#who cares i'm an adult i do what i want

[bisexualbuckleyy]

teen wolf memes part 19: ??????

i'm having such a good time and no one can stop me. @burnthatbridgewhenwecometoit i love you you're the best

teen wolf memes part 19

[gildedmuse]

So, I just know all of Tumblr was wondering, "hey, you remember that really weird ZoLaw fan with the annoyingly overly stylized post? I wonder if she's seen this and if she has any theories or thoughts, an observation or two?"

Well, allow me to set your wandering mind at ease, fictional Tumblr fan. The answer is: No. No, I really don't.

I have like three hundred.

[I also spent time just trying to track down as many translations as possible. Is Tera A Criminal's Daughter or The Daughter Of Thieving Bandits! These are CLEARLY separate things and can ENTIRELY change how her utter nonpresence in Zoro's life shaped him! Though I can take comfort in knowing that, regardless of what kind of crimes her father was committing they were more important than anything his daughter ever did in her entire life.]

And, hey, as might as well jump right into that whole mess.

1. Wait, Zoro's mom is dead? Thank goodness, I was worried Oda forgot one!

(AKA: Stop. Murdering. Moms.)

I'll go first, I don't mind saying when I was wrong. True, in the past I may have suggested that the vast majority of female characters in One Piece come off as ever so slightly, "leaning into sexist tropes with unadulterated joy; it's the misogynistic tropes equivalent of a child running naked through a grocery store. It's right there, everyone sees it, yet people shut up and continue shopping in part because, well, these days you just expect most people to cover that junk! What would you even say? And if you DO speak up and call out the inappropriate, be prepared for blank stares and tantrums; but THEY don't mind! THEY don't think it's wrong! You're just being mean!"

More or less a direct quote.

However, I see now that I rushed to judgement and the reality of the situation is far more nuanced. With that in mind, I was just wondering if someone could help answer some of the questions I have.

Like: Why does Oda believe that it's illegal for (maternal) female characters to survive other character's backstories?

More importantly, why hasn't someone just reached out to explain the misconception!? It can't be that difficult. If nothing else, just have a lawyer or judge or other expert in censorship on hand. Or is the one of those cases where back in highschool his friends made something up and then kept pretending it was real to see if he'd believe you and not only did he fall for it, it took over 20 years before he learned that, what, no that's not illegal. That would be crazy if it were an actual law. Cause you know, after the first 10 years I think yeah you have to just lean into it. Pretend it's a creative decision on your part and definitely not because you were terrified of being sentenced to a slow and humiliating public death.

Just to be clear that's definitely what's up, right? I mean, I'm struggling to think of another reason....able excuse why a story that I really enjoy keeps playing the same old sexist tropes cards again and again to the point of absurdity. It would just help if I had a valid excus- explanation. I almost mistyped the word explanation.

....

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So I imagine it went like.

"That's the third mangaka they've had to Publically Execute this week!"

"They've started taking this law way more serious lately."

"This one really deserved it though! I heard his main character has a mother in her late forties!"

"That does seem old to have your first child."

"No, he's the middle of three and 22 years old. The story even has flashbacks of defining moments in his childhood and never once did she try to sacrifice herself for him, get murdered by his enemies, or die in meaningless unrelated accidents."

"Damn, that's cold to be there for all the protagonist core moments and not die and help him develop and grow a character? They must have a very antagonistic relationship. Is she actually the villain."

"Not that we know, and when they asked about this being a possible plot twist since - obviously if she's evil no laws are being broken."

"Well, of course, that's the whole reason Statue 2-dash-57 exists; if creators can show they have consistently been building up to a surprise twist then the female character in question can continue to live so long as she continues to be unrepentant and unlikable until the resolution of her arch by the protagonist."

"That's the thing! Under oath not only did man present no evidence to support her identity as a secret villain, he went on the record stating he wanted to depict their relationship as one of a normal modern 20 year old and his mother."

"That can't be true! What publishing company would even print that!?"

"It gets worse. I told you he was a middle child? Well, according to those who've read the actual manga, his younger sister was really sick as a child."

"Oh, well, at least-"

"It was just a fish allergy. She's perfectly fine."

"Sometimes I feel this law is unnecessarily harsh but.... Then you hear stories like that, and you realize that some people really are monsters."

[gender-euphowrya]

the absolute vicious shit people think they have to say whenever the topic of 'picky eaters' comes up ESPECIALLY when it's about children is just sickening

[parsleymusic]

the urge to respond to critique about portrayal of unpolitically correct attitudes or phrases or actions or whatever in regards to mental illness with "what if I told you that it's not my job to tell my readers that when my character says stuff like 'my binge eating disorder is not as bad as my brother's bipolar + PTSD combination; he has to win at something' that it's Bad and the Wrong Attitude to have when it's largely a tongue in cheek joke about living with mental illness and watching the people you love experience a different flavor that is also worse

[plexippusangel]

I either need to accept that I am just a way stronger person than this friend and can handle way more while still being able to engage with the world as a person, or recognize excuses as excuses, accept that I am not valued and be done or. Maybe both. Idk. It might be somewhere between the two. I am just sick of regular life stuff rendering him unable to spend any time with me, and of him being unable to bear any of the details of my life, when I would move mountains to rekindle our friendship. Though I'm starting to wonder if I still would.

