#trans has that nice tra sound

[defiant-firefly]

Wait if I'm nonbinary/genderqueer and the words don't taste good to me, despite the fact they match me and I identity as them, what if I just start using the word trans because that doesn't have that weird feeling when I say it

[eviltothecore13]

*sigh*...

Just saw someone reblog a perfectly good post about some people who fought for gay rights in a very justifiably passionate and angry way...

And add a comment saying "politeness, civility and debate are fucking worthless and have never achieved anything".

Seriously? Never? Maybe against malicious bigoted people, but most people are neither...

For one thing "politeness is worthless" kind of sounds like something that people who don't say "please" when buying something in a shop would say. But even if we're just talking about their worth in social justice contexts... the vast majority of people in the world don't intend harm to anyone but are also not fully knowledgeable about various issues. And I can say from experience that like... just talking and explaining things to most people works?

Like, a while ago a good friend of mine casually used the word "spastic" in a conversation, apparently thinking it meant "full of energy" or something, when it's actually a slur for people with cerebral palsy. After I was like "I know a lot of people don't know the origins of that word and I'm not angry with you, but it's actually a slur for people with cerebral palsy", they apologised and never used it again. Would "FUCK YOU BITCH YOU CLEARLY HATE DISABLED PEOPLE SO I HOPE YOU DIE" really have been a better response? I don't think so (it would also have been untrue, they are not a bitch and I do not want them to die and never did, they are a good friend of mine who just didn't know something!).

My father went from having various "concerns" about trans people (women's sports, what if someone regrets it, etc) before I came out as trans, to being fully supportive of me and of trans people in general, because I explained trans perspectives to him, cleared up a few misconceptions, showed him scientific evidence that backed me up... I'm not sure he'd ever have learned anything if I'd responded to his unintentionally hurtful views by yelling that I hated him and refusing to speak to him again, and it would have ruined our otherwise good relationship. I can picture some transphobe telling him that this was proof "TRA"s were crazy, and I can picture the path he could have gone down after that.

Obviously if someone doubles down and makes it clear they really want to hurt people, politeness won't help, and I'm not saying the protesters that the original post was talking about should have been more polite to the truly hateful bigots they were up against, far from it. But the idea that nothing has ever been achieved by politely talking to people (even if we only count social justice achievements and not like... the general benefits of being nice to people in day to day life when it comes to just "not making people decide you're a dick and they want to cause problems for you"--or even making some friends?) seems like a serious exaggeration and not a very helpful one?

[ayeeyo1]

Yapping about my friend

I have a friends will call her Sunny. She is a tra but not the crazy kind but the normie kind. She says I’m not like “other queer people and sometimes I’m too direct” she also advices me to be “nonchalant” saysifn she found success with women that way.

Honestly I think most liberals are tweakers. They lie about being accepting towards everyone and everything. They lie by using clinical language to describe their feelings (“ I felt so gaslight” “no your totally valid”) same old reply’s same old inquiries.

Another thing is she can’t take certain jokes at all. Even if you say “your people make good music haha” she’ll be like “what do you mean YOUR ppl?” Bro how is that even offensive to say.

Mind you this girl is half black 💀💀. But claims to have faced bullying for being black. I’m also a black African for context.

Send me an African song, yes that’s MY people. Why is that offenseive. “Oh I was bullied for my race as a kid and i just hate it” I’m not bullying you though. I’m not some edgelord who uses makes ppl uncomfortable, I’m just giving an example of how sensitive she is to things. Everything has to be tones policed. I apologized and she was like “do better”. Bro I’m the one who sends money to Africa and advocated for my people all the time.

I’m not doing better, I’m trying my best. I actually act on things I say. When I tell someone I love something it has gravity. A lot of liberal “gays” don’t act that way. Scratch that a lot of people don’t act that way. For example say they are anti racists but they are the least willing to put up time and dollars to help us.

Who cares what people say, look at what people DO.

She said I was the only friend she met since she moved to this state that actually makes an effort to visit her and check up on her. Bro that’s how friendship works. When someone says they are your friend they need to show out. I sound like a direct asshole to you because your used to fake shit.

I’m not different than other “queers” being gay isn’t something that I follow like a dogma. So I can see through trans propaganda, Im not some super smart guy. I just don’t let social media influence my life. She’s the same person that said “I’m more empathetic to trans people than you are but that’s okay”

Yes ms anti racist go and be for a movement that the white owned pharmaceutical companies endorse, a movement that white billionaires openly support. A movement that in the US white males compared themselves to the rape and violence black women face.

Nothing these people say is real. She is a nice person I genuinely enjoy spending time with her but she just has her head so far up her ass. I hope bro gets well soon. Love ya Sunny ☀️.

