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simon shoulda been weirder about nathans immortality

[fckeverything-v]

 1. Do you bite or lick ice cream? Lick

 2. What is home to you? Alabama:/

 3. What was the last lie you told? I couldnt tell you

 4. Does everyone deserve the truth? Maybe not?

 6. Describe a moment in which you did something unacceptable in a bad situation. Walk away, move states..

 7. List two things that are more easily done than said. (No, I didn't mix them up.) Being alone & fuck irdk

 8. When was the last time you worked really hard to achieve something? Mhm 4 years ago.

 9. How many all nighters have you pulled? A lotttt haha

 10. If humans didn't evolve to laugh or smile, how would we express our happiness instead? Woah people express that? no but humans would probably bone all the time.

 11. How many romantic "things" or "flings" have you had? Only 2 (technically 3) serious relationships. Many flings.

 12. What is your paradise? I dont have one :(

 13. What is your favorite background noise? (Ex. Water dripping, people talking.) Music

 14. How many hearts do you think you have broken? Only 1... maybe 2 soon. (not you hehe.)

 15. What is the most important thing about electronics? What does this say about you? Finding friendships through social media or other platforms. And mhm probably that im a lonely pos

 16. Why do people care about celebrities? Do you care about celebrities? Because they're pretty. Not really.

 17. What is the most annoying thing someone can do to you? Chew loud.

 18. Do you overexaggerate? What are the pros and cons of this? Eh, yeah. And I cant think of any pros.

 19. Have you played any instruments before? Which instruments? Piano, saxophone

 20. Do you like taking selfies? Why or why not? No. I stare at it until i hate it.

 21. List 3 things you like about yourself?

 22. What is the best advice someone has ever given you? To not give up. As simple as that sounds.

 23. Do you have what it takes to raise a child? Why or why not? No. Dont you need to be mentally stable- i would hope so..

 24. How do you cheer yourself up after a bad day? Play games for hours.

 25. When was the last time you felt awkward? Ha. Literally 5 minutes ago.

 26. Are you introverted or extroverted? Or a mixture of both? Introverted x100000

 27. What constitutes a good friend? Someone who doesnt give up on you amd atleast tries to understand.

 28. Would you rather have a lot of friends to hang out with or just one best friend? One best friend.

 29. In a regular day, what do you not want to hear? 'Hey hows your day going'

 30. What is your dream job? Fuck, is this still a question.. to be a homicide detective in the biggest city i can think of.

 31. Is it better to be lazy but smart or hardworking but unintelligent? Lazy and smart DUH

 32. What is a truth about yourself that others find hard to believe?

 33. What have you always wondered about the other gender? What it feels like to GET OFF. DUH.

 34. Which fantasy world would you like to visit the most? Um my own dreams i guess.

 35. Describe the worst friend you have ever befriended. Im not wasting my time describing that.

 36. Imagine that you have switched bodies with someone you don't know. You can't switch back. What do you do? Live it up. I think id feel happy honestly.

 37. If you found the recipe for immortality, would you sell it or would you burn it? Mh. Sell it, their problem now and im rich.

 38. What is the most important, applicable class you have ever taken? Current events.

 39. Name the last book you read. Dammed- chuck palahniuk

 40. Imagine that you are unable to express emotion. How would this affect your world? No change

 41. When was the last time you made the first move? Um never..

 42. What is your opinion on electronic music such as dubstep or trap? Trash

 43. What was the last tv show youve watched? Rick and Morty.

 44. Do you like and appreciate your life? I appreciate what i am trying to do.

 45. Do you like and appreciate yourself?

 46. When was the last time you cried? Yesterday

 47. What are you scared of? Heights.

 48. What is the most embarrassing, cringe-worthy thing you have ever done? Um live my life everyday probably.

 49. What are some of your hobbies? .... literally WORSE question. I smoke cigs. Is that a hobby?

 50. What is a superficial yet annoying mistake you constantly make?

 51. Are you a good friend? What makes you a good friend? If not, what makes you a bad friend? I feel like i am both. I try to be there for them. But also, im so hard to get so i feel like i might come off the wrong way a lot.

 52. Do you honestly learn from your mistakes? Honestly; nope.

 53. What have you learned the hard way? Not to care what people think. After wasting my whole life. Im starting to realize it doesnt matter.

 54. What is the most important thing to have in order to attain happiness? Follow your heart

 56. Are you a creative or a logical thinker? Both but probably logical.

 57. What is the smartest thing you have ever done?

 58. What is your ideal meal? Fuckk probably so good ass chicken with some gooooood asssssss mac and cheese. As lame as that sounds hahaha.

 59. What is the worst thing someone could do on a date? 1. Go on date with me

 60. Do you like animals? Which kind is your favorite? Yeah and dogs are cute but i love elephants.

 61. If you could turn one legal thing illegal, what would it be? Christmas.

 62. Do you have any guilty pleasures? Of courseeeee (;

 63. What is the best thing that the internet has ever created? Video games.

 64. Do you like playing video games? Which video games? Woah you read my mind of sum? Shooter games.

 65. What is your opinion on beauty in today's society? Bullshit

 66. Are you a morning person? When do you usually wake up? No not really and like 5pm nowadays.

 67. Do you have a favorite Disney movie? Character? No

 68. Would you rather live in the city or in the countryside? City but i love the countryside

 69. Would you rather live near the ocean or in the mountains? Mountains

 70. What are the best things about winter? Cold. Even though i hate it. Snow. Even if i dont see it. Trees dying.

 71. What scares you most about the future? Literally everything.

 72. What makes you feel old? Doing nothing.

 73. How many hours do you spend on the computer or phone on average? Idk like 5.

 74. What are some of your New Year's resolutions? Be a better me.

 75. What is your life story in 6 words?

 76. Describe yourself in one word. Awkward.

 77. What bad habits do you do? Smoking

 78. What genre of music do you listen to? everything

 79. Most prominent childhood memory? I would say, but its embarrassing that that's the memory.

 80. Imagine if you had an older brother. If you already have one, what is it like? If you don't, how would this change your life? My life would be so different. Maybe i would have someone to talk to.

 81. Spirit animal?

 82. Do you believe in horoscopes? Yes

 83. What is the worst advice you've ever been given?

 84. List the 3 most important people in your life right now. 1. Fox 2. Fox 3. Fox

 85. Favorite memory of your family. :/

 86. What do you look for in a relationship? Happiness

 87. Do you have a role model? Why or why not? No. I dont need it. But now that i think about it i have one role model.

 88. What is your opinion on social media? Dumb

 89. Are you a pessimist or an optimist? Pessimest

 90. List some things that you think are overpriced? Food

 91. What is your worst memory or creepiest experience? ..

 92. What superpower would ruin the world? Any of them

 93. What is something you swore you would never do when you grew up, but you did anyway? Exactly what im doing now. Nothing. Giving up. Dropping out

 94. What lessons have you learned from movies and which movies were they? Dont trust yourself when you know you arent okay. Fight club

 95. If you could travel anywhere, where would you go? Europe

 96. How do you approach people? I dont but i guess a smile.

 97. What is your opinion on first impressions? I think theyre okay. Only if you dont judge.

 98. What are some things you did as a child that you no longer do? Lol play with imaginary friends

 99. What languages can you speak? English

 100. What do you think society will be like in 30 years? Lol hopefully ill be dead bc that shit sounds terrible

 101. What do you do on your lazy days? Play games.

 102. What ended your last relationship? I had enough.

 103. Favorite food? Soul food

 104. What is the most terrifying dream you've ever had? Fuck im not saying.

 105. When was the last time you got seriously angry? Last night

 106. What was the last friendship you broke? My friend Ashley:(

 107. Do you have any pet peeves? Close minded people

 108. Who was the last person you gave a hug to? Zack

 109. When was the last time you got seriously stressed? Last night

 110. What part of your personality do you want to change? I dont have one.

 111. Who is the most positively influential person in your life right now? My sister Grace.

 112. What is your biggest motivation? My siblings. Faith & Grace.

 113. What did you want to be when you were little? Honestly i never knew.

 114. What are some things that you are good at? Smokin weed

 115. What is one thing you want to be good at? Social skills

 116. What distracts you the most, especially when you're trying to work? My mind

 117. How important is privacy to you? Eh pretty significant i guess.

 118. If you could create one social norm, what would it be? Be friends with everybody.

 119. What's the craziest lie you've ever told? Um.. i told my 2nd grade teacher my family died in a car crash.

 120. What story do you like to tell about yourself at parties? I dont go to parties haaha

 121. What is the lamest thing that you have seen someone do? have friends and socialize too much like woah calm down you know youre still alone.. right. Like its only you. Hahah jk. But irdk.

 122. What is the stupidest thing you've done to impress someone? a guy invited me over and ive never done anything sexual before so i pretended like i knew and i hurt his dick like bad. (We didnt have sex)

 123. What is your morning routine? Wake up, wash face, brush teeth, get dressed, and then boom feel sad

 124. What's the last thing you did that is worth remembering?

 125. If karma was coming back to you, would it help or hurt you? Help

 126. What is your opinion on playing "hard to get?" Being sort of isolated like not opening up. Which is okay bc if they want you they'll wait.