[im2tired4usernames]

They stole any possible joy of motherhood I could have possibly wanted they stole my entire childhood they stole my teenage years my twenties and they continue to steal my future they won't be happy untill they've taken my whole life

[maddy-ferguson]

in october i read my brilliant friend by elena ferrante and then the story of a new name by elena ferrante and then those who leave and those who stay by elena ferrante and then the story of the lost child by elena ferrante and i was like i hadn't loved a book like this since i was like 16 will i ever find anything i like this much ever again. and i still haven't i don't even really enjoy her other books

[sensitivegoblin]

The depression is really really really bad so I'm sorry if I super ghost y'all

I'm just having a hard time wanting to do anything but rot in bed

[moon-pepper]

One thing that's on my mind lately with regards to ""cancel culture"" (a term I'll still never agree with) is how the internet does seem to encourage a level of detachment from others that makes it very easy for social punishments to be a permanent thing. Someone does something deemed unacceptable, others naturally respond by ostracizing them, and suddenly that person no longer exists to any of them. Jump ahead ten years and most of those people have forgotten the ostracized person even exists but still absolutely hate them if they're brought up.

And obviously this happens in real life, too -- despite what many people believe, social media did not create ghosting and cutting people off and disowning family -- but what I think changes with the internet is that there's almost never any reason to reevaluate what you think of people. In real life you'll often be forced to encounter the people you've cut off again because of physical or professional or familial proximity, and that presents the opportunity to reevaluate someone (do they still act how they used to? have they cleaned up their act? do they have the respect of people I trust?). Online, though, even fairly popular figures can vanish without a trace. You might think, "I didn't handle that interpersonal conflict well; I should reach out and apologize about that." only to realize you don't even know where the other person is anymore.

It makes me think about a lot of minor internet celebrities that I've seen "cancelled" since joining social media, the people I myself have avoided because of evidence of repulsive actions on their parts. I know for a fact that some of those people never made amends, never learned, never changed -- but I also know that I haven't even heard of many of them in years outside of discussions of their past actions, which I can only assume means they've done nothing to warrant further condemnation since then.

Then it also makes me think: When has enough time passed for a person to have changed? Someone who used to be a bigot, an abuser, or hell, even a sexual predator -- they can't change their past actions, but at what point does social ostracism stop being about condemning a person's actions and start being about condemning the general concept of bad behavior? At what point does it change from distancing yourself from a bad actor to simply demonstrating to others that you aren't like that? How many grudges do we hold that are more about the desire to define ourselves by our grudges than they are about the person we're holding out against?

[cryolyst]

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[annieleonhardt]

No but seriously I’ll say it here too. DNI’s are functionally useless and counterproductive. 

[penwrythe]

Just want to put this out there.

I'm saying this mostly for me to avoid possible triggers with this discourse in the future, but I don't feel comfortable interacting with people who have the following in their blog or carrd:

Don't follow/Don't interact if you believe bi/pan lesbians exist.

I understand why people use it if they have disagreements with the label, but I really do not feel comfortable with denying the existence of someone because of their sexuality or gender. I feel the phrase is enbyphobic as it hearkens back to a time when most people back in the 2010s used the same phrasing around non-binary people, such as "non-binary people don't exist" or "non-binary people are transtrenders or trans fakers". I'm also against any phrasing that tells those who use mspec good faith labels to die or to kill themselves. I do not support that at all.

In saying that, way too much of the anti-mspec crowd comes off as enbyphobic and biphobic with their arguments against good faith mspec labels, even when they are arguing for protecting lesbian, pansexual, and bisexual spaces. There are some labels I don't agree with (I prefer to keep my opinions private, please respect this), but I refuse to perpetuate harm against innocent people.

[bogunicorn]

i have like 5 posts in my drafts about that therapy-speak article, but they distill down to "half of it was legit, half of it was obnoxious whining, you are not owed anyone's attention, especially if you aren't at a certain level of emotional intimacy with them to begin with, why do y'all want exit interviews with people who clearly dislike you so goddamn much".

anyway ghosting is like... fine, actually. most people don't ghost out of nowhere, and frankly the desire to have someone DM you and explain all the shit wrong with you instead of just peacing out and making their issues with you Not Your Problem is a little screwy to me.

but also i'm convinced that at least half of the people who are like "at least tell me why you don't like me" actually mean "i would rather you feel obligated to sit there and take it while i tell you what a shitbag you are for not wanting to be my friend", but they know it makes them sound like an asshole.

[viulus]

Child abuse is so normalized in society that an adult outside of the situation saying anything is seen as just, "You're being rude, mind your business". THE PERSON WHO'S STEPPING IN TO SAY SOMETHING IS TREATED AS THE BAD GUY INSTEAD OF THE ABUSIVE PARENT. What is wrong with parents honestly.

[leatherbookmark]

an idea that i think would be funny: a fic in which nhs wants to Do Something. he is genuinely very bad at it and is flying by the seat of his uhhhh underpants all the time. i repeat: no hidden genius powers. he is not very smart, and struggling all the time. however, because he’s also god’s favourite little comedian, somehow some things happen to have good results, some have bad results but people magically don’t notice, and in some cases his squirming actually helps someone. he is incredibly stressed and tired all the time and nmj is like “what the fuck, he’s not even doing anything” and, yes but he’s Trying (and failing, and it takes energy too)