[blackindiaink]

Alrit you funky little lesbian(gay,bi,pan,ploly,trans,nb,hetro) thing, I’ve got a prompt for you if you so dare answers this call for sapphic content. Scylla casually mentioning a time she got seriously hurt/nearly died and the rest of them being like what the fucq? How u so calm? Cause Scylla cares a lot for her people but she has been a soldier from the moment she was lost her parents. And also I don’t think the sprees boot camps are fully of flowers and all thing nice

Firstly, your prompt made me chuckle and I love that. Well, the start of it and your wording! They were brilliant. Also, lesbian is just fine. Scylla is a tough ass bitch and I hope this did your prompt justice. Note: I'm not going to read over the last part of this before posting so just slap me if there are mistakes.

Scylla didn't mind that no one in the group asked her a lot of questions about herself. Raelle was the only one who seemed to be interested in her beyond the cursory amount that small talk demanded. Even Tally was busy trying to figure out what exactly this weird thing going on between herself and Nicte was and Scylla was having fun watching it.

That changed the night that Nicte outted her. They were riding through a midsized rural town and stopped at a gas station just outside the city limits. The entire crew took it as a chance to stretch their legs and mill around the immediate area, congregating out front while Adil pumped the gas.

It just so happened that this gas station had a bar right next door to it and said bar was often frequented by troops of bikers that rode this way and that over Highway 101. It was well known by locals as a place to stay away from unless you liked associating with a rough crowd. The place was rife with brawls and disputes over the most trivial of things.

Scylla was minding her own business, sitting on a nearby crate of old oil cans when a burly looking man with a bushy brown beard approached her. He'd been standing over by a row of motorcycles with his buddies, talking about his latest conquest. As soon as he spotted Scylla, he was interested and being egged on by his companions.

So, off he went to sidle up to the pretty brunette with the nice body.

"You're to pretty to be out here all alone," he started.

Scylla's attention was redirected from the front of the gas station to the near six foot five man that was standing before her. She really wanted to roll her eyes but settled for a deep sigh instead.

"I'm not interested," she said, getting up from her seat.

"Woah, why are you so quick to run off? I just want to talk to you a little," he replied.

"Well, I don't want to talk to you," she said, raising an eyebrow and standing her ground.

"You don't even know me yet so maybe give me a chance and you might change your mind. I'm a pretty nice guy and I've got a really, really nice bike. I'm sure you'd like to ride it," he smarmed.

Scylla snorted and was about to shoot off a snarky reply about his aforementioned bike and it's lack of appeal when Raelle appeared.

"She said back off so get lost," Raelle growled.

Her voice was dangerously close to sounding augmented, indicating she was about to use work on this civilian.

"Raelle," Scylla cautioned.

She stepped forward and put her hand on Raelle's arm, slipping it down to entwine their fingers.

"Oh, there's two of you. Hey, I've got a buddy over there who would love to meet you. He’s very into cute little blondes," the guy said.

That was all it took for Scylla to step up to the man, staring him down with an intense gaze that made his attention snap to her.

“You’re going to walk away now before you can’t walk anymore,” Scylla warned.

Her voice was cold as ice and wavering like she was about to push this civilian or break his kneecaps with her bare hands.

“Connor! Brother, who are these pretty ladies?”

The question came from one of the biker’s friends who had just emerged from the bar and walked down to see what was going on.

“Let’s go,” Raelle said, taking Scylla’s hand and trying to walk away.

“Aww, don’t go. You haven’t even met Peter here. He’s a nice guy, not as nice as me but no one is,” Connor said.

Peter, in contrast to Connor, was on the shorter side, barely taller than Scylla and slender. He wasn’t without muscle tone though. They made an intimidating pair to anyone who wasn’t trained to kill like the witches that stood before them.

“You guys okay?”

It was Adil, approaching from the front of the store. Right behind him were Abigail and Tally with Nicte bringing up the rear.

“Oh, they’ve got friends,” Peter said, surveying the group. “You should all come in and have a drink on us. Especially you, sweet thing. I’d like to take you back to my place and let you ride my dick.”

The last bit was directed at Raelle, which definitely wasn’t the right thing to say at that moment. Scylla broke free of Raelle’s grip and advanced on the smaller man, kicking him in the groin as soon as she got within range. He doubled over and went to the ground but his friend reached over for Scylla only to grasp for air where her body had been. His next instinct was to punch and that did connect with Scylla’s cheek. Her head spun to the side with the force of impact, making her stagger to the side and out of his reach.

Peter got up pretty quickly and came at her but she stopped him cold with a hand on his neck. She squeezed hard and before Connor could get to them she leaned in, getting so close so fast that he had no time to react. She got right next to his ear and started whispering words that no one else could hear.

When she was done speaking, she stepped back and rejoined Raelle, a satisfied smile blooming on her features. Peter turned around and walked back toward the row of bikes, his friend Connor watching him with concern.

“Where ya going?” Connor asked.

Peter walked straight up to one of the bikes and tilted it away so he could move the kickstand from it’s downward position. He started to push the bike back toward the bar and then took a sharp left, veering off in the direction of the side of the road where there was a steep drop off and a thirty foot drop off down to the dry bed of a creek.

“Hey, that’s my bike!” Connor shouted.

He ran after his friend who was in the process of pushing the bike toward the edge of the road. Just before Connor could reach him, Peter gave the bike a hard push and sent it over the side, watching it fall down to the rocks below.

