#talk of disordered eating

[gothhabiba]

for the record, if you feel that you cannot control your eating—like, you sit down intending to eat a handful of chips or a couple cookies, and you enter a fugue state and eat the entire package, and you're like, oh my god, why don't I have any self-control when it comes to food, why do I keep doing this—the answer is that it's because you are probably starving. you are probably running on a severe calorie and nutrient deficit and harming yourself by doing so. we should question the idea that exerting "self-control" when it comes to food is even necessary.

[imarson404]

obsessed with this youtube reactor to death note who’s a therapist who saw L pick stuff up the way he does, laughed a little and tried it himself then got a really serious look on his face and said ‘hmmm… could that be another autism thing for him?’

[hanalyrata]

Stop infantalizing people who are neurodivergent. Stop treating people who are neurodivergent with the same rules as neurotypicals and expect them to "get" it. Stop pretending to be allies to neurodivergent people who when they show their actual symptoms that aren't just quirky "tee hee hee I'm so random" tiktok coded bullshit, turn on them when it displays as the actual mental health problem that it is.

It's exhausting, to be honest.

Also: It is not a flex to be more functioning than someone else who is ND either. It is not a flex to be further along in recovery from any mental health trauma. It is not a flex to have more understanding of your condition than someone else who is also ND because you've been able to access therapy and tools to work with it.

[audible-smiles]

a lot of fat people use the hope of someday losing weight as, like, an emotional tool to help them deal with how painful it can be to exist in their body/society, right? “this isn’t my real self, this is temporary”, we say. now that I’ve realized that I can maintain a “normal” body weight only for so long as it remains my number one priority in life, and that I will regain weight as soon as I have to focus on literally anything other than calorie counting, I’m struggling with…despair? hopelessness. especially since the most successful long term weight loss techniques aren’t an option for me- surgery has completely unacceptable health risks and the newer drugs simply aren’t affordable (unless I get diabetes and insurance covers them, which I of course hope to avoid). so my brain keeps trying to steer me back onto the dieting for weight loss track just because it’s easier than doing the work of grieving my imaginary thin body and figuring out how to move the fuck on. so here’s some resolutions:

1. I need to get off Facebook. I will really miss some of the excellent groups (hyper-local Buy Nothing groups, regional habitat gardening advice, etc) but the videos and ads they now push on you constantly serve me a huge amount of weight loss and dieting content, which is actively harmful to me, and I can’t find a way to block both without making the site unusable. I can definitely figure out how to access community resources and knowledge without Facebook, which sucks anyway.

2. Make more fat friends, hang out with them, and talk about this kind of stuff out loud, because it’s a different and less intellectualized type of processing than writing is for me.

3. Continue showing up to the body positive yoga studio on a weekly basis. Continue attempting to add more physical activity into my life in other ways. Continue reducing sugar in my diet and adding fiber and protein, where possible. Do not engage in meal skipping, calorie counting, total avoidance of any particular food, exercising to “earn” food, or any other kind of behavior that I know comes from my (increasingly desperate) ED brain flailing to regain control.

4. Figure out how to be hot and fat in a genderweird way, because it honestly still eludes me. Fat hotness is just so…gendered. This will probably require following a lot more hot queer fat people on tumblr…oh no…🥰

[quixoticanarchy]

Grim to see how much of a stranglehold diet culture still has on my 75 yr old coworker - she's got the fancy watch to track her steps, she tells me every week how many calories she burns swimming every day, on saturdays she only eats salads. And it might sound mean, but.. Lisa. If it hasn't worked yet it won't work now. The body you have is doing a fine job. You're 75, and this is still what your life is built around? This is the crowning achievement you want before you die?

I just want to be a size 4 for once in my life, she says.

I do believe that with age a lot of us let go of a lot of our little preoccupations and worries and such, but that's not really guaranteed - and not really very profitable for diet culture to be something you can age out of. Better to keep selling people the idea that if they just try harder, they can spend the last few years of their lives on this earth trying to once and for all be small enough, before they die. And I know, I know, I am extremely aware how it becomes a self-inscribed obsession, a system of personal surveillance, a set of choices that feel utterly yours - I'm doing this for myself. I'm not buying into anything. I just *want* this. I am also familiar with the sunk cost fallacy of it all - 70 years of failing at diets, but what if this is the one? Who am I to say she doesn't have to live like this, when after all this time and effort, how can she admit defeat now? All I know is I don't want to live like this. I've already given it a lot of years. I can't give it the rest of my life.

[starscelly]

i dont believe he is at all but even if mikko was a locker room cancer like …. girl who gaf……. we rehabilitated and made suter, domi, and duchene all likable to the guys like ?????? i think itll be alright … its been considerably worse

[ms-demeanor]

Re the "ask a bodybuilder" thing: I have some friends who lowkey lift, and one of them described a "macro-friendly" dessert recipe they'd seen (with a tone of mockery). My immediate thought was "eating disorder For Him", to which both friends agreed that "yeah, no, ask any professional bodybuilder how they get in shape for shows and they know it's dysfunctional"

Yeah, the behavior that bodybuilders use when on a cut (losing weight and getting lean for a show/season) is absolutely not a healthy or sustainable approach to food; generally they know this and they are aware that there are some times of year when they're going to be functionally starving themselves (and dehydrating themselves - they will absolutely skip water in the days before a show so they have more visible veins and muscle striations) but actually what I was talking about there went in the other direction (bulking rather than cutting). It's really really really really hard to put on weight if your body doesn't want to put on weight. It's really hard to keep that weight on. It's hard to gain muscle and it's easy to lose it. And I know plenty of people who are naturally very thin who have struggled to put on weight.

But we only really present one side of this equation and I think it's worthwhile to talk about both. Not in an "oh skinny people are oppressed too" way, but in an "look actually changing your body composition requires a level of effort that is bugfuck insane to ask of people and if you wouldn't ask a thin person to put on ten pounds of muscle because of the effort that would require, why are you comfortable telling a fat person to lose fifty pounds in spite of the effort that requires?" way.

[soup-mother]

unlike those irrational women with their eating disorders based on vanity (and patriarchal standards of beauty and thinness imposed upon them) I, a rational male cooking YouTuber base my eating disorder on half remembered science and reddit posts

[bloodycookie]

"Dzień" Bo gdyby był "Dobry" Ważyła bym 40kg.

[sugarysakurakitty]

Would anybody kill me if I talk about disordered eating stuff on main? /genq