#not attractive to me im just obssesed with him. hi

[caruliaa]

just bc im a lesbian doesnt mean tht i wont at times become deeply entranced with the beauty of male actor or character. it just means i wld rather be locked in a room with a man with a knife than do anything romantic or sexual with one

[rabidblasphemy]

dave: you.... still love him dont you? me: in simple terms? yeah. i love the idea of him. i love how he made me feel when i had his attention... but while i thought i was in love with him? i was a child. i cant even love myself how was i supposed to love him? i loved him like a moth attracted to a flame. starvingly in hopes of salvation.

i thought he was my savior becasue no one else had ever made me feel loved. i had tasted the idea of love for the first time. it became obssesive and i became more manipulative becasue i just wanted his attention. i wanted to be reminded of how it was to be wanted from someone who understood me.

he never understood. he pittied me.

i love what my young heart loved. i do not love him. i love how my young heart adored him for everything he wasnt. i will cherish the sweet memories and i will cry for a while longer... but after the twentyfirst and that blanket goes up in flames... i have no choice but to let him fade away. i never want to see his face again.

so...in short no. I dont love him. i just want to know what it feels like to be loved in the same way i do. and he made it seem like he did. that's not the same. not really.

i want to be able to find love in the most raw way. I am a romantic in the sense of not grand schemes but in the way i will hold your hand for a moment and kiss someones knuckles. i love in the way i find small gifts to give. i love in the i will look into new media becasue i want to talk to you about something they love. I love in the way that i dont care how ugly we fight... as long as we can talk it out... its can be forgiven. show me the disgusting and ugly becasue i might feel safe showing you the same.

i also love disgustingly. i love in a way that i froth at the mouth like a dangerous raid animal. Where i want to latch on and never let go. Where i cling and while im getting better at hiding these intense feelings... i am not better. i get the impulse. i am codependent and feel as if i cant breath. I can be so manipulative to get the attention i want and at this point? most people cant see i care becasue ive stopped myself cold in my tracks... so no one gets hurt but i feel as if i were to let the flood gates open... i wouldnt be able to stop. i dont want to hurt anyone ever again becasue all ive ever done is hurt people. i am a walking nightmare. i am grotesque when we get to the bottom of things.

i dont think anyone could love me.

no dave i dont love him but i want to be loved in how i thought it was. i want to show my ugliest parts and be shown the ugliest parts and...we can still stay.

dave:yeah...i hope you can get that too

[montblancvelvet]

Happy Birthday Ryogo Saikusa!🎉

Today is Ryogo's Birthday!🎊🎁

Even the trivial thing like knowing he was born on July really makes me happy since i was born on the same month hehe..come to think of it, his match with mc also 77.777% and he said his last name has the characters for 'seven' ..hmm somehow i ve always like the number 7 honestly..lol

Since today is his birthday, im gonna do a little snippet of his main story and ramble as always haha

I never thought i'm gonna taken quite a liking to this guy! He made me squeal all the time😍..His character is really lovable and i love the MC. She was not so obssesed with the compatibility percentage like what the other guys' MC did, where to the points that it gets annoying. I was like who cares about that, why don't her just try the relationship instead of believing the accuracy of the % 😑..haha

The moment MC was love-struck by Ryogo..

It seems like they both feel the attractions the moment they meet. They kinda have some kind of staring contest for a moment??lol

Imagine his height. He is tall i think around 180cm and the way he lean down to look at MC. Ughh it kinda makes my heart skip a beat haha

They were in the middle of arguing but food comes first. I burst out laughing when she continue eating like nothing happened. Well what can i say. Food is life.😂

Yay! MC got new nicknames from him..hahaha😂 After their first meeting, they kinda ended up working together. So MC was annoyed and trying to avoid him as much as possible.

Its funny how they were super in sync in what they do and so many crazy coincidences. They ended up bantering with each other which i found hilarious hehe. Also i can't help but be reminded of takuto and his MC.

