#or if you're comfy with it

[omo-queer]

hi! tysm for your answer 🥺 i looked up "rapid desperation" online and based on my own understanding, this is how it works:

1. drink the same specific amount of water every 15 mins within an hour (you can pee within that 1 hour).

2. after that first hour, you should continue doing it but this time, the hold starts. bathrooms are not allowed.

after this, what shall i do next? do i just keep drinking until i can't hold it anymore? or should i set a goal (for example, wait for 2 hours until i can finally pee)?

thank you so much for helping a beginner out! 💗 also looking forward to more of your blogs

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the rapid desperation approach i've seen and used a variant on myself is:

drink at least a glass (350ml/12oz or about that) every hour. this works best if you start this at least an hour or two before the hold, and pee as normal. this part basically gives your kidneys the heads-up that they're gonna be moving water fast bc you keep drinking it.

then do what you're implying—drink a glass every 15 minutes for a hour during which you can pee regularly

after that, you're holding. continue drinking at 15 minute intervals, and keep going until you lose control—the idea behind rapid desperation is that it makes this part go quickly because you've told your body to make pee faster, essentially.

this takes more planning than just like. not peeing for a long time. but it can get some interesting results. i would honestly recommend you try a couple regular holds before you go for rapid desperation, making sure not to go past the point of pain (discomfort is fine but pain you have to be careful about), because rapid desperation is one of the easier ways to have to worry about electrolyte balance (salt/potassium stuff) if you do it way too hard or way too fast. that said, i mentioned it because you were asking for specific challenges and it's a very fun one, just as long as you listen to your body.

remember, your safety comes before anything else—holding is good fun but it's important to learn what your body can and can't do, and to listen when it gives you signs to stop. you're very unlikely to hold so long you seriously hurt yourself, because the body usually gives up trying to hold it in before that's likely. but in rare cases you can experience water toxicity or overwork the muscles around your bladder if you go way too hard right out of the gate and don't listen to your body. try not to hold two days in a row when you're first starting out, and give yourself longer breaks of at least a few days between intense holds (where you actually lose control or get really close) to give your bladder and your muscles time to recover.

ok. that's the safety lecture over. it's not really that risky a kink, i just really wanted to stress how important listening to your body is when holding.

if you haven't done any holds yet, my first recommendation would be to drink liquids as normal, maybe slightly more than normal, and wait until they catch up to your bladder—eventually, if you keep drinking normally, you won't be able to hold any longer and will begin leaking or even wet yourself. even getting close to this is really thrilling. coffee/tea and other diuretics help get you more desperate, too. i typically wait until i'm right on the edge of wetting and then either go to the bathroom or (if i have the situation to) keep holding until i lose control. setting a timer that's a little overambitious usually also works for me because i tend to have a bit more bladder strength than i assume... but i've also been recreationally holding it for a pretty long time, all things considered.

thank you for reaching out! i hope my answers are helpful. i'm glad you enjoy my posts—might do a hold tomorrow or the next day or something, and it seems folks have been submitting anons for bladder control (which i love!!) so there will no doubt be more posts on the way.

i'll be asleep for a while once i post this, but feel free to send in any other questions you have via ask or dm! and of course, i always welcome talking about holds/experiences in my inbox!

[ficwip]

say something encouraging to other fic writers!

[bocchidaily]

Could you draw Bocchi like really happy? I think I need that right now…

Day 74: unbothered, moisturized, in her lane, flourishing

[lazylittledragon]

what do you mean youre technically a detransitioner cause of terf bullshit?

it's a v long story but i detransitioned for a couple of years when i was 16/17, for multiple reasons but mostly because i fell into the blaire white/kalvin garrah chamber of "you have to be This way to be trans otherwise you're not real".

