hiiiii, mini-blog-haitus!!
patrick & jacky are getting married in TEN DAYS!!!
(that's p & j!! us!!)
see you guys in september~
❤️✨
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i know i should probably just wishfully think my way into believing that that little girl who gets triggered by the word 'no' is ok now, but...
... do you have an update on her? is it good news? if not, do you have any good news for me?
I do, actually, and it is good news! She's basically my bonus child, and we (husband and I) had several good discussions with her parents (now good friends) about spanking and discipline.
Side note: We didn't go into it as a lecture of "we're right you're wrong, here's how to parent your child". It came up naturally one day when said little girl hit her mom, and mom 'swatted her butt' about it and told her "no hitting," and my husband who was right there automatically went, "But remember, when grown ups hit it's okay." And that made the mom stop and think. We're lucky she's a blunt person to begin with and openly appreciates others also being straightforward. Cue a long discussion about the research behind spanking, especially for kids of a young age, and alternative discipline methods.
Not just because of that, but the overall result is that they actually spank way, way less now, if ever. (For which I'm very grateful!!) She's still rather... averse to confrontation or situations where she thinks she's in trouble, but she doesn't have the panic response anymore. She also doesn't default to thinking she's going to get spanked, and she can handle a simple no in a normal way now. There are some times when she gets a bit tense about us correcting her or asking her not to do something, but it's not as frequent or as visceral now, and I can confidently say that when this change started was directly correlated to when her parents started spanking less (and going to family therapy for unrelated reasons, but it helped communication in all aspects, so here's my obligatory plug for therapy even if you're not mentally ill).
In fact, she's come such a long way that once a few months ago, she pushed our soap dispenser off the counter and it shattered. Instead of hiding, bursting into tears, or otherwise having an "Oh crap it's my fault and I'm so scared" moment, she openly admitted to us that she had pushed it on purpose because it was in her way. She was sorry it broke, but she didn't panic thinking we were going to be mad at her. (And we weren't; we explained that we don't knock things over on purpose even if they're in the way, that's when we ask for help, and she apologized and that was that.)
So yes, good news! She's a fun, happy little girl, my daughter's best friend, and in most ways your average preschooler.
And a fun, unrelated anecdote from her: She can't say the "k" sound yet and replaces it with a "t." This is fine, and quite normal for a lot of kids. But her favorite show, which she talks about and reenacts all the time, is called Super Kitties. It's deeply hilarious, and I have to work hard to keep a straight face when she's telling me all about those there Super Titties, which are, of course Titties, but they're Titties that are superheroes. Her favorite Titty is the pink Titty. She sure loves those Titties.
Kids are a never ending source of entertainment, y'all.
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It’s my Birthday!
How Am I celebrating?
Mikes harder with so Mcdonalds and an Oreo Bundt cake for dinner❤️
My family got me cake and donuts which is amazing, love them to bits. Tomorrow we are going to a restaurant for dinner which is awesome too. Very grateful.
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(I'm still on a break but I just wanted to say this)
YALL ARE FAKE. YALL ARE SO FAKE 😨😭
How dare yall not tell me there's a pjm discord (Ngl I understand this If I was yall I wouldn't wanna invite me either ☠️)
BUT HOW DARE YOU ALL NOT TAG ME IN EVERY OCTOBELLA FANART THAT IS JUST TOO FAR!! I feel so shocked, so betrayed, so under appreciated.. 😔/j
Oh and also I guess I'm making a pjm au where all the characters are grown up and have cool as detailed asf outfits. Stay tuned 😍
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Hello!!! How are you doing? I hope all is well :))
I'm wondering: does PJ have any hobbies?
I can say things are going fine. I hope things are going amazing for you random anon!
As for hobbies... he likes to paint and sketch, considering he does that a ton. Though he doesn't like his style too much.
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Update for you all!
Man, it has been a rough past few months, moving to a new apartment, having the apartment abated for asbestos, and on top of that starting a new job, I have been majorly swamped!
It’s been a struggle, and I’m slowly but surely coming back to this blog and PJ. Your asks won’t be ignored, but please be patient as I try to manage my time so I can do artwork.
If you would like to help me, please consider giving me a Ko-fi , as additional funds will give me more free time to do artwork and asks. I also plan soon on getting commissions set up so look forward to that. In the meantime, here is an update of some PJ stuff I’ve been working on.
💜💙— BUY ME A KO-FI —💜💙
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