; Annie On My Mind; Dan and Phil; One Topic At A Time; Jammidodger; The Click; Markiplier; Ethan Nestor; Jacksepticeye

Habitual emoji user and keysmasher 😅🤣

I may or may not post about: My different fandoms, books, I might draw or write and post it here maybe (who knows), I'll most definitely reblog memes and things that I ✨️vibe✨️ with and be very gay on main 💖

🚫 My Do Not Interact (DNI) Includes: 🚫

LGBTQIA+ phobes, TERFs + any and all variants of the above, kindly go away

MAPs/Ped0philes of ANY kind are absolutely NOT welcome here

Racists of any kind can also see yourselves to the door

People with prejudice against other people's personal religious or spiritual beliefes or practices please leave (this applies for all religions -- it's okay to not believe in something, but it's not okay to put others down or mock them for their own beliefes. This also goes for being mean to atheists)

❗️Some Quick Notes:❗️

I'm an adult. My following and likes are hidden from view for a reason, but sometimes a story may contain NSFW content (boarderline smut, actual smut, trigger themes if it's for a darker peice, etc). Anyone under 18 shouldn't be interacting with that stuff, so, really, if you're a minor, maybe just don't interact. Thanks 🩷

NSFW content relating to smut will not include any minors/anyone not 18+, either canotically or fic-wise

I try to remember to check blogs for pinned posts and bios before interacting, but if I've violated your DNI please let me know so I can unlike and remove any reblog! I don't want to make anyone uncomfy!

Alrighty, I think that's it for this! Bye-bye! 😊👋

[werewolfashton]

2022 writing evaluation

darling @igarbagecannotevenoteven tagged me to do this, honestly unbelievable, thank you megs <3 your answers were so interesting btw!!

i’ll also include all my works in this bc i haven’t written much in 5sos this year lmao. the other stuff can mainly be found here: https://archiveofourown.org/users/villainous_intentions

number of stories posted on ao3: 4 for 5sos, 20-30 in other fandoms, mainly stranger things (this is such a vague number bc i’m including drabbles)

word count posted for this year: ~53.332

fandoms i wrote for: 5sos, stranger things, the iliad/tsoa, [redacted]

pairings: lashton (2), malum (1), ot4 (1), harringrove (like 20+ and some platonic pairings), patrochilles (1), [redacted]

story with the most kudos/bookmarks/comments: for 5sos it’s but underneath we had a fear of flying in all regards

for other fandoms in kudos and bookmarks it’s don’t that man look pretty and in terms of comments: i was far too scared to hit him, but i would hit him in a heartbeat now and into the deep

work i’m most proud of and why: i’m really proud to have written 4k in one sitting for a wild and an untamed thing, and really all i wrote for the harringrove harvest probably

work i’m least proud of and why: ngl i really don’t like any of my 5sos fics very much except maybe the 2 song fics and some horror aspects so

share or describe a favorite review you’ve received: i got and still get so much love for one of my drabbles for st, those always make me smile and then recently i got the funniest review of my life tbh but that stays between me and the unfortunate souls that have my insta

a time when writing was really, really hard: the only time writing was not hard was during the writing challenges in june and october. or well it was still hard but i was putting out words like an insane person anyway. blessed days.

a scene or character you wrote who surprised you: still surprised to be writing in the first place. certainly wrote a lot of stuff towards the end of the year that i did not expect. wrote about a shitload of trauma. OH i wrote crack. did not expect to be able to do that. 

a favorite excerpt of your writing: i mostly like some of the one liners in my fics and this is one of them from into the deep end: "Fear spreads through [Steve] and he rushes forward, half expecting a monster in the middle of the bed, but when he moves behind the others to look into the room he stops as well. It’s not a monster, not really. At least he doesn’t think so. 

It’s just a mullet wearing asshole that’s supposed to be dead."

and i wrote this baby of drabble that’s one of my fav pieces of writing idk i struggled with this point of the review

how did you grow as a writer this year? i have become more open to just writing what i want. especially recently i’ve stopped really caring? like i still look at numbers too much but at least i write what i like now. i’ve also started writing longer works (at least sort of)

how do you hope to grow next year? i wish i had more time to write which isn’t really something i can force so i think i’m just hoping to not care about statistics as much. as to writing itself i wanna just expand my vocabulary.

who was your greatest positive influence this year as a writer (could be another writer or beta or cheerleader or muse etc etc)? alright so, idk. i often feel very uncomfy speaking to people about my fic bc i think i annoy them and they only put up with it. i certainly have some lovely people who have been supportive (like em) and have been kind enough to beta for me (e.g. helen) and especially noah has been helping me with ideas. but yeah overall idk i shy away from talking about my fic bc it just ends up making me feel bad. thus i think the only overall actually very positive influence was the stranger things fandom, lovely feedback, actual engagement with fics, all that stuff has been helpful.

