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Working so she has the choice to stay home.

Working so she can work for enjoyment.

Working so she never needs or wants for anything.

Working so she can do those things she’s always wanted to but never has the time.

Working so we can see and visit all the places that were once a dream of ‘one day’

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Imagine the day you’re both finished studying, you’re working, living comfortably. No due dates looming overhead. Quiet moments are just that — quiet moments. You can spend the weekend lazing together, go out on little dates… oh the day academic burnout is a thing of the past and our biggest worry is how many hours we can sleep in on the weekend before the cat starts whining that he needs to be fed.

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I have the biggest crush on this small tiktok gym influencer girl and no other wlw in my life that understand how bad i want her

Her smile, her voice, her arms ughhhh

I shot my shot but its been months

Im not giving up hope though 😤

(Cuz i have successfully landed a shot via dms just for fun lol)

(Sorry if this a double, app glitched thought original didn't get sent)

I get it 😂 and kudos to you for shooting your shot 🤝🤝🤝

I hope for the best for you and that girl

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Wistful sigh, I need my gf to put a baby in me but alas! She cannot 😔

This is the realest thing I’ve read in my life.

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My girlfriend and I's one-year anniversary is coming up, and I'm really excited but can't figure out what to do ;-; We're long distance, and I don't know her address, so I can't send her anything or spend the day with her 😭😭😭 Any suggestions?

When I was with my ex (who I’m still great friends with), for our first anniversary, we had a painting date. We both had painting supplies and we did a video call, chatting, music playing in the background, both of us painting. It was actually really nice.

She wasn’t artistic, so not just an idea for artists 😂😌

Find something you guys can do at your respective locations and do it together over video call.

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I found this page while i was very much in my feelings about not having my person and just feeling like I'll never be chosen

I have 0 good relationships in my life to look at let alone any sapphic ones so im literally crying over not having something that i cant even define in my own mind

But scrolling through here might help me, it is possibly already helping me

I love love so much and i really appreciate this page 🩷

I’m so glad 🩷

I feel that on not having good relationships to look to. My girlfriend and I are just figuring things out as we go and are working on building a healthy and strong relationship.

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Imagine her head resting on your shoulder as she snuggles into your side, eyelids heavy as she falls asleep and whispers ‘I love you’ before she’s gone to the world with her soft snores

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My girlfriend is currently scolding the cat for not coming inside since it’s cold and late. She’s talking to him like he’s our child. I love this woman and our cat child.

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Both is definitely good. I do plan on taking her out again soon on proper dates. I think à fun day out focused on nothing will do her (and myself) some good.

When you’re both burnt out, so instead of weekly dates, you have weekly recuperating days where you watch comfort shows, take naps together, make each other warm drinks, cuddle and just…create peace within each other.

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My father who somehow is still in denial that I’m a lesbian saw my girlfriend texting me ‘are you sure you aren’t pregnant’ (a running joke we have), and now he’s silently freaking out lmao

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I gave it to her and she cried. She loves it ❤️

She told me her favourite shark on our first date as girlfriends, so I made a custom plush of that shark for her birthday since no one sells it. Giving it to her when I see her, hope she likes it.

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I need some advice/help and I think you are the best person to ask!

A few months ago, I met a girl and we quickly got close and after a few weeks i told her I liked her and a few weeks after that we started (officially) dating. This is the first relationship I've been in outside of college as an adult so I'm not sure if these are normal thoughts once you get to a certain age or thoughts I'm having specifically because it's with her. Basically, I'm always having to stop myself from calling her 'love' or that I love her or that I want to get married or that I want to have kids with her (and want to get her pregnant which is not biologically possible, boooo). I've never felt these desires with anyone ever before, but the last time I was with someone, I was in my very early 20s and most definitely not thinking about things like this as I still felt like a child at the time.

I'm wondering if this is something that is often experienced during the beginning 'honeymoon' phase of a relationship or if it's an indicator of something more??? I've never felt so safe in a relationship before, and this is definitely the healthiest one I've ever experienced so I just don't know what is normal or not.

I hope that makes sense, I'm so confused lol. Anyyyy insights you have will be well appreciated <3

It’s definitely normal to be feeling those things as an adult. In my experience, the only true difference from late teens/early twenties to post-studies relationships is that those things become real, tangible things. They feel much different. They’re not hopes and dreams for a one-day anymore, they’re real possibilities.

Unfortunately, same as in younger relationships, we still experience the honeymoon phase.