Sheesh..these dorky kids lol

Again..

Haha.. well I really enjoyed his main story and love him lots☺

And anyways,

HappyRyogoDay!🎂😊💕

[coffeecatsandcandles]

🦢 sooo idk if this is a confession or not.. its just an experience i have that i wanted to share

So i got into the marvel fandom because of Loki right, like i thought loki WAS SO HOT and i was obsessed with him to the point where ive prob read every single fic of him on ao3 and wattpad. U name it ill prob know it. And because ive pretty much "finished" all of his content and i rarely wait for writers to finish their stories.. i moved on to tony (which we do not have enough fics for tony!!), steve, and eventually bucky. My "loki era" lasted like a month or two.. i was that obssesed with him that i just wanted to read as much about him. But now everytime i see a loki fic im just like "hmm okay ill just read whatever", like the appeal is just not there anymore?? SO IM JUST CONFUSED, how was i THAT IN LOVE with him when now im just not attracted to him anymore? (THIS IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS, and no correlation with tom H) And now im just obssesed with steve/bucky and its been MONTHS maybe even close to a year and i still get "excited??" whenever i see a post about them. So that just made me so confused because i just keep wondering when do i get tired of them like i did with Loki but it just doesnt happen...? This just made me think about how people have first loves. I would forever be grateful to Loki for introducing me into this amazing fandom and he def has a special place in my heart, but now in understand how people are able to fall out of love.. IM SORRY IF THIS SEEMED DRAMATIC LOL BUT ITS SERIOUSLY JUST A THOUGHT OF MINE AND NO OFFENSE TO LOKI FANS OK BCS I WAS ONE OF U GUYS TOO

I TOTALLY GET IT OMG. THE HYPERFIXATIONS ARE SO REAL! the way i have no idea wtf im gonna do if my bucky phase ends lmaooooo. it’s so strange how one character can have such an impact and then suddenly you don’t even think about them anymore. the day that happens w me and bucky (if that day ever comes) is a day i fear. 😫

[ratanslily]

What made you love DS?

Favorite thing about DS?

What about least favorite?

okay im going to say stuff lol

i love sea and oceans. my whole childhood was spent by the beach as i lived in a coastal region (we moved so now i crave for the same scenes i grew up loving).

so naturally what attracted me to ds was pirates.. oceans.. ships.

but, ds didnt go as planned. i played one chapter of ds as a joke (but charlie..💞) and forgot to play second one and slept early lol. the next day i played it and i was like mhm this book is cool🤔🤔

next week, i got obssesed?? idk why?? maybe i just made ds my coping mechanism?? i used to replay the latest ds chapter atLEAST twice

the thing i loved the most about ds was the scenes, the ship's architecture, the MUSIC! and the clothes. like completely different vibe from other choices books (romance, non fantasy ones).

also one thing i love more about ds is the warm feeling it left in my heart after i played every chapter. for me, ds is a very good book idc! there was this rush in me as the opening theme to ds played with Poseidon's Revenge loading screen.. which just.. made me feel SO ALIVE. LIKE YES BITCH ITS DS DAY LETS GOOOOO. unfortunately no other book (books after ds ended) has made me feel like this. the excitement was real.

also let's talk about charlie? that woman carried the entirety of ds on her back. excellent li, even more excellent pirate and an excellent character. (pb wishes to write more like her)

least favourite: the plot holes + Oliver's arc being rushed. i chose him and felt guilty, like do i even know his guy to choose him as my final one? fortunately i have 2 gameplays so i have both charlie and oliver route taken.

[divineguidancetarot]

Hello my initals are NM. im trying to manifest someone back into my life, also trying to manifest a better version of this person. Does spirit have any advice. Im focusing a lot on the negative aspects of dat relationship.. and I keep thinking this person wont come back im Having negative obssesive thoughts. this person and I broke things of yesterday. It was cuz of his mental health. I really want him to heal and come back to me we love eachother a lot.. it feels like a soulmate conection... 💔

Hello again 💓 If you enjoy my readings & would like to tip me just reach out. 🙏

Before eye get this started spirit wants to highlight that the goal is not to change him but to change you.