 127. What are the pros and cons of straightforward? Cons, you may hurt feelings. Pro, you know yourself and what you want to say congratulations

 128. What do you consider "leading" someone on? Being fake happy.

 129. Are you the friendzoner or the friendzoned? Friendzoner

 130. What do you admire most about your friends? How beautiful he is. Inside & out.

 131. What do you admire most about your family? They're still here.

 132. What is your opinion on "going with the flow?" You may forget where you are trying to go. Or who you are.

 133. Do you enjoy talking or listening? Listening.

 134. When is it time to end a friendship? Idk

 135. What is the worst excuse you've ever come up with? Lol too many.

 136. If GPA didn't matter, what courses would you have taken? Doesnt matter.

 137. What are your favorite baby names? Ive always liked Riley for a girl name and idk havent thought Bout a boys name.

 138. When was the last time you had a deep conversation with someone? Maybe a week or so ago. Or a few days ago.

 139. What instantly ruins a conversation? Lack of excitement

 140. Biggest turn ons and turn on offs. Affection. And idk

 143. When did you last do something outside of your comfort zone? God every day.

 147. What do you like about the 21st century? ???

 141. Biggest disappointment. Myself

 142. Do you have any self-restraint? A little.

 144. Prized possession(s)? little things

 145. What is your opinion on second chances? They might seem okay but idk.... depends i guess

 146. Text or call? Both, depends on whom im texting or callin

 148. What advice would you give to yourself 5 years ago? Life is hard and stupid but choices you make will stay with you forever so what are you gonna do, follow your heart or head? (head is better hope)

 149. How organized are you? Eh not really anymore.

 150. Favorite mode of transportation. My car

[fyp-psychology]

Rare Collection of 100 Introvert Quotes That Will Make You Feel Understood

Dear introverts, it’s difficult to understand you. Many people don’t comprehend that solitude and feeling alone are different things. As an introvert, you know that your solitude is a sacred space where you can recharge. We encourage you to have a look at these amazingly thoughtful and profound quotes, which will resonate with all introverts.

1. “People empty me. I have to get away to refill.” ~ C. Bukowski

2.“I think a lot, but I don’t say much.”~ Anne Frank

3.“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” ~ Audrey Hepburn

4.“You see things. You keep quiet about them and you understand. “ ~ The Perks of Being a Wallflower

5.“I’m very picky with whom I give my energy to. I prefer to reserve my time, intensity and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity.” ~ Dau Voire

6.“I am rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

7.“There is a tremendous difference between alone and lonely. You could be lonely in a group of people. I like being alone. I like eating by myself. I go home at night and just watch a movie or hang out with my dog. I have to exert myself and really say, oh God, I’ve got to see my friends because I’m too content with myself.” ~ Drew Barrymore

8.“Silence is only frightening to people who are compulsively verbalizing.” ~ William S. Boroughs

9.“Quiet people have the loudest minds.” Stephen Hawking

10.“In order to be open to creativity, one must have the capacity for constructive use of solitude. One must overcome the fear of being alone.” ~ Rollo May

11.“What if you love knowledge for its own sake, not necessarily as a blueprint for action? What if you wish there were more, not fewer reflective types in the world.” ~Susan Cain

12.“Please kindly go away, I’m introverting.” ~ Beth Buelow, The Introvert Entrepreneur

13.“A good rule of thumb is that any environment that consistently leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

14.“Everyone shines, given the right lighting.” ~Susan Cain

15.“Don’t underestimate me because I’m quiet. I know more than I say, think more than I speak and observe more than you know.” ~ Michaela Chung

16.“Introverts crave meaning so party chit-chat feels like sandpaper to our psyche.” ~ Diane Cameron

17.“I am a minimalist. I like saying the most with the least.” ~Bob Newhart

18.“Let’s clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people. We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

19.“The highest form of love is to be the protector of another person’s solitude.” Rainer Maria Rilke

20.“Introvert conversations are like jazz. Each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

21.“Originality thrives in seclusion free of outside influences beating upon us to cripple the creative mind. Be alone—that is the secret of invention: be alone, that is when ideas are born.”~ Nikola Tesla

22.“In terms of, like, instant relief, canceling plans is like heroin.” ~John Mulaney

23.“Stay true to your own nature. If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don’t let others make you feel as if you have to race. If you enjoy the depth, don’t force yourself to seek breadth.” ~ Susan Cain

24.”Introverts treasure the close relationships they have stretched so much to make.”- Adam S. McHugh

25.“I want to be alone… with someone else who wants to be alone.” – Dimitri Zaik

26.“Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again.” ~Anais Nin

27.“Silence is beautiful, not awkward. The human tendency to be afraid of something beautiful is awkward.” ~Elliot Kay

28.“After an hour or two of being socially on, we introverts need to turn off and recharge … This isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression.” Jonathan Rauch

29.“Your solitude will be a support and a home for you, even in the midst of very unfamiliar circumstances, and from it you will find all your paths.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

30.“There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.” ~Susan Cain

31.“I talked to a calzone for fifteen minutes last night before I realized it was just an introverted pizza. I wish all my acquaintances were so tasty.
” ~ Jarod Kintz

32.“The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it’s a Broadway spotlight, for others, a lamplit desk.” ~ Susan Cain

33.“As a child, I suppose I was not quite normal. My happiest times were when I was left alone in the house on a Saturday.” ~ Charles Bukowski

34.“When you’re an introvert like me and you’ve been lonely for a while, and then you find someone who understands you, you become really attached to them. It’s a real release.” Lana Del Rey

35.“Blessed are those who do not fear solitude, who are not afraid of their own company, who are not always desperately looking for something to do, something to amuse themselves with, something to judge.” ~ Paulo Coelho

36.“I was just confused about why I was feeling overwhelmed all the time and trying to adjust to having people work for me. Surprisingly, I think if you’re known on the Internet, you’re probably an introvert.” ~ Felicia Day

37.“’Come out of your shell’ – that noxious expression which fails to appreciate that some animals naturally carry shelter everywhere they go and some humans are just the same.” ~ Susan Cain

38.“I don’t have time for superficial friends, I suppose if you’re really lonely you can call a superficial friend, but otherwise, what’s the point? ~ Courtney Cox

39.“I owe everything that I have done to the fact that I am very much at ease being alone.” ~ Marilynne Robinson

40.“Introverts listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror for small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.” ~ Susan Cain

41.“My imagination functions much better when I don’t have to speak to people.” ~ Patricia Highsmith

42.”For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating.” ~ Jonathan Rauch

43.“Beware of those who seek constant crowds; they are nothing alone.” ~Charles Bukowski

44.“I’m self-sufficient. I spend a lot of time on my own and I shut off quite easily. When I communicate, I communicate 900 per cent; then I shut off, which scares people sometimes.” ~ Bjork

45.“Loneliness is failed solitude.” Sherry Turkle

46.A happy life must be to a great extent a quiet life, for it is only in an atmosphere of quiet that true joy dare live. ~ Bertrand Russell

47.“Whatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you ‘too much’ in some ways and ‘not enough’ in others.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

48.“A wise man once said nothing.” ~ Proverb

49.“In an extroverted society, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent.” ~ Criss Jami

50.“When I am alone I can become invisible. I can sit on the top of a dune as motionless as an uprise of weeds until the foxes run by unconcerned. I can hear the almost unhearable sound of the roses singing.” ~ Mary Oliver

51.“Most people in politics draw energy from backslapping and shaking hands and all that. I draw energy from discussing ideas.” ~ Al Gore

52.“Solitude matters and for some people, it’s the air they breathe.” ~ Susan Cain

53.“I don’t believe anything really revolutionary has ever been invented by committee… I’m going to give you some advice that might be hard to take. That advice is: Work alone… Not on a committee. Not on a team.” ~ Steve Wozniak

54.“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured…Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.”~ Susan Cain

55.“You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait, be quiet, still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet. ~ Franz Kafka

56.“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” ~ Plato

57.“I was never less alone than when by myself.” ~ Edward Gibbon

58.Wise men, when in doubt whether to speak or to keep quiet, give themselves the benefit of the doubt, and remain silent. ~ Napoleon Hill

59.“Solitude has its own very strange beauty to it.” ~ Liv Tyler

60.“Better to keep quiet and let people think you’re an idiot than speak up and confirm it.” ~ Rodney Dangerfield

61.“I restore myself when I’m alone.” Marilyn Monroe

62.“Introverts dislike small talk, but we are fluent in the language of ideas and dreams.” ~ Michaela Chung

63.“You may think I’m small, but I have a universe inside my mind.” ~Yoko Ono

64.“Love is essential, gregariousness is optional.” ~ Susan Cain

65.“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes” C.G. Jung

66.“As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy. The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

67.“People say things to me like, ‘It’s really cool that you don’t go out and get drunk all the time and go to clubs.’ I appreciate that, but I’m kind of an introverted kind of person just by nature.” ~ Emma Watson

68.“I think I’m a weird combination of deeply introverted and very daring. I can feel both those things working.” ~ Helen Hunt

69.“E-mail is far more convenient than the telephone. As far as I’m concerned, I would throw my phone away if I could get away with it.” ~ Tom Hanks

70.“My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.” Warsan Shire

71.“I really like to stay in my nest and not move. I travel in my mind, and that’s a rigorous state of journeying for me. My body isn’t that interested in moving from place to place.” ~ Bell Hooks

72.“I would rather sit on a pumpkin and have it all to myself than be crowded on a velvet cushion.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

73.“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family.” ~ Susan Cain

74.“I don’t want to be alone. I want to be left alone.” ~ Audrey Hepburn

75.“I don’t hate people, I just feel better when they aren’t around.” ~Charles Bukowski

76.“Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly.” ~ Susan Cain

77.“Sometimes quiet people really do have a lot to say … they’re just being careful about who they open up to.” Susan Gale