i was already Deeply insecure about myself and my 'passing' and i was led to believe that i couldn't want to wear makeup or skirts, and i couldn't choose not to have bottom surgery, and i couldn't do anything but bind for 12+ hours a day to the point that my ribcage is still misshapen. basically i thought that if i wasn't suffering enough doing 'feminine' things, i couldn't really be trans, so i should just go back to being a girl and suck it up.

the terf bullshit is because i'd seen a lot of terfs/detransitioners talking about the 'dangers' of testosterone and how it would turn me into a horrible ugly evil monster and how there was nothing worse than wanting to be a man. which combined with 'you need to fully medically transition to be valid at all' creates some very dangerous and upsetting feelings to cope with.

it also came from trying really hard to put myself in a little box before i realised that my sexuality/gender are very fluid and it's FINE for me not to have a label and just do whatever i want. when i was 19 or so i went back to using they/them (and eventually he/him) and changed my name again because even though i like doing 'feminine' things, i don't want to be seen as a woman.

tldr: i was conditioned by transphobic/terf rhetorics to think that i was being trans the 'wrong' way so i couldn't be trans at all, so i believed i must actually be a girl if i still wanted to do 'feminine' things. nowadays i am a transmasc who does feminine things because i don't give two shits about what any transmed prick thinks of me anymore.

[shotmrmiller]

graduating student reader is now post grad!reader who cries to Simon about how she can’t find a real job and he just tells her not to worry her pretty little head while he makes his way between her thighs to distract her

won't tell you that he had already planned to keep you (in every sense of the word) because you'd fight him on it and honestly, while he is willing to compromise on a lot of things, providing anything and everything for you is not one of them.

he pulls you to his lap, strong hands readily maneuvering you so that you're straddling him instead, feeling him give the space between your shoulder blades a couple of awkward pats. doesn't say much neither, not like he could squeeze in anything in between your slurred words and sharp hiccups.

"s'alrigh'," he murmurs, "we'll figure it out." as if he hasn't had a game plan set since the moment you didn't let him buy you a drink that one night long ago.

the only thing you'll be figuring out is how many babies do you want to give him and what degree do you want to have so it can collect dust in the closet because you're this 🤏🏽 close to being his trophy wife.

and him shamelessly bucking his hips up while you're still sniffling and wiping your tears is something he can't help you're just the best thing he's ever had :(

it makes you kinda irritated because can you stop being horny for a second, simon but at least you're not crying anymore.

he's not fucking you til you've had three orgasms minimum and crying from overstimulation.

[meownotgood]

no even if it was the doggy position he'd lean against your figure and nuzzle his face to the crook of your neck, one arm embracing u tightly that man CANNOT even fuck you without making sure you know you're loved - bnuuy bunny bun

oh you're so right... I've always thought that too...

aki is just the sweetest to you, even when he's fucking you from behind he's still treating you so softly — he presses his body close to yours, practically leaning against you, and he grabs your chin and tilts your head up so he can kiss your forehead. he's so slow and gentle with every deep rock of his hips to make sure he won't hurt you.

and since he can't see your face from this position, can't look into your eyes, can't kiss you as easily as he wants to, he ends up talking a whole lot more; aki leans in close to your ear and mutters constant breathy words of reassurance, telling you how good you're making him feel, how perfect you are, how much he loves you.

god, you're beautiful, so beautiful, he's mumbling in his smooth tone, he holds your waist steady with one hand and drags his palm over your back, your side, down to your thighs, his touch so gentle it could only be his. you can hear him breathing hard in your ear, can feel his heart pounding in his chest when he wraps an arm around you and pulls you closer. he kisses your nape, rests his hand over yours when he sees you grabbing a tight fistful of the pillow, his fingers caress your knuckles ever-so delicately as he fucks into you nice and slow until his pelvis is flush with your ass. you feel so good, want you to moan for me louder- can you say my name baby? that's it... I've got you... I love you, love you more than anything...

