#now you can talk abt Society and Beauty Standards and what it says about the company or like. the wider culture abt the one body type

[maretriarch]

my most problematic doll take i think is that is there legitimately nothing wrong with your doll line all using the same mold/having the same body type its like people forgot the functional real world reason for that is so. the dolls can share clothes so kids can have a big bucket of doll clothes and make little mismatched outfits and play dress up. because. they're fashion dolls.

[chiconisroc]

Questions and Answers Part 7 for Was Not the Hero

is Hunter bi like his Uncle Philip maybe they could bond because of it?

Answer - I don't think they will talk about it much, at least not in the story as there is so much for them to go through before Hunter feels comfortable to talk to Philip about such things

2. What if Philip had a Grimwalker of himself how would he treat him?

Answer - Philip would most likely mistreat it worse than he did with Caleb's copies. I like to think Philip has deep self hatred so seeing a copy of himself would give him a way to lash out to someone more, especially someone who wears his face

3. Will there be kiss scene between Philip and Silas?

Answer - hehehe, maybe : )...

More questions and answers :

4. Belos means beautiful in different languages like Portuguese which he is

Answer - hahaha, he definitely is beautiful

5. Does Philip sometimes dream about having a better life with Silas away from the boiling isles? or does he repressed them?

Answer - No, he completely repressed them

6. The Hexsquad will possibly think that Philip was into strong muscular dudes after he tells them his experience with Silas, Luz would get him to try to read LGBT theme books or shows so he could have better self esteem about himself and not lash out at other openly gay people

Answer - Oh, the scene when everyone discovers about Philip and Silas is gonna be interesting to write and the way they confront him about it well, it's gonna be a bit different : )

7. is Philip gender non conforming?

Answer - he accepts himself as a male

8. was Philip considered a witch caused he liked men, is left handed, weird as a kid, and wasn’t as deeply religious before he got caught with his boyfriend? and that why he didn’t return to the human realm cause he wanted to prove to his abusers that he one of them?

Answer - He was seen as his soul tainted by the devil before peeps found out about him and Silas. Things got worse for him when they found out about him and Silas unfortunately. But yeah, he definitely kept doing the terrible things he had done to prove that he was one of them. He wanted to prove he was a hero

9. Did Philip killed Caleb because his romance with Evelyn reminded him of his relationship with Silas and partially attacked him because of jealousy?

Answer - Nah. In my story, he tried to kill Evelyn cause she's a witch and Caleb got in the way. Philip's curse was acting up and blinded him with rage so he didn't realize he struck Caleb till it was too late

10. does Philas fall under the masculine-feminine gay couple trope? Since Silas is described as muscular at times While Philip hair is noted to be beautiful with some characters pointing it out?

Answer - Hmmm, I don't think so. Both Silas and Philip both have interests that would be considered i guess as 'feminine' by society's standards. Silas, who doesn't follow with labels much, just enjoys anything he thinks is interesting. He's lived a long life within different cultures to honestly learn to appreciate so much

11. Some people want to know more abt Silas, few others about Rafael... But what abt Michael? Ngl ever since his first appearance I've been very curious abt him and i REALLY want to know more abt him (he looks like a sassy b tbh). Will we get more things abt Michael? Or can you even tell rn something abt him? (I'm desperate for michael content, no pressure)

Answer - There definitely will be more about Michael soon : )

12. What if Silas killed Philip? When he finds out his crimes what would be the aftermath?

Answer - Can't say , may be spoilers : o

13. Can Silas swim?

Answer - He can now

14. Is Philip low key jealous that Silas is more muscular than him? Even back then? Does he have body image issues cause he looked girly and is jealous that Silas looks more masculine than him?

Answer - Nah, Philip was a bit too arrogant bout his intelligence and thought Silas was some brute the first time they met. Later he loved Silas too much to really be jealous

