#petty and/or negative

[capriciouscaprine]

a student had a seizure in first block, second block talked over instruction, there was a fight in the halls as students were heading to third block,

and it's only Monday 😫

[thejakeformerlyknownasprince]

Now I have to ask- WHY do you hate Pacific Rim?

Okay, fair warning, this is about as bitter and salty and small-minded as day-old caviar. But. My bitter, salty (probably fishy) opinion:

Pacific Rim is only a good movie because it's a well-written story about robots punching monsters.

That's it. That's all there is to the movie.

I started out merely disappointed by Pacific Rim. We went gaga for the preview materials that promised these unique well-rounded character pairs and trios with these idiosyncratic robots from all these different Pacific nations... And then the movie itself is about some bland white American guy who pilots a robot named a racial slur, the second most fleshed-out team is bland white Australian guys, and the Chinese team is there, kind of, in the background, but don't worry they're going to die first. The "character-driven story" turned out to be "various characters take turns punching aliens" but, sure, whatever, I love the MCU so why not.

The day I went from "Pacific Rim is overrated" to "Pacific Rim is the worst thing that has ever happened to human civilization, I'm extremely normal about this" was the day I saw a Tumblr post suggesting we replace the Bechdel test with the Mako Mori test. Because Mako Mori has her own plot and doesn't kiss North Carolina at the end, making her a whole new type of feminist icon.

To which I was like:

We are talking about the same movie here, right? The Pacific Rim that can't even pass the Bechdel test? The Pacific Rim that's all about might-makes-right, the Pacific Rim that has ONE speaking role for ONE female character in its (from IMDB) 50-person cast? The Pacific Rim that repeatedly puts its only female character in danger and has her rescued by first Idris Elba then North Carolina? THAT Pacific Rim?

Is there a different Mako Mori I haven't met? Because the one I've seen a) has a character arc driven by deciding whether to obey her father or follow her heart, which is as inoffensive and stale as an unblessed communion wafer, b) does nothing that Ellen Ripley didn't do 30 years earlier, but with about 5% of the character depth Ripley got, and c) stands there in silence looking sad as two men punch each other over the question of her virtue.

Any post assuming this movie invented the idea of "small Asian woman kicks monster ass" needs to learn its damn history. Especially the ones acting like her being physically small is somehow a feminist bonus. There's something embarrassingly ahistorical about the whole thing.

And look. I get how we got here. I know how easily Tumblr backs you into a rhetorical corner of "calling a story Good can never mean merely 'enjoyable'; calling a story Good must mean 'virtuous'". Until next thing you know you're arguing that actually, shipping Obi-Wan/Darth Vader is a net good for all of society, because gay divorced middle-aged tyrants who use supplemental oxygen and murdered their exes in a custody dispute over the one kid (out of two) they actually care about deserve to see themselves in sci fi too! You only end up in that corner because half the time you're arguing against someone who says that shipping Obi-Wan/Darth Vader is literally the same thing as supporting father-son incest, so your real reasons for shipping them (1. foe yay, 2. old man yaoi) seem wildly insufficient.

Much of what I see about Pacific Rim seems neck-deep in the "it's not allowed to be a Good Movie unless it single-handedly dismantles the patriarchy" fallacy. There's nothing progressive about shipping two dudes best known for chopping off each other's body parts with laser swords. And there's nothing progressive about a movie having its only female character hug the male protagonist at the end instead of kissing him. You're allowed to like a thing just because it's well-made, without acting like a bog-standard normatively-broey action flick somehow invented a new form of feminism. Anyway, "Pacific Rim is a perfectly fine movie" is the hill I will die upon, heretical though it may be.

[horse-breed-a-day]

find it kinda funny that whenever theres a post with a buckskin horse i will almost without a doubt get a reblog saying that its Spirit haha! like it could be a shire! but if its buckskin its Spirit

[cologona]

Sometimes I feel like maybe I’m being too hard on Bruce because he’s a grieving father and you don’t judge people for how they get by when the dead usually stay dead, but then I remember that the Waynes are the closest thing Gotham (maybe even the whole of America in the DC universe) has to royalty and Batman claimed the city for himself, so when Bruce turns abandons the responsibility he himself took on for getting Jason justice, it’s not a just a dead body he turns his back on, he’s betraying a member of the people he claimed. A citizen he was supposed to serve.