[saturdays--sun]

i am once again saying that there is nothing wrong with being a non-sharing selfshipper. there's nothing wrong with blocking people who share one (or multiple) of your f/os. there's nothing wrong with telling doubles not to interact with you. setting boundaries for yourself and your online space is a moral neutral and has nothing to do with being "insecure" or some other negative. if you find that insulting or belittling, that's on you; not on the person setting the boundary. quit trying to make non-sharers into bad guys.

[bunnygirllover45]

My friends noticed a pattern in how I dress in my daily life. Tbh I hate buying shoes and these boots make me look even taller than I already am lol

[channnel]

I got bored in class again, and so is Sally.

[merakiui]

yan!vil who gives you twenty-four hours to try to escape the grounds of his estate. should you prove successful before time is up you'll be given your freedom. you sense there's a catch, but you're just so desperate for a way out and so you agree to his terms.

unfortunately, you just signed up to be made a hunter's target. vil sics rook on you like he's a guard dog. T_T you thought you could escape vil because he'd never get his hands dirty searching for you in the forest, but that's just it. vil won't get his hands dirty; it's rook who will do so in vil's stead.

and while you may be running on pure adrenaline, rook is a skilled hunter who has never lost any of his targets before. you'll be dragged back to vil within the hour if you aren't careful.

you don't know rook all that well (and so you're unaware of his background as a hunter), so you think it'll be easy. you're just playing a high-stakes game of hide-and-seek and you've always been good at hiding. it's possible. you can win! hours into the afternoon, you run into someone in the forest; perhaps someone who lives nearby or an innocent hunter taking a stroll to check traps and whatnot. and you're certain you can win and get your freedom. you beg the person to help you. it's difficult to think the shining star that is vil schoenheit could be so dark, but they're willing to hear you out. you're so relieved; you've met a nice person and they can help you and you can finally escape vil and—

there's a screeching whistle and then something breezes past you, lightning-fast. flecks of warm blood dot your face next and you, turned stone-cold with horror, watch as your only hope flops to the ground, an arrow lodged in their throat. and a considerable distance away, your blond hunter stands, his bow raised, a wicked, cat-like smile curled on his lips.

oh, so this is how the game's going to be played.

[solargeist]

the hardest thing grian has to learn with taking care of xelqua is... losing all sense of privacy.

kids constantly want to be around you. you're watching tv ? now they want to, or they want to sit right next to you and talk abt their toys or interest--no matter whats on

you're eating ? they want a bite now. from your fork.

they will even look under bathroom doors

[onefey]

my take on the hateno house is that when link bought it in botw he did so with zelda in mind - link does not see the point in buying a whole house for himself when he's always on the move anyway, but he knows how tired zelda is going to be when she gets back, and he knows she can't exactly live in hyrule castle anymore. so he sees a house about to be torn down and something compells him, like, this is the perfect place. a cozy house in peaceful hateno village. and they are of course living together leading up to totk bc all evidence points toward that but that's the reason everyone thinks of it as zelda's house, because link despite buying it and paying for its repairs was never its true owner. it's zelda's house because it was meant for her. when they got back after defeating the calamity link opened the door for her and went, here. this is for you.

(and of course this leads to the comedic situation of zelda trying to find the least awkward way to tell link that the house he bought for her on vibes alone was actually his childhood home.)

[abbeyofcyn]

Interactive comic ''Great, what's next..."

Donnie's design

Comic will upload 6 April 2023 10am GMT+1

You'll have 24 hours to decide how the story continues~

[lazylittledragon]

I like that in game the companions are always wearing very cunty high fantasy clothes and you always draw them in comfy sweaters/cardigans/pyjamas. as they deserve tbh

they deserve COMFORT!!!

[the-ghost-gardren]

My feelings towards ao3 this morning.

[little-pup-pip]

@litlpawz again! Hey i’ requesting a mood-board :D! Anything adventure time! Go nuts!! My favourites are Finn and Jake tho so if you’re struggling with ideas you could always do something about them :] Non-Deco Paci pls :]

Here you go!!