15. Silas kinda looks Like Izzy Hands

Answer - hahaha, you think so? Silas is by far taller and larger : o

16. Does Silas have a 6 pack or 8 pack

Answer - none unfortunately, hahaha

17. How would Philip act if he was drunk?

Answer - I think he probably be a sad drunk

[bellamygateoldblog]

girls gotta start acknowledging that no they wouldn't feel better and more 'feminine' when they shave if the social structure to MAKE them feel like that wasn't already in place. girls gotta start thinking critically about WHY they 'feel better' when they wear makeup and shave and get surgery and inject shit into their faces to dissolve whatever else. it's not a choice. you can still do it whilst acknowledging that these things don't exist in a vaccum and they're patriarchal ideas ingrained into both ourselves and society and doing them anyway doesn't make us bad people because its literally not our fault and it's really fucking hard to unlearn and undo and being honest and NOT willfully ignorant and faux feminist abt it is gonna help other girls way more than whatever the fuck we're doing now. NO plastic surgery shouldn't be fucking normal. beauty standards should not be so engraved in public consciousness and all-consuming to the point people feel unworthy if they aren't meeting the standards of beauty. NO women don't "HAVE" to shave, no one is forcing their hands BUT the social pressure to concede and shame around it is really powerful and makes us anyways. Like this is driving me fucking crazy. The blind fucking feminism of being like 'ugh if a woman wants to wear makeup she can you're taking her autonomy!!!!!! it's abt CHOICE!!!!!! I ALWAYS feel better when I shave and that's just MY preference so I do it' like how about acc taking a single second to think abt what ur saying and realise that you feel better about wearing makeup and shaving because that's what's expected of you and by doing so you're fitting nicely into the mould society made for us all to fit into and no women are BuLLyInG you or jUdGiNg yOuR pReFeReNcEs or being misogynistic somehow for 'not respecting feminine women' we're all fucking brainwashed and trying to just support other women in ways that aren't just encouraging them to hide and distort themselves like saying you don't need plastic surgery baby you're fine as you are is now seen as being like OH SO YOURE AGAINST WOMEN MAKING THEIR OWN CHOICES TO PERMANENTLY ALTER HER FACE IN PURSUIT OF BEAUTY STANDARDS THAT ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE EVERY DECADE? SHAME ON U. Instead of being like yea get that potentially harmful procedure to feel better abt urself idk...I prefer for women to take steps to love themselves in their OWN skin they already have and steer them away from living under the oppressive weight of social expectations and I still shave and I still wear makeup sometimes and I still like to look nice and dress up but I'm also trying to unlearn the NEED to do this to feel worthy and talk to other women about the reality too and not just sit back and watch all of this get normalised and accepted from ppl being like its 'none of my business' because YES thats true but also arent yall fucking sad thay this is the reality plaguing your fellow women? Dont u just wanna be something a little different and tell her her natural nose is fucking gorgeous (bc it is) and its all very complex and I prefer being honest about why I do what I do and not just pretending and trying to gaslight myself I to thinking this is my choice and that I would still choose to shave my entire body of my own accord if I didn't have someone whispering in my ear constantly that if I don't im not a real woman or I'm unclean etc etc ???????????? i love and empathise x100 my fellow women but some of yall so fucking irritating and give me genuine headaches. Get real queens xoxo

[egokillr]

i want to talk about appearance change/ the subliminal community

we all know its kind of awesome that we are able to change the way we look by assuming. its honestly so fun in my opinion because you are literally your own art.

the thing i want to talk about though is beauty standards, especially in the sub community. i saw a post by @/pnk.dreama on instagram recently that really brought this to light. like how some features are favored because of societal standards and how it can be harmful. why should some features be considered “perfect” and other features are not? there is nothing written in stone that says the most popular “it” girl is better than the nerdy girl everyone sees as “ugly.” yes. NOTHING. nothing but the labels we associate with it. and especially since spirituality should be a safer place, i think we should all be more focused on loving ourselves first, and then deciding what YOU think is beautiful and looking past societal standards. on a subconscious level, you might see your features compared to these mfs on tiktok or subs and think “wow i need to fix ____ abt myself, ill just manifest it.” and there’s nothing inherently wrong about wanting to change it. it’s when we put ourselves and our features down that it becomes a problem. i’ve even fallen into this myself honestly on many occasions until i realized it and said hell naw?! we’re literally all fucking beautiful and perfect RIGHT TF NOW.

the post on instagram also discussed how a lot of the time it’s predominantly white features that are chosen to be the “perfect” face. like wtf is up with that and how have so many people not realized it yet? i really wanna see more inclusivity in the subliminal community and just in general society.

this goes to say that you should do what you want for YOU. not because of societal standards. be your own art bby 🫧