78.“You only know part of me. I am a universe full of secrets.” ~ Lupytha Hermin

79.“A bore is someone who deprives you of solitude without providing you with company.” ~ Oscar Wilde

80.“I prefer tongue-tied knowledge to ignorant loquacity.” ~ Margaret Donnano

81.“Alone had always felt like an actual place to me, as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I really was.” ~ Cheryl Strayed

82.“An introvert may feel asocial when pressured to go to a party that doesn’t interest her. But for her, the event does not promise meaningful interaction. In fact, she knows that the party will leave her feeling more alone and alienated.” ~ Laurie Helgoe

83.“Living is like tearing through a museum. Not until later do you really start absorbing what you saw, thinking about it, looking it up in a book, and remembering – because you can’t take it in all at once.” ~Audrey Hepburn

84.“The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” ~ Aldous Huxley

85.“People are always so boring when they band together. You have to be alone to develop all the idiosyncrasies that make a person interesting.” ~ Andy Warhol

86.“Most inventors and engineers I’ve met are like me. They’re shy and they live in their heads. The very best of them are artists. And artists work best alone…” ~ Steve Wozniak

87.“Kindly remove yourself from my personal space. Thanks.” ~ Gemma Correll

88.“Deep inside, she knew who she was, and that person was smart and kind and often even funny, but somehow her personality always got lost somewhere between her heart and her mouth, and she found herself saying the wrong thing or, more often, nothing at all.” ~ Julia Quinn

89.“Sometimes I just shut down and don’t talk to anyone for days. It’s nothing personal.” ~ Sonya Teclai

90.“I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps but other people emphasize my loneliness.” ~ Anais Nin

91.“Never fail to know that if you are doing all the talking you are boring somebody.” ~Helen Gurley Brown

92.“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.” ~ Anne Lamott

93.“Study me as much as you like, you will never know me. For I differ a hundred ways from what you see me to be.” ~ Rumi

94.“How much better is silence; the coffee cup, the table. How much better to sit by myself like the solitary sea-bird that opens its wings on the stake. Let me sit here forever with bare things, this coffee cup, this knife, this fork, things in themselves, myself being myself.” ~ Virginia Wolf, The Waves

95.“What a commentary on our civilization, when being alone is considered suspect; when one has to apologize for it, make excuses, hide the fact that one practices it like a secret vice!” Anne Morrow Lindbergh

96.“People inspire you, or they drain you — pick them wisely.” ~ Hans F. Hansen

97.“I’m indecisive because I see eight sides to everything.” ~ April Kepne

98.“In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

99.“So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me. Because I, too, am fluent in silence.”- R. Arnold

100.“Every time we stomp down our introverted nature, we crush part of our soul in the process.” ~ Michaela Chung

[itsraineyday]

ALL POSSIBLE THINGS I CAN’T TALK RIGHT NOW

((Disclaimer:  This post is written by Jane Granneman in 2018 for Introvertdear.com – this is SOO ACCURATE that I couldn’t help myself– I need to post this!)

I’m an Introvert. That means I generally prefer books to parties and quiet evenings at home to “exciting” group activities. I don’t hate people. Far from it. I cherish the small circle of close friends I’ve cultivated over the years, and I actually get lonely when I haven’t had enough meaningful interaction.

Being an introvert also means there are plenty of times when I go quiet...

I can’t speak for all introverts, but personally, I have two modes of conversation. The Mode #1 occurs when I spew all the thoughts that have built up in my head. Things I’ve been chewing on for a while. Things I’ve been waiting for the right moment to say. Generally, my thoughts come tumbling out when I feel comfortable around someone — when they “get” me on some level and will understand what I have to say. In this mode, I’m often mistaken for an extrovert.

In Mode #2, I say hardly anything at all. This is when my introversion becomes obvious. People ask if I’m “bored” or “upset.” They exclaim, “You’re so quiet!” like that’s never dawned on me before. They might even judge me as stuck-up or rude. They seem genuinely confused why I’m not jockeying for the floor like everyone else.

So what’s really going on when I go quiet? Here are all the possibilities. Introverts, can you relate?

All the Possible Reasons This Introvert Isn’t Talking

1. I can’t think of anything to say.

I really can’t. My mind has gone blank. It’s been bombarded by so many thoughts at once that a mental gridlock has occurred. Like a congested freeway during rush hour, nothing’s moving. My thoughts take the form of flashes of images, half-formed sentences, and vague feelings, but they’re not coalescing into words. Trust me, I don’t like this awkwardness either.

2. I’m focused on something else.

My mind is elsewhere: What should I order at the restaurant? Do I sound like a jerk in this email? When I’m thinking through something, I go silent. Extroverts tend to “think out loud,” speaking their thoughts as they process them (I’ve known some extroverts who’ll do this even when no one’s around). Introverts, on the other hand, tend to process internally, attending to their own inner monologue. They turn inward and concentrate deeply — even when it’s just a choice between shrimp or chicken.

3. Group conversations are too much.

There are so many people here. It’s too loud. Several people are talking at once. What did you say? This conversation is moving so fast that there’s little time for me to think. I had a point to add… waaaaait… and the conversation has moved on. I’m always playing conversational catch up. And I’m getting sick of small talk — can we talk about something that matters?

4. I simply enjoy observing.

I’ve always been more of an observer than a take-action-er. As a child, I could pass hours looking out our large living room windows, simply watching the comings and goings of the people outside. Even today, sometimes I enjoy being in a busy place and simply sitting back, relaxing, and taking in the scene. There’s something meditative about quietly watching. It’s a great way to recharge my “introvert battery,” too, when I’m out with a group of people.

5. You’re not going to “get” what I have to say, anyway.

I’m going to be completely honest. Many times I keep my thoughts to myself because I don’t think the other person will understand or relate. Worst case scenario, I suspect the other person will be mean, judgmental, or cruel. Maybe they’ve made me feel stupid in the past for opening up to them; I felt worse after talking to them, not better. I’ll become quieter and quieter around this person.

I’m sure this scenario happens to both introverts and extroverts at times, but it might be harder for us introverts to deal with. In my experience, extroverts tend to “put it all out there” with more ease. Many introverts, on the other hand, have a strong need to trust the other person before they share intimate details about their life or personal struggles. And when someone criticizes or belittles us, our deep-processing brains will be left chewing on the interaction for hours (or days).

6. Actually, I’m not fine.

Something bad happened. I didn’t get the job. I got in a fight with my boyfriend. Everything’s going wrong today — but I don’t want to talk about THE PROBLEM right now. I need time to think. Probably later, once I’ve had time to process, I’ll talk. For now, I’ll be quiet.

7. I’m politely trying to end this conversation but the other person isn’t getting the hint.

Uh-huh. Right. Okay. *looks at cell phone* No matter how clipped my answers get, sometimes the other person doesn’t take the hint. As an introvert, I enjoy listening, but not when people take advantage of it. I’m about to do the un-introvert thing and interrupt you!

8. I’m not feeling well or I’m tired.

Everyone — introvert or extrovert — is more subdued when they’re sick or tired. However, most extroverts I know can rally better than I can. They get “high” off socializing and excitement, giving them an energy boost, even when they’re down. Introverts don’t feel that same high, and in fact, get overloaded more easily, due to the way their brains respond to rewards. When I’m running on empty, I’ll be especially quiet.

9. I zoned out or was daydreaming.

Sorry! The interesting world inside my head momentarily swept me away from reality. Can you repeat that?

10. I’m peopled out.

The weekend was too busy. I’ve been under siege at work, school, or home and haven’t gotten much downtime. It’s not that I’m angry, depressed, or disinterested — I simply don’t have the energy to talk right now. I desperately need to be alone to recharge. Trust me, after a few hours (or days) to myself, introverting, I’ll be back in Mode #1...

(Disclaimer:  This post is written by Jane Granneman in 2018 for Introvertdear.com -- this is SOO ACCURATE that I couldn’t help myself-- I need to post this!)

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10 Things Introverts Wish You Would Stop Saying to Them

As a self-confessed introvert, there are many things people say that just don’t bode well with me, even though it is said with the best intentions.

It’s time people took notice and stopped shaming introverts for simply being themselves – these are the things I personally hate:

1. “You don’t seem shy around people though?”

Introversion and shyness are two completely separate things. A person can be introverted yet outgoing – they simply prefer their own company and need time to refuel after a night of making the rounds of a party. Sure, it may be the case that a lot of introverts are also shy, but the two are not synonymous and those of us who aren’t necessarily shy, hate when you combine the two.

2. “Don’t you get lonely being on your own so often?”

NO. Being an introvert means we love our own company and thrive when we are alone. Sure, we may like to spend time with other people, but when we are alone is when we refuel and feel most comfortable. Comparing the time we spend alone with being lonely is slightly offensive, so please stop it.

3. “You should get out more and meet new people – you’d be happier.”

Introverts are perfectly happy being on their own with their thoughts. Sure, it can be nice to meet new people – even for those of us that are socially awkward and anxious, but it isn’t the be-all-and-end-all to us introverts. We don’t feel the need to constantly be around other people like extroverts do. Don’t push us to get out and meet people, if we want to do it, we will do it.

4. “You just need to come out of your shell a little bit”

One thing extroverts just can’t get to grips with is that some people are just quiet. They prefer to observe and think about situations and other people, rather than competing to be the loudest one in the room. Being quiet doesn’t necessarily mean we need to come out of our shell and telling us that just makes us roll our eyes.