You see the root of your struggle right now is of course related to what goes on around you but it lies in how you deal with those things. And that's also where you can find the solution. 👁 What you sow you reap. All this trouble outside is just the reflection of your inside. Remember, we already talked about this last time. Maybe you want to read that one again. Anyways, it's time for a new start for you a new approach towards what it is that you want. The old ways don't work anymore as you can see. It only gets you into trouble if you expect someone else to do something so you can feel good. You have to feel good first! That's what makes you attractive🔥 and that's also what s going to help him grow and evolve. You go that path first. You lead this new chapter by working on your self and feeling good. It is time now to adress your fears and negative feelings fully. Face them. Work through them transform them. You already know where the problem lies.. in your negative thinking patterns. Adress that! You are able to transform them and shift your focus to what you want. It is time for self love. Take this chapter of your life to work on you, to bring you joy, to be patient with you, to give you all you wish another gave you. 💜 This is the key. You have to embody yourself what you want another to be.

Embrace your emotions and take your time. You dont have to rush things. What is meant for you will always be yours. Now is your chance to have a better relation to your self and build a base for all that is to come. Spirit is screaming at me: the relation to others is just a mirror of the relation you have with yourself. Period. Self love first. It will get easier. You are allowed to be sad. It is here for you to find the root of it and to solve it once and for all. You got this. Try to work through those feelings and find back to you. 🕊

Lady Nada: "Awaken to acceptance and divine love. Give and receive in balance." Divine love = unconditional love = self love first. You don't want to expect him to bring you happiness no more. You want to create your own luck and then share it with him, don't you? 🌹 This will ultimately attract a higher form of love to you and help him grow self love too.

[gringoslur]

Hi I'm latinx and i wanted to know how you feel about the voltron fandom insisting that Lance should speak spanish since you're also latinx. This doesn't have to do with the question but why is Lance the only character of color from the show that fans what to hear speak their "native" language?? Where did this head cannon even come from lmao and why did it blow up??

honestly that’s a good question. i know that i tend to focus more in lance, because i’m a latina that speaks spanish, but i don’t know why everyone it’s so obssesed with that....why i don’t see anyone wanting shiro talking japanese? or hunk samoano? (at least, it’s not a big thing in the fandom) i feel like they don’t really care about shiro enough or they just think that he can pass as a white guy (i’m not saying that he can, but i can see someone being so surprised by him being japanese -let’s not count his name-) and hunk...well, we know that this fandom doesn’t care about hunk. If i’m mad about this fandom don’t bringing up that lance is latinx then what they do with hunk it’s more ugly lmao (you know what?? it’s gonna be hard but i’m gonna try to make something about him & his culture, thanks nonie!).

But with Lance.....i see them bringing up him talking in spanish when they want him singing gasolina or some shakira song. i see them bringing what up when they want to make lance “talk dirty”. i never see them talking about how hard would be for him talk in english all the time...like, i’m just writing this answear and i need to talk spanish im tired of english!! dfjkgh. How connected spanish is to his family, his country, his culture. If i were Lance talking english all the time, with that homesick that he has, talking in spanish would make me cry because every word would make me remember them. When they make Lance talk spanish in their fics, headcanons, fanart, they always make him talk dirty in a sexy way or they use incorrect spanish. The english-spanish translation of google translate it’s pretty bad and spanish speakers...we can always tell that u are using it, but they just...don’t care. 

I feel like spanish for them it’s more “attractive” than japanese or samoano. Sooo many people want to take some stuff (just some) from a culture and forget about the others. Like, for example, they never think that maybe, just maybe, shiro/hunk/lance don’t grew up in US. That’s just too weird and not familiar for them. But ofc, spanish still sexy, so they take that! 