[galimatios]

ok. this will be my definitive thread on 4w3. that i will type on my phone. i think the first thing abt type 4s is that theyre characterized by a profound sense of longing / loss, that there is something always just out of reach that they will never have

I believe it starts from childhood, where a person begins to see or feel that they are separate / different from others? both uniquely gifted and uniquely flawed, that a special insight has been given to them but it also separates them from everyone else ... or sometimes it's a unique wound that gives them an understanding of suffering different from others, that others cannot understand, that you yourself are somehow broken or flawed. tho we tend to conceptualize it as uniqueness, sometimes even tow it around like we're special/elite like, am i not more beautiful for my pain? is this not something special? 

we want to be understood but not TOO easily bc that would remove the unique status of our suffering. but rly its a defense mechanism for being unable to cope w the idea we're beyond saving like we were born w something missing and nothing in the world can fix it bc what we want either cannot be named or achieved in a mortal life. tho the Thing rly varies btwn individuals. 

for me it was difficult to pin down, but i think i wanted to preserve feelings id cling to? ive always been attracted to the nostalgic sadness of childhood, and the idea of immortalizing feelings of peace/happiness, bc to me those things have beauty elevated above that of normalcy. i also love abandoned things bc they contain memories i will never truly know 

and the thing that rly separates a 4 from the rest is this romanticism, a kind of need for authenticity and truth thru their entire being. we hate being fake, we hate lying about our identity, we hold onto our pain bc we believe it defines us and it gives shape to who we are. we relate to others thru our own pain and experiences, and bc we are so attuned to our own emotions ppl say 4s are gifted at putting feelings to words and expressing the nuances of emotion. 

i think the wide range of what we feel also leads to us being drawn to unique things like, many things feel emotionally shallow to us and we cannot relate to it, but things that express emotions we dont see often being extremely exciting bc we feel seen, like someone can connect w us in a way we consider important 

i think 4s can tend to come off as like, edgy and brooding bc of these traits but 4s can pick any number of things to reinforce their identity with. when we find something that connects to us, we SINK INTO IT with fuckin claws and dont let go. we claim that thing as ours and try to create an identity using all the things we've claimed.  lots of 4s i know relate to demon imagery bc of this, bc it links to that intrinsic feeling of being broken/wrong and so its easy to be like "oh i must be a demon/monster bc im Wrong" plus it's also a separation from the traditional idea of "good" and it vibes with the whole "misunderstood/apart from others" feeling. we are looking for emotions people are uncomfortable with, claiming them, and desiring the brave to look at us and say they accept us 

anyway what it REALLY is is that 4s are sensitive babies who want to be loved and accepted unconditionally despite how broken they feel. it isnt nearly as deep as they may think

but i personally dont think thats the path of actualization/integration, at least in my experience i think for me, i realized that sense of beauty/whatever tf i was looking for isnt to be found in grand sweeping statements abt life or love, or in some pinnacle of art i can never attain, but in every day simple interactions and regular ass people. may be different for others

NOW. To discuss the 3 wing. 3s are characterized by the worth they put out into the world, in the form of tangible accomplishments and experiences. im not a 3 so i cant speak with accuracy or length, but the 3 will base their worth on the judgement of social standards so you see them trying to gain monetary, academic, occupational success bc those are deemed worthy in the eyes of society. this can change depending on the society ofc but under ~late stage capitalism~ this is where we are. 

so where does a 4 fall into this. i said before the 4 hates faking, so the methodology of some 3s to meld themselves to be the most successful in their environment just doest NOT fucking vibe w the 4. so the 4w3 is kind of a fucky walking contradiction bc we crave uniqueness but also admiration. we dont want to lie abt who we are but we also want people to KNOW and appreciate us. so this manifests in a desire to share our feelings and experiences with an audience, usually within a medium that allows creative expression but it can be anything. 

point is, we want to share. for me, i do it thru creative stuff but moreso just... by talking to people and being emotionally honest and open about what makes me tick, what makes me passionate, trauma, etc, and people respond to that positively like, this is my pain, look at this beautiful thing that came out of it. 

whereas i believe 4w5s are content with keeping things to themselves. 4w3s will shift their image to some degree to fit the context but 4w5s are v much, this is me, take it or leave it bitch. anyway the contrast btwn 4 and 3 wing fucks me up bc being a 4 is already a cosmic joke but its even more hilarious when u put in that wing this is all just conjecture based on my own experience of being 4w3 BUT I HOPE ITS INTERESTING

