#mod julien

[clusterlgbt]

Honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong whatsoever with not feeling "negative" emotions such as grief, guilt, etc. What matters is how you DEAL with the situation, not how you FEEL about it.

For people with ASPD, SZPD, autism, certain psychotic disorders, NPD -- pretty much any disorder that may cause low empathy or flat affect -- it's just a fact of life we don't always (or ever) feel those emotions. (And of course there's way more disorders and symptoms than the ones I just listed, and of course some people who DO have those disorders CAN feel said emotions!)

If you hurt someone and don't regret it, that by itself does not make you a bad person. In fact, if you hurt someone, and want to amend the situation and not hurt that person again IN SPITE OF not feeling guilt? That's amazing. That's amazing and, in my opinion, very selfless.

If you don't feel grief after a loved one dies it doesn't mean you're an awful person who never valued them. As long as you stand by the people who DO feel grief, and offer them comfort or space or whatever, then it's fine that you don't feel it, because you're still being compassionate to those who do.

Honestly even if you feel annoyed or irritated or what have you at the people who are hurting, even that isn't anything shameful, because again it's about what you do, not about how you feel.

Maybe I'm just making defenses for my own ASPD self, but it really doesn't seem like a problem to me. Feelings are private, after all, actions and reactions are what's public, so it matters how you treat others, not how you feel about said others.

Statements like this might make empaths uncomfortable but I stand by it. No one is a bad person just for the way that they "feel", not to mention that a lack of remorse/guilt/sadness/etc is itself a symptom of many disorders and a common trauma response.

[damndovie]

you think you’re a good person because you won’t punch me in the stomach. / and i love you; i don’t know why.

[rainymoodlet]

Kiss Me in Komorebi+ 🌸

[Ep. 16] The Beach Episode Spa Arc

[ Part 3 of 15 ] 🌹

@lre333 @julietisufferingwiththeuser @hallasimss @dirksdreamer @morrigan-sims @hauntedtrait

[brickstuck]

I'VE BEEN ASKED TO POST ON THIS STUPID BLOG SO FINE.

HELLO, I'M KARKAT. I'M HELPING DAVE WITH HIS DUMB COMIC. I'M MOSTLY REPOSTING THINGS RIGHT NOW BUT YOU WILL GET UPDATES FROM BOTH OF US. FOR NOW YOU CAN HAVE A SMALL LOOK AT SOME OF THE CHARACTERS. THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO OFFER YOU PEOPLE.

Ayo it's Kai, and this is our silly blog for our silly au comic. I'm in charge of character design and co-writing with Dave. Brickstuck is our funny little passion project that's getting me through the stress of college. We're nowhere near ready to release but we will be soon! Thank you guys so much for the support so far. I hope ya'll enjoy what's coming!

[ernestlaytonpolls]

[ninjago-shipping]

Sacrifice = Nya x Lloyd x Zane

Named as such because they’ve all sacrificed themselves at one point or another. They keep putting themselves on the line and almost dying or something adjacent to it.

[scilou-mdr]

Last day of vacation (I don't want to go to class)

So I drew my ocs!!✨

[osc-affirmations]

[vvh0adie]

seokjin needs to play stardew valley when he gets back

[chaos-husband]

Gifs from Ninjago, Episode 77

Trying something a bit different. I posted the top two on my personal already, but decided to try and get used to making gifs again lol. The bottom two are just other moments that got a chuckle out of me. Zane and Cole's stupid walks lmao.

● Free to use, no credit required ○ Please like or reblog if using/saving

[pr0ject-chaos]

🔥 | zane icons with minecraft bees for anon

🔥 | free to use with a reblog and credit

[clusterlgbt]

One thing that helped me to realize I’m demi is when I realized that for us demi people, attraction is not formed until a strong bond exists, BUT that “bond” could be ANYTHING!

For example, demisexuals can feel sexual attraction without a “romantic” or “platonic” bond, and demiromantics can feel romantic attraction without a “sexual” or “platonic” bond. Sometimes the “bond” is just admiring someone from afar for reasons that aren’t sexual/romantic/platonic at all, we just admire them, period!

Especially for us neurodivergent people — maybe the person is our Favorite Person (for instance) or someone else we cling to for ND-related reasons. Maybe we experience limerance, maybe the person is our special interest, maybe we have Erotomanic Delusions related to the person. Either way, that could easily be a bond, even if the bond is caused by neurodivergence.

Even if it’s not an ND thing, a “bond” can absolutely be one sided. Hell, maybe the person we develop “attraction” to can be as simple as a favorite online mutual! Either way, if the “bond” is a prerequisite for the “attraction,” we’re still valid in being demi.

If you read the lesbian comphet masterdoc, there’s a bullet point that essentially boils down to “I assume any positive feelings [towards men] are attraction.” I strongly believe that a similar things exists with us demi-spectrum people, regardless of gender. We assume any positive feelings are sexual/romantic, even if they aren’t. And even when they ARE, it doesn’t necessarily mean we were mutually close with the person before, it just means WE held them near to our heart, for whatever reason.

[damndovie]

if i just close my eyes, i will disappear.

[thegivenchythree]

Paco Rabanne spring 2023

[brickstuck]

THE REST OF MY ART THAT WAS SHOWN OFF IN THE SAHCON SHOWCASE TONIGHT. THE LOVE IS SUPER APPRECIATED.

[little-dikdik]

Testing the Chris Hatch’s Hospital mod and wow. Julien Cooke works in cafeteria LMAO.

Even had two sims who work in Medicine show up (to work?). Anyways I don’t get how it’s supposed to work. I had a sim call the emergency and she’s supposed to lay down in hospital the entire 3rd semester insteal of instant birth?

Also I have 2 hospitals in my Uberhood and it automatically chose the hospital I thought it’s supposed to let you pick which one do you want.