anything from real life show up in your writing this year? haha. y’all don’t need to know how much i projected this year thanks!

any new wisdom you can share with other writers? stop! fucking! looking! at! the! stats!

any projects you’re looking forward to starting (or finishing) in the new year? @pixiegrl birthday fic. like 30 harringrove drafts. much [redacted]. we shall see though i’m trying not to stress myself

tag some writers whose answers you’d like to read: aight idk what’s going on here anymore so i’ll leave this as it is

[xx-s3lf-ship-xx]

Ngl but crossover sometimes makes me uncomfortable

The ships that i like are elsa and jackfrost lmao

but there a user that maybe used to followed me and i follow them back

They ship anna with mr. peabody (a dog, A FUCKING DOG THAT IS SHIPPED WITH A HUMAN) i keep seeing their art and its makes me very uncomfortable and is fucking disgusting

But then they ask me to art trade with and i should have say that im uncomfy with ships like that but i was a dumbass and i say yes

And monika and bendy also makes me uncomfortable, i dont know how the hell

Even tho i ship myself with monika but still

That shit makes me uncomfortable

Sorry not sorry </3

[sanguinifex]

My brother in Christ, maybe you should try to only answer asks when you're sober, because holy fuck. A single polite ask didn't warrant a God damn novel about the evils of asking people to tag content. You could have just said no. Also, you're using the term "emotional labor" incorrectly.

Ok, now that I am sober:

Maybe I got a little more wordy about it than I should have last night, but I'm still right. I don't owe anyone tags, and it's a toxic social norm on tumblr to act like other people are supposed to do 90% of the work on dealing with your own problems.

I'm not using "emotional labor" incorrectly. Instead of curating your own experience or accepting that social media sites will make you uncomfortable sometimes (and that that isn't a bad thing), you're expecting other users to blog on eggshells around you and consider whether you might find something upsetting and then type tags about it.

Fuck off with even "ironic" Christian bullshit.

Asking for something unreasonable and presumptuous in a "polite" tone doesn't actually make the request polite.

Additionally, there's a difference between a personal microblog--on a site where people mostly reshare content--and sites or platforms where people primarily create content for an audience. If I'm creating something like a fic on AO3 or an image on Pixiv, I will tag that, for discoverability and to tell people about it. But if I'm resharing stuff, the only thought process is "hey that's neat." Basically, when I create something for an audience, I have a responsibility to that audience, of sorts. (How much responsibility is another topic of discussion.) Here on tumblr, I don't necessarily want an audience. I used to want all the followers and fame, but I don't anymore. I also don't want to make my blog super searchable for algorithms, corporate overlords, or people who get a suspicious amount of self-gratification from making callout posts.

Now, if a mutual were to ask nicely, that's a situation where I value the relationship, so I'd be more willing to tag. But a stranger coming along and asking me to do extra work because they just think something is yucky? Nah. People need to learn to be emotionally uncomfy sometimes, and to become comfortable with that dissonance. Also, I don't owe them that labor. And when someone's first interaction with me is basically negging my blog, I don't want to do it out of goodwill, either.

[sugiwa]

hey i just binge read your fic it was really cool!! as an mbti obsessed esfj i wanted to talk about this one comment i saw on one chapter :) someone commented about izumi bing an estp/istp WHICH i agreed the whole time!

i also saw your response to it and wanted to say that we type with functions and not letters! so an introvert can still be an estp!! i hope you don’t get me wrong for saying this like this i just really wanted to share it wit you! i don’t know if you’d be interested in typing bit in case there’s the website micheal caloz, it gives you an explanation of all functions in a really short and easy way!

now that i got that out of the way i wanted to explain why i think she’s an istp. since you wrote her i cant exactly type her without seeing her behavior even more so but until now she gave very much istp and it’s funny because it’s known in the mbti community that istp’s and entj’s (bakugo) get along really well and are compatible the most😭😭 (touya is also an istp but he uses it a little more unhealthy, still really cool tho!!)

as for why i thought she’s an istp is,, istp use Ti (introverted thinking) dominantly which means they are really curious, indecisive, and process oriented. they like knowing things just to know them, and gibe really random facts out of nowhere. they don’t like doing things that don’t make sense to them and don’t exactly enjoy rules. and as for the second function in istp Se means she is realistic, energetic and a risker. Se users like challenges and like to be aware of everything going on around them. Se users are usually obsessed with freedom and they like take action fast.

i felt lazy to write the other functions but these are what i thought fit her. i could obviously just making no sense right now i’m really sorry if this seems forceful😭

i understand that you might not be interested in typology so thought maybe i’d gibe you a small idea on what i thought like :(( i’m sorry again if i made you uncomfy with this! i can definitely talk more on it if you are interested but it’s 5 am here so i’ll just stop here before i start to make absolute no sense!! i hope you have a good day and keep up your good work all love from me and again sorry if i went a little too off of talked too much😭😭😭

No, this is honestly so brilliant!!! It's not that I'm not interested, I just never really gave it much thought when I was writing her character. I know my MBTI (which is INTJ), but this is totally awesome and I'd be completely happy if you share more (but also get some sleep b/c ur health is important too!!)