[our-ltumblurg]

real life people can't queerbait. except for misha collins and dreamwastaken. those guys pulled it off somehow

[iron-sides]

actually im not done complaining abt derap not liking hannah because in what fucking world is that an acceptable or even smart thing to say directly to someones face when you are trying to recruit them. if u didnt want her on the team why not just say that?? but now you just look like yr deliberately sabotaging recruitment efforts like :/ i get that hes playing a character but could that character include fewer WHO RAISED YOU moments my fucking god

[capriciouscaprine]

OMG this lady is a TEXTBOOK manipulator jfc

not only did she pull out the classic, "I'm sorry IF I offended you", but constantly slithered out of being asked if the "standard practices" were actually written down anywhere, and she finally admitted without admitting that they weren't, so really they're just HER standards that she's annoyed everyone else doesn't follow

THEN (not sequentially, just what I want to talk about next) she pulled out that she's "neurodivergent" WITHOUT ACTUALLY SPECIFYING as her reason why she wants conversations to happen face-to-face and not via email, and it felt as though she was attempting to get me to open up there or relate to me emotionally, which, bestie, we're at work and that is privileged information, like hell am I disclosing ANYTHING to you

she even used me asking to have conversations about students and their accommodations via email from a previous interaction AGAINST ME by saying that's why she @ 'd me in an email chain WITH A PARENT INCLUDED, because somehow having conversations via email means including everyone in every conversation

she kept changing the subject to be about "supporting students" with tons of appeals to emotion, when I thought she was there to apologize to me?? this isn't about them, they're fine, WE'RE the ones having this conversation about OUR interaction

she was SUPER nit-picky about words, too, specifically the words "behind the scenes" and "promised" while ignoring the context they were used in, aka THE REASON I PREFER EMAIL because they I have time to choose the most accurate words without being put on the spot (which matters a lot when dealing with students' legal rights!!!) and it's much harder for the context of the full sentence to be ignored

she kept bringing up her years of experience and emphasized that of course I would make mistakes, I'm a new teacher! when the "mistake" was me not conforming to the standards SHE has set without actually informing anyone first

she offered to type up a record of our conversation, except she began narrating a summary that was absolutely not what was said and left out significant details, but when I pointed out that every person brings their own interpretation of events to a summary like that, she said she had tons of practice not including "emotion" in her writing while bringing up her PhD program (which felt like she was highlighting the differences in our education levels when, because she's in the program but hasn't actually completed her degree yet, she and I technically have the same level of education)

by the end of the conversation, she was insinuating that I was the one being difficult and that I wasn't conforming to the culture of the school "because the rest of us have conversations", which is extra wild given that she's the only person I've been insisting on email communications with, to the point that when I wanted support in working with her, I requested and had a face-to-face sit-down with one of the supervisors she had chosen to cc on her email chain!

I really don't want her to be the reason I end up leaving this school... which, hey, I'm in charge of me, so that decides the way I handle our future interactions, doesn't it?

what I do want to get better at is maintaining a breezy, cheerful demeanor in our future interactions; my emotions rise internally, and then it gets hard to think, so then I say too much of what I'm actually thinking (analyzing behaviors, comparing the scripts she used to ones used by serial gaslighters and saying out loud that I "understand her" with absolutely the wrong inflection, getting way too BBC Sherlock-esque (which I'm both not intelligent enough to pull off and that character didn't even pull it off so it's doubly cringe), etc, not actually saying rude things like people usually mean when they use that phrase)

I need to be faker without it being obvious that is what I'm doing; I think it already works in my favor that I AM actually cheerful and outgoing with my other coworkers and have little side conversations with them in the halls (I actually worry about being too talkative with them!), so if she attempts to bring up our interactions to other people in the building it will hopefully be immediately apparent that her perception of me is unique to my interactions with her and perhaps there is something more going on than whatever she comes up with

[keepingmyoptionsfluid]

I'm begging y'all to be sane. I get that it's exciting a show has got to 100 episodes and the show should celebrate that but also I need to be very clear (as someone who works in TV and has done for a fair amount of time), sometimes a big "milestone" episode are just a regular episode from a story perspective. Stop building it up to be something it probably won't be because the vitriol and ire that some of you have shown to the cast is frankly repugnant and you should be fucking ashamed of yourselves.