“What the hell!” Connor roared.

Scylla turned away, reaching for Raelle’s hand and walking back toward the bus with a satisfied smirk on her face.

“What was that?” Raelle asked, still looking behind them while being pulled along by Scylla.

“I suggested he take his friend’s bike for a walk off a steep cliff,” Scylla said as if it was the most natural thing ever.

“So… you pushed him?” Raelle asked.

Scylla shrugged and sighed.

“It was the fastest way to get rid of them without actually hurting them myself,” she replied.

The rest of the group trailed behind them and boarded the bus as well, all finding seats in and around Scylla and Raelle.

“We could have handled that differently. You shouldn’t be using work like that out in the open on civilians,” Abigail scolded.

“Back off, Abigail,” Raelle warned.

She turned to Scylla and put a hand on her shoulder, checking the spot where Connor’s fist had hit her. There was a cut and would most definitely be a bruise in the morning. Tally produced a tissue from a box that had been on the bus and gave it to Raelle who started to dab at the blood on Scylla’s face.

Scylla smiled at her and took the tissue leaning forward and putting it to her mouth. When she was done, bright red blood soaked the tissue.

“When he hit me I bit the inside of my lip so hard it started bleeding,” Scylla explained.

She didn’t want Raelle worrying too much. That punch was nothing and the only result it had was pissing her off more.

“Hey, that was pretty tame actually I would have skinned them alive,” Nicte argued.

“Of course, you would,” Abigail said.

“He hit you pretty hard. You sure you’re okay?” Tally asked.

“Yeah, looked like he rocked your world a little,” Quinn added.

“Yeah, better check her for a concussion. Necros don’t get nearly enough combat training so taking a punch might be a novel idea for you,” Abigail joked.

“Seriously Abigail?” Raelle groused.

“What? I was kidding,” Abigail replied. “Sort of,” she muttered under her breath.

Scylla took a deep breath and released it. She was still angry about what the guys had done, fed up with Abigail’s passive-aggressive bullshit, and mostly just tired.

“We did just as much combat training as you in basic and that wasn’t the hardest. To join the Spree, you have to go through training as well and it puts anything the Army throws at you to shame,” Scylla defended.

“She’s right. We designed it that way for a good reason. Why do you think Spree agents rarely ever break? The final trial is when we take them, disorient them and put them in an capture simulation.” Nicte added.

“You never told me about that,” Raelle said.

She had her hands on Scylla’s, her thumb rubbing circles on the soft skin over her knuckles.

“Not really something you talk about without a reason. It’s why they couldn’t break me till they brought you in. That was a genius move. It was the only way they would have ever gotten me to talk,” Scylla said.

“What happens when they capture you?” Tally asked.

“They torture you. You go through a week of it. They find out every fear you have and exploit it using work and physical means as well,” Scylla explained.

Everyone looked at Nicte who just shrugged. “How else are we going to get agents that can withstand interrogation?” She asked.

“I think the worst part was watching the delusion that I killed my own parents over and over, feeling their blood on my hands, seeing their eyes pleading with me to stop.” Scylla shrugged and leaned into Raelle’s body. “That was worse than the beatings.”

“What the actual hell?” Tally asked. She leaned over the tall seat back to place a hand on Scylla’s shoulder. “I can’t believe you went through that and you’re still okay.”

Abigail shook her head, silenced by the seriousness of Scylla’s revelation. She couldn’t imagine going through that for one day let alone an entire week.

“That’s some hard shit,” Abigail whispered.

“Point is, I can take a punch and a lot more than that if I need to. But hey, that other guy went down pretty fast, right?” Scylla said.

Her attempt to lighten things failed miserably now that everyone was shell shocked by hearing about Spree training. She looked up to Tally who was staring at Nicte with a new fear colouring her eyes. It was best she knew what Nicte was really like. Scylla might have to have a talk with her at some point about that. They’d been getting close and that worried her.

[centuriantalevevo]

Draco x Nonbinary Reader

Reader is AMAB, also this contains my headcanons lmao- hella OOC because of that (one of my headcanons, Draco has like.. multiple cousins who are basically on crack /j)

TW: transphobia and enbyphobia, with talk of biphobia. LGBTphobia in general. Misgendering

    5th year is.. Hectic.. Especially for a certain kid, Y/N L/N, who had to deal with a literal pink toad this year. Like.. ew? What made it worse, was they seemed to be the only kid in the school, well Slytherin specifically, that was… Different. Not in the normal, cliche sense, where ‘oh Y/N was drop dead gorgeous but abused by everyone around her, she can sing amazing-’, no. This isn’t your typical x Reader story, Y/N was different in the sense of Identity, Gender, specifically Gender Norms. They seemed to be all alone on this feeling, a feeling of discomfort, a feeling of loneliness despite multiple friends being in the room with them at this moment. They were away from earth, where no words can hurt. Where the erasure cannot get to them.

Oh god did the words hurt.

Oh? What words? You’re about to find out.