This is such a great breakdown and I'm totally going to look into it more!! Thank you so much!! 💕💕💕💕

[hansensgirl]

okay so i wanna say that i don’t mean for this to be antagonistic in any way, i don’t wanna cause mess. i just wanted to say that it’s really sad to see when your new fics come out that like, you always seem to focus on who’s not reblogging instead of the people who do. like i reblog every story of yours that comes out and leave a comment and tags and you never interact with me back :( sometimes the dark ones make me uncomfy but i wanna be supportive of you, since the reblogs mean so much. it really makes me sad that i’m showing support in a way that you requested, yet you don’t interact with me and there’s still so much emphasis on people who only leave likes. anyway, i hope you don’t receive this the wrong way, i really enjoy your writing and hope you continue to make content.

you’re not antagonistic at all, darling! thank you for expressing your feelings!! i’m trying my hardest to reply to comments on my fics!! but if you could give me your user, i can get to yours first! i made a post about this ask because maybe some other people have the same issue, i hope you don’t mind! but please know that just because i haven’t interacted with you much doesn’t mean i don’t appreciate your support!! thank you so so much for your support!! i do have one request though, please don’t push yourself to read the fics that make you uncomfortable! put yourself first, please!!! 💞💞💞💗💗💗

[fireflier]

ah yes, it is me Poly Blank, a legitimate, non bot account 😃 /lh /j but yeah i went with Polyblank Ghost! i was considering going with Soot but i thought that people might interpret that as me saying i’m married to wilbur or smth instead of me being a kinnie :( so i went with not that fhskxnsjx but that means my initials are PG, which means parental guidance, so just furthering that i’m the parent friend in my friend group B) /lh but yeah! last names are so fun to come up with tbh! you can be as abstract or as literal as you want with them and it’d still sounds super cool :D and i made a picrew to use as a profile pic for the account but i made it accurate to me and that’s Uncomfy so i just kinda made one of revivedbur instead :D but still with my flags n stuff bc How Else are people supposed to know i’m gay fhskcnsj /j (🎤)

LMAOOOO YES poly blank perfect /j

and ah pog !!! that sounds nice !! yeah that does make sense HAH like “please sir i’m a kinnie not a simp pls spare me” /j

but aw NICE !! damn i think i forgot what pg even stood for .. thank you for enlightening me /lh

but yeah you’re right !!! maybe i’ll have to come up with my own funky one or i can just be Tumblr User Fireflier

and aw nice !! yeah honestly it does make me feel weird to make picrew of myself too .. you gotta perceive yourself and :/// so revivebur is a good replacement !! and YES to the gay thing, like THIS:

[french-teapot]

Hi I'm another anon user and I feel as if the previous asker brought up a good point. I am quite honestly uncomfy that there was no straight answer? I'm sure other people would be uncomfy as well. It's not about attacking you as a person, but it's rather the age gap relationship between a character that previously was established as a considerably older adult compared to our Just Turned 18 protagonist. Like if a 20yr old showed interest the moment I turned 18 I'd be freaked.

Ahh, I see where I mentioned that I guess. However I dunno where the idea that Reg was considerably older came into play? He was never that old. 

I’m honestly not really sure what to say, as I thought I had explained myself adequately. The relationship aspect just kind of developed on its own; I don’t plan these things ahead, and I got a positive response to it so I never really gave it a second thought. There was no malice or sordidness about it. 

Like, would it make people feel better if I completely cut it out from now on? Cos that would be fine. Like I said, this relationship really has no bearing on the story and I’d hate for it to be an uncomfortable aspect, so it would be no problem to ignore it from now and have them just be friends.

There’s nothing that I’m gonna excuse or defend, because to be frank, it was never something that struck me as a problem, cos like I said previously, the age thing was so insignificant to the characters that it was never something I thought too deeply about. French could be 30 for all I care, it just never mattered. All I cared about in portraying it was that it was a relationship of equal footing, and that it was mutually supportive and compassionate. 

I guess in that way, I was thoughtless. I don’t even know if what I’m saying now it still enough of a reason; maybe it was a mistake. I’m open to that and open to changing things if necessary. But I don’t even think that giving Reg a set age will help, as what if I said now that he is 19? Or 20? I don’t think I ever portrayed Reg as only acting favourably to French due to her age, but you’ve just said that you wouldn’t find those numbers acceptable, and I’d assume others would feel the same. So I’m unsure how to fix this in a way that would be favourable to everyone.

