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I have no desire to reconcile with my family.

I don't want to be friends with them.

I don't wish ill will on them.

I just don't feel a reason exists for me to continue that relationship, it is without value to me.

I hope that they can find ways to have peace in their lives.

I wish them joy.

I don't want to be a part of it.

That feeling died when they revealed their refusal to stop being harmful to me.

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#safespace #antiracist #culturallycompetent #suicide #crisis

Alternatives to Harmful Crisis Lines

What’s the issue with mainstream crisis lines? 

In January 2022, an article came out that exposed the fact that the Crisis Text Line was selling personal data to for-profit companies. The Trevor Project also was mentioned in this article for sharing data with Google and Meta. 

They aren’t the only crisis lines with issues: this article that also came out in January 2022 talks about how the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is ignoring the testimony from their Lived Experience Committee about stopping involvment with cops, and is working with the Federal Communications Comission to try to get permission to use a newer type of mass surveillence technology during their calls. 

Quote from the article: “Basically, Vibrant/NSPL argued that everyone who calls, texts, or chats through the new 988 number should have their personal information and exact current geolocation to within three meters exposed to NSPL call centers automatically, immediately, and by default.” 

Beyond these ethical issues around data collection, a huge problem with almost every single crisis line is their policies of “active rescue”: basically, what this means is that crisis lines will track your location and send police to your location if they think you’re at risk of harming yourself. This happens hundreds of thousands of times every single year. This is extremely dangerous, especially for Black people using these lines. There are examples of people being shot because of calls made to hotlines where police showed up. Police showing up also leads to forced psychiatric incarceration. I personally have had the police called on me twice through a crisis line that I thought was anonymous; they showed up, entered my room without my consent, and searched me without my consent. They literally made everything in that moment worse. 

If people want to learn more about the history of police involvment and crisis lines, here’s an article.

Avoid hotlines that call the cops: 

Crisis Text Line

Trevor Project 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

NAMI helpline

LGBT National Hotline

SAMHSA National Hotline

List of State Crisis Lines that all call cops 

Alternatives that do not share data or call the cops 

Pretty much every national and mainstream crisis line calls the cops. A general rule of thumb is that unless it specifically mentions that it doesn’t call the cops on their website, it does. I also haven’t done a ton of research on the data sharing side for the lines I’m listing below, but if anyone has any more info please let me know and I’ll update the list.

National: 

Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860, 24/7

THRIVE: text message line at 313-662-8209, 24/7

Promise Resource Network: (833) 390-7728, 24/7

Project Return Peer Support Network: (888) 448-9777 English or (888) 448-4055 Spanish, hours are Monday through Friday 2:30 PM to 10:00 PM PST and Saturday and Sunday 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM PST

Wildflower Alliance Peer Support Line: 888-407-4515, hours are 7pm to 9pm EST Monday through Thursday and 7pm-10pm EST Friday through Sunday

Key Consumer Organization: 800-933-5397, hours are 8am - 4:30pm EST, Monday - Friday.

MBRLC Peer Support Line:  877-733-7563, hours are 4 pm-7:45 pm EST every day. 

Check out this page for a directory of warmlines by state. These are much less likely to call the cops, but it’s good to check with each individual one about specific policies.

If anyone has more info, please add on!

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aka Generational transfer of trauma

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Pop-up #2

We’re products of colonization. Latinos (or Latinos/as, or Latinx, or Hispanic...we don’t even know what to call ourselves anymore) exist because one group of people colonized another.

My existence is the result of the brutal assault perpetrated on my ancestors—BY MY OTHER ANCESTORS. How do we live with that?  

Since we were never taught how to live like this, we are each other’s guinea pigs. This is why there is the type of turmoil in the descendants of these peoples--both within the self, family, and community. We must be better to ourselves.

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Pop-up #1

Why do humans love celebrities so much? I think it’s because celebrities are people that we admire and are inspired by. We listen to their every word and analyze it for worth. They’ve accomplished things we non-celebrities think we will never achieve despite being ostensibly “just like real people”, I think that what we truly admire is their communication skills in their chosen form of expression. They seem to be able to express themselves in ways we only fail at, especially with words. It seems to me that human beings are very attached to the power of communication. If a person can accurately express themselves in word, or in paint, or in sounds, they seem to be a person that has a lot of admirers. I believe the reason for the admiration is that we can’t find that authentic expression, or so we think. The truth is that people around us have the same feelings, but they can’t express them in the way that a famous person can. Of course, most famous people have access to resources that facilitate the nurturing of those skills, but we compare ourselves anyway. 

The bottom line is that we look for things in celebrities that we already have—just don’t know how to connect to them. 

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healing is not a race. there is no clock counting down. there are no winners and no losers, in fact, no one is competing at all, and there isn’t a finish line.

when we remind ourselves of all those things, it’s easier to remember that we shouldn’t compare our growth to others.

there is no “right amount” of time when it comes to healing, growing, or working through. something.

the healing process is a unique and individual act of self love. there is no use in comparing our healing to others’.

so whether it’s taking you longer, or quicker to move past something, your healing is perfectly valid, and you deserve to be proud of yourself for it.

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