    “No, but did you hear some of the bullshit Umbridge was saying?” He asked, he as in the blonde. Draco. Draco Malfoy. “Especially to my cousin-” “You have a cousin?” Pansy asked, “Welcome to the conversation, first time speaking to me?- Yes, you are hella late to the conversation.” Draco groaned, “Now let me get back to the story” “Continue, which cousin? Darla?- Dominic?-” Blaise asked, “No, Jamie..” He responded quickly, “Oh hold on, what did the toad do to Jamie? I swear, if she hURT THAT PRECIOUS CHILD- Gryffindor or not, I love that girl to death” Blaise said quickly, interrupting Draco.

The blonde sighed deeply, “Blaise.. I love you to death but holy shit let me finnish, alright..” He took a breather, Y/N came back from their little world, queuing into the conversation. “Okay, so Umbridge had the AUDACITY to misgender MY COUSIN OVER AND OVER again! Misgendered her, invalidated her, you know that rule about like.. Something distance from the opposite gender? Yeah she’s forcing Jamie, a literal girl, to distance from girls and not guys-” He halted for a second, “No, my bad.. She’s forcing Jamie to stay away from both because she believe that Jamie is gay.. No, Jamie is a whole straight girl..” Draco ranted, “um.. Sorry to interrupt but… Jamie’s a girl? So how was she invalidated?” Y/N asked, tilting their head, Draco’s eyes moved to them, softening some.

    “Oh, you didn’t know? I thought everyone knew. Jamie is trans, she’s a trans girl specifically”

THERE! THERE IT WAS! They weren’t alone now.. There was someone who understood, yet they’d been clueless this whole time.

“I swear I will jack that woman UP” Blaise said lowly and Draco nodded in agreement. “Jamie was CRYING when she came to me, she could barely speak. That poor girl passed out from crying so much. She felt so hurt and the amount of dysphoria she felt was astronomically high.” He sighed, even he wanted to cry. “Like, damn bitch you didn’t have to out yourself as a whole LGBTphobe, you could’ve just stayed quiet and it would cost you nothing yet you chose to mess with a child who is related to the MALFOY family, very smart yes mhmm..” He growled in aggravation “Only merlin knows what she’d do if there was a nonbinary in the school, she’s probably dehumanize them.” He shook his head.

    “I’d commit a hate crime if I’m honest” Dominic said, coming from the stairs of the boys dormitory, “The LGBT had their way for a moment because she hadn’t thought about the gays, bisexuals and lesbians. Well.. the gays and lesbians, I don’t think she thinks Bisexuals exist..” He hummed, “She’s enforced the rule so now Darla can’t be near Daphne, luckily I don’t have a boyfriend.. The one time being single is a good thing.” Dominic dramatically cried.

“I will prove bisexuals exist, damn seems like I gotta stay away from ALL of you, sorry” Draco jokes, but was dead serious at the same time. “Until then, if there are nonbinaries in the school, technically they can by-pass the rules, if they present as masculine one day feminine the next. Or just androgynous to confuse the toad.” Draco then added, “I think I have to stay away from you guys too, shit Bisexuals can’t do ANYTHING” Blaise said, pretending to get up and leave.

So.. the students know of the nonbinary gender…

“Although, no surprise, Snape is always the decent one, along with all the other professors, and respect the trans kids pronouns, I’ve gone into his class to give him something during one of his lessons and heard him deliberately calling out kids that misgendered Jamie, it was amazing. And everyone says Snape is a bad teacher.” Draco says, smiling some at the memory. “Ooo! Speaking of which! While in Umbrdige’s class I think.. A few days ago, Snape actually found out about the incident and told her the fuck off for it-” “Damn, snape really said ‘trans rights are human rights’, go off honestly” Dominic interrupted, Draco nodded “The best look honestly, it was pure bliss watching that.” He responded.

Y/N finally managed to form words. “I.. didn’t know there was a trans person in the school.. A fellow trans person..” They said, mumbling the last part quietly, but Draco, Dominic, and Blaise caught it. “Fellow trans person?” Blaise tilted his head, and Draco glanced knowingly, the last part of their sentence was all he needed. They shook their head quickly, “Nothing” They shrugged, “Just nice to know”

It hurt, to be misgendered everyday, to be fair no one knew they were misgendering the kid. But they were so scared of being erased, discriminated against, that they said nothing. Since 1st year, pretty much.

They stretched some, “I'm gonna head to the library, I need to get studying done for Defense Against the Dark Arts, I’ll talk to you guys later.” They smiled, getting up, and grabbing paper, a quill, ink and their books from their dorm. Speed walking out, though it didn’t take long to hear a second pair of footsteps racing after them. Who the-

    “Hey, Y/N..” Draco trailed of, catching up to them quickly, “What’s up?” They looked at him from the corner of their eye, “There’s something you never told anyone, isn’t there?” He asked. Y/N averted their eyes and shook their head, “Nn… No..?” They sounded unsure, “Is that a statement, or a question because you don’t know?” He asked. He didn’t wanna be rude, but this was the only way he could truly confirm. If there was someone he had been accidentally misgendering, he wanted to stop that quickly.

