#settersramblin

[haikyuusetters]

not sure if anyone’s said this yet, but for my fellow writers out there who want to create stuff like this, OP is right and there are technically 5 steps of change:

1. precontemplation.

the person is still in denial and isn’t even considering changing their behavior yet

2. contemplation.

the person starts to understand why they should maybe change, but they’re still hesitant

3. preparation.

the person has decided to change. they’re making plans to put their goal into action and have possibly made minor changes, but they have not stopped doing the unwanted thing

4. action

the person makes significant steps to change their behavior. they seek help, avoid triggers etc.

5. maintenance.

the person successfully changes their behavior for a period of time, though they mays till face struggles.

Aaaand the floating step which may or may not happen: Relapse

relapse can occur at any point in the process and might happen more than once. or not at all.

This applies to Any type of change! Addiction, diet issues/weight loss, and a variety of bad behavior habits. Of course, as a writer you can start the story at any step or take it as far as you want if step 1 doesn’t happen until after the story begins. People are pointing out that change isn’t linear and that is so true. As someone who’s currently watching a narcissist parent attempt to overcome addiction, I can totally agree. It’s back and forth, sideways, and in circles. Lots of circles ! In the world of fiction there are so many ways to explore any type of change in a character, and I’m always down to talk about it with anyone who wants/ needs to

I feel like the problem ppl have when constructing redemption arcs is people make ‘the character realizes what they’ve done is wrong’ the end step instead of like…one of the earliest ones. a satisfying redemption arc doesn’t resolve when the character first feels sorry, it resolves when a character has really journeyed towards atonement and made enough change in themselves to achieve some kind of symbolic victory over who they used to be

[haikyuusetters]

not to sound like a boomer. but as a millennial hiring manager, a lot of y’all have all the right enthusiasm & decent/good experience but write your resumes like “I good w people n am the most team player n clean every day–“

get someone to proofread 😭 because I’m not risking hiring someone who’s going to message my customers like that. you can bring the sillies to the group chat after you’re hired but not to the resume 🙂‍↔️

[haikyuusetters]

when I walked into work earlier coworker goes “what you doing here on a monday?” and for a moment I stared in horror because for all I fucking knew it WAS monday and I DID accidentally come in on a day off

my dudes it’s Friday

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do you like my quiddler vowels

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can y’all BELIEVE she’s going to be 9 this year? I can’t because she’s still batshit unhinnged

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bitey light of my lifey

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I need all store owners to know that your manager will never truly thrive (& neither will your business) until they have full access to these 4 crucial things:

- a laminator

- a canva pro account

- a company credit card

- a Daiso within walking distance

Trust the process. Thank you for your time

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nah listen I've watched dozens and dozens of squirrels intentionally tease the hell out of my dogs from just out of reach throughout the years. they're having the time of their lives so trust me it's heaven for everyone

People often say they hope their deceased pet dog is chasing squirrels in doggy heaven… what did all of those squirrels do to deserve an afterlife of torment?

[haikyuusetters]

haikyuu movie before and afters because I didn’t bring in an umbrella, had to run through muddy rivers and torrential downpours to get back to my car. didn’t cry during the movie but the sky did✌🏼

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cut my own hair for the first time last night. besties it works and I’ve never been so free

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A 50% OFF REFERENCE IN 2024??!! (also how did you like the movie?)

fuck yeah I never stopped quoting it 🥹

Movie spoiler warning I guess, not that there’s really any surprises?

It is beautiful. I know most people cried but I laughed and giggled a lot of the time like a psycho. because I didn’t know how much I missed it I guess!

I’ve waited 11 years for this y’all

they really released this shit the day before pride I’m dying. Sometimes a marriage is between two volleyball teams who are collectively in love and best friends

Didn’t know how much I needed a movie about Kenma and his two soulmates

the (sickness) foreshadowing jabs felt so blatant and rude but had me lmao’ing literally.

one little complaint is they changed Akaashi’s line “Tsukishima isn’t ours” to “Tsukishima isn’t on our team” which may have just been the subs but either way how homophobic can you get during pride in a yaoi movie🥹

Anyway I will be spewing more words and shit because I’ve felt an emotion

how did YALL like it? 👁️

[haikyuusetters]

remember, super bowl night is the absolute best night to go to trader joe’s and have it virtually to yourself

[haikyuusetters]

a while back, despite my general ick feelings regarding pregnancy, I started writing mpreg purely to spite my M*GA father. well it stuck and I swear I will publish this shit one day to piss him off full force ✌🏼

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when facebook tries to get you to do a “then and now” post with an old pic of a pet who’s now dead

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stop sending me verification codes my brain is all ready to type that password in then you throw me off, make me look at my phone, and boom now I forgot what I was doing

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was anyone else strapped to the dentist chair as a kid in the 90s for no fucking reason 🥹