5. “Why are you nervous? Just go and speak to somebody”

I’ve had this comment a few times when at social events with an extrovert friend. She can’t understand that speaking to new people can sometimes make me nervous and awkward – pushing me to speak to people instead of allowing me to be happy observing what is going on. If somebody wants to go and speak to others, they will. Commenting on their nervousness may only make it worse, so think before you say it.

6. “You always come across as so unfriendly”

Introverts don’t see the need in having endless, pointless conversations with strangers and prefer to have deeper discussions with those we have a connection with. Unfortunately, this can come across as being unfriendly or standoffish. Chances are, us introverts are aware of the way we come across, but we simply can’t do anything about it as those types of shallow conversations seem pointless and make us uncomfortable.

7. “Just speak to people and you’ll get over your awkwardness”

Another thing introverts hate is when other people think our quietness/introversion can be “fixed” by simply getting out there and speaking to people. Sure, that may be true about people with social anxiety and shyness – to a point, getting out there and doing the thing you’re scared of will help you. But to us introverts, it isn’t something that needs fixing, we just prefer to stay away from communicating with others, it really is that simple.

8. “Why do you always stay in? Don’t you have any friends?”

This one needs no explanation as to why we hate it and find it offensive. Just don’t say it.

9. “Are you mad at me? Why aren’t you speaking?”

This one is tricky for those introverts in relationships with extroverts. Sure, sometimes being quiet and thoughtful may signify that you are mad at your other half, but most of the time that’s just the way you look when you’re deep in thought. Sometimes even deep in thought about nothing. If you’re in a relationship with an introvert – trust that if they’re mad at you, they will tell you. Silence doesn’t always mean there is something wrong.

10. “You’re boring”

Not wanting to go out and party doesn’t make you boring. Different things make different people happy and staying in alone doesn’t make you boring. If somebody thinks you are boring because your lifestyle isn’t the same as theirs, are they really people you need in your life?

Source: https://www.learning-mind.com/things-introverts-wish-you-would-stop-saying/

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Madison Jura Character Sheet

It’s a lot so 

What does s/he do too much of? Be alone Too little of? Talk with people Most prized possession: Why? Silver Play musical instrument? Nope       Which one(s)?       How did s/he learn? Does character like animals? Dogs and cats but not much else Any pets? Robot cat ?? Likes music? Any really       What kind? Just nothing too loud TECHNICAL Owns a computer? Yes/No       If not, why not? Email address(es): madisonjura@gmail.com probably       If more than one, each used for...? "Handle": Jurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrah        Meaning to character: her last name with a lot of r’s Uses computer for business, pleasure, both? Play computer games? Yes       If yes, which game(s)? If yes, how many hours per day? Probably minecraft or any other sandbox games       If so, are they/it multiplayere game/s? Not usually Name used on each game & meaning to character? Cat_robots, cats.. robot.. List 4 online site(s) (URLs) visited daily?       1. Youtube       2. Twitter       3. Instagram       4. Various websites to buy materials UNCATEGORIZED Person character secretly admires: No one rlly Person character was most influenced by: Cole Most important person in character's life before story starts: her mom       Why? She was the only one there for her really

Character's Full Name: Madison Jura          Reason or meaning of name: Old self insert Nickname: Maddy or anything really         Reason for nickname: Maddy was an old nickname Birthdate: August 27 Astrological Sign: Virgo but she doesn’t believe that astrological stuff PHYSICAL APPEARANCE Age 12      How old does s/he appear? 14- usually 2 or three years older than she is Eye Color: light blue      Glasses or contacts? She has both if needed Hair color: darkish brown       Distinguishable hair feature (bald, receding hairline, etc.): she doesn’t care about how her hair looks usually so she’ll cut it in weird ways and just let it grow out again       Type of hair (coarse, fine, thick, etc?) thick Typical hairstyle: undercut or just however it gets cut Height: 4’7 ft Weight: 100 lbs.       Type of body/build: chubby Nationality: Ninjagian ? (Appears European) Skin tone: light Skin type: sometimes dry Shape of face: round Distinguishing Marks?       Scars? Miscalenious but usually has them covered Most predominant feature: eyes change color when using her powers       Resembles (famous or not): me.. Accent? none Is s/he healthy?  moderate                                                       If not, why not: she doesn’t go out much Physical disabilities: none Physical abilities (what is character good at? sports, etc.): she can run pretty fast for a short amount of time. Also had inventions that help her physical abilities. FAVORITES Color: Gray Music: Any Food: Pancakes Literature: Hot-to guides Expressions: Confused and :/ Book: anything non-fiction Quote: “Nothing is work unless you'd rather be doing something else.” Expletive(s) (swears): fuck Mode of transportation: her inventions (mainly silver) HABITS Smokes: No       What?       How often? Drinks: No       What?       How often? Worst bad habit? Blocking others off Quirks: If she does get close to someone she’ll do anything for them. Can invent a lot of things very quickly and can be very creative BACKGROUND Hometown: Ninjago City Type of childhood: Decent but lonely First memory: getting ice cream with her mom Most important childhood event that still affects him/her: Father leaving       Why? Not having a dad makes her jealous of others with good relations to their fathers and can sometimes be weary. This also left her with just one parent. With only one parent she was alone a lot and this made her pretty closed off Lower education: elementary school, left after to join the ninja Higher education: never went Booksmart or streetsmart? More so streetsmart but is good with electronics Religion and/or religious views and/or tendencies? Just the general First Spinjitsu Master thing Firsts: Job? Freelance electronics Kiss? No :( Sexual experience? NO >:( FAMILY Mother (name): Srene Jura        Relationship with her: it was decent Father (name): Marc Jero       Relationship with him: b a d and mostly non-existant Siblings: none       Birth order: none       Relationship with each: none Children of Siblings: none Extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.): If she does she never met them besides for her grandparents on her mothers side Close to family?  Yes/No CHILDREN Does character have child(ren)? No       How many? Are all children with the same partner?       If no, why not? If no, what is the custody arrangement? How does character relate to his/her child(ren)? Which child is character's favorite?       Why? Character's most favorite memory of his/her child(ren)? Character's least favorite memory of his/her child(ren)? Is relationship with children good? Is relatioinship with children important to character? OCCUPATION Where does character work? Nowhere specifically        How many years? Since she could build Relationship with co-workers? none Like his/her job? yeah       Why or why not? She likes building Dream job: she likes to have no specific job ATTITUDE Greatest fear: Having the one person she’s close to hate her Worst thing that could happen to him/her? Her jealousy could get her in some pretty deep stuff What single event would most throw character's life in complete turmoil? Powers disappearing Character is most at ease when: Everything is calm and she’s with the person she likes Most ill at ease when: too many people are around and everything is crazy Priorities: person she likes-herself-everyone else Philosophy: nothing specific How s/he feels about self: Sometimes over confident but her self-esteem can be easily shattered Past failure s/he would be embarrassed to have people know about: stupid stuff she did while she was alone and past failures with inventing If granted one wish, what would it be? Being able to be close to multiple people       Why? She’s uncomfortable branching out Daredevil or cautious? More daredevil       Same when alone? A little more careful when around other, especially someone she likes. Biggest regret? Not trying to make friends with kids her age while she was still at school Biggest accomplishment: her inventions, mainly silver Minor accomplishments: performance enhancing electronics, being a semi-celebrity amongst a certain crowd of young inventors. Character's darkest secret: deep down she is really jealous of people close to people she likes that take up even a smidge of their attention       Does anyone else know? Not exactly              If yes, did character tell them?              If no, how did they find out? She is not the best at keeping up a nonchalant facade PERSONALITY Greatest source of strength in character's personality (whether s/he sees it as such or not): creativty Greatest source of weakness in character's personality (whether s/he sees it as such or not): jealousy Character's soft spot: the person she likes       Is this soft spot obvious to others?  Y e s       If not, how does character hide it? Biggest vulnerability: she’s not very skilled without her electronics. Which of the 7 deadly sins does character fight (or give into, willingly or not)? She tries not to but fails       (lust, gluttony, greed, sloth, wrath, envy, pride) Which of the 7 virtues does your character have (or fight against)?       (chastity, abstinence, liberality, diligence, patience, kindness, humility) TRAITS Optimist or pessimist? pessimist Introvert or extrovert? introvert Drives and motivations? Talents (hidden or not)? Building, drawing (mechanical), creativty, electronics know-how Extremely skilled at: building, electronics, drawing Extremely unskilled at: interacting with people. Good characteristics: creative, dedicated Character flaws: jealous, oblivious Mannerisms: fiddles with electronics or building materials, doodles a lot Peculiarities: her sense of humor is slightly specific and obscure and sometimes laughs at inappropriate things. SELF-PERCEPTION One word character would use to describe self: eh One paragraph description of how character would describe self: Good at building but makes up for that with being socially stupid. All around, eh What does character consider best physical characteristic? Her eyes, she likes them What does character consider worst physical characteristic? Her fat, it’s not much but it’s still there.       Are these realistic assessments? Sort of              If not, why not? Her weight is fine and she gets her eyes from her dad who she hates How CHARACTER thinks others perceive him/her? What four things would CHARACTER most like to change about self? (#1 most important, #2 second most important, etc.) Introverted-ness jealousy awkwardness More aware If change #1 was made, would character be as happy as s/he thinks? No       If not, why not? Everything on that list would need to be changed or it would probably just be worse INTERRELATION WITH OTHERS Is character divorced? Why? no       If yes, how many times? no Has character ever cheated on any signficant other? no How does character relate to others? Not very well How is s/he perceived by... Strangers? Very well Friends? Decent Wife/Husband/Lover? N/A Children N/A Co-workers? N/A Protagonist? Decently most times Antagonist? Sometimes with respect and sometimes not First impression character makes is: “Wow she is good at building”       What happens to change this perception? She has a terrible personality What do family/friends like most about character? Her abilities tbh What do family/friends like least about character? Her passive-agressiveness GOALS Immediate goal(s): build stuff Long range goal(s): she hasn’t decided yet ; her goals change a lot How does character plan to accomplish goal(s)? She thinks she’ll just figure it out How will other people around character be affected? It depends on what she decides to do PROBLEMS/CRISIS How character react in a crisis (calm/panic/etc.)? She’s fine under stress unless people are rushing her How does character face problems? She isolates herself or just doesn’t do anything       Kinds of problems character usually runs into: Enemies : her dad How does character react to NEW problems? She takes a minute to process it then usually tries to figure out something to do How does character react to change? The gets easily upset and grouchy

