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Sleepy cat man

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Practiced painting for once, and considering how long it’s been, I will say: I don’t hate it. Character is an NPC from the dnd campaign I’m running with some friends.

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merry chysler and happy hondas

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i see pictures of pikas holding things and my heart goes ✨💚💚💚✨

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absolutely disgusting that i have to create the the things i want to create

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I forgot to post this to Tumblr, but I posted my first Speedpaint on my Youtube channel. It shows the progress behind creating my Six Fanart Challenge post, which you can find here. Thanks to anyone who watches it!

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Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.

But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.

You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.

You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.

You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.

You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.

And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.

(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)

Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.

If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.

This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.

I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?

So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.

No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.

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Brains are gluten-free, right?

So much for inktober lol oh well maybe next year. Anyway, spooky icon 🎃

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Finally finished this! I don’t do fanart very often but I thought this would be a fun challenge, so I took some requests from my friends for characters. Some of these I’m familiar with and some I am not, regardless though it was a fun experiment.

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Finally finished this! I don’t do fanart very often but I thought this would be a fun challenge, so I took some requests from my friends for characters. Some of these I’m familiar with and some I am not, regardless though it was a fun experiment.

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A porcupine’s Halloween present (+ original sound effects)

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A quick animation I made for work in celebration of International Day of Peace this September 21st. Only had a couple of days to finish it so I’m happy with what I was able to accomplish in a short amount of time.

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This poor bastard is going thru the 5 stages of grief. 😂

“The rice not looking good. You lied to people.”

“Your rice too wet. You fucked up. Don’t bring colander into your rice cooking.”

“Uncle Roger so upset I put my leg down from the chair.”

“You don’t use MSG. How to make good fried rice?!”

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Did liberals collectively forget that Hilary won the popular vote the moment that fact stopped being rhetorically useful to them

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Been in a mental funk all summer, so I resorted to the one thing that always brings me comfort: redrawing the same character. So have a chart of Alphonso and his layers of clothing, and some color overlays for some fun.

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