I don’t know, this is my opinion. I’m open to hear other latinxs (even you anon!) talk about this.

[avengerdragoness]

Sentence Starter Masterlist

Batfamily:

Jason Todd:

“You deserve a world without this”

"Guns? Ha! Last I remember, you had string bean arms!"

“It’s not that funny.”

“I know you liked it when they were hitting on you.” "If you would do it I would like it better" "Wait, what" "What"

"If you're not there when this baby comes, I'm going to take that gun, and shove it so far up your--"

"open it" "can you say please?"

"real smooth, tripping over air"

"Alright guys time to play truth or dare"

"well, that was... interesting"

"where have you been"

“You’re so cute when you’re half asleep like this…”

“If you shove cake in my face this will be the worst wedding night of your life.”

“After everything you did, you’re asking ME to apologize for snapping at you ONCE?”

"I know I said I’d get up with the kid in the morning but I’m hoping you can’t tell I’m fake sleeping and hoping you will do it instead"

"It helps that my competition is attractive."

“I’d die for you. Of course, I’d haunt you in the afterlife but really, it’s the thought that counts.”

"I bet I could beat you in wrestling match"

“It must be hard with your sense of direction, never being able to find your way to a decent pickup line.”

“If I didn’t know any better, I’d say you were trying to seduce me.”

"Yeah, because fighting crime wearing the colors of a traffic light is soooooo stealthy."

“I met your parents and your mom was flirting with me. "

"I am not jealous, I'm territorial. Jealous is when you what something you can't have, territorial is protecting what is yours."

"Get over here, Jason 'Crush Me With Your Thighs' Todd!"

"ITS PLATINUM!!!"

"Wait, you're not a virgin? do you even stay awake long enough for sex?"

"you can't just go around killing people"

"So tell me: do all vigilantes lurk or is this just a part of your unique charm?"

"Am I really gonna be a father to an actual human being?"

"Put the water balloon down."

“You’re cute when you’re angry.”

Dick Grayson:

“I did a pregnancy test.”

“You can’t banish me! This is my bed too!”

"What do you mean I can't stay up until 4 am reading? You've stayed up later risking your life in a ridiculous costume!"

"If you sing that song one more time I will fight you"

“I had a nightmare about you and I just wanted to make sure you’re okay.”

"I swear to god if you don't get off the chandelier right now"

"love first of all  if you're wearing that kilt to slag me off for me Irish heritage I'm not one fucking bit impressed and second KILTS ARE FUCKING SCOTTISH ugh but you do look the ride in it , i have to say wait there I'm posting a pic of it this gonna be great craic"

"IVE BEEN STANDING IN THIS SHOP FOR TWO FUCKING HOURS TRYING TO DECIDE BETWEEN SMARTIES OR SKITTLES DONT RUSH ME !"

“What do you want me to do with this?”

"You know you have to worst name ever"

"Where do you run off to every day?" 

Tim Drake:

“Is there a problem?” “Is there a special reason, as to why you’re wearing my shirt?”

"No, nothing's wrong, I was just fangirling, carry on."

"You should know by know that if you leave your cape laying around, I don't care if it's for 'superhero business', I'm going to wrap it around myself like a blanket."

“You drowned my makeup in water so I used my key to scratch all of your video game discs.”

"stop it, stop whatever the hell your doing"

'please stop staring at that stupid computer and talk to me'

"You're not meeting my boyfriend, Tim, because I'd like to date him a while before my brother kills him."

“This is your twentieth cup of coffee are you trying to break a world record or something?“

"I found you passed out, face down in a pile of coffee cups, are you ok?"

"You have to be cheating! No one is that good poker!"

"There's nothing wrong with taking a break"

"You should really get out of the house more, I almost attacked you thinking you were a vampire. And no patrol doesn't count, get some sunlight."

Damian Wayne:

“Damn, when did y/n get hot?”