GENERAL Jewelry? no Other accessories? Drives a ... : MECHANICAL CAT DRAGON

Where does character live? Wherever the ninja are       With anyone?  Yes/No Where does character want to live? In the country but with a good wifi signal Spending habits (frugal, spendthrift, etc)? Oh god she’s terrible with money but she has a lot of it so it’s just terrible

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1-50

damn seriously whos doin this fam. like im enjoying myself but im not sure yall even care at this point lmaooooo 

1. have you ever been in love?

i’d like to think yes. if im wrong ive got a HUGE storm coming. pretty sure im in love atm who knows tbh.

2. what are your favourite colours and why?

a sort of lilac shade of purple. idk. 2 reasons i guess. i remember in a video i saw purple is the best color to stand out in terms of cartoons and clothing so thats how they get some villains to stand out so im like heck yeah attention ! lololol that and the color itself just seems “soft” idk

3. who was the last person you held hands with?

UHHHHHHH CK.

4. what is your zodiac sign?

Taurus stubbornly proud.

5. how many times have you read your favourite book?

6 times.

6. what are your favourite films?

how to train your dragon. treasure planet. high school musical series. hercules. pacific rim.big hero 6

7. what kind of weather do you like?

rain. lots of it. or just sunny or slightly cloudy with  ALOT of wind. i love wind. it makes me sleepy.

8. do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?

sun sets. crazy mindsets and shenanigans happen once the sun sets. but sunrises are good for waking up to while cuddling.

9. what kind of weather represents who you are as a person?

a flood. literal flood warnings. overbearing, extra, clings to the area long after its done. damages everything a little bit. everything is dirty afterwards and everyone is highly annoyed. some idiot decided to swim

10. what’s your favourite animal?

avians. most birds really. i just REALLY want to fly without the aid of a huge plane or something. like squirrel suits or jetpacks

11. what is your favourite song right now?

Lie to me George Nozuka

12. what is your favourite song of all time?

uhm no. I actually don’t show everyone this song because its special to me so i only show it to people who are either close friends or lovers.

13. do you like sunny days or rainy days better?

rainy days. most def.

14. have you ever been heartbroken?

yeah. 

15. what does the perfect kiss feel like?

it feels like every other kiss from every other person doesn’t compare. the lips feel like theyre in the right place. times seems to stop. nothing around seems to matter. past present and future intertwine and creates a phenomenon around you two and suddenly you aren’t aware of anything but the feel of their lips, how warm they are and how fast your heart is beating.

16. what is your favourite poem?

i don’t have a specific poem in mind but i loved a bunch of poems from lang leav’s love and misadventure

17. who are you most inspired by?

a multitude of people. depends on what youre asking about. say if its volleyball im most inspired by the manga characters from haikyuu most notably hinata shoyo because he loves to fly. if its in terms of how physically fit i am it would most likely be chris pratt. its different things and people depending on what youre asking

18. are you spiritual?

pfft i’d like to think no. but its a pretty general term so i could be who knows.

19. what is your favourite plant?

anything that eats spiders, mosquitos and any other venomous creepy crawlies or just any bugs.

20. what is your favourite feeling?

freedom. rushes of adrenaline. or just love. passion burning in the form of love.

21. what is your favourite word?

juxtaposition

22. are you an artist?

nope. i would like to be but i lack the discipline and patience for it.

23. what is your favourite flower?

lavender or lilac? idk

24. are you happy?

im not SAD. but im not happy either. im not neither im more of a constant sad and happy. at the same time

25. what are you thinking about right now?

should i confront this person or not on the day of birthday and assuming i get a negative result shall i drink my memories away? most likely.

26. what emotion do you feel most often?

annoyance and frustration

27. what is your favourite season?

winter.

28. are you in a relationship?

nope.

29. are you an introvert or extrovert?

ive been told im extroverted so ill go with that

30. do you prefer the moon or the stars?

stars.

31. what is your favourite scent?

her. she smells like happiness, the adventures shes been on, the smell of comfort. i just REALLY like it when someone im interested also smells delightful. it like amplifies everything. 

32. where do you feel most at home?

st clements park i ‘spose. maybe my computer chair. in the rays of sun in an open field?

33. what scares you the most?

death.

34. do you believe in soulmates?

yes. 

35. what is your favourite thing about yourself?

my singing? i guess? i use it the most and i enjoy it when i get to sing. or say dumb things with impressions of famous characters or actors/accents

36. what is the nicest compliment you’ve received?

“nice outfit” 

37. who is your favourite music artist?

ahhhhhhhh its a 3 way between Hedley, Goo Goo Dolls, and Aj rafael

38. what was your first kiss like?

awkward, literally not a full kiss just a peck.

39. are you a sensitive person?

apparently so. i’ve been described as emotional and passionate so i suppose.

40. when was the last time you cried?

couple of weeks ago?

41. do you believe that love can last forever?

not forever. forever seems like a label or chain if i die i don’t want to tie down my partner. if they fall even harder for someone in the next life i think i would be wise to let them be happy. 

42. what do you think happens to us when we die?

this is a bit morbid but i personally think we becomes ghosts but we can’t leave our body. when we pass we’re still conscious and see everything that happens to our body but we can’t move. so we get buried, burned etc. screaming at the top of our lungs but unable to do a thing.

43. have you ever broken someone’s heart?

sadly. yes.

44. what do you think about when you can’t fall asleep at night?

how many rounds of masturbating can i go before i pass out involuntarily. lmao jk . i set up my dream like “ okay i’ll be in… a zompie apocalypse living in a somewhat safe city having a sort of drama with other survivors and trying to live day by day off the little rations everyone gets.”

45. do you believe in aliens?

it’d be a lonely ass existence for earth to be the only life for a couple billions lightyears

46. what is the nicest thing anyone’s ever done for you?

deal with my shit. honestly im a handful.

47. do you find it hard to trust?

no. i sort of trust everyone until proven theyre not to be trusted. 

48. are you secretive?

to an extent yeah. anyone is usually.

49. what colour are your eyes?

brown? idk i really dont care ahahaha i’ll let my future spouse deal with that.

50. do you have a nickname?

Ag(silver on the periodic table since yknow. my names silver. >.>), tinman, silver yo yo, silverado, silver city.

okay seriously, whoever is doing this, are you doing this out of curiosity or because i asked for it? lmaooo

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Submission - Feeling like shit

Hi guys! This will be quite long as I feel you need to have a little background. I have been struggling with depression for about 4-5 years and never got any medical help bc I always compare my current breakdowns to the ones I used to have and feel like they’re not as bad. But I’ve had 4 (counting the one I have right now) since September and I’m worrying again. It’s weird because they happen when I feel alone and this year I’ve made manyyyy new friends and yet I feel lonely some times. I bumped into a guy I used to go to middle school with and reconnected since them and did a couple of parties with many of his other friends. The thing is we were invited mainly bc one of the guys (let’s call him Jeff) wants to hook up with my friend and we know from the beginning this will never happen. And I was quite hesitant to going to their parties solely bc I knew what was the aim. I still went there a second time because I just have so much fun with the others even though I feel like they don’t care about me bc I’m introverted and don’t mingle much. But I just think they’re the coolest people ever and I wish he didn’t want to fuck my friend so bad so I could make friends. Like for example I was supposed to see a mutual friend of Jeff and I but since my friend hooked up at the club with some other guy he is cold and distant with both my friend and I. And I’m freaking out because I probably won’t see the others again and this makes me so sad bc I also kind of have a crush on one of his friends and I won’t talk to him again bc he knows it’ll be awkward for Jeff. Also my two closest friends are so pretty and confident and funny and I’m nothing of like this so no one care about me. They both inspire me to become the person I want to be (feel beautiful and confident) and they tell me to be more confident and everything will be fine but every time I feel like I fail MISERABLY and my low self-esteem just hits at that time and I can’t focus on anything positive or work bc I know I’ve lost some really nice friends. It might be meaningless for the other people but I just enjoy their company so much and they help me forget about my studies (bc all of my friends are doing the same stressful and time-consuming studies I do). Anyway idk how to deal with all of this bc I was also thinking I’d love to settle down and have my first bf but my current state doesn’t help me being positive about it bc it makes me feel and look ugly and fat and awkward and this makes me even more depressed

Hey love, 

First, I’m proud of you for making new friends. That’s major! So give yourself a pat on the back for that. 