I appreciate you said it’s not an attack on me personally, and I’m trying to explain things without getting too defensive. I do want to express that I feel hurt at the previous asker’s accusatory tone, as I feel that they were implying something serious that just isn’t true. 

Sorry for the wall of text. This is the first time this has ever been brought to my attention, so I’m just a bit taken aback. 

[elonmusksdickcheese]

You need to leave Helios alone and stop being such an aphobic little brat

Wasn't gonna reply to this but since this isn't the only anon I have gotten about boxlizard since they've posted my url

But let's see uuhh shut the fuck up and fuck you,I'm 16 year old Boxlizard/Helios is 26 years old,I am not in charge of their mental fucking health and if they are still going around saying I'm part of the reason they are gonna kill themsleves just because I expressed discomfort with their headcanons about dead fictional kids I'm going to piss myself.

Like no offense to you or any1 else who like helios but uhhh they arent that good of a fucking person,first thing I learned about their William in their au was that he was a fuckin pedophilla who harrassed the missing kids and also gaslighted and tormented them after death and whenever I mentioned some parts of my au they decided to make a joke about how our William's is in ""love"" with our Michael's,they also in a server have told me how William sexual harrassed the missing kids and well they didn't go in2 graphic details they still talked about it and fuck me but they only talked to me about it and that was the only fucking part of their shitty au they talked about to me and they acted like they were against shitty William's headcanons despite headcanoning him as a fucking pedophilla along with that they started and played into the rumor of them being a pedo,after an ex-freind expressed discomfort with them giving the missing kids sexualities(ace or allo) they stopped being freinds with them,made their little conflict public and started telling people they were abusive whenever said ex-freind just expressed discomfort in their headcanons, they also did this with another user,said they were also aphobic and supported their "abusive" ex-freind. They also dmed me anytime I reblogged from someone they didnt fucking liked and was obsessive over these two individuals and played them out to be terrible post (I have reached and talked to both people). I'm also 100% sure they have sent me anon hate cause right before I got a bunch of hate anons they followed me and right after all those anons where sent they dmed me asking about my stance on ace disscoruse(they also tend to bring people into unnecessary drama lmao)Their was a post about them where they sent hate mail to ex-freind which boxlizard/helios dmed about because I just happened to fucking like the post. In which they dmed me being like "I'm not a pedo blah blah blah" which you know they ain't a pedo,I told them this and I explained to them why some people might be uncomfortable with their headcanons fuck I even explained why I was uncomfortable with their headcanons in turn they called me aphobic and kept on sending me random posts some of them containing triggering stuff abt rape and sex without any kind of fucking warning! Also when asked,they are ok with kids like fucking 7 being headcanon as long as you dont give them kinks as if that makes it any better!

So after they blocked me the first time I vented a little and someone wa slike fuck yeah I know you talking about it and shit so many other people have expressed their discomfort in boxlizard/helios hc and au in which they just call people criticizing them aphobic and abusive despite just expressing their concerns. After they blocked me ,I found out they were saying they were going to fucking k*ll themsleves because of me so I decided to reach out to them and even took down the post I made about them and I told them no one wants them dead and urged to contact a hotline in which they told me no hotline could helped them and then they blocked me again!

And in general they are an extremely manipulative and insensitive person,fuckig hell the only person's trigger they fucking care about is their own!And the only person they care about is themselves and anyone who worships the ground they walk on! To be a good person you must agree with them on everything and you cant fucking step out of long for a second before being bashed and treated like a jack ass plus they never tell the full truth and cant handle being critizie,you criticize them and ask them to maybe reflect on what their doing and they throw a pity party and piss themself ! Theyve also mentioned/brought in other minors who aren't ok with drama or doesnt have anything to do with this drama besides like being in the same server as me and them!

And I guess their still fucking at it ,ain't they cause a 16 yr old being uncomfy with a grown ass adults headcanon is the most vile thing ever and its 100% ok for them to blame any harm they bring upon themsleves on said 16 yr old

[cowboyjen68]

I have literally noone to ask, soo maybe you could help,Jen? I am 18 and I have been using pads only pretty much forever.Because I dance a lot every day, this is slowly becoming a big problem. Pads are extremely uncomfy bc I always worry that there might be a leak. I am willing to opt for other alternatives, but I have 0 knowledge about tampons/menstrual cups. When I was 17 I visited a lot of gynos with my mom and they told me I can use only pads since I am a virgin. (To be continued in part 2)

“I clearly have not mentioned to them that I’m a lesbian and have already penetrated myself many times while masturbating. (I am from russia its illegal here)and like damn..Idk the technique of it all,how to insert something in your vagina when its not wet? its usually easy 4 me when I am horny but like when I am about to start my period but theres no blood yet…would it be painful to put a tampon inside? Does that mean that I still have to combine it with pads? How do I use a tampon at all?”