"We’re camping and you think you lost the kid but they’re napping in the tent and I’m not telling you yet so you watch them better next time" 

"Damian, are you sure your dad is going to be ok with us sneaking a monkey into the Manor?"

“Before you decide to murder me, let me explain…”

“His ego is so visible; I can almost watch it grow.”

“When you love someone, you don’t just stop. Ever. Even when people roll their eyes or call you crazy… even then. Especially then!”

“Do you ever follow directions?”

"dami ..I can't find my reading glasses have you seen them ?"

"I was trained by the masters of the League of Assassins and Ra's Al Ghul himself I DO NOT SING"

"we are not going to steal someone's dog"

"i'm allowed to be obssesed with you, im your husband"

"Why is there a deer in the mansion."

"I'm better at handling swords than you"

“So that’s why you’re always gone... you’re fighting crime in tights...”

"Wait... are you actually trying to stab me with a spoon?"

"Do I have to?"

"Don't worry beloved my family will love you, if anything I'm worried about them scaring you off"

Batfam:

"Not to point out the elephant in the room, but is that a literal elephant in the room?"

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CW DC:

Barry Allen:

"Cisco I don't need you to hit on them for me."

"I don't care how much a speedster needs to eat, you touch my food, and we're going to have a problem."

"everyone can tell you lover her, it's obvious"

“im NOT jealous, but he was flirting with you"

"I'm so sorry to disturb you but....I ran out of toilet paper"

Wally West:

"you like her, don't you!" 

"I recognize that you have reached a decision, but given that it is a stupid ass decision I have elected to ignore it"

Oliver Queen:

"are you jerking off or did you just find another book?"

Mon-El:

"Are you really jealous of a dog?"

"Mon-El, stop trying to make me blush, you jerk!"

Winn Schott:

"Winslow Schott, you do *not* get to saw I'm 'crabby' right now. If I seem to be in a bad mood, it's because *someone* decided to drag all the way to the DEO, first thing in the morning before I had a chance to have breakfast, without actually giving me a reason!"

                   <-------------------------------------------->

DC (Other):

Billy Batson:

"I'll give you your precious hoodie back, if you say the magic word!"

"How hasn't Bruce Wayne adopted you yet?"

"So...what happened EXACTLY?"

"y'know when you sneak around like that to transform you look super shady right?"

"You snuck into my room in the middle of the night to tell me something that could've waited till morning, woke me up by tripping over a small pile of books, and almost broke the most expensive thing I own. Remind me again why I shouldn't immediately call the cops on my best friend?" 

                   <-------------------------------------------->

Young Justice:

Wally West:

"I'd like to remind everyone to refrain from eating my food"

"I think you're just jealous cause you don't have magic powers! Or maybe you don't believe cause your so dependent on your precious science to explain everything!"

"I don't speak science, think you can translate for us non-nerds?"

Bart Allen:

"You can't keep blaming yourself for what happened to him"

"I'm from the past...I knew your cousin"

"We're about to die!"/"Comes with the job!"/”You're not helping!"

"You can't be serious"

"Hey, could you help me go over these case files-...you do not have a shirt on..."

"Who do i look like, Batman?"

"How are you always late?"

"Give me back my book!! You better not spoil it!!!"

"YOU CAN SING?!?!?!?!"

"You look good in yellow"

"I promise to tell you where your snacks went, if you promise not to get mad."

“are you sure about this”

"please don’t make me say it" 

                   <-------------------------------------------->

Marvel:

The Avengers:

"oops they saw it, well surprise I guess!"

Peter Parker:

"Don't be such a nerd Parker, we need to keep this professional and intimidating."

"You're that Bug Boy Jamison keeps talking about"

"You're an arachnophobe?"

“You're gonna get me killed!"

"I dare you to kiss him."

"Explain your powers to me again"

"Could you just get me down from here?!"

"These aren't even quips! They're just bad puns!"

