#pathalogical demand avoidance

[glitchmeharder]

Persistent Drive for Autonomy

Aka Pathological Demand Avoidance

Aka, the toddler in my brain that throws fits

I forgot how to do page breaks so u get to suffer. Sorry

Yeah so ive heard that autistics mirror other peoples moods, its like our nervous system trying to regulate itself (?close but dont quote me). but with PDA, not mirroring someone can be a demand. So if im upset and out of spoons, and my pda bestie is the same, we are gonna make eachother worse. And i cant stop cause im out of spoons to deal with demands. Its bad bro, i wanna gnaw off my arm (not for attention i think but so the mood will change) because someone thats upset is like a threat to my being. Its not always that way. But ive been over my head, over exerting my demands to the MAX since August. And i uh think i broke myself for a while. But i dont have the luxury to stop. I dont get to "take a break" or "lessen demands" i end up calling upon my inner abusive boomer to say "suck it tf up". But im running out if suction power.

[trickibe]

pda's a pain

[olexxx]

Hey man just wanted to let you know I think ur arts really cool 👍 and I love ur inside job art it’s the best I’ve seen!

have a keven :)

thank u kevin

thank you for the kind words too, i choose to believe that people just liked my art enough that they really want me to draw their favorite characters, just plenty of them expressed it in a pretty unpleasant way so that just discourages me

[weedpicnic]

I am not serving but at least there’s hot gay sex and weed and white claw 🙏

[the-feral-fa1ry]

Lol my parents are rejecting having a healthy relationship with me so I'm gonna throw myself so deeply into my own essence that I'm not only successful but happy and thriving without them or their support.

[hyenabrainedpup]

Being a puppy and a dude with pathalogical demand avoidance is so fucking funny

Straight up refusing to do anything but if you add a good boy to the end? It is DONE

[scoutbot]

it makes me so sad to look at my neglected flight rising dragons but i just cant get past the pathalogical demand avoidance making me pathologically avoid my own want to feed them and dress them and update their lore

[autism-asks]

Is it at all an autism/executive dysfunction maybe?? thing when a task suddenly becomes like a /task/ and it becomes something you 'have' to do, like as soon as it shift from a thing to A Thing You HAVE To Do, suddenly you lose all motivation to do it? And it's not like in a rebel teenager way, it's like... Suddenly, as soon as it becomes 'HAVE to' then you just shut down?? It's not that you're avoiding it, it just... almost can't form in your mind TO do??????

To me, this sounds like Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) which is hypothesized as a subset of autism. According to the PDA Society, PDA is distinguished as such:

Resisting and avoiding the ordinary demands of life, e.g. This might include getting up, joining a family activity or getting dressed to name but a few. This may be the case even when the person wants to do what has been suggested, such as watching a film that they have been looking forward to. When initial avoidance strategies, such as those described below fail; the situation can quickly escalate and some individuals may resort to more extreme measures to avoid the demand such as shouting, swearing, hitting and damaging property. Others may, shut down, withdraw or run away. This is a meltdown and should be viewed as a panic attack. [source]

For more information on PDA, check out the following links:

What is PDA?

Pathalogical Demand Avoidance

Pathalogical Demand Avoidance

-Sabrina