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[jcrayonbox]

New Year - Same Me

New Year! New Me!  

You are probably still seeing that everywhere you look right now.  Social media posts are full of declarations and desires for the changes we all look to make in the new year.  It is as if one day on the calendar will magically transform us all into goal-squashing, super-fit, and ultimately better versions of ourselves.

New Year’s Resolutions are a common tradition.  We set our sights high on huge prizes like losing a bunch of weight or paying off thousands of dollars.  

The truth is – most resolutions fail before mid-month.  The New York Post suggests most people make it 12 days with their new resolution before giving up.  Trends would also suggest that we not only quit our resolutions, but we swing hard in the opposite direction.  

If I can’t lose weight I might as well get this caramel macchiato.  If I cannot pay off all my debt I might as well buy myself a new phone. Sound familiar?  

Does this sound like you? You are not alone.  

It is January 9th of this new year, and I am the same me.  New year – same me.  

Am I doing something wrong? No!  Neither are you.

While there is nothing wrong with having New Year’s Resolutions or goals or whatever you want to call it, I just want to be clear up front.  Flipping the calendar does not change us.  Changes happen incrementally over time with dedication and focus. Habits take at least 21 days of consistency to build.  One day at a time.  

Do you get frustrated when your resolutions fail?  Do you feel upset with yourself because you cannot seem to stay committed to big changes?

Welcome to the club. It is called being human.

I gave up New Year’s resolutions several years ago and have not looked back.  My new year’s resolution was to stop having them. Instead – I like to set myself up for success by focusing on small, incremental changes I can make.  

So, instead of resolutions, I began to choose themes for each year.  Some may call it a word of the year.  This word or words serve as a guide for any decisions I have to make that year, or for any plans I have to make.  For example, last year one of my words was Simple.  (Yes, I had more than one, but we’ll talk about that later). Whenever I felt overwhelmed by a decision or confused about what to do, I thought about my word.  How could I simplify each choice?  What was I doing to overcomplicate things?  (I am really good at that)!  Where was I making things harder than they needed to be? Simple.  

By filtering processes and decisions through that one word, I was able to give myself direction.  It was never about doing a big, grand thing. I did not need to alter my life dramatically.  Filtering choices through that word was something I could do all year.  

So, am I a new person? No.  I am still me.  I am just a me moving towards a new horizon.  I would suggest every day is an opportunity for growth.  None of us wake up the same as we were the day before.  So, in a small way, we are a new person every day. Every day can be an opportunity for you to be the you that you want to be.  Each day will then give you a new chance to create successes and learn from failures.  

It is okay if you are not a new you this year.  

Maybe instead of having these big grand plans every new year, which set us up for failure because we try too big, let’s focus on daily changes we can make.  

I am still me.  I have dreams, plans, and aspirations.  But I am not setting my life by the calendar.  I can be a new me every day.  Or I can be the same me as yesterday - trying yet again to live in the moment.  Because, one day at a time is all any of really get.  Why waste it?  

New year – same me.  

[cremelovelace345]

It’s almost that time of the year again! Christmas carols, presents, singing and blocking out bad-mind.

[emdeesimmer]

its 12:49 am and I'm laying in bed eating flaming hot cheetos & playing sims ... this is my life

[dopamine-nicotine]

Life right now.

Being drunk. Opening a mediocre snack (cheese and peanuts) but being kinda happy bc it’s healthy.... And then dropping half of it on the floor

[ronaxenamu]

Dont be concerned, this is a look. Did live on insta, catch the video soon to figure out how to fight depression in style. . . . . . #arte #selfie #pinkhair #pink #portrait #artist #artista #sad #depression #fun #newyear #sameme #newyearsameme https://www.instagram.com/p/B6wM2OfBtSD/?igshid=3698ewzmwms8

[vivalavagabond1]

#happynewyear #livefromtheoffice #iwantthisheadpiece #nobutreally #newyork #newyear #sameme #thatsnotsobadright #snapchatfilters #letmegetbacktowork #cant #stop #hashtagging (at Bryant Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/BsIuzGfBZcd/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1gqjavty8t7nu

[karinaknowsbest101-blog]

[keepfaith92]

What are sisters for if not convincing you to skip class so they don’t have to drive you.

[blackandchaotic]

So I have fashion shows and selfie parties when I get new things. I’m not even going to lie... it’s one of the only perks to being an adult. . When I was a kid, I loved getting mail. Now that I’m an adult, I send it to myself. . New swimsuit that will never see water. . #selfcare #retailtherapy #newyear #sameme #thirsttrappin #summerbody #wintersolstice # (at Durham-Raleigh, NC) https://www.instagram.com/p/BsciSLVgKaj/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1gayoot1x1hni

[mamashaysaid]

Happy New Year 2019

"Just cus the world was hard on you doesn't mean you gotta be hard on the world. Let people get dealt with accordingly. Let go and live on with your life. 💜"

[vegan-dweeb]

New Year, same me. 🥂 . . . . . #newyear #sameme #nye #2019 #booze #suckit (at San Diego, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/Br633niHGIn/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=16jcr03eebub5

[reneesrockingredesign]

New video in a new place! Check the comments on how to see it! #new #sameme #excited #ValentinesDay https://www.instagram.com/p/CZ7ehmhOxRL/?utm_medium=tumblr

[featherandskull]

New year, same clothes…. favs @shop12thtribe x @thesaltyblonde shacket & always @beyondyoga spacedye leggings . . . . . . . . . . . . . #newyearsameclothes #casualstyle #casualoutfit #myeverydaylook #whatiwear #stylepost #styleguide #cozyvibes #featherandskull #lookoftoday #mylifestyle #sameme #fashionforeveryone (at Camano Island, Washington) https://www.instagram.com/p/CYmL10cJq8t/?utm_medium=tumblr

[saraphia]

Onwards & upwards! 🌈✈️ #onwardsandupwards #aimhigh #skiesthelimit #reachforthestars #newyear #newgoals #newdreams #newadventures #sameme #fineart #wallart #homedecor #hamptonsart #blueacreseastport #saraphia (at Eastport, New York) https://www.instagram.com/saraphia/p/CYRzWwJlg_C/?utm_medium=tumblr

[rhymeontime]

May this year be marginally better than the last. Hope your night was as fabulous as mine. I’ll be back at @totallyawesomebarsavannah tonight hosting karaoke at 10pm, come see me. I live for the grind. Happy New Year. #happynewyear #newyear #sameme #selfie #angles #citygirl #karaoke #queen #totallyawesomebar #shenanigans #taillights #chihuahua #mochabean #tinyqueen #dogsofinstagram #whaticomehometo #mywholeheart #nye (at Totally Awesome Bar) https://www.instagram.com/p/CYMyKeCp0NJ/?utm_medium=tumblr

[msmiki777-blog]

Feels so good to be back in the gym!! #shoulders & #back day with a 20 min cardio warm up in the #treadmill. #startingover #53andbeingme #changingchapters #newjob #sameme #justgettingbetter (at Newtown Rec. Center & Gym) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUVtcw7h2wq/?utm_medium=tumblr