[sonknuxadow]

....... anyway . im gonna go play sonic adventure 2 now

[fallen-exorcist]

I find it hilarious when Ch@rlastors use the deal scene from ep7 to prove the ship has "so much chemistry" and that its "so romantic", like I challenge you to find one screenshot from that scene where Charlie doesn't look uncomfortable as hell.

Omg scared/uncomfortable girl and manipulative guy who doesn't respect her boundaries using her at her lowest for his own personal gain, peak romance😍!!! /s

[madelynpryor]

qsmp when they have to remember the two most active members of their server exist

[qqquib]

a big thing with a lot of what dreams saying falls into stuff i’ve communicated to my therapist about. mainly being, who owes you communication in a situation like this? is it owed to him to get responses to people that don’t like him? is it owed to him communication about situations he is directly involved in from people who don’t like him? from people who don’t want to talk to him? (tommy having blocked dream)

it’s honestly so tough to say, especially with no one knowing truly what’s happened bc so much of it is private and between the CCs personally.

but it really comes down to, do these people owe dream this communication, and if not, where do you go from here?

if they do, i feel like this could all be easily avoided. let people tell dream that his actions have made them upset, and then he takes accountability and then they move on.

if they don’t, truly, they should stop talking about dream then. leave him alone, move forward and beyond that time in your life. is it fair to keep talking about him? i mean, sure, in private circles.

very tough, especially with all of this being so public. everyone should just state who they like/dislike and then not interact with people who they dislike, or keep interacting with people they do like.

[capriciouscaprine]

nothing like someone butting their head in and making themself your boss when they're literally newer to your school and you are 🙄

does she have more years of experience in her career? absolutely. is she pulling "school norms" out of her ass and acting like we're stupid for not already following them? yep, and reporting to admin if you're non-compliant, too!

the mature part of me knows that I need to disengage with this person and simply avoid them going forward, and the petty part of me knows she wears clothes that are far too tight and heels that are too tall and she looks ridiculous struggling her way down the hall in them

mostly I'm just glad I'm not a busybody alienating all of my coworkers while pretending I'm better than them

[hyperions-light]

Funny to me how so many ppl who bitch about the game have like ____writes or ____writer usernames and yet they cannot provide any sort of useful or structured critique based on evidence like they should be able to do if they have ever worked with any other writers in a workshop/critical setting ✌️

(Obv you don’t have to have done this to be able to write well but the dichotomy between them presenting themselves as authoritative in that realm by putting it in their username and then not demonstrating skills one would hope to see in someone who writes frequently (critical analysis, insightful critique based in the text) is funny to me. I admit this is both mean and petty, which is why it’s not going in main tags lol)

[beck-nightengale]

I should not have been given the powers to mod this game...

"hahaha you've just never been hugged enough" "yeah you'd know something about that wouldn't you" "HRRNNGNGGNNN"

And bonus video featuring the JS Rumpled Rugs mod's comedic timing and then some.

[charafansmile]

It annoys me when I see someone comment on a post that they "only ship canon ships" and bring up alphyne and asgoriel.. I have to stop myself from getting in pointless arguments about how asgoriel is not canon. Not in the current timeline of undertale and certainly not in deltarune. DOA ass ship. You don't even learn they were together until it's obvious toriel divorced him!!!! Nobody has played a version of the game where they are currently married!!!! You would think with the way people talk about asgoriel that she forgave him and they got back together!! But! no!! Their ship sailed and sunk before the title even appears!!!! and unlike alphyne their isint any ending where they do!!!! Asgoriel is about as canon as soriel and papyton are!!!!! You are longing for a past you never experienced!!!!! Stop it!!!!!