Second, let’s talk about your mental health first. To start, I highly recommend working on building up your self-confidence and your self-esteem. So challenge your negative thinking. You said that you feel ugly and fat, why? Why you do feel ugly? Did someone say you were ugly? Did someone say you were fat? Did someone imply that you were fat? What evidence do you have that backs up this claim? When you hang out with your friends, do you focus on your weight? Do you talk about weight? Do they talk about your appearance? Ask yourself these questions because it’s important. Sometimes we put emphasis on things that don’t matter because that’s how society made us think we should do. We focus on things like weight and fashion. But when you think about, when you’re around the people that you like and they like you, chances are you’re not going to talk about it as much. You’re probably busy laughing about a funny story. You’re probably busy making puns in Walmart to care about fashion. You’re probably challenging each other to embarrass each other and laughing. 

Third, your friends are your friends. If they’re really your friends and want to be friends with you, they wouldn’t be linked to Jeff. At least not entirely. You can ask to hang out with the others without Jeff. You can still be friends with them even if your friend isn’t with Jeff. I don’t know how close they are to him but it’s worth a shot. Meeting new friends can be a little stressful because you’re trying to balance your life, their life, and your time together. But it’s worth taking some risks. Ask them to coffee and hang out once a month. As you get to know each other better, plans will form themselves. Like you said, some of them encourage you to be more confident so don’t give up when they’re not around. Allow yourself to work on it constantly. Let the feeling that they give you fuel you. Let that feeling encourage you to be more confident in making friends and in your daily life. I think this will help a lot when you start challenging your negative thoughts and working on your self-confidence. 

Fourth, challenge yourself to change. You don’t have to be an extrovert. Introverts are amazing but you know your weaknesses. So if you want to change and make friends, then make that change. You want to be someone confident and beautiful, then challenge yourself to make those changes. Challenge yourself to initiate a conversation with a friend. Challenge yourself to invite someone out to lunch. Challenge yourself to do something different and new. You don’t have to change your entire personality but when you challenge yourself to do something different it helps you become the best you that you are. A lot of times people say, “I wish I was more confident” and they don’t anything to make that come true. So don’t do that. Work at it. 

Finally, consider professional help. I know that it’s hard. I’ve been there. It may feel like it’s “not that bad” but it doesn’t have to be terrible to get help. You don’t have to be incapacitated on the floor to get help. You can get help even if you’re like a little anxious. Professional help is similar to receiving tutoring. You wouldn’t want to wait until you’ve failed the class to try and get help. You wouldn’t want to wait until the last test to bring up your grades. You’d want to get help and be prepared for anything that the class may throw at you. So use professional help like that. I went right into therapy when I got to college. I wanted to be prepared. I told my therapist that I was fine and I was there as a preventive measure for any breakdowns that may happen since I’ve started college. It was the best decision I’ve ever made. It helped me figure out my issues. It helped me become more prepared for everything that came. And it helped me become a better version of me. And when everyone did come crashing down, I didn’t have to wait for help. I had someone to call and see me within the week. So get help. Also rely on your friends. Talk to them when things get tough. Lean on them when you need to cry. Sometimes you can just ask someone to hug you when you cry and they won’t ask any questions. It’s okay to just cry. It’s okay to write in your journal and burn it. It’s okay to be sad sometimes. It’s okay to let yourself feel those emotions. But you don’t have to go through any of it alone. Remind yourself of that. You always have someone. Even if they’re not physically there, you’re still not alone. Even though we’re not the quickest to come to your aid, our box is here for you to vent. There’s helplines that can talk you through your darkest nights. There’s hotlines to call. 

Always by your side,

Kelly

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Ah, I see you what you mean. I'm absolutely welcome to change and I'm interested in your reasoning. What types do you think they are?

As far as defending myself.. hm. I'd kinda need specific examples. The main reason why I pin Komaeda as an extrovert is because he gets very, very energized by external factors (interactions, ideas in the outside world, debating-- he can go on like a freight train) while Hinata gets pretty drained in the same scenario (even before then, he was the last one to join the beach party).. and he needs a lot of recovery time before interacting with people again. 

More of my thoughts under the cut. Mostly rambling though.

(Readers: No spoilers per se, but it helps if you've read his Freetimes.. and finished the game I suppose)

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However, Komaeda is an interesting case, since there's so many factors affecting him and his personality.. so he is hard to type. The fact that he said he might have a "quiet life" without his luck makes does make me think introvert.. I wonder how different his type would be. (ft5)

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Although, in the current story I do think he tries to force some introverted traits-- because he has a hard time interacting with others. This scene ... is a good example of him showing this. And this does appear to happen at first: in the classroom scene in the Prologue, he only says two lines. Now, this might just be speculation, but also "keeping his mouth shut" might even imply he might usually try to talk to people..

On a different note though, it's important to remember extroverts can be awkward and introverts can be outgoing; it has more to do with energy flow and preference. But

Generally I think he really does want to interact with others (regardless if he's lonely or not), and he's often really happy to. Seriously. (ch3+ Spoilers)

while he might not have been hanging out with the students, it's assumed that he's already made introductions and showed interest in them.

Plus, this statement by the all-knowing, added: "true personality"

which honestly makes think like .. this. 

so I think it's natural for him to approach people and give of a friendly demeanor, as assumed by Hinata in Chapter 1. Note that this gets lost due to events in Trial 1 though.. and his sanity, even. I'm not saying he's friendly all the time, or even nice to everyone, but he has a talent for it-- especially after reading his First Freetime. and I don't see any reason to push that over to luck.

Err but back to your statement? I don't think "difficulty conveying feelings into words" is limited to introverts... that might just have to do with his condition (x) (x) (FT5 SPOILERS in links!) as well.

..Still, extroverts can absolutely have this problem (it may not be as common but), especially ENFPs -- where in this type their feelings are specifically introverted. An often problem with this type is that people have a hard time believing what their saying about their feelings (anger, sadness) because their extroversion shows more than anything (in his case, his general attitude and his way of talking), and it commonly gets passed off... It also worth noting that the ENFP is often titled "the most introverted-extrovert" (x), and it's a common mistype.

I am an ENFP myself, though, so I admit I could be projecting haha. But these are my current thoughts. 

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The [actual-primary-reason] I think Komaeda might be an extrovert is I think he has (Ne) dominant extroverted intuition, defined as:

"Sees possibilities in the external world. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which can then be shared with others." (mbti page)

(POV Manga, FT5 Spoilers)

 ..which I think is shown time and time again, especially throughout Dangan Island Mode, where he's a little more mentally stable. I think it's safe to say he's being honest here; he constantly tries to share his thoughts, and Hinata gets the gist of him.

The way he questions situations in the main story, theorizes on motives, and his general observations all contribute to Ne I believe.

However, they don't dive too deep, and often are just "flashes". He can quickly come up with a new theory or change his mind. His whole "Was that your 'Hope' ?" thing to Peko and Kuzuryuu at the end of Trial 2 is a good example of that.

He likes to share his thoughts, and he's pretty open and doing most of the talking in his Freetimes. Hinata even said at the end of in his Fourth Freetime, the conversation was onesided, haha.

This dominant function would make him either an ENFP or ENTP.

Quick Side Note: (that is, if you believe he's being honest when he's expressing himself. Personally, overall, I consider him pretty honest as his own voice actor has came out and said so , and the fact he got the lying disease.. etc etc. I don't see why he would lie then.. in the prologue example there, anyway.)

On that same mbti page, though, I did noticed.. the definition of (Ni) introverted intuition does sound appealing. If that is his dominant function, that would make him either an INFJ or an INTJ:

"Looks at consistency of ideas and thoughts with an internal framework. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which may be hard for others to understand."

.. however, like you said, I do think it's more his feelings that are hard for others to understand. Komaeda has been constantly sharing his ideas, messages (which can be logical, like exploring the islands -- even Nanami agreed to this) .. but what no one understands the true meaning, or his feelings behind them.

perhaps this is just introverted feeling (Fi) manifesting, and that is what others are having a hard time understanding...

But back to intuition.

A good example of this would be Kirigiri, who has dominant introverted intuition (Ni), as an INTJ. You can just look at her and you can tell... a lot is going on inside. A deep framework on what's really going on in this Mutual Killing. She's on a mission. She may not verbalize it, and have trouble convincing others (like Togami).. but often, we feel like we can trust her. There's something great-- logical and caring we know-- warming up inside.

But with Komaeda, it's like the boiling pot is overflowing and the lid is falling off-- there's too much leaking out. You can look at him and it's all you see-- and it gets to the point where people in game (and I imagine many players too) have to tell him to shut-up. It gets to the point where people don't even care about his insights or messages, because they're so disturbed with the feelings that may be floating around it-- not that the messages themselves are that hard for him to convey.. he's visibly trying real hard it.. again, it's the feelings behind them.

But at the same time the messages he's giving often aren't that great either so it doesn't help.

Because of his way of expressing himself, I think he has dominant extroverted intuition (Ne) rather than introverted intuition (Ni).

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edit: Warning of ramblings below..? I tried to address somethings I've seen out there.

So I think he's a Ne Dom with Fi. I understand the INFP interpretation since that does have Ne too, but overall I think his ideas might be louder than the feelings behind them. Yes, there's absolutely feelings there and they are deep, it's just that I think he's talking too much for him to be an Fi Dom...

...with them, it's kinda like the Ni Dom thing, where there's a mutual understanding that there's some deep (introverted) feelings going on-- but many don't even reach this point with Komaeda. You really have to get past his messages.. or what I see as his extroversion, I suppose.

