#sapphic bd/sm

[cherryluvss]

“Cmon baby, you can take it” as she spreads me open and slides it in, placing a small kiss on my forehead.

[tactfullyinappropriate]

This is part rant, part sex advice so read at your own discretion. Also one of those posts I'll get a lot of flak for.

In lesbian nsfw content on tumblr dot com one of the most prevalent sentiments is 'I want to pleasure my partner' (insert any variation on it) which is fair and all, and there are a lot of service tops around so it makes sense really. But. For some of us who have difficulty experiencing orgasm or even enjoying sex at all, making our pleasure the focal point of the experience is the absolute worst thing you could do.

It's a nice sentiment, I guess, but if it doesn't actually produce pleasure, is it really that nice? And before you come at me with 'some people really are just service tops and they get their pleasure from pleasuring their partner' - I get it, I do. As a top (or dom/me) you have the right to your preferences and you may absolutely refuse to tell your partner 'Your orgasm is inconsequential, I'm gonna fuck you anyway'. Not to mention that approach is verging on kinky and getting near mindfuck territory, which not every top (as in the person doing the penetration in this case) is comfortable with. Heck, not every dom/me is comfortable with that either - pretending to disregard your partner's pleasure can be a particular flavor of kink not everyone is into.

Buuut.. a lot of what I'm seeing here comes across more as a lack of real-world experience rather than a self-aware preference to focus on your partner's pleasure. Like for example, the amount of 'overstimulation' posts I'm seeing is just wildly disproportionate compared to the amount of women who can be forced to orgasm again and again, and again. This has never been my experience on either side of the dynamic, nor the experience of any of my friends or acquaintances. More often than not, women have trouble reaching a climax and can't really be "forced" into it.

Orgasms are not just a bodily sensation triggered by a certain type of mechanical stimulation. They require you to be in the right headspace as well. So if you actually want to bring about an orgasm, dropping the pressure may be (I want to say usually is) your best bet.

Look, I get it. I've been with women who come from a 2-minute clit rub. I didn't feel particularly accomplished with them... but they do exist! How wonderful for them and the people who just love pleasuring them. The rest of us however? 'Your pleasure is my pleasure' is the worst approach with us. Like, thanks, now if I don't come not only am I bruising your ego but also diminishing your pleasure? That's A LOT of pressure put on my fickle mental focus and unreliable vagina.

All of this is to say: it's fine to have your fantasies of overstimulating a partner to the point of incoherence. But be prepared that the reality of sex may be very, very different depending on how your partner's body and mind work. And sometimes, if your partner's pleasure really is that important to you, pretending it's the complete opposite might be the key to the castle - if you can get with that of course. Nothing's done a better job at helping me let go and experience actual pleasure than a partner's response to my 'I'm not sure if I can come though...':

"That's okay, baby. I don't need you to come for me to enjoy your body."

Um. Yes, Sir.

*I use the word 'woman' here purely based on my actual real-life experience so far but I'm sure this is applicable to a number of different identities. Even for some cis men orgasms are not as easy and effortless as porn makes it seem, I've been told.

[switchythals-gr27]

Vocal dom who likes to talk their sub through their orgasms 🤝 sub who goes quiet except for gasping breaths, whining their dom’s titles, and begging so cutely

[mymelody-sapphic]

reblog if you would let a 5’2” girl put you on a collar and a leash and dominate you

[cherryluvsss]

Hearing "you're gonna make mommy cum" is like music to my ears. Am I really doing that much of a good job? Am I making you proud?

[squirting-sub]

My dom made me present my ass (face down ass up in front of her) and beg for her to bruise me. Then, she laughed and made fun of me for how wet my thong got from it. "Look at that wet spot. Someone's soaking through her panties."

[saphig-iawn]

I love the chance to take one of my Dolls' kinks and add a new spice or twist to the mix, give them something new to live in their head rent-free. One of my Dolls adores being locked in place, but in a recent play session, I wanted to press some more of her buttons.

She loves that helpless inevitability that comes with some of our sessions, so I changed her lock in place command just a little. I liken it to contagious petrification. First it starts in her toes and begins an ever so slow and even sweeter journey upwards; turning her body into stone. But there was a catch: if she touched a part of her petrified body, that part would begin petrifying too.

I had her touch her stiff and still thigh and sure enough; her finger turned, then her fingers, then her hand, and up it spread. The whole time she was whimpering, and desperately trying to keep her wand in that sweet spot. Then, being the tricksy domme I am, I planted a devious little seed in her head by wondering out loud what would happen if she touched her lips with her petrified hand.

I was greeted by her quivering voice, "I want to b-but, I kn-now what'll happen... I... I want to... but.. but.. I- oh god~ oh gohmmmMMmm mmhhmmmmmMMmmm-".

Curiousity got the better of her.

Her moans were delicious. Hearing them get higher and higher as she got closer, as she became a passenger in her own body.

She managed to cum before she fully petrified, but I left her stew for a little, her wand working away at her clit without a single clue its owner was now a little... absent.

[melancholyfleurs]

love giving head while they tell me what to do like yes please grab me by my hair and push me down while you tell me to shut up and eat you out or suck your strap because that’s all my mouth is good for 🥵

yes my mouth absolutely only exists for your own pleasure, use me like your little toy and make me get you off for hours. please I’m begging.

[prettyypearl]

I just wanna be fully blank, mind empty, no thoughts, only good obedient subby girl

[mistressvae]

I've been struggling with sexual things lately

I've been sexually used, and had it disguised as kinks

I feel like this has to be said, sex should always be consentual. No matter what. And with a partner, you should always feel allowed to say no, or say stop.

Kinks should not be an excuse used by terrible people to sexually use and assault people

Kinks are valid, but there is a line, that for me was unfortunately crossed

No matter if you have had sex or not, please be safe, the world is scary and will try to use you and traumatize you

Look for love and care, and then sex 💜

[cherryluvss]

Just hear me out....

Maybe we could listen to my favourite sapphic audios together and recreate them.....

Maybe....

[switchythals-gr27]

Phone sex where the dom can be as loud as they want but the sub has to try and stay quiet.

Talking a cute little pet through their orgasm, telling them all the things you want to do to them. Hearing them try to stay quiet but lose control of their voice because you’re making them feel so good. Every breathy gasp, every choked out word, every whine and whimper encouraging you to keep going

[mymelody-sapphic]

i can’t stop thinking about two dommes having their way with me. i’d be such a good girl, so obedient and willing to give them my body for their pleasure. they turning me into their plaything, claiming all of my holes but also using my body to please themselves. i want to be teased, praised, edged, punished, pleased, degraded, marked and fucked by both of them. i want to see them plot their next move and talk about me like i’m not even there while i’m trapped between both of their bodies. i need to feel two dommes all over me, taking me at the same time, taking turns, being used by one of them while i have to please the other until they decide i can’t take no more.

this is about lesbian sex men dni and stfu

[cherryluvsss]

Just imagining a dom telling their sub to hop on and ride, the double sided strap fucking into both of them, mumbles and whines filling the air around them. As the sub gets close their dom throws their head back and groans "fuck baby, I can almost feel you clenching around this thing"...

When is it my turn to put on a show?

[squirting-sub]

Getting told you look beautiful when tied to a bed spread eagle on your stomach, blindfolded with a plug in your ass and red marks from a flogger on your back and ass hits different.

[saphig-iawn]

living out my 2000s fantasy of having a robot dog toy by trancing one of my puppygirls into a drone and then giving her a puppy programme