"I cannot believe you of all people got us detention! I always thought it would be me."

"There's no such thing as bad publicity!"

"So, what's up with BugBoy over there?"

Steve Rogers:

"When were you planning to let me know what happened?!"

                   <-------------------------------------------->

Voltron:

Shiro:

“I’m like 20% sure this plan will work. The other 80% means we could die horribly and violently, but honestly it’s a really solid plan.”

“You’re so determined to protect yourself and your feelings, but what about me?”

“How is my wife more badass than me?”

"i lost our baby"

“Are you hitting on me?”

"...Why did you throw confetti in my face?"

Lance:

“I’m starting an idiot jar. Any time you do or say anything idiotic, you have to put at least a dollar in it—more depending on how stupid the thing that you said or did was.”

"Please tell me you aren't washing a metal, mechanical, slightly magical lion with soap and water?"

“How did you even get that there?“

Keith:

"How in the world did I get you to like me back?"

“I thought it was a good idea at the time, but it now occurs to me that I was horribly wrong.”

“Oh my god! You’re in love with them!” "No, Dumb-ass I'm in love with you"

"I can't believe you talked me into this."

"Keith, I love you, you know I do, but *please* tell me you didn't actually jump out of an airlock to get your lion."

“Why are you staring at me like that?” 

                   <-------------------------------------------->

Criminal Minds:

Spencer Reid:

"i need you to breath in and out with me, this anxiety attack will pass, i......"

"I don't care what you think you know, Spence, I'm *not* ticklish!"

"God, I hate profilers! You can never keep a secret from one."

[jonghyyn]

1)this fandom turned to be disturbing yall only care about shinee sexual orientation and gender when its not of anyone's business. you spend all ur time on fighting over their personal matters instead of enjoying their music and what they give us. both sides acting like what they say is confirmed facts nd when one of shinee say random names or look at someone you act like they want to have sex with them nd yall act that the only attraction is sexual or romantic

2)the side that gets angry of the possibility that shinee are queer is homophobic nd not all idols has to be cis. the side that gets angry at the possibility that shinee might be like girls is weird coz we don't know these idols in real life no matter what they say or share with us

3) as an pan-aro nd part of lgbt its lowkey skeevy for me that shawols are painting shinee as lgbt icons when they only did basic decent things but in no way they r lgbt icons. yall literally could be calling a hetero guys an lgbt icons. I get wanting to connect more with them nd wanting representation but its not like this. actual lgbt people get killed nd a lots of lgbt people are fighting for our rights with little support bc we r looking in representation somewhere else we r not sure about

4) and please don't start with the closet talk bc I know how dangerous for an idol to come out but the idols u think they r queer might not be queer in the first place and if they were we have no right to want to them out too, at the end we don't know their sexualities. what am I saying is both opinions should be treated as headcanons not as confirmed facts nd this whole issue shouldn't have got that big. also neurodivergent idols headcanons should be respected too

tbh i dont even know what ur..trying 2 say by this?? i dont understand how youre like Yeah, Headcanons! but when ppl talk about headcanons ur like no...i didnt mean it like that... i mean it honestly baffles me how you reconcile these two things. if u respect ppls abilities to have headcanons youve also got to accept ppls ability to Talk about them as headcanons?? getting in discussions w ppl who say every idol Must be straight or cis isnt fighting w someone over shinees orientations Specifically, its fighting against the bigotry involved in this line of thinking. arguing w ppl who say “___ Msut be cishet” is not saying “_____ must not be cishet” its saying to question what motivates ppl to say the first thing. its not really About shinee exclusively bc its applicable to every single idol, and tbh every single person. its a discussion larger than any one particular person. i think this is an aspect that a lot of ppl miss.  

also i truly dont know when ive ever acted like attraction can only be sexual or romantic bc i rly have not. talking about how queer idols Exist is not demanding idols be out. its acknowledging a reality that is hardly ever acknowledged. like. ignoring queerphobia is Not whats going to make it easier for idols to come out, discussing how queerphobia manifests in the idol industry is what will. 