I am so very glad you reached out. The best way to learn is to ask  those of us that have been dealing with the reality of a periods. I feel like we are not doing near enough to share the truths. And the truth is, males will NEVER understand our bodies like we do and even doctors can be full of shit when it comes to periods. 

Periods are full of stigma and misinformation. MAKE NO MISTAKE>.. this is on purpose. One more way to keep us, as females, as women, from sharing and communication and gaining control over our lives.  

There is NO shame in your period. It is a natural body function. Does it suck? Well, yeah… totally. But we can help each other by sharing what we know and what we have learned and those that label it “taboo” can fuck the hell right off and keep going until we can’t see their back side. 

You can use a diva cup or tampons even if you have never penetrated yourself or are a virgin, DIva cups and tampons take practice, so buy extra tampons and don’t be afraid to ruin a few to get it right  Period pants are expensive but one pair can give you some peace of mind if paired with tampons or a cup.. Extra protection against leaking.

Using a plastic applicator can make it feel a little more smooth if you are dry. I have always perferred cardboard applicators and experience no issues, Your body will generally produce enough lubrication to make inserting a tampon comfortable, even if you are not bleeding or turned on. You can use a tiny bit of water based lube if you are concerned. If you can get NON bleached tampons, these are the best, but hard to find and pricey. 

Toxic shock is a real thing but so very rare. 1 in 100,000 users can experience it and it almost always happens when the women keeps a tampon in over the time frame of 12 hours AND has other health issues like a weakened immune system. Don’t let this small rick scare you,.. but be aware. Keep tampons in for no more than 4 hours. Change them often and you will be fine.

There are instructions in the box of tampons. Some tips.  Bending your kness can help. to open the passage up for the tampon. Some women put their foot on the toilet and that is what the box says. This is not practical if you are wearing pants in a public restroom. Sitting down while doing it is very hard and award, standing is the best. Use both hands.. one to hold your labia open and one to insert. Push the applicator in as far as you can comfortably reach. Use your index (pointer) finger to push it up. Once the larger applicator is in place, you may have to hold it with your other hand. Then push the smaller applicator in until is stops. Pull BOTH applicators out. You shoud not really even feel the tampon if it is inserted corrrectly. 

I use Tampax. I find the name brand, in this case, does work better than the generic or off brand.

I hope this helps. IF anyone has anything to add, please do. 

Anon, you will be fine. Wear a tampon, dance, swim, ride horses,.. whatever you want to do.  I am always here if you have other questions. 

[gaslightgatekeepgodot]

A (sizeable) rant/essay concerning my experiences in the Tumblr JJBA fandom.

None of you asked to hear this, but I’m getting pretty pissed off at some people in particular (I will not name names, though I may heavily implicate some people) and it’s finally started to kinda spill over. So I’m letting it spill; take it or leave it.

I’m... Fairly irate at the moment, and writing out my feelings does tend to help me calm down in situations like this, so if I was going to put this anywhere the best place for it is probably on the public internet. Again, take it or leave it: this is the internet, you don’t have to interact with me if this concerns you or your ideals. Just click that handy little block button on my profile and you never have to see little Nat mouthing off again.

If you want me to summarise (I know not everyone wants/is able to read a fluffed-up pillar of text) or explain my reasoning behind anything I’ve said below the cut, feel free to direct message me here or on Discord @nati bati yi#1462. Once I get this off my chest I’ll be more than willing to chat to people about it. <3

(Before I say anything else, this is not intended to be a callout in any way, shape or form. I don’t mention the specific names of anybody, and the actions I do mention here will only point to specific people if you know them too. Anyone on the outside should have zero idea of who anyone I bring up is; I do not want anyone to get harassed over this, and I very much do not want to start drama - that’s what inspired me to go off and write this hunk of garbage in the first place. I’m just... Sick to death of the fandom as a whole.)

Anyway. Here we go.

From what I’ve been able to tell, being in this fandom for just under a year now, there are two main halves to it: the gay-hating, stale-meme-parroting dudebro side, who seem to mostly congregate around YouTube and Reddit, and... Whatever the side based on Tumblr (and probably now Twitter) is. I don’t spend a lot of time on Reddit, so naturally I’ve been more exposed to the Tumblr side of the fandom, and after experiencing the ideals some people here want to force on other people I’ve come to the conclusion I’d almost rather be immersed in the bigoted dudebro side. And I say this as an ace-spec/gay trans man.

I’ll start with the blocklist.