The best way to know if you’re really feeling these things or are currently in honeymoon stage bliss is to wait three months. If the feelings remain, they’re more likely there to stay. Voice all your wants and hopes for the relationship at that point.

At six months, you have better understanding of your partner and a better grasp on if this is a partner you can have long term.

While the three month point indicates the end of honeymoon phase, it’s in mine and other’s experiences that the six month point is also when partners settle and stop being on their ‘best behaviour’, so to speak. It’s when you start seeing the full, real them.

I’m so glad you’re in a healthy relationship where you feel safe. Hold on to that. It’s surprisingly rare these days. 💛

On the calling her ‘love’, go ahead! That doesn’t have a time stamp on when you can start doing it.

In my own relationship, I’ve been calling my girlfriend that from the beginning. And on the ‘I love you’s, say it when you know you feel it. In my relationship, it was barely two months that we started telling each other that (stereotypical lesbians, I know). It’s also that as both women in relationships, we often form strong bonds quicker than hetero couples. And that’s okay, just don’t fall into the honeymoon phase trap.

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Extra point: when we’re arguing and something happens that we need the other for, we say ‘pause’. Everything relating to the argument is put on pause for that moment so that we can support each other. Afterwards, when everything’s calmed down, we revisit the previous argument.

A lot of people have messaged me or sent in asks about my relationship regarding love and wanting a relationship like mine, etc. etc.

I just wanted to come on here and kind of also address the fact that what I post is, of course, only bits and pieces.

Relationships (especially ones where both parties have a lot of unresolved trauma) can be a lot of work and stress. It doesn’t necessarily make it unhealthy, it just means we’re putting in a lot of work.

In mine, there are so many things constantly happening through no fault of our own, it’s just a matter of choice in sticking together as partners and working through them.

I will say, my relationship has been unusual in that we’ve both had a craaaazy number of things happening in our personal lives that would make life harder regardless of our relationship.

But at the end of the day, we’re still partners, we still choose to love each other, we still want to get married one day, and are still planning on moving in together this year.

So many things you read online or see online lack the full information of the people in the relationships. So, often, problem that may immediately seem like a ‘break up’ situation is actually just a ‘communicate and work together’ situation. We’re so quick to break up these days when all the relationship needed was work. Proper relationships need work. It’s not always easy.

On an end note: learn to communicate well and in a healthy way. Healthy relationships often trigger underlying trauma, but it’s a chance to work through it. Be a team. Talk. It’s no longer just you, you aren’t alone to deal with problems anymore. Let your partner support you. You aren’t burdening them. They’re choosing to be there, so let them be there.

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A lot of people have messaged me or sent in asks about my relationship regarding love and wanting a relationship like mine, etc. etc.

I just wanted to come on here and kind of also address the fact that what I post is, of course, only bits and pieces.

Relationships (especially ones where both parties have a lot of unresolved trauma) can be a lot of work and stress. It doesn’t necessarily make it unhealthy, it just means we’re putting in a lot of work.

In mine, there are so many things constantly happening through no fault of our own, it’s just a matter of choice in sticking together as partners and working through them.

I will say, my relationship has been unusual in that we’ve both had a craaaazy number of things happening in our personal lives that would make life harder regardless of our relationship.

But at the end of the day, we’re still partners, we still choose to love each other, we still want to get married one day, and are still planning on moving in together this year.

So many things you read online or see online lack the full information of the people in the relationships. So, often, problem that may immediately seem like a ‘break up’ situation is actually just a ‘communicate and work together’ situation. We’re so quick to break up these days when all the relationship needed was work. Proper relationships need work. It’s not always easy.

On an end note: learn to communicate well and in a healthy way. Healthy relationships often trigger underlying trauma, but it’s a chance to work through it. Be a team. Talk. It’s no longer just you, you aren’t alone to deal with problems anymore. Let your partner support you. You aren’t burdening them. They’re choosing to be there, so let them be there.

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Late night talks and making out kind of mood

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I don’t know what kind of old age my girlfriend and I are going into, but we’re both sleeping on our backs because her back hurts if she doesn’t, and my hips hurt if I don’t 🤣😭 #dontGrowUp

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The Shark was finished today and I nearly sent my girlfriend a picture. Proof I can’t keep anything from her, lmao

She told me her favourite shark on our first date as girlfriends, so I made a custom plush of that shark for her birthday since no one sells it. Giving it to her when I see her, hope she likes it.