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no one talks about how straight up painful it is to be the bigger person when deep in your soul you just want to be a huge bitch about it

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the worst part about ocd and ocd-like tendencies is that you think hyper-analyzing your thoughts and constantly psychoanalyzing yourself will fix you but that's actually part of the disorder. it's the disorder. disordering.

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Pretty incredible news to hear during tough times

Source.

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Major healing "Ohhh, I'm not undesirable because I'm trans?"-moment

Was making out with a guy I met at a gay bar tonight, at some point his hands were traveling downwards and I said: "Before this goes any further, I'm trans, just so you know" and he said "So?". Genuinely the best possible reaction.

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It's actually something that gives me a lot of anxiety. I've been on T for 5 years and I had top surgery 2 years ago. People usually can't tell I'm trans, I can casually go around being in stealth mode despite nit specifically going for it. So, what if someone thinks I'm cis, then starts talking to me, maybe even makes out with me but then upon learning that I'm trans is like really disgusted or upset? It's never happened to me before but I know people are transphobic, and I've also heared gay men go on and on and on about how much they hate vaginas so...

Was making out with a guy I met at a gay bar tonight, at some point his hands were traveling downwards and I said: "Before this goes any further, I'm trans, just so you know" and he said "So?". Genuinely the best possible reaction.

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Was making out with a guy I met at a gay bar tonight, at some point his hands were traveling downwards and I said: "Before this goes any further, I'm trans, just so you know" and he said "So?". Genuinely the best possible reaction.

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If you have any amount of religious trauma - be it simply being queer in a religious country - there's something you need to try: Have a willing/consenting person pretend to be a religious follower who's trying to spread the word of God to you or whatever. Then, give them at least one good, hard slap in the face. I was shocked myself how extremely cathartic that experience was for me.

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Men, I can promise you, you will become infinitely better at sex if you start listening and paying attention to your partners. Being good in bed is not a mystery and also not necessarily a question of physical skill, it's about making sure your partner experiences pleasure while also feeling comfortable and safe. If you actually pay attention to them and try your best to make them feel this way, you will be able to make them loose their mind with what you can do to their body.

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I really get what people mean when they say stuff like "I want a man, not a boy". There are so many grown adults, especially grown men, who can't cook, don't clean, don't take care of their health and hygiene - basically just extra large children. Who's got time and energy for that? Certainly not me. I'm on my twenties, I'm too young to have a child, especially if that child is just some grown ass adult who refuses to accept responsibilities.

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PSA for fanfic writers

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I’m just saying if Daniel Radcliffe, the literal protagonist of the Harry Potter franchise since the age of ten years old, was able to disavow JK Rowling and move on from the HP universe then actually what the fuck is anyone else’s excuse. There is no one else on the planet who can say their entire childhood was HP more than that guy and he still cared about trans people more than the average tumblr user who says “we’re protesting by making all her characters queer and trans!!” like you can do better. You should do better.

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Life without art is completely worthless to me. Who am I without painting, drawing, theater, poetry, fiction, movies or music? A mere shadow of a person, nothing but a gear in a system that has no goal except to grow and spread like a tumor.

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Let me be a bit more precise: In China there is a type of "communism" in the very literal sense of the word. Maybe it would be better to call it "communalism": The most important unit isn't the individual, it's the community. That could be your family, your village, your city or your whole country, depending on the context. So, Chinese people usually do what they believe is best for the community and consider what impact their actions will have on said community. When it comes to economics, I think there's a lot China is doing better than the West. You know that capitalist theory that sellers will compete with each other and therefore consumers will get the best quality products for the best price? Which doesn't work at all in the West because there's no competition and everything belongs to like 2-3 companies? Yeah, this one actually works in China. There's a lot of different shops, brands and companies and the competition is so fierce that shops really have to get creative and sell attractive products that are of a high quality or are at least dirt cheap.

But, well, China definitely isn't communist in any way we in the West understand this word. They're hypercapitalists, although their capitalism is different from the West aswell and there's something they're doing better, I just feel like their capitalism actually works the way capitalism is intended to work (which isn't to say I like it, capitalism still is an oppressive system designed for exploitation and resource hoarding, but there's an actual theory behind capitalism and an actual idea of what it's supposed to look like).

I'm a communist and I also love China, imagine my disappointment when I actually went to China and realised they're just hypercapitalists that really like the colour red

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I'm a communist and I also love China, imagine my disappointment when I actually went to China and realised they're just hypercapitalists that really like the colour red

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The band-aid

You'd never have thought there was anything but pain. The wounds so deep, you thought surely they'd never heal. You remember the pain, the blood, the fear, you remember how you covered it up with a band-aid with no hopes it would ever heal. You kept it on, the band-aid. It stuck to your skin, it itched, it hinderd your every move, slowing you down but it kept you safe, didn't it? What were you supposed to do, let the wound open up again? Let all the dirt and germs get in, let it it get infected, let the infection spread an consume you? You saw no reason to remove the band-aid, you couldn't imagine a world without it.

But on a mild and beautiful summer's day you took a long look at it and you knew it was time. You were scared. After all these years, the glue had fused with your skin and hang onto it with all its might. You pulled. Your skin gets yanked and stretched, your hairs pulled out. Removing it is exciting, liberating but just as painful. Your eyes swell up with tears, you don't know if you can keep going. But you know what you have to do. And once it's finally done you reveal, to your surprise, not the bloody wounds you were sure you'd find, but a shiny new patch if skin. You're amazed by your body's strength, what it can do, the obstacles it can over come. Suddenly you feel free, you can move like you haven't been able to in years. As you say goodbye to your old band-aid your tears turn into tears of joy.

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How did I just live my life not knowing this amazing lesbian yearning song

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We all understand that girls and women need love, right? They need a hug or a kiss on the forehead sometimes and you should buy them flowers every once in a while and tell them their dress looks nice, stuff like that. What exactly makes us think that men don't need this? I don't see any good reason why men wouldn't need the same amount of love and validation. Most men must be so emotionally starved for love, I can't even imagine. This is why if you give a man a compliment, he'll probably remember and cherish it until the day he dies...

It's kind of breaking my heart realising that actually men, too, are vulnerable human beings that crave love, support and care but get denied all of these things from a young age. I mean, we've created this image of a Man™ that tells us men are generally less emotional, need less support, can do everything on their own etc etc but it's all just bullshit. And it's such a viscous circle, too