    “I don’t wanna sound rude, nor put you on the spot.. You don’t have to answer if you don’t want to but.. What are your pronouns?” he asked, he knew of the nonbinaries, he knew of them.. So it’s fine to tell him, yes? He was basically defending them. They shook their head, not ready yet. “Not ready? That’s fine, I can respect that. You can always tell me, you know that right? I’ll understand. And if not me, then Jamie will.” heHe had sincerity in his voice, Y/N simply nodded. “Noted, thanks Draco..” They smiled and headed to the Library.

    The next day, Defense Against the Dark Arts was boring as ever, all because of Umbridge. But she had a new lesson today, not the normal one though. She had been doing her usual bullying of Jamie, Draco had been on edge and heard about it earlier, fairly quickly too. It was like it was her MISSION to be an LGBTphobic idiot with no life. Jamie had mentioned nonbinaries before she dipped from class, arguing about trans in general with the woman, or.. Monster.. Both terms work. So she was now here, in front of kids, spewing out enbyphobic shit, and not planning on stopping.. Y/N was starting to cry, but tried their best to hold it in.

The first person to notice the distress was Draco, Hermione did too, as she sat behind Y/N but could see them jolting some, “These.. Non-binaries, are less than human. You’re either a boy, or a girl. Everyone agrees, yes? If you are born a girl, you’re a girl. If you’re born a boy, you’re a boy. It’s a mental disorder, and you need to be fixed-” “They’re normal.. They just happen to not feel like a guy or a girl..” Y/N said quietly, “Trans folk are human, they aren’t an it.. That’s incredibly hurtful..” They said, it took all their strength to keep their voice from cracking.

“What was that Mr. L/N?” Umbridge smiled that sweet yet disgusting smile, tilting her head.. No, that smile had more dangerous intent behind that. They flinched. “Is there something you would like to say sir?” She asked, stopping in front of them. “Trans people.. Are people.. Just because you’re too ignorant to learn doesn’t.. M..mean you- b-bring someone down b-beca-use of it..” Their voice started to crack, they hiccuped some. “I’m sorry.. Do you think you have more knowledge than me?” She asked, her tone was dangerous. “Y..yes. Clearly, I’ve d-done my research on this, th-there is science tha-at defends us” They said.

“Detention Mr. L/N.. For talking back to a teacher, when I am giving a lesson you are to listen, you’re too caught up in whatever freak show you tra-” Umbridge was cut off, “Don’t you DARE finish that damn sentence, I can promise you I am not against hitting a teacher and a woman at that.” Draco intervened, “There is a lot of science that backs transgenders up, plenty of brain science has shown there is a female and male brain, that’s what backs up trans girls and trans boys, the nonbinary is still being researched, but I can assure you it is much more than a mental illness. Yes, dysphoria is a disorder, it CAN be treated, it can be treated with Hormone Replacement Therapy, or HRT. It can be treated with transitioning. Some nonbinaries transition, some don’t feel dysphoric enough to transition, but at the end of the day they are still a they, I am still a he, and you are still a she. Just imagine if someone called you ‘he’, or even ‘it’ because they didn’t believe you were actually a girl-” “DETENTION, for BOTH of you.” Umbridge screamed, glaring daggers at both of them.

    “I’d take detention over hearing another second of the erasure, you’ve hurt my cousin enough, I’ll gladly take the blow for her. I thought Snape would’ve taught you.” Draco muttered, staring at her, “Both of you, leave. Now.” She said with a huff, Draco grabbed his things, but stopped Y/N when they tried to collect theirs, getting it for them, “Come on.” He said softly, leaving the classroom with the student.

He handed their things to them gently, “I.. Noticed you got really upset..” He said softly, “More like panicked..” They said softly, “It’s easier said than done, but try not to let her get to you. Some people just choose to stay stupid. Sometimes even I hurt from some of the shit she says. Damn the amount of biphobia I have heard from her is ungodly.” He sighed, “You’re bi?” They asked curiously, “Yeah, I thought it was obvious by now. I kinda stopped caring at like.. 2nd year, hell I made out with.. A lot of guys in 2nd and 3rd year, mostly to piss my father off because he’s also LGBTphobic, but also just because it’s fun, and guys are cute.” He said with a small grin, they laughed. “Fair enough, do what you can to piss the oppressors off” They joked, drying their eyes. He turned to head to the Slytherin Common Room, when their voice ringed out again.

“They/Them..” Y/N said, he turned around and tilted his head, “You asked what my pronouns are.. I use they/them. I’m nonbinary” They said softly, and Draco smiled with a nod. “Is there a different name you want to be called?” But they shook their head, “The name I introduced myself as is the name I want to use.” Y/N said, “Alright, come on. Lets go to the common room” Draco said, “I can probably try and get Jamie in there too..” He hummed softly.

