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Tips to help become a semi-functioning adult

How to Save Money

How to set up a budget (and stick to it)

Saving Money – How to cut out unnecessary spending

College:

Topics to talk about in your college application essays

Interviewing:

What women should wear to a job interview

What men should wear to a job interview

How to best prepare for your job interview

Interview Tips: Questions to Ask Interviewers

Interview Etiquette – the post-interview thank you email 

How to Network:

How to survive small talk

Resume vs LinkedIn profile tips

Getting a job:

How to write a good resume

How to write a cover letter that stands out

How to Follow Up on a job application

6 Tips to help you get ahead in your job

Eating Healthy:

Complete Nutrition: ideas for healthy snacks

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GUYS???????

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You ever commit your entire being to another person thinking that they love you just as much as you do them and then when things end you spend the next year or so trying your hardest to find interest in anybody, but you find yourself finding small excuses as to why you couldn't possibly; mainly because you are afraid of what will happen if you do? Because fuckin same dude.

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An Open Letter to the Lost Love That Taught me to Love Myself First

I may claim to hate you, but that is simply not true. I may hate the way you made me feel about myself sometimes and I may hate the way you ended things, but I will always love you. No matter how much I claim to be over you, there will always be a part of me that's got you steady on my mind. I will never say that I hope for anything negative to happen in your life because I know you deserve happiness; even if it is without me. I will never say that I regret our time together because I learned so much about love, life, and myself during that time. You taught me all of the things I never knew I needed and all of the things I could never live without in a relationship. You taught me to cherish every moment and to stop making excuses for myself. You taught me to never put anyone else's happiness over my own; but also to not be completely selfish. You taught me that it's okay to not be okay for a while, but eventually you have to pick yourself up and press on. You taught me to find the things that make me happiest in life and to strive to achieve them. You taught me to never base my happiness on the presence, actions, or opinions of others. You taught me to guard my heart with great diligence, but to never allow the actions of others to affect the way I show my love. Above all things, you taught me to approach conflict with patience and understanding, and to never take anyone for granted. These may have all been lessons that were learned after you left, but they were great lessons nonetheless. You tried to teach me these things when things were good, but I wasn't ready to learn them at that time. I needed a rude awakening to get them to sink in. I needed true heartbreak to find my happiness. I am sorry for the way things turned out and I wish we both could have been better. You were not only the love of my life, but also the best friend a guy could ask for. I cherish every memory I have with you, and that will never change. It may hurt to recall them, but I relish the happiness they brought me at that point in time. You will probably never see this and I will probably go the rest of my life without ever hearing from you again, but I am sorry for everything I could have done better. I am sorry for all of the anger and jealousy and bouts of crippling depression you had to deal with. I am sorry for all of the excuses on why I wasn't pushing myself to be better. I am sorry you had to deal with my self loathing and self pity for so long. And thank you for putting up with it even when it got really hard. Obviously it got to be too much, but you stuck it out for the worst part of it and for that I am thankful. I truly hope you find happiness in yourself and you lose that sense of insecurity. I hope you find your confidence and let it shine through because boy, is it beautiful when you do. I hope you find self love and hold it tight, because you really are beautiful from the inside out. I wish nothing but the best for you. Love Always, The Guy Who Showed You What it Was Like to be Loved Fiercely by Someone Who is Mentally Ill

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I don't strive for perfection; I simply maintain that I will be a better man today than I was yesterday.

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It really blows when you incorporate another person into every aspect of your life for so long that they become sort of a staple in your lifestyle. They leave remnants of themselves everywhere you look. Even when you think you've gotten rid of everything you had of them, they show up in other places. Family pictures, favorite songs, a pair of socks they would love in the store.. Shit, even places we've been together. I'm flooded - every time I walk into a room - with memories I'd give anything to forget. Useless information I'd never need in life outside of loving you. At one point in time, these were my greatest treasures. Every little detail of you was something I'd stash away -just in case - for use at a later time. Every smile, every glance, every laugh.. Those where my precious moments. It's so peculiar how a few words could change your life so drastically in an instant. Holidays are the worst. I remember having to wake up early and rush around all day trying to hit every party on both sides. Both of our parents are divorced so we'd have those four, plus any other party we decided to crash. It was so hectic but I secretly loved sitting in your mother's kitchen talking for hours about her man troubles and my newest promotion or whatever was going on at the time. Watching you interact with my baby brother filled me with so much emotion that I couldn't help but smile stupidly the whole time and think about our future children and how good of a mom you would be. I loved your family and my family adored you. At one point we were inseparable and I hate how much I miss that. I wish you could have stayed the woman I once loved, but life doesn't always work out in our favor. You needed freedom and I couldn't be there to share it with you... I saw you sitting out front by my apartment complexes today. Of course there are tons of other people living here, and there was a good chance you were here for one of them, but something inside me hoped you were there battling yourself on whether or not you should call me. Or hell, even just reflecting on the last words you ever received from me. I hope that you find whatever it is you're looking for. I hope that you get to move to Cali and do makeup and hair for the stars like you had always dreamed. I hope you find yourself and find true happiness. But most of all, I hope you can find the man you deserve. Someone who can support and love you for whoever it is you turn out to be. I know now that I can't be that man. I was more in love with the person I was first presented with than the one that lie beneath your walls built out of fear. I hope you find the confidence to share your own opinions and life choices; even if they do not align with the most popular opinion. I hope you find the self love it takes to live your life proudly. Tear down those barriers and don't ever apologize for your happiness.