I think most of us on Tumblr came to the conclusion that the blocklist was utter bullshit, but I did see a few people in a Discord server I have since left (I will expand on this later) defending the reasoning behind some ships being on there, citing the fact they had been abused in a relationship with a similar age gap. I can definitely see why that would bother a person, and I do not want to erase the fact that people have been and will be abused in similar relationships, but you can’t project your singular experience onto every fictional, non-canon character relationship and every person who ships it. For one, not every relationship is going to turn out the same just because it meets this one criteria of “the age gap is too big”, and, also, you don’t have to write fiction to totally reflect reality. You are in full creative control. Maybe if the characters were real people they wouldn’t click, but if you’re drawing a picture or writing a fanfic you don’t have to go along with that. You can write them so that they’re good to each other, while still keeping it in character. Araki has said that Jotaro and Kakyoin’s personalities don’t work together very well, and that they wouldn’t have become friends or even spoken to each other if Jotaro wasn’t a Stand user... But Jotaro/Kakyoin just happens to be the most-written about JJBA ship on AO3. Me? I love Jotakak. It’s about the only thing I do ship. And I’ve read some quite frankly amazing fanfiction where the two boys are paired and they work together, and it’s still very much in character. Of course, I’m very much against loli/shota content or content depicting characters who don’t look very old- if someone drew Koichi in a sexual situation I would be pissed as all hell, but I don’t have to engage with that content any further. I can just filter out the tag/block the OP and move on. You don’t need to make a fuss and tell/imply to people that they are paedophilic for enjoying well-written content where a 17-year-old is in a healthy relationship with a 22-year-old, platonic or otherwise.

My second point brings in some of the things I’ve learned while studying media this past year. My main point here: not everyone in an audience is the same. There is a reason differential decoding and the uses and gratifications theory exist. The uses and gratifications theory states, at its most basic, that the audience of a media text is active, not passive; i.e. they are not just absorbing every piece of data thrown at them by the text they are consuming, and they are consuming different media to satisfy a need- for JJBA, that need could be entertainment, escapism, identifying with a character similar to yourself or to give you something to talk about with your friends. Differential decoding arises when someone consuming a piece of the media does not entirely go along with the creator’s preferred reading of it- an example might be how a sizeable amount of people enjoy villainous or “disgusting” characters such as Dio, Cioccolata, Stroheim or Melone, when they were clearly written in canon to be abhorrent, unlikable people for varying reasons. I can also say that, because the audience is active, and consume media based on their personal needs, that somebody writing fanfic of a ship you don’t like isn’t going to make incest or paedophilia more socially acceptable. I don’t consume that content, because I don’t feel the need to. Sure, real paedos might, but they’re a minority. Just because a couple hundred people or so read a fanfic on the free web where a grown adult does the dirty with a little kid, doesn’t mean to say everyone in the world will suddenly start thinking it’s ok. Mention it to any sane person in real life and they will not like that idea any more than you do.

And my third point is more a personal thing than anything else, but there is a community I used to be part of (and was part of almost from the beginning) where I didn’t feel welcome because of people causing drama over things like what I mentioned above. I started multiple discourses entirely by accident by saying I didn’t understand why everyone though X ship was horribly problematic and worth getting mad at people over. I still don’t feel like anyone deserves to be harassed over characters and ships they enjoy, but that doesn’t mean to say I support all of it. Along with generally feeling ignored by a lot of the moderators of that server, as well as their friends, I was just sick to death of how they seemed to single out some certain people to say, “hey, don’t do this” when other people seemed exempt. I was verbally warned for posting innuendos in a general chat (but it’s not like I could anywhere else on the server, because I’m not 18 yet), but at least once every day I would see two people flirting in-character in whatever channel they happened to meet in, and it never seemed to be in a roleplay channel- I couldn’t see into NSFW to check if they did it there too, but the fact it would leak out into gen concerned me. They would throw innuendo after innuendo at each other, and they never seemed to stop, or be told to stop. Yes, I could have messaged the moderators to say it made me uncomfy, but one of them was a moderator themselves, so I felt a little out my element doing so. 

Another thing that bothered me is when I tried to join an offshoot of that server for kin, and the admin - I assume - of said offshoot server messaged me (with some other conversation concerning it in between) that, despite the fact I only wanted in to help me figure out what it meant to me, I wasn’t allowed in because somebody was uncomfy with doubles. I completely understand that, but I had spoken to the only person it could have been (I wasn’t given a name, but it wasn’t difficult to figure out who it was) multiple times about that character and how similar we were- hell, we had even roleplayed together as doubles of that character and no problems were ever expressed to me. If anything it seemed like we left off in a spot we could have carried on from later. It might not have been intended that way, but being told I wasn’t allowed in there made me feel excluded from the community nonetheless, especially because I’d had a few people tell me the night before that they wanted more people in there and that I’d be totally welcome. I was also told, before any of this happened, that the same person blocked a friend of mine in another server for going on a small rant about how they didn’t like the way Josuke acted in the episode where he plays dice with Rohan and ends up burning his house down, because they kin Josuke..? At least, that’s what was relayed to me.