    Later that day, it was after dinner, and all the Slytherins were in the common room. Aside from Draco and Y/N, “Do you want to tell them? Most of them are accepting, aside from a few exceptions, Pansy surprisingly is accepting.” He said quietly, and thought for a moment.. “Blaise told me a few of the kids got told off because they agreed with us.” He added, “I think.. I was always scared to say anything because I didn’t wanna be made fun of.. I didn’t know there was someone who was trans like me til you talked about what happened with Jamie..” They said, “Well, you’re safe here. Hell, I’m more than 110% sure that our headmaster is gay, so.. Do with what you will on that information” He said with a small lighthearted laugh, Draco kissed their cheek with a small hum “It’ll be okay.”

They’d chosen to tell them, they didn’t want to feel misgendered any longer, Umbridge aside. “Oi, everyone shut your trap for a second, I have something to say- THEO… Thank you” He said, after staring down Theodore for a moment. “Let us reintroduce someone, but properly this time. This is Y/N, they’re nonbinary, use they/them pronouns and the moment I hear any of you say something against that, I will personally come for you, with Jamie in tow.” Draco said, Y/N smiling a little with a small wave. “Could’ve told us sooner, but glad you did, especially after Professor Umbridge, good job” Blaise said.

    Even Pansy was accepting, they were all proud that you had the courage to say come out, and also that you said something to Umbridge.

This was fine, everything is fine. Umbridge wasn’t fine, but.. This was nice, being accepted as who you are, by people who you’d think would be the last people to ever accept you. The person you thought would be the last person to accept you ended up being the most accepting, which is ironic when you consider his dad. 

This was bad 😭

[discyours]

I know a lot of radfems won’t agree with me and I may be being too nice but sometimes it’s just better to be civil. Like if I’m having a good, respectful debate with a trans person or tra and the one thing that will ruin the whole thing is me refusing to use the pronouns they want I’m willing to just do it for civility. I know this isn’t radical but I think SOME people (def not all) will be more open if you play ball a little. That being said, there’s always a need for radfems who give no shits

It comes down to a disagreement in approach. 

The idea that education is all that is needed to dismantle patriarchy is a libfem one. Radical feminists believe that women are oppressed on purpose, that the systems under which we are subjugated will not be brought down by simply getting people to understand that they exist. Female oppression has not been a series of mistakes; men benefit from it and it is deliberate. That all sounds very dramatic but think about it in a real-world context. You cannot tell men “wouldn’t it be great if the sex industry was abolished and all the suffering it causes to women stopped”. They’ll respond by saying the sex industry is actually a good thing, it’s useful, it makes people happy. While most won’t blatantly support human trafficking (emphasis on blatantly, most men are fine with it if it isn’t referred to as such), they will never allow for any argument that no woman’s body should be up for rent. Having a class of women who are sexually available on demand is more important to men than the thing it contradicts: women’s freedom. 

That’s not to say that men wake up in the morning and go “what a lovely day to go oppress women” but there’s a reason why the “feminism has turned women into ugly, man-hating bitches” idea is so widespread. Feminism does turn women undesirable to men. Men don’t want women to let go of harmful rituals of femininity, don’t want women to stop making themselves sexually available to men, don’t want women to stop putting up with misogyny. Gender is one of the systems used to oppress women and the radfem stance is that men will never just agree to let go of it. No actual radfem would disagree with that because the concept that women’s oppression is deliberate rather than accidental is an inherent part of radical feminism. 

The disagreement comes in at the role that women play in this. Making women complicit in their own oppression has always played a big role in upholding the current system. So then you have two somewhat contradictory stances: women’s oppression is deliberate and will not be solved by arguing with or educating the people who are causing it, but radical feminism is for women (including the women who are complicit in their own oppression) and they have to know that they’re oppressed before they can play a part in doing anything about that. 

Some radfems see the gap between our beliefs and the ones society upholds as too big to bridge with softened language. You can see that stance coming back in the responses to my post: “our unbelief will always be shocking to the believers, no matter how gently we put it”. That’s a very logical stance, though out of personal experience I do think that it can be useful to adjust your language to something that can convey your message without it being clouded by terms that women have been taught to be outraged or disgusted by (with the whole “block ‘terfs’ on sight” thing). 

It’s a difference between thinking indoctrination is too severe to breach without someone breaking out of it themselves first, and thinking indoctrination is too severe for people to break out of without help. I’m somewhat in the latter group, I obviously don’t think it’s impossible but it is very difficult and help can be useful. In any case, both are valid perspectives and both are compatible with radical feminism. 

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I think this is called a Peak Trans™ moment?

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I need to vent about something.

A couple of weeks ago, a leftist Instagram account I followed posted these photos:

As a lesbian, I disagree with this post. The account in question encourages discourse, so I decided to comment on it. I’ll be referring to the account as “OP”.

I typed my original comment into my Notes app before sending it, which is the only reason I can share it with you (OP blocked me). It read as follows:

As a lesbian, I don’t think I’d date a trans person because I want a woman who can understand the experience of being socialized as female. I have a lot of trauma with regards to how I was born and socialized. Only other AFAB women will be able to relate to that— even if they haven’t been assaulted (or otherwise experienced what I have). Plus, as a cis person, there’s no way for me to understand the trans experience, so I think there’d be a huge rift between a trans girlfriend and I. I don’t think I’d be able to soothe her or relate to her deeply if she told me about trauma she has as a result of being trans in this society. Of course, trans people don’t usually say that they’ll ONLY date other trans people, but I think they have every right to have that preference.