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He does have an attached worldview (which INFJs and even INFPs are renowned for), but it seems like he bending it too much to be concrete-- hence his way of 'siding with the culprits', and briefly changing his mind all the time. So that's why I don't think he's a Ni Dom too, or even a J. Sure, it's the side of 'hope'.. but again, I don't think it's that concrete. It seems like it's any hope he sees. (and there's personal reasons why he can't see beyond that)

On his worldview... (which is why I think some people type him as a J) .. we can't really confirm since we really don't know how he reacts to people outside shsl. But in my interpretation, it seems he still views himself somewhat lower than Hinata (Ch3+ Spoilers) .... so it may not appear as rigid as people paint it to be, Komaeda has even said himself that 'worthless people' can still help. Komaeda has a habit of appearing overly-blunt anyway, probably due to his conditions (FT5 spoilers). But his official profile even says he tends to say harsh things but means well, which was talked about around this picture, here (endgame spoilers in link!) . I admit I might be thinking too optimistically but even then, bluntly, Ps can still judge and not be nice to people (if you want to take that opposing view).

(This is just my opinion here), but I don't think his whole "worthless and worthy" people is that huge when it comes to his personality because: 

1) In his POV Manga it was his backstory they touched on at the start (not even mentioning the 'worldview').

2) In his Fifth Freetime and Drama CD he doesn't mock Hinata on his impression on him (in fact, he seems kind of comforted by the idea).

3) In the First Trial he said such mutual killing with "regular-worthless people" would be a "disaster" ....(so I guess you can take that as he doesn't see huge greatness in a bunch of "regular-worthless people" dying).

4) He seems rather indifferent when a certain person talks about "the world returning to the talentless".. he was like "oh well, it can't be helped" basically-- not spiteful or even agreeing that it's really bad or anything..

5) In Dangan Island Mode his time spent (or the ending for that matter) isn't about him learning about worthiness or whatever.. it's about real hope or even just enjoying the human experience.

..So, hope and despair, absolutely that's a big part of his personality. And he sees hope in talented people, and maybe not so much in talentless people. The two are connected in that way. But it's more than just talentless-worthless and talent-worthy I think. Moving on..

On the way he appears divides people.. it seems really more based on personal experience, as its states at the start of his monologue: "by observing the world around us" and "messages of hope". The lines such as "A small dog can never become a larger one" ...kind of serve as a mirror to: he could never change his luck that was given to him at birth. He could never really escape it, he could not change it, or become 'a person of worth' because of it. It is his reality. It is inevitable. So there's some logic to it. Even if that's not how the world works... that's how it works for him.  But for general things I think he's pretty flexible.

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As I stated earlier, I think he might be E as he just gets so naturally energized when he's expressing his ideas, thoughts, and actions.

..yeah, it doesn't look natural to us haha. but for him it is, he's clearly real passionate about it. (a link to audio of his monologue here just listening to his tone... oh yeah, and it gets to the point of violence where people have to stop him from expressing his views.)

***However, this interpretation is also if you don't consider all of this an act.. personally I think it's genuine. Doubting him for planning is the trap Hinata falls into, and he doesn't really do anything in both Chapter 2 and Chapter 3 (he had plenty of time to stirs things up in this update, but he doesn't really; heck even Monobear has to give him the disease motive).

The event in CH2 was mainly Kuzuryuu's doing (endgame spoilers in link! event explained at this sprite, here near the bottom) , not at fault of Komaeda's.. manipulation. I think Koizumi would have been killed either way, it's just in this case it was whether she knew why. And, in the end playing the game did kinda give her an explanation. (Some people consider that as some of his planning-Ni-characteristic so I thought I'd throw that out there.)

and I do say, Hinata willing played the game himself and willing lied to three people on the way there.. *grumble*Hinata. lol (although I guess that could be Komaeda luck too, but.. I still think that the conversation was extroverted on his part)

don't know where I went with the bullets but.. feel free to ask.

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense now and if I didn't directly answer you.. I kinda rambled. I do want to make a post in the future further explaining why I personally think Komaeda is the type I think he is with full structure, but again, feel free to question me on anything I said as I know I can get messy. I did recently collect some descriptions that I thought fit Komaeda pretty well in this post here.. so that might clear somethings up.

Now with Hinata.. I do admit that was more intuition of mine, haha. I don't have much to say at the moment, other than how I think he gets drained easily... this ... really kinda makes me think that. Took quite awhile to try open up.,

..  He is pretty assertive tho.

but, to be more clear, I think he has dominant introverted sensing, so that's why I think he is an introvert too.

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Extrovert: We Just Love being Around people, Not Attention Seeking!

There is no denying that each person on this planet is unique. It is hard to put such unique individuals into categories, but despite that fact, there are some personality traits that can roughly put people into certain categories. One of the most well-known categorizations says people can be an introvert, extrovert or ambivert.

Introverted people are those who seek solitude and isolation, and rarely participate in social activities. They avoid large groups of people and prefer to spend time with their thought. On the other hand, extroverts are those people who you see in the spotlight of every social event. They are outgoing, like to interact with other people, and are often good leaders. Ambiverts will sometimes display introverted characteristics, and sometimes display extroverted characteristics.

What are extroverts like?

As mentioned, extroverts like to socialize, meet new people and talk to them. So how do you know if someone is extrovert?

Extroverts love to talk

You have probably noticed those people who always break the awkward silence at parties, or spend their time circling around and talking to as many people as they can. Or in a bus, supermarket, or any other public place for that matter, starting conversation with total strangers. They just love to talk. They can talk with anyone about almost anything. They are eager to meet new people and find out everything about them.

Extroverts feel energized when they are around people

Unlike introverts, extroverts don’t enjoy being alone – being around people boosts their energy. If they are given the choice to stay at home on a Friday night, or go out to a pub, for example, they would always choose to be among people, even if they are tired or have had a difficult day. Staying home alone is not how they charge their batteries and find inspiration. Throw them in a large group of people and they will feel as if they have had a large cup of coffee.

Extroverts need to talk about their feelings

Introverts prefer to sort out their feelings in silence, on their own, whereas extroverts feel better if they discuss their problems and feelings with someone. If they have had some problems at work, or in a relationship, what makes them feel better is if they share their concerns with others.

Extroverts have many interests

Extroverts love dynamic surroundings and they tend to constantly seek for new experiences, and thus they develop many new interests. As they love interacting with people and learning about them, they hear a lot of new information and so they get interested in trying new things.

Extroverts are very open to people

People find extroverts friendly and approachable as they don’t shy away from sharing how they feel or what they think about a certain subject. They don’t tend to think a lot about what they are going to say, or take the time to organize their thoughts before they speak – they just blurt out everything that comes to their mind.

Extroverts enjoy being the center of attention

Extroverts don’t have a problem with speaking in public, actually, they love it! When all eyes are on them – that’s their moment to shine. They are the ones who tell all the best jokes at parties, or gather groups of people around them to admire their stories. They are not afraid to step onto the dance floor and show all their dance moves.

Misconceptions we have for extroverts.

Even though they are outgoing and always try to make people laugh, they also have their share of struggles.

Extroverts are not 100% confident all the time

People tend to perceive extroverts as super confident as they have no problem with speaking to strangers or in front of a large group of strangers. As every other person, extroverts have their self doubts from time to time. They just come off as so confident about their skills that it’s hard for other people to imagine they have insecurities, but they actually do.

Extroverts can be depressed and sad too

Extroverts draw their energy when they are around people and thus always seem to be in a good mood when you see them at social gatherings. However, they also feel sad or depressed if they don’t get their daily dose of interaction with others.

Extroverts are outgoing but they need alone time too

Yes, extroverts also need their alone time. From time to time, they just need to read a book, watch a movie on their own, or put on their headphones, listen to music and not talk to anyone. The thing is that their need to be alone doesn’t last as long as with introverts, for example.

Making friends can be hard for extroverts too

Just because it is easy for extroverts to start a conversation with just about anyone, it doesn’t mean they have tons of friends. Sometimes, other people might find it off-putting when someone talks a lot, so it can be equally hard for extroverts to connect with people as it is for anyone else.

Extroverts will feel lonely too

Even if extroverts are surrounded by tons of friends, it is not necessarily the case that they are best friends with all of them. They like to be around people, but that doesn’t mean all the people around them really know or understand them. That’s the feeling everybody, even extroverts, can relate to – that some days no one can get what you are going through and you feel so lonely.

Extroverts are not obsessed with themselves

It is true that extroverts like to be the center of attention, but that doesn’t qualify them as narcissists – it’s just their way of expressing themselves. Their need for attention might seem selfish but they are actually trying to make people around them feel better.

What you need to know if you are in love with an extrovert?

1. They love real-life social interactions

Instead of wasting their time in front of screens, extroverts prefer talking to people face to face, so don’t expect them to text a lot. Instead of hanging out in the virtual world, they will expect you to spend time together going to restaurants, cinema or just walking in the park.

2. They love to talk, but they also love to listen

Extroverts enjoy a good talk, but they don’t enjoy one way conversation. They like to interact, which means they will listen to you carefully as they expect your feedback or reaction.

3. Extroverts like to be in the spotlight, but that doesn’t make them egoists

Extroverts love attention and don’t shy away from it. They love when you pamper them, but that doesn’t mean they are selfish. They will also do anything they can to make you feel good.

4. They can get bored easily

If you are in love with an extrovert, you need to be open to trying new things or picking up new hobbies. They are always looking for new things to keep them energized, so you will need to keep up with their pace.

5. Extroverts are not close to everyone

Even though they like interacting with people, they don’t manage to develop close relationships with all of those people. They are sociable, but of course there are people whose company extroverts do not find pleasant.