[kyandice]

CANDICE EDIT THIS UGLY SHIT WHEN U HAVE THE FUCKING TIME

this is an ugly unedited one it has been in my drafts for like 2 months already. so whatever i just posting it. ill edit it if i have the time. thins is is i actually edited half way and MY FUCKING COMPUTER FUCKING CRASHED SO I GAVE UP  and yeahhh ill just post this ugly unedited one and ill edit it again WITH PROPER ENGLISH WHEN I HAVE THE TIME. idk i just cqnt see stuff in my drafts i just havre to post it and yewah wtf.

this unedu=ited stuff is just me writing key poiunts about my day and not like urghhhhhhh i hate this commmmmm. normally i would describe more but i dont want it in my drafts anymore so ill edit it when im free OKAYYYY.

1/3 

Hahahahahah lmao this was the date when i got tgt with K 3 years ago.(omg i still rmb, but tbh its nth special i just rmb useless stuff pretty well)  Never wanted to date a guy again even i with crushes back in sec sch. but anyways, today i went to Sentosa w/ B and he seemed to really like the artificial fiels alot but it was like in the afternoon so it was still kinda hot and yeahhhh. Like it would be much nicer at night. There will be like alot of stars and fireworks too and it will be more windy and cooling idk but it will be nicer at night and i want to spend the night w/ B there again. Oh yeah anyways ystd B bought me the batgirl lego keychain and B told me that batgirl had sex with batman and im shoooked.

2/3 and like today we planned to go to his house anddd then go to parkway parade to some lego secret chambers shop. i went out early cuz my junior wanted to pass me her lego characs but she couldnt make it so i was alr at bishan so i just went to tpy and wait for bryan o wake and meet me so i called him at 11am but he woke up and shouted at me so i just like nvmmmm so i went to the library and went window shopping around tpy and i also went popular 1pm i didnt want to call him up but i was like ugh nvm and called him.. and yay he finaally woke up wna read tuesday with morrie, all the fifty shades of grey and in grey's pov n miss peregrine's home for peculiar children but we still went to parkway parade anyays and he asked me to watch letters from iwo jima so i watched it at night and bryan wanted to watch the breakup list on toggle but it kept playing ads and it just wouldnt play the video so b got alittle pissed 3/3 logan, training (our 8th movie)

4/3 finishing crocheting my first thinggg the bear thing shoud i give it to bryan would he want it so today b was vvvv kinda excited this video thing with ck and cez and im like vvv happy for him cuz he can do smthing he rlly likes with cool n funny ffriends. also he said that he didnt want us to go public at first cuz he was afraid that ppl might tease us he said he was afraid i might be ffrustrated but tbh i was hella frustaratred i dont see the point of hiding our rship but im glad werre like opene now and so at night i went to ikea and b messaged me but i was busyt walking and i didnt recieve his msg but i didnt like lock my phone so it was read. but like it was in my pockets and like my mom doesnt allow me to play my phine whenever im walking but yeah anyways b was angry hat i didnt reply him. we sorta quarreled awhile but we were kinda okay after that i guess. wtf sia today midnight i have to distribute stuff to the homeless ppl in bugis and i was wearing a short paanyts and my mom tied this weird looking scarf i swear i look like some carzy hobo youngster wtf.

5&6/3 sneaked out of house, slept over at his house and after that i went to tpy first while he showers, ate and went home early to pack for camp stuff wna stay over at his house again it was fun we tried to watch moanna but was kinda sleepy

7/3 day 1 of camp. slept with b outised tgt

8/3 day 2 of camp (-met javier and sihui -every camps i go i get very angry -shoulder, water balloon) larn cpr and aed the skit thing worst grp ever