it really tires me when ppl pull out the U Spend All Ur Time Doing This, we’re all here for the music!! enough of that!! because while thats true, we all did become connected through shinee through music, a part of being an Active participant in fandom for many ppl is also like...talking about stuff besides their music. we’re here for their music but the Reason ppl blog about them and do shit like make gifs or edits or fics or what have u is bc they also care about the members themselves. their music is a given. i also like mamamoos music a whole ton, but i dont have a blog dedicated 2 mamamoo bc i am not As invested in the band members as i am in shinee. which isnt to say that every stan has to get involved w this specific discourse or even discourse in general, just that stans often Do get involved w non-musicy things in the process of stanning.

why is it that only queer headcanons are policed to this level...why is it only queer headcanons are met w Listen To Their Music Instead ! instead of the numerous other things ppl involved in fandom do that dont directly relate to their music. why dont u tell gif makers that theyre Too Obssesed w shinees faces and to go listen to their music instead. ppl do shit like “boyfriend imagines” for shinee which are 1000% unrelated to their music and tbh effectively function as Headcanons except youll never see ppl respond to that with Go Listen To Their Music Instead! while its not always (although it. often is lmfao) explicitly said, a lot of bf imagines are implicitly cishet and i feel like this is undoubtedly why those are accepted w/o word. bc ppl find being cishet ‘more polite’ and ‘less intrusive.’ when u make being queer a taboo to talk about (whilst simultaneously accepting anyone that talks about being cishet) u are basically saying that it is more acceptable to be cishet, while being queer is something that ought to be kept private. if ur truly adamant that this is about not spending enough time enjoying shinees music, then id like 2 see u come at every single other thing in fandom that has nothing to do w music. every time you see someone say “hey jonghyun would make a great bf” remind that person they shldnt care about something like that and shld instead be supporting shinees music. in any case, you ought to examine what makes u think that someone being queer is taboo to speak of while not rallying against statements like ‘he would be a great bf 2 his girlfriend.’

anyway i agree that ultimately what people are doing is making. headcanons. ive always agreed w this fact? this is a thing i continually say?? its why im not out there to Objectively Prove that jonghyun is gay or bi or whatever. the reason people respond to statements like ‘no jonghyun is not gay hes a straightie hetero’ with ‘no ur wrong’ bc the first statement is one that is Constantly enforced by society and it just functions as a way 2 shut down queer voices and reassert the heterosexual default present Everywhere. society treats straight as the absolute default. this is why straight “Headcanons” arent treated as well lmao... headcanons. theres rly no reason for anyone out there 2 headcanon something as straight?? when its the Assumed Sexuality in every situation?? tbh the only reason ppl are interested in doing that is Denying that idols might not be straight. doing this when ppl are Forced 2 be straight is gross. theres a difference between queer ppl saying Hey, remember not all idols are straight so lets talk about that and straight ppl being all No! ur wrong! he cant be anything but straight so shut up! these two things are coming from different perspectives. 

like. imagine a pie being sliced up. historically, a 100% of this pie has been given to straight people. when queer ppl speak up, theyre trying to take some of their fair share of this pie. saying Hey, queer ppl exist!! is trying to section urself out a piece of the pie when youve been given none. someone saying Nope!! theyre all definitely straight is stealing back the measly slices someone has Actively Fought to obtain and attempting to perpetuate this imbalance. 

im not rly here for ppl painting shinee as lgbt icons. ive expressed how annoying i find statements like ‘king of the gays’ or whatever to be. but also just. saying that anyone in shinee might be lgbtq is not painting them as an lgbtq icon?? its just stating a fact?? esp since a lot of the King of The Gays ! stuff seems to come from ppl who position him as a Amazing Cishet Ally so. idek buddy i feel like youve got to further think through some of your positions bc some seem to be in direct conflict with others.