Unfortunately, I cannot screenshot the rest of the thread, as I’m blocked. The thread isn’t visible to unblocked accounts either.

I will do my best to summarize the rest of the conversation.

Now, both of the people who responded to me were incredibly rude. They insulted me quite a few times, but I can’t remember exactly how they phrased everything, so I’ll just be summarizing their arguments-- minus the attitude. It’s important to note their abusive language, however, because it’s part of the reason this conversation affected me so negatively.

OP: You sound like a TERF. Also, I’ve never heard of a trans person who will only date other trans people. Sounds like a straw man just to excuse your transphobia. And how can you say that trans women aren’t socialized as women?

Me: No, trans women aren’t socialized as female. That’s what makes them trans as opposed to cis, right? They were assigned and socialized as male.

People with vaginas have to deal with much higher rates of sexual harassment and assault even in childhood. And we have to see ourselves assaulted again and again and again when we read the news, watch TV, or read books/comics. I’ve been called weak, unintelligent, and overall inferior all my life due to how I was born. Trans men can relate to this, but trans women cannot. All of this starts early— even before we’re born (I mean, look at gender reveal parties: “guns or glitter”).

OP: So what you’re saying is: trans women are men. Trans people are assaulted too. You’re making a blanket statement about all trans women [when you say they can’t understand female oppression/socialization]. What if a trans woman transitioned at a very young age?

*I decided to ignore OP’s question because... it’s fucking stupid lmfao. You can’t transition in the womb, and you certainly couldn’t consent to that as a baby.

Me: What?? I didn’t say that. You’re putting words into my mouth. Trans women are women, but they have different experiences than cis women.

I know that trans people are assaulted at higher rates than cis people, but that doesn’t detract from the fact that people with vaginas make up the vast majority of victims.

OP: That’s exactly what you’re saying. So, trans women have male privilege, huh? Just admit you’re transphobic and go. Now, answer the FUCKING question.

*I know I said I wasn’t going to convey the tone of these messages, but… wow. Males have told me to “answer the FUCKING question” several times in my life, so that got to me. Males literally can’t act like human beings. The fact that OP is just like any other male no matter how “they” identify is so evident here.

**Now, a trans “woman” starts attacking me. “She” replied to me three times, I think. But I don’t remember how the replies fit into the conversation, and “she” kept repeating “herself”. So, I’m just going to summarize all of that in this one comment.

Trans “Woman”: I’ve been female-socialized and harassed ever since I transitioned at age 16. Also, I’ve been called weak and unintelligent all my life, but thanks for assuming otherwise.

*At this point, I’m getting irritated by these two constantly misconstruing what I’m saying and denying my experiences. So, unfortunately, I use a passive-aggressive emoji. I also use two question marks instead of one. I’m not proud of that, but keep in mind, these two had been complete asshats to me this entire time.

I was so tired at this point. I was sharing my trauma (which isn’t easy for me to talk about,,,,), and I was being so nice. I was trying so hard to center them even though I was talking about my trauma. I didn’t understand why they weren’t reciprocating my energy.

Me: @trans”woman” I’ve been called ‘weak’ and ‘unintelligent’ because I have a vagina. It’s a little different. 🙃

@OP Wait, do you guys think that sex-based oppression doesn’t exist? Like, do you think trans men have the same privilege as cis men??

*OP doesn’t respond for a while. The trans “woman” never responds, either. Finally, OP replies…

OP: You know what? I think I’m just going to block you.

Anddd, that’s why I can’t include screenshots of the interaction on this post. I was kind of relieved that I didn’t have to deal with two MALES shitting on me anymore, though. 🙃🙃🙃

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I grew up in a conservative household, but I’ve been a leftist ever since I was a late-teen. Since getting closer to adulthood, I’ve leaned far left on most issues before even reading other leftists’ opinions on the matters. Over the years, though, I’ve been a cetrist on a few topics.

Usually, this is because I don’t have all the information I need. So, when I notice that I disagree with the majority of leftists on something, I read more about it, and I read their opinions. I almost always end up agreeing with the leftist majority opinion on any given topic.

There are only two major issues I haven’t agreed with most leftists on yet: gun rights and trans rights. Leftists support the Second Amendment... I see both sides. I’m beginning to lean pro-Second Amendment, but that has happened before, so it could happen again. I’m not going to elaborate on this because this post isn’t about that.

When it comes to trans rights, I have NEVER understood the popular leftist opinion. I have been trying for years to understand trans people better. But in the end, my opinion has just been, “Well, I don’t have to understand your identity in order to support it and use your pronouns. Your identity isn’t hurting anybody, and no one should hurt you over your identity.” I still agree with that sentiment. I will still use trans people’s pronouns. I still want them to be safe.