9/3 day 3 of camp water activities we won

10/3 tkd training

11/3

-wtf nxt week go msia (wanted to go work) -quarreled with bteh. cuz i cant go out but he wants me to go out -yyour suffering defines you without it yore a void -japan and korea with bryan -my parents -i want more lego charac -money - i cant wait for tmr for ilighhtsss i want to take like alooot pictures tgt with bryannnn styled hair -nicole choo idk why im still so insecure like i know pretty clearly that im decent looking. decent looking enough to make friends, have a job and not get ostracised in society. and well if you arent good looking enough you'll be made fun off/ostracised in society and thats how humans work. and now everywhere you see are pretty girls and how can any girls feel not insecure. Okay, i have a flat and fat nose. i want to have a sharper and thinner nose like michelle. i have pretty small boobs and i want boobs like naomi. my shoulders are too wide from playing softball, i want a smaller width shoulders like grace. my tummy isnt flat i want a flat tummy. and thing is those are pretty famous girls in like sg and im not even talking abt kim kard or emma wats or like jennifer lawr. omg i dont even know where im going with this im just literally typing all my thoughts down. okay and the boys here???? they all follow those people and im pretty sure they compare them over the normal girls in sch. omg what am i even talking abt. i feel silly even typing this out. but okay if your beauty standards doesnt reach like the norm in society you srsly wouldnt have friends. unless youre realllll rich or your sense of humor is rlly rlly great.

12/3 didnt quarrel but we  were obv upset with each other it was a fun day tho when to see i lights took alot pictures ate llaollao no money

20/3 best s ever went home after it bteh gg aunts house today

his flight will be tmr 21/22 job interview got the job bryaan in flight abt cosplay how i dont have frinds

25/03 bryan found my private twitter accnt                                    bteh tole me abt a girl he liked when he was in korea idk if anyone realised but ive got a really really really bad habit. its weird really. but its a thing ive been doing since young and i never talked to anyone about it before. so actually, when im nervous, or stressed out, or just couldnt take my mind off smthing, i would like start peeling or plucking my nails. okay many people do this but, i ahve a weirder one andddd omg i think i will regret saying this. So actually, i pluck i my hair when im nervous, stressed out or just thinking abt smthing i cant ignore. so back in primary 4 i was doing this math practice paper and i couldnt do any those 6marks big problem sums and i was fking stressed out. and well my habit of plucking my own hair started really really young. and at P4 my mom saw me crying

26 toc competition firdst fight win second fight lose how i dont wna fight nationals cuz my weight cat all got national player lose my chance to win gold cant even get silver r came today

29/ power rangers

30 wanted to go coney island with rapheal and jill and bryan but it rained so we went to lan and gamed without jill bryan pushed me and i banged into someone in the end see museums some forest thing the ligths vvv pretyy

28/hotel

31/ hotel went to work after that talk about work made bryan that key chain clp diner and dance

1/4 learn bst bts for club crawl played boomberang didnt workkk aot is out!!!!!!

2/4 today i need to go mountbatten cc to practice my poomsae my poomsae lousy i dont think i can pass at first try anyways president of stf is milan quey idk if i spelt his name properly but yeah. before that ate yellow sub with B will nvr eat there again portion is small yet expensive and food isint so nice at all but since i get to eat with b im vvvv gladdd

3/4 today i went early to B's house. after that met up with madeline and shirlyn to watch boss baby and the movie was quite nice i thought i wouldnt like it and then we ate pepper lunch and omg osaka is a vvv small place like shirlyn went evrywhere i visited like a a year ago

4/4 AND I WOKE UP WITH BTEH lose his doibok and he couldnt find it my maid threathened to take a mail for my mom cuz she lazy walk and she wants me to do it but i was late

5/4 there was demo training we played table tennis for awhile and bteh is good at it, ok maybe its just that i suck at it but yea theres was fmo so we slacked at tg until demo tng started so at night he said hes tired but idk that he wanted to sleep soon and he was like stop it and i was like stop wat but he ttly just shut me off and then i got pissed cuz i would nvr do that to him

6/4 i had to meet herman but like after meeting him timetable i realised i forget to bring my wallet somethimes im torn in beteen like just not gg out with bteh cuz i have no money to eat or spend his money again he keeps saying its okay but its really not okay im just not comfortable like someone spending so much on me i owe money so he told me his specs broke ttly

One of the things dreams do for us is prepare us for worse case scenario. The dream that is closest to reality about a loved one leaving us prepares the mind for the pain that can be inflicted upon us. It creates a probability. That means it could happen, it means it’s a fear you have, and being such your mind protects your psyche in a way to allow you to feel the emotions of the event, even though the event never occurred.

13 reasons why felt like  th main charac like back in sec sch all i wanted was just to finish my olevels and go to poly so i can be a whole new person. someone who i wanted to be withouht anyone laughing at me

1au away from sol 1au measurement unit like light or smthing sol is latin from sun porbbaly it