6. Extroverts can feel hurt too

Communicating with a lot of people gives extroverts the ability to filter out the unnecessary information, thus making it look like they are insensitive to other people’s emotions. However, as every human being, extroverts can be deeply hurt too, especially by the people they care about.

7. They want instant gratification

Being the people of action, extroverts are impatient when it comes to getting their reward. They would always rather choose to spend their money on something that will make them happy instantly, instead of saving the money for a bigger treat later on.

8. They don’t need to be with their loved ones all the time

Even though they enjoy spending time with their significant other, they love spending time with other people too. If you don’t feel like going out, they won’t feel the need to be clingy and force you to go with them. It’s fine by them if you stay at home, but don’t expect them to stay too. They need to charge their batteries by interacting with other people too.

9. Extroverts read too

There is a misconception that extroverts are shallow as they prefer spending time with people and making small talk. Loving to be around people doesn’t in any way interfere with their desire to read or educate themselves.

10. They are flexible

Extroverts can easily adapt to any changes in plans, and they are also willing to reach a compromise in what activities you should do as a couple.

What you need to know when working with an extrovert?

1. They like to discuss solutions to problems

Extroverts like to brainstorm and discuss how to solve problems at work. Give them space to express their ideas and they might come up with creative solutions.

2. They like to be praised

Extroverts like to receive feedback and they can be more productive if they see their efforts are appreciated. They will feel more stimulated if they are praised for their good work.

3. They are good at interacting with people

Extroverts are very skilled in communicating with people and they will be highly effective when interacting with clients or presenting in front of a group of people.

4. They understand body language well

Extroverts are good at reading non-verbal clues, so you need to be well aware of your posture or tone of voice when talking with them, as they will notice everything.

5. Be aware of their energy

If extroverts spend some time working alone in the office, they will feel the need to socialize in order to feel energized again. It is important to give them the opportunity to re-energize, such as going on a short coffee break with them.

Oftentimes, people can’t be exactly categorized as extreme introverts or extroverts, as they can display some behavior characteristic to both of these groups. Being an extrovert doesn’t mean you are better than an introvert – no one can say that one personality type is better than the other. Everyone has their good and bad sides. Yet, if you get an understanding as to why people behave in a certain way, you will be able to have better relationships.

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Extrovert: We Just Love being Around people, Not Attention Seeking!

There is no denying that each person on this planet is unique. It is hard to put such unique individuals into categories, but despite that fact, there are some personality traits that can roughly put people into certain categories. One of the most well-known categorizations says people can be an introvert, extrovert or ambivert.

Introverted people are those who seek solitude and isolation, and rarely participate in social activities. They avoid large groups of people and prefer to spend time with their thought. On the other hand, extroverts are those people who you see in the spotlight of every social event. They are outgoing, like to interact with other people, and are often good leaders. Ambiverts will sometimes display introverted characteristics, and sometimes display extroverted characteristics.

What are extroverts like?

As mentioned, extroverts like to socialize, meet new people and talk to them. So how do you know if someone is extrovert?

Extroverts love to talk

You have probably noticed those people who always break the awkward silence at parties, or spend their time circling around and talking to as many people as they can. Or in a bus, supermarket, or any other public place for that matter, starting conversation with total strangers. They just love to talk. They can talk with anyone about almost anything. They are eager to meet new people and find out everything about them.

Extroverts feel energized when they are around people

Unlike introverts, extroverts don’t enjoy being alone – being around people boosts their energy. If they are given the choice to stay at home on a Friday night, or go out to a pub, for example, they would always choose to be among people, even if they are tired or have had a difficult day. Staying home alone is not how they charge their batteries and find inspiration. Throw them in a large group of people and they will feel as if they have had a large cup of coffee.

Extroverts need to talk about their feelings

Introverts prefer to sort out their feelings in silence, on their own, whereas extroverts feel better if they discuss their problems and feelings with someone. If they have had some problems at work, or in a relationship, what makes them feel better is if they share their concerns with others.

Extroverts have many interests

Extroverts love dynamic surroundings and they tend to constantly seek for new experiences, and thus they develop many new interests. As they love interacting with people and learning about them, they hear a lot of new information and so they get interested in trying new things.

Extroverts are very open to people

People find extroverts friendly and approachable as they don’t shy away from sharing how they feel or what they think about a certain subject. They don’t tend to think a lot about what they are going to say, or take the time to organize their thoughts before they speak – they just blurt out everything that comes to their mind.

Extroverts enjoy being the center of attention

Extroverts don’t have a problem with speaking in public, actually, they love it! When all eyes are on them – that’s their moment to shine. They are the ones who tell all the best jokes at parties, or gather groups of people around them to admire their stories. They are not afraid to step onto the dance floor and show all their dance moves.

Misconceptions we have for extroverts.

Even though they are outgoing and always try to make people laugh, they also have their share of struggles.

Extroverts are not 100% confident all the time

People tend to perceive extroverts as super confident as they have no problem with speaking to strangers or in front of a large group of strangers. As every other person, extroverts have their self doubts from time to time. They just come off as so confident about their skills that it’s hard for other people to imagine they have insecurities, but they actually do.

Extroverts can be depressed and sad too

Extroverts draw their energy when they are around people and thus always seem to be in a good mood when you see them at social gatherings. However, they also feel sad or depressed if they don’t get their daily dose of interaction with others.

Extroverts are outgoing but they need alone time too

Yes, extroverts also need their alone time. From time to time, they just need to read a book, watch a movie on their own, or put on their headphones, listen to music and not talk to anyone. The thing is that their need to be alone doesn’t last as long as with introverts, for example.

Making friends can be hard for extroverts too

Just because it is easy for extroverts to start a conversation with just about anyone, it doesn’t mean they have tons of friends. Sometimes, other people might find it off-putting when someone talks a lot, so it can be equally hard for extroverts to connect with people as it is for anyone else.

Extroverts will feel lonely too

Even if extroverts are surrounded by tons of friends, it is not necessarily the case that they are best friends with all of them. They like to be around people, but that doesn’t mean all the people around them really know or understand them. That’s the feeling everybody, even extroverts, can relate to – that some days no one can get what you are going through and you feel so lonely.

Extroverts are not obsessed with themselves

It is true that extroverts like to be the center of attention, but that doesn’t qualify them as narcissists – it’s just their way of expressing themselves. Their need for attention might seem selfish but they are actually trying to make people around them feel better.

What you need to know if you are in love with an extrovert?

1. They love real-life social interactions

Instead of wasting their time in front of screens, extroverts prefer talking to people face to face, so don’t expect them to text a lot. Instead of hanging out in the virtual world, they will expect you to spend time together going to restaurants, cinema or just walking in the park.

2. They love to talk, but they also love to listen

Extroverts enjoy a good talk, but they don’t enjoy one way conversation. They like to interact, which means they will listen to you carefully as they expect your feedback or reaction.

3. Extroverts like to be in the spotlight, but that doesn’t make them egoists

Extroverts love attention and don’t shy away from it. They love when you pamper them, but that doesn’t mean they are selfish. They will also do anything they can to make you feel good.

4. They can get bored easily

If you are in love with an extrovert, you need to be open to trying new things or picking up new hobbies. They are always looking for new things to keep them energized, so you will need to keep up with their pace.

5. Extroverts are not close to everyone

Even though they like interacting with people, they don’t manage to develop close relationships with all of those people. They are sociable, but of course there are people whose company extroverts do not find pleasant.

6. Extroverts can feel hurt too

Communicating with a lot of people gives extroverts the ability to filter out the unnecessary information, thus making it look like they are insensitive to other people’s emotions. However, as every human being, extroverts can be deeply hurt too, especially by the people they care about.

7. They want instant gratification

Being the people of action, extroverts are impatient when it comes to getting their reward. They would always rather choose to spend their money on something that will make them happy instantly, instead of saving the money for a bigger treat later on.

8. They don’t need to be with their loved ones all the time

Even though they enjoy spending time with their significant other, they love spending time with other people too. If you don’t feel like going out, they won’t feel the need to be clingy and force you to go with them. It’s fine by them if you stay at home, but don’t expect them to stay too. They need to charge their batteries by interacting with other people too.

9. Extroverts read too

There is a misconception that extroverts are shallow as they prefer spending time with people and making small talk. Loving to be around people doesn’t in any way interfere with their desire to read or educate themselves.

10. They are flexible

Extroverts can easily adapt to any changes in plans, and they are also willing to reach a compromise in what activities you should do as a couple.

What you need to know when working with an extrovert?

1. They like to discuss solutions to problems

Extroverts like to brainstorm and discuss how to solve problems at work. Give them space to express their ideas and they might come up with creative solutions.

2. They like to be praised

Extroverts like to receive feedback and they can be more productive if they see their efforts are appreciated. They will feel more stimulated if they are praised for their good work.

3. They are good at interacting with people

Extroverts are very skilled in communicating with people and they will be highly effective when interacting with clients or presenting in front of a group of people.

4. They understand body language well

Extroverts are good at reading non-verbal clues, so you need to be well aware of your posture or tone of voice when talking with them, as they will notice everything.

5. Be aware of their energy

If extroverts spend some time working alone in the office, they will feel the need to socialize in order to feel energized again. It is important to give them the opportunity to re-energize, such as going on a short coffee break with them.

Oftentimes, people can’t be exactly categorized as extreme introverts or extroverts, as they can display some behavior characteristic to both of these groups. Being an extrovert doesn’t mean you are better than an introvert – no one can say that one personality type is better than the other. Everyone has their good and bad sides. Yet, if you get an understanding as to why people behave in a certain way, you will be able to have better relationships.

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