But I’m done accommodating them at my expense. And if you’re a shithead to me, I don’t see a problem with putting your pronouns in quotes and referring to you as “males” instead of “AMABs” in a tumblr post that you’ll never see lmfao. It’s been so liberating to disrespect you (on a post you’ll never see) half as much as you disrespected me (to my face).

TRA’s have excluded AFAB women and trivialized their problems so much. Every single post about AFAB women is derailed (”whuttabout trans women???” “don’t you mean people with vaginas?????”). TRA’s suggest that there are no female-only experiences and sex-based oppression does not exist.

I’ve had many concerns with the Trans Rights Movement for years. But I’ve tried to understand. I wanted to actively support trans people. I didn’t want to merely use their preferred pronouns and tolerate them. I’ve followed TRA’s and read what they have to say...

But the Trans Rights Movement just,,, doesn’t,,,, make,,,,,, sense. This conversation sent me over the edge. I don’t care about understanding trans people anymore. If I can’t understand them in half a decade, I don’t think I ever will. Clearly, to these people, including trans “women” means excluding cis women. You’re trans-exclusionary if you talk about cis women’s experiences or issues. You’re trans-exclusionary if you say that trans “women” and cis women are different (unless it’s to say that trans “women” are superior/prettier or more oppressed).

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Now that I don’t care about trans feelings anymore, I’m going to address the conversation from two weeks ago without sugar-coating anything.

Trans “women” will never have the same experiences as cis women.

I will not date a trans “woman” because I NEED someone who can understand the very specific trauma and physical pain of a female assault victim. I NEED my partner to be able to relate to being constantly berated and belittled in all forms of media— even when I try to relax or distract myself, I am constantly reminded that males hate me and think I’m a worthless incubator/dishwasher.

Two weeks ago, I was not concerned enough about the physical differences between trans “women” and cis women. But now, I think it’s a good time to discuss that, too.

It’s perfectly okay to not want to date a trans person because of their genitals.

Even after a trans “woman” has SRS, “her vagina” is NOT a female vagina. It is not self-cleaning. It has no muscles. It smells PUTRID. Neovaginas are repulsive, and they do NOT look like actual vaginas. A neovagina is the physical manifestation of a male’s soul: it’s a disgusting, smelly, functionless hole that is trying to emulate the natural divinity of a woman.

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Now, I’d like to specifically address those two males:

Thank you guys for demonstrating my point that males can NEVER understand the female experience. :)

Thanks for proving that I’ll never be able to open up to males about my SA trauma. Males will always say that they have it worse and/or pretend that what happened to you has NOTHING to do with the fact that you have a vagina. If you’re vulnerable with them, they will stomp all over you. Males only care about themselves, even if they “identify” as women. :)

I would never be able to be in a relationship with someone that constantly belittles my feelings like this.

Also, to the trans “woman” who alleges “she’s” been ~“socialized as a woman”~ since the age of sixteen: no the fuck you haven’t. If you’d been socialized as female, you would be exceedingly nice to me, even if I spoke to YOU in the same way YOU spoke to ME. You would be super apologetic for stating your feelings and standing up for yourself. No matter how illogical you found my arguments, you’d still TRY to understand me because that’s the compassionate thing to do. If you were socialized as female, you’d put OTHERS’ feelings above your own.

But you haven’t been socialized as female. You’re just like every other MALE. You SPEAK OVER a female victim of sexual assault and pretend that YOU’RE more of an expert on HER OWN experiences than SHE is.

You tell women they’re not allowed to have boundaries or preferences. You have absolutely no compassion or humanity. You’re a MALE, AND you’re MALE-SOCIALIZED, and it fucking shows. You’re a disgusting, ignorant, unsympathetic brat that always needs to be coddled— just like every other male.

Also, yes, OP, all males have male privilege. Including trans “women.”

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Two weeks ago, I had deluded myself into saying, “trans women are women.”

But the truth is, trans “women” are not women.

I’m attracted to women. I will never be attracted to a trans “woman.” I’m not sorry. It’s okay if other lesbians are attracted to trans “women,” but my lesbian identity does not include trans “women”. I don’t care if that’s politically incorrect. That’s MY sexuality.

I cannot change my sexuality, and I don’t want to. I love cis women. No male will ever be as strong, intelligent, poignant, or divine as a cis woman. A woman is born with all of these traits.

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I’m certainly transphobic now-- that is quite evident. And I was also transphobic two weeks ago, even though I was trying to unlearn my transphobia. But nothing that I said to this person was transphobic. It’s literally fine to not want to date a trans person. A lesbian is not oppressing you by not wanting to date you lmfao. I openly admit that I am transphobic, but this is not the reason. I will not try to understand why my sexuality is “wrong.”

I’ve stayed out of TERF circles for years, even though TERF posts can be so informative, relatable, and comforting. Thanks to this experience, I’m gonna go ahead and follow whoever tf I want. I'm grateful that this interaction has caused me to start prioritizing my feelings and my rights.

Honestly, trans “women” deserve to be excluded. Males deserve to be excluded. Idgaf about how that makes you feel anymore. You don’t give a shit about how I feel. And you don’t feel guilty when you exclude real women.