But, hey ho, it’s all behind me now. I won’t lie; I don’t really plan on ever going back. I don’t want to engage anymore, because it makes me uncomfortable and anxious thinking about it, so I most likely will unfollow most (if not all) of the blogs pertaining to that community tonight. I do have a few people still there who I miss speaking to, but I’ve DM’d all of them on Discord at least once since I’ve left and talked to them about either how I miss them or something entirely unrelated to the server. I’d like to talk more with them, but DMs are always awkward for me to begin with... I have a feeling they might not want to talk after reading this, and I think I’m ready to accept that? Might be difficult not being able to scream about fanfic as much, but I won’t impose on anyone if my presence makes them uncomfy. I don’t want to be that guy.

I’ll say it again: now that I’ve got this off my chest and subsequently calmed down a lot, I’m more than willing to talk about any of it. Just shoot me a message on Discord and I’ll reply when I’m able and feeling up to talking about it again. For now I’m probably just going to go back to pissing about on Flight Rising or play Smash or something

[all-the-kings-archers]

Ok Arden inspired me to relisten to Speak Now the album deluxe edition (cause I’m sad and I love speak now) so I’m just gonna type thoughts as I listen. Warning(s) beforehand, they probably do not make any sense. This is getting really long, sorry if you don’t want to read this. If you’re on the computer you can hit “J” and it should take you to the next post. Mobile users, I am SO sorry.

Those first notes of Mine felt like coming home. I love how I can hear her smile in her voice. Also I forgot how much I love her country accent, wow. “said I’ll never leave you alone” aka something I need to hear right now.

Ugh, Sparks Fly has the best intro. I don’t actually have the energy to do this properly, but this is one of my favorite songs on the album. “kiss me on the sidewalk take away the pain” reminds me of a weird dream I had this week. in a good way, obviously. Sparks Fly is so much sexier than we give it credit for.

I can’t handle Back to December right now. This is NOT fair. She sounds so small. “but this is me swallowing my pride standing in front of you saying i’m sorry for that night“ this hits so hard “it turns out freedom ain’t nothing but missing you”. I legitimately cannot handle this right now, not today. It’s giving me chills, I can feel my body temperature dropping from this.

Stupid turbotax ad. I hate this stupid ad. Not all people are tax people, leave me alone. I am also not interested in stupid horror movies. I do not want to watch the invisible man. leave me alone. also neutrogena, stop. i have that face wash, and it made my skin peel.

Speak Now, hello lovely. The imagery in this is WONDERFUL, and it’s so snarky, and can you believe Taylor Swift wrote this herself? I feel like James Madison discovering the comma, sorry. “don’t you” you can tell she’s smirking. I’m a sucker for happy endings.

Dear John, you do NOT get to make an appearance now. “and I lived in your chess game but you change the rules every day” my entire life feels like this right now. It’s not your optimism to blame, please don’t blame yourself. Yeah, 19 is too young to be played with. Am I calling college John? Abso-freaking-lutely. Good for you Taylor. Go be your own fireworks. I believe in you. Wow, I am really delirious right now. “i should’ve known” to “you should’ve known” is a glow-up. do we still say glow-up? I don’t care. I still say glow-up.

Mean, hi, I need you right now. Screw you college, I don’t need the major I wanted from you! Taylor is right, someday I will be living in a big city, and all you’re ever gonna be is mean and wishing I was one of your alumni. Also stop pointing out how stupid I am, I know I have flaws. I bet they are just sitting somewhere being miserable. Every single time saying “Taylor Swift has peaked, her next album is gonna flop” and every. Single. Time. Being proven wrong. I’m so proud of her.

I hate ads. I hate ads. I hate ads. Neutrogena needs to stop bothering me. The horror movie is back. I hate horror movies. this is why I don’t listen to Spotify before bed anymore. Old Navy, finally a change of pace. Still a waste of time, but a NEW waste of time.

The Story of Us is a BOP. Oh, wait, no sad for a second. Stop making me feel things Swift, I’m using you to assist in my escapism. AND WE’RE NOT SPEAKING AND I’M DYING TO KNOW IF IT’S KILLING YOU LIKE IT’S KILLING ME YET. Next chapter is iconic. “but you held your pride like you should’ve held me” and, like, the entire bridge (which I would quote if I could type that fast) are sooooooo good. THE END?! Already?!

