#personal~🍓

[systims]

Johnnie Guilbert Stimboard

made for a friendmate/headmate

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[zenwinter]

Hermit-A-Day, Day 11, Cub 🧪

[suguruverse]

idk if anyone has ever talked about this but katsuki REFUSES to buy you flowers from the grocery store. like will not even look at it and will steer you away if he even catches you looking at it.

he genuinely looks at you crazy when you ask him why he’s avoiding the huge display of flowers because he cannot fathom why you would want “those cheap ugly shits” over a bouquet from the florist filled with your favourite flowers.

you pout when he drags you out the grocery store and back home only to wake up the next morning to a fresh bouquet on your bedside table with an obnoxiously large orange ribbon that screams katsuki name and a homemade breakfast from yours truly <3333

[buntress]

⌖ What Is Non-Harmful Transitioning?

[PT :: What is non-harmful transitioning?]

As the term Desirdae has become more popular, a thing I have noticed is people not understanding what "non-harmful transitioning" means. Which is quite fair! It's a very, very vague term that can be used in a multitude of ways. So, in order to curb this slightly, I feel it necessary to elaborate on what, to me at least, non-harmful transitioning entails. If the original coiner, @ghosting-plural-userboxes or @desirdae-archive would like to add anything I would love that! Ty for making this term btw, it's been genuinely so helpful <3

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⌖ What is harmful transitioning?

[PT :: What is harmful transitioning]

I think in order to get into what non-harmful transitioning is, we should first get into what qualifies as harmful transitioning. So, to me, harmful transitioning is as follows ::

Transitioning by using methods of self harm, such as cutting, burning, bleaching ones skin, etc.

Transitioning by harming others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually // metaphysically.

Transitioning by putting yourself in traumatic situations, such as putting oneself in a situation to be groomed, assaulted, physically or emotionally harmed, etc.

Transitioning to have a disorder // disability one does not have, such as harming oneself in order to acquire a physical disability or enacting stereotypical behaviors to "act" as if they have a certain mental illness or disability.

Transitioning in a way that harms minorities of all kinds. Such as using blackface, yellowface, asianfishing, etc in order to "transition" towards different POC identities.

Transitioning to hateful and bigoted ideologiess that harm others.

Simply put, transitioning in a way that actively harms yourself or others is harmful transitioning.

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⌖ So, what is non-harmful transitioning?

[PT :: So, what is non-harmful transitioning?]

Having gotten some basics of what counts as harmful transitioning out of the way, let's get onto examples of non-harmful transitioning!

Dyeing ones hair as a form of transition.

Partaking in more foods of a specific culture in order to feel more comfortable, while acknowledging one is not part of that culture (this enters a grey area with headmates, as not everything is black and white)

Accepting ones disabled traits, that they already have, and learning that no matter how they experience it, it is enough.

Learning more about cultures in order to feel more comfortable with yourself, while still acknowledging you are not a part of that culture. (Again, gets muddy when it comes to headmates)

Getting piercings, body modifications, etc done by professionals as a form of transition.

Starting HRT or other forms of medical transitioning.

Getting cosmetic surgeries (nothing that would change the appearance of your own race, of course) done by professionals as a form of transition.

And likely many other ways to do it that aren't harmful! There are really, truly, so many ways to go about this that aren't harmful I promise you. I can think of an infinite number of ways to do this stuff non-harmfully.

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⌖ What makes Desirdae different from TransID?

[PT :: What makes Desirdae different from TransID?]

Simply the means of which one may transition. Desirdae is firmly anti-harmful transitioning for any reason while TransID is pro all forms of transition, harmful or not. You can see this in terms like transnazi, transrace, transplural, and many transharmful identities that it is often encouraged to transition into these things, despite the harm such things do. Desirdae, on the other hand, actively discourages harmful transitioning. So while things like Desirharmful, Desirskintone, etc do exist it is actively said by the creators that one should not harmfully transition into these terms. I will say, many do not make it clear that for some terms there is no way to non-harmfully transition*. But I chock this up to people being, rightfully, tired of constantly having to explain their experience with this term isn't inherently harmful. But it is still an issue I believe should be fixed when possible. * [PT :: there is no way to non-harmfully transition]

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I understand the worries many have towards Desirdae. We do not want just another TransID clone to take over and create yet another space full of radqueers who push for things like legalization of non-consensual relationships or what have you. That is a fair worry to have, and it was a worry I initially had as well. But in exploring these terms and the community that they have fostered, I have found that this is quite the opposite. It is a community based purely on consent, recovery, and a safe space for people to speak on their issues where as radqueer and transID often push anti-recovery and anti-consent rhetoric. This is the key difference between these two terms, I believe. One feeds into harmful behaviors and seemingly pushes people to the worst versions of themselves while the other is more of a "hey, I understand these feelings, I feel this way too, it's not OK but we can recover together."