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The cards have been getting real lately. I know what I have to do to bring forth change in my life, but it’s a hard thing for me to do. Letting go of the pain and anger I’ve been holding onto for the past few months will be hard for me to do, but I know that once I do, I will be able to move forward. Change has always been hard for me, especially when it comes to losing what I thought was a part of my soul, but I’m slowly learning that although it can be painful at times, it is absolutely essential. I have learned more about myself in the last few months than I could ever imagine. I found strength in myself that I never knew existed. I found a sense of purpose in myself and found the love for myself that I needed to get myself through every day. Even the really bad ones. I’ve learned that sometimes you are not going to have anyone to comfort you. Sometimes you need to face life alone and have faith that you can make it through. But it is also okay to ask for help, and to admit that you’re not okay. Finding solace in my friends and family has given me the strong base that I need to support me when possible, all I need to do is take each lesson I learned from the past few years of my life and utilize them in my future endeavors. And to trust in the Universe, of course!

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It's crazy how someone who was once your whole world can become a complete stranger in a matter of months..

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it’s kinda sad when you realize the person you used to tell everything to, now has no idea of what’s happening with your life.

@sexual-texts (via sexual-texts)

THIS. SO FUCKING MUCH.

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Damn, my card of the day is real af today. Definitely something I needed to hear.

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Body positivity post/T update!

I’ve been on T for just about 6 months now and I’ve been seeing so many changes; most of which I am completely ecstatic about! One of the main ones is body hair, but I have seen fat redistribution and loss, as my metabolism has spiked. I’ve also put on a considerable amount of muscle mass, which has in turn boosted my self confidence and has helped with my body dysphoria. My jawline has become more defined and I’m starting to see a small amount of facial hair coming in. My voice has dropped a couple octaves, which is very bittersweet for me. I love that my voice is lower, but miss my vocal range terribly. I hope to work back up as time goes on after my voice levels out, but for now I am content with the squeaks.

As far as the emotional level, I’ve noticed that I tend to internalize a lot more than I used to. Because of this, I’ve become a bit easier to agitate, but I get over it faster. I feel a bit more aggressive, but only when I’m feeling as though I’m being challenged or belittled. My depressive episodes don’t seem to last nearly as long as they used to and are so much less severe than they were prior to starting hormones. My anxiety seems to fluctuate from situation to situation, but has overall significantly decreased. I can also accredit this and the lessened depression to the fact that I got out of a highly toxic 4 and a half year relationship very shortly before I started t, as well as becoming attuned to Reiki shortly before the split. Without my energywork, I don’t know how I’d be able to get my feelings under control.

All in all, t has changed so much for the better over the short amount of time I have been on it. It has taken so many years of self doubt, extreme depression and dysphoria, tears, and inner turmoil to get me to this point, but I have come out of it feeling the happiest I have ever felt in my life.

It does get better, my brothers and sisters. You’ve just got to reach for it. You hold all of the faith, confidence and inner strength you need to reach your ideal self within you. Sometimes you’ve just gotta pull it out from deep beneath your fears and self doubt.

I may post a couple of voice comparison videos in a bit if I can find them, so if you’d like to see them, pester me into looking for them!

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<3

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Admiring some of the beauties in my personal collection. The slab of fluorite is probably my favorite find to date. Check out the color and lines! The Earth is amazing. Also pictured here is Rose Quartz, Selenite and Crystal Quartz 💗 You can find similar gems in my shop. 🌛🔮🌜 www.TheCrystalJypsy.com #crystals #crystal #crystaljypsy #gemstones #geodes #fluorite #selenite #rosequartz #quartz #metaphysical #reiki #spiritual #wiccan #pagan #witch #crystalhealing #need #want #love #shopsmallyall

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Behold! The accompanying tarot spread for the January Shadow Work Challenge. So if you don’t want to commit to the whole challenge, feel free to give this stand alone spread a go. Best wishes and happy new year!

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Low key wanna get in a car and drive until I run out of gas money..

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warning: I am more caring than you would ever expect me to be. I will get hurt more easily, though, so treat me how I deserve or else you're not in my circle anymore. I also LOVE listening and talking about deep shit, if I am comfortable!!

I am the same way tbh

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Visibility is an important part of countering the anti-trans rhetoric, lawmaking and violence that has escalated in recent years. But that same visibility also contributes to these anti-trans forces and surface-level nods to trans existence won’t save our community. And while trans people were talked about onstage last night, with the exception of Cox, there was painfully little representation of trans people on stage or screen. It is hard to imagine trans people truly centered in spaces like the Emmys and Oscars when cisgender actors continue to dominant trans roles and award show hosts continue to use tired jokes to mock trans people.

But given the interest in trans storytelling and ending trans violence onstage last night, here are some things that people can do to continue to build up the many brilliant trans people leading the charge for trans survival.

(1) Donate to trans-led projects telling trans stories like Happy Birthday, Marsha!

(2) Donate to platforms that are getting trans people out of jail and working to end the systemic targeting of trans communities of color by the criminal legal system.

(3) Follow and support incredible trans artists who are working to tell trans stories like Raquel Willis, Reina Gossett, Tiq Milan, Jen Richards, Angelica Ross and so many others.

(4) Track the anti-trans legislation that will start up again in 2017 and help mobilize support to fight these bills.

(5) Donate to trans-led organizations like Transgender Law Center, Southerners on New Ground, Trans Justice Funding Project.

(6) Honor trans resistance and survival by naming our leaders and recognizing the role that trans people of color have played in leading movements for justice.

The patriarchy will not topple nor will cisgender dominance in film change unless and until we fight the systemic imperative to maintain white supremacy through policing and incarceration of people of color and people who don’t conform to norms of gender. The work is already being done by queer and trans people of color across the country and it is our job to lift up that work, support that work, and leverage national discourse about trans experience to actually fund trans survival.