#mtyl

[tachineko]

Andy Wu and Snoopy Yu - My Tooth Your Love (2022) Episode 11

[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

I like you. Let's be together.

[panncakes]

Flirting™

[heretherebedork]

Between Us: Anxiety can shape a person and hurt love and hurt you and healing comes slowly and in stages but love will be enough to show you the way to a better life.

My Tooth Your Love: Anxiety can isolate you, hurt you and hurt the people you love and love is not enough by itself, you must work for love and you must prove that you are ready for love and also therapy is a very good thing, okay?

Remember Me: Anxiety isolates you, hurts you, pushes you away from people and makes people worry but isn't always apparent to the people around you and people will blame you for things you can't control.

... I did not think I'd get three fantastic and different depictions of anxiety in BL at the same time but we are so blessed.

[incandescentflower]

The look of a man who has finally been told he is wanted.

I think this show is seriously trying to take me out.

[artstv]

will the ten people in the my tooth your love fandom please stand up i can’t see you

[hongjoongpresent]

me vibing to the mtyl soundtrack

[25shadesoffebruary]

Something's here.

[variinfreefallfalling]

Alex was just there.... I can't stop laughing

He came with the bar.

[soundsaboutrighttumblr]

This show really said: Maybe sometimes pain cannot be dissolved, maybe it’s all about finding ways to carry it, together, and find growth alongside it all and that’s okay.

This show  - Xun’An, really - really said: Your way of surviving and carrying the pain is valid as it is your reality, but you don’t have to go it alone, let’s share the burdens, and accept each other as we are to grow along the way, in that future we will have together, because we can and want to and chose each other.

This show. That episode.

I’ll also put the ramble I’ve rambled on someone else’s post here, too, to gather my thoughts, lol.

That scene where Xun’an says: I won’t tell you it’s not your fault, it would not mean anything, because you already believe it is your fault. Instead let’s just get through this together from now on, that’s all there is to it?

Yeah, that scene made me hijack someone else’s gifset, so here again, to put it all together for now:

“... that approach is actually so inspiring to me, laid out like this? Maybe because I have a friend that I try to support best way I can and this approach feels so true?

This show and Xun’an’s choices and behaviour are psychologically strategic in a way, I mean he is a doctor and a dentist and maybe he has crossed paths with the fields of psychology, too, maybe in the course of treating patients with anxieties or maybe it even is an integral part of the professional education as it should be, but i don’t know, I am neither dentist nor therapist, just interested in the latter field.

He is leading/guiding Bai Lang in a lot of ways, but always with the goal of Bai Lang finding his own agency.

His grumpy notes, his keeping his distance/playing hard to get are things Bai Lang needs to see, for one as an example of a person setting healthy boundaries for themselves, standing up for how they deserve to be treated thus leading by example how Bai Lang should treat and respect himself, but also the responsibility you should hold yourself up to with yourself and others, the realization that it’s not just you and your mind, but other people affected.

This is laying bare misguided excuses and defense mechanisms and toxic routines and arriving at actual self-aware choices and allowing other’s agency and choices too.

But balance is the thing, and keeping Bai Lang hooked and drawn in  and soothed as well is an integral part of it?

The point where Xun’an pulls him in by the hand after being cold and dismissive and thus provoking agency in Bai Lang all the way, just when he might feel too dejected or rejected to carry on? Necessary. Xun’ An’s finally lightening the mood with that crazy teeth cast story and the revelation he’s been playing fun on some level with it all, and underneath has not changed his affectionate stance towards Bai Lang, it still is all BECAUSE he wants Bai Lang with him? Vital. Because it reassures and rewards Bai Lang’s choices of fighting for what he wants, but also cements that he won’t lose Xun An’s affection, Xun’an is IN this.

Or this here. Where Xun An does NOT contradict Bai Lang, NOT telling him it’s not his fault, because Bai Lang is just not ready to even hear that. His guilt and self blaming - as his way to carry the pain - is so enforced by years of treading that path, that Xun An contradicting him simply, saying no it’s not your fault... it wouldn’t even get through because Bai Lang has such strong hold on his blame, it would rather put distance between them, because Bai Lang would feel Not understood and dismissed.

But this? The sincere way in which it is delivered is so... disarming? Disarming those mechanisms and thought circles that Bai Lang has done in his own mind and with his stuffed animals for so long?

Xun An has approaches to break Bai Lang out of these circles, but knows it can not be done over night. Those are long term approaches, the only ones that there are.

But it’s there in so many scenes and the acting, like the long shot discussion in the last ep, or this scene here, you can see when Bai Lang is not meeting Xun an’s eyes, lost in his own circles, but then Xun An says something that breaks through and Bai Langs eyes go up to meet him, to meet that new thought because he is interested and invested in what Xuan An says, because he senses it might bring movement and betterment on some level, because Xun An is someone, maybe the first one, who can get through to him.”

End rant for now, for sure more to come.

[key2world]

RJ: if it's a crime to be cute, I'll be serving life!

Alex, unimpressed: A life sentence? For a crime you didn't commit?

[tachineko]

I've always thought that I won't be afraid of losing something if I don't have it.

But this time, even if I'm afraid, I want it. (My Tooth Your Love, Ep. 9)

[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

Be nice.

[panncakes]

“I hope you’ll have countless dental impressions. Patients won’t show up late or act up, except I can be late.”

[heretherebedork]

I love that Bai Lang tries to apologize but Xun'an keeps explaining that's not what he wants. This isn't a story about the easy solutions, about love conquering everything with ease. This is about growing into love, about learning what it means to love and how to love and how to learn to be loved and to learn to show love and to accept love... but more to understand love. Xun'an loves Bai Lang but he is not going to be used for his love again, he is not going to feel the way he did with Qiran again.

If he is going to love Bai Lang and be loved it will be as equals and it will be love, not being used. And he needs Bai Lang to understand that. And to show that.

Xun'an has been clear about his feelings. Now it's Bai Lang's turn to prove the same in return, both to Xun'an and to himself. To prove that he is worthy of love and the he is ready to love.

[incandescentflower]

I keep thinking about Jin Xun-An saying to Bai Lang he was going to tell him a story. And the story was such a weirdo story, but also such a Jin Xun-An story - fate tied to teeth molds (this show gets away with so much nonsense and makes me love it, I swear).

And since stories are Bai Lang's thing, he was completely and utterly charmed by it - a true Jin Xun-An story.

In summation, they are two dorks who are usually dorking about separate things, now being dorky together.

And it made my day, honestly.