If I missed anything, am incorrect about something, or if one has questions I myself am more than happy to answer. While this is not a term and community I created, it is one I am happy to be a part of and want to grow into something helpful.

Thank you for reading, I hope you all have a lovely day. Remember to be kind, anger towards fellow mentally ill queers does nothing but push the agenda of the oppressors <3

[sourisking]

Reminder that Harm Against Minors is a tumblr report option that should be used!

[Reminder that harm against minors is a tumblr report option that should be used!]

I’m so serious when I say this but if someone says they want to rape children fucking report them. Instantly. Tumblr will request an email response with links, and I’d suggest using a third party archive source if at all possible.

[star-struck-wonderland]

Halloween Agere Moodboard~

For @warmmilku's agere giveaway!!

[fleurpuppet]

🌈you are allowed to enjoy a thing both sexually and non-sexually, simultaneously ! any person that says otherwise is getting sent directly to scary world !!

[rjtbot]

Persoschizoid/persoSzPD

A persoclusterA subterm for individuals attracted to pwSzPD, people with traits of SzPD, or people one suspects as having SzPD.

PersoclusterA: PPD, StPD

Taglist: @radiomogai (ask to be added or removed)

[honeydew-wecantwo]

[start ID: a meme showing someone's soul leaving their body, with the text ontop of it reading: anti-racism leaving people's bodies as soon as you tell them race is a social construct /End ID.]

[systims]

Jake Webber Stimboard

for my friendmate/headmate

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[bunni-v1]

Angsty hurt/comfort for Lighter on his birthday (and any other day) has my entire heart 💜

Imagine just taking him gently in your arms, kissing all over his face, massaging out any knots in his shoulders, back, and arms. Running fingers through his silky hair to relieve tension as his head rests in your lap. Using unscented lotion to stretch the joints in his hands and simultaneously moisturize his calloused hands. He’s uncharacteristically quiet during the unprompted pamper session… swallowing down a familiar, burning lump in his throat.

“…Why are you doing this for me?”

His voice is hardly a whisper, voice teetering on the edge of breaking. His olive eyes are filling with unshed tears as his surprised expression mirrors your own.

You don’t respond right away, offering a small, genuine smile, taking both his hands up to your lips, kissing across the expanse of them, to each finger, and finally to his palms. The gesture has the tears finally springing free, flowing down his cheeks in rivulets. You lean forward and kiss each eye gently before finally speaking,

“Because I love you. Because you deserve it.”

That’s literally all the guy needs, gentle love and understanding. You don’t have to get what he’s going through, you don’t want to fix him or take it all away, you just want to relieve him for a moment. Remind him that he is loved and cared for despite everything he might be feeling.

It’s not something he can accept so easily, and he always feels unworthy of the attention, but he can’t deny how much he loves it. How much he loves you. How much he needs you.

On days where he’s feeling that low, like on his birthday, it’s good to have that reminder that he really is loved and adored by you.

[2timequeer]

I made permasleepy userboxes!!!!

[etclouie]

derek morgan aus react to walking in on you changing!

warnings;  derek morgan au’s x fem!reader, take these with a pinch of sexual tension, if i missed any lmk !

personal trainer!derek — you and Derek had a last one on one session, no one else in the gym apart from the receptionist that sat out front. you’d ducked into the locker room to change, the door opening to reveal Derek. he paused for a moment, before shamelessly letting his eyes roam across your body, his voice lust struck, “mhm why don’t we do a new kind of pre workout?”

fake dating!derek — the case was long, but you were slowly drawing the unsub out of hiding, tonight you were heading out to a bar to try and get him to strike. you were in the hotel room getting changed, but Derek walked in before you’d finished, a lazy smirk gracing his face, “shit i’m sorry sweetheart”. you tried to cover yourself but he only shook his head, “but hey, you look good. best looking fake girlfriend, might have to explore this after the case”

come celebrate my one year!!

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd culture is causing drama with people just to get supply. like fuck yeah, give me all your attention. obsessively hate me. all you do is flatter me, you are nothing else except things for me to laugh at, lmao

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[lycanthropypersonified]

Out of curiosity, how do you see Transid folks after they’ve transitioned if they chose to do so?

Do you only consider them cis if they’ve fully transitioned to exactly what their cis counterparts are/can do physically?

Do you consider them cis regardless of whether or not they fully match up with the cisID?

Do you call them tris or use a similar term?

Do you still consider them Trans?

Personally, I still consider the person trans, since there was a time when they still identified as that ID even without their reality lining up with it, and that what makes someone Transid imo, if that makes sense! Obviously if they want me to refer to them as something else I’ll agree but usually I’ll just refer to them as trans on default if I know!

[irukasito]

every night im like "maybe reading one more 40k word ooey gooey fanfiction about the same two characters falling in love will finally fill the bottomless pit inside me that is my aching need to love and be loved (which thrives and thoroughly disrupts my inner life despite my avoidant tendencies and deep fear of intimacy) and fix me" and then it doesn't