Never Grow Up is... a lot of feelings for right now. It’s so soft, but it’s also kind of exactly what I’m feeling right now. Like, this is me to younger me, but also for my little siblings. The fear underlying this is hitting really hard, why exactly did I pick Speak Now? The point of this was to get out of my head, not further into it. It’s always colder than you think it will be on your own. I wish I hadn’t grown up either. Stupid introspectiveness, let me enjoy this beautiful, sad, soft song.

Enchanted, how wonderful to see you. I’m just gonna let this one wrap around me like a blanket. This was my first stan song of Taylor’s. So I’m just gonna let myself feel comforted by this. “wonderstruck” is a beautiful word. Look at this desperate pining, but also simple joy and excitement, and there is so much emotional range in this song. “Please don’t be in love with someone else, please don’t have somebody waiting on you” is what made me fall in love with her music. I just love Enchanted so much.

ADS. STOP THE HORROR MOVIE ADS. Can I sue for repetitive or badly targeted ads? I wouldn’t, cause that’s a waste of money and time, but I REALLY want to know that I can if they ever push me over the edge. Honey (ad), go away.

Better Than Revenge. I can’t help but love this song. Except for the mattress line, that’s kinda... uncomfy to hear. It’s full of such smart insults, except for that one low blow (which is unfortunately the one that’s repeated). It’s still such a fun song, though. “You might have him, but I always get the last word” 

Oh, Innocent. You’re so sweet and sad, but you don’t make me sad cause you’re so hopeful and heartfelt. And so soothing too. “I hope you remember today is never too late to be brand new”

Hey Haunted. It’s kinda jarring to not have it acoustic, but it’s still so GOOD. The instrumentation is ugh, and her voice is just so beautiful, and I can’t stand explaining how this makes me feel cause I can’t find words, and it’s just wonderful.

Last Kiss, aka the home of one of the best bridges of all time. ”All that I know is that I don’t know how to be something you miss” is so heartbreaking. also this is taking me several hours longer than Speak Now (deluxe edition or otherwise) is cause I need periodical breaks. The build-up before the bridge is so good. And the bridge itself I think I’ve already addressed. “just like our last...” ugh she’s so SMART

Long Live, I can tell you’re gonna make me cry and that’s not allowed. This is so nostalgic. Just, this is something that belongs on a playlist on the ride home from a tournament in 8th grade. Everyone singing (and poking fun of the one guy who was always so monotone). “for a moment a band of thieves in ripped up jeans got to rule the world” is everything that I felt back then. The energy in this song is so beautiful. “we will be remembered”

Ok, we’re on to Ours. I’m gonna be honest and say I’ve never really clicked with Ours. It’s cute, and in a way I usually enjoy, but it’s not a favorite. “people throw rocks at things that shine” is a nice line. and I like the positive message that the entire song has. The little things she loves about him are adorable to hear listed.

Is it gonna be ads? Yes it is. Great. CVS, that’s new. And now Spotify promoting itself AND Google Home.

If This Was a Movie. A song I unfortunately forget about far too often. “if this was a movie you’d be here by now” hits so hard. Just the entire feeling where you lose someone and you just want them back but it doesn’t... it just doesn’t work. yeah, that’s a feeling. “I thought you’d be here by now”

Superman... Not a favorite. But, once again, cute. “He’s complicated, irrational” I do not remember her mentioning flaws before, maybe I just need this one to grow on me. “I loved you from the very first day” is such a nice resolution to the “I loved you forever” thing from earlier (in this same song).

Back to December... but now acoustic. The first time screwed me up enough, I’m nervous. This feels somehow slower? Maybe it’s the instrumentation change, or maybe she really is going slower, but I have absolutely no complaints. It’s beautifully aching like this. It feels like they’re pulling on heartstrings, not just the strings on their instruments. Have I mentioned how much I ADORE strings instruments when played well? And all the lyrics in this song? The way everything goes super quiet for a second? I think I might like this version better than the original.

Haunted... also acoustic. I’m fairly certain that I do like this version better than the original. The heavy piano, and the violin, that’s just so nice. It’s just slightly jarring, and it makes you feel everything that this song conveys so wonderfully. Hello violins, I love you for this. Is that a piano solo? It does not get the recognition it deserves. that last “break”

Mine but pop? I’ll give it a shot. This is making it pop-y? I guess I don’t mind as much as I thought I would. And there’s something to be said for starting and ending an album with the same song (even if the second is technically a different genre) Ok, this is enjoyable. Yeah, I like this. The buildup feels a bit weird at times, but it works, and I like.

Ok. That’s it. That’s the album. Taylor deserves more awards than she has for this album. Acoustic anything deserves separate, individual awards. I think that’s all I’ve got to say about the album as a whole. This was definitely something that I needed, and I hope someone else finds it fun to read.