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Stripping citizenship is the first step to death camps.

This is a pathway to legal non-personhood. It is a way to produce a legal void into which people can be dropped and then killed.

Is this hyperbole? No. It is at the heart of Arendt’s insistence on a right to have rights.

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My followers know I hate talking about politics and current events, and generally refuse to do so, but this is important.

A bill has been introduced in the US that would make all pornography a federal crime. Owning it. Creating it. Distributing it.

Under this law, fanart of nude characters would be a federal crime.

Under this law, depictions of homosexuality or simply being transgender, would be considered pornography and a federal crime.

This bill is not going to pass.

However, the reason for this bill is to continue to push the "overton window". The reason for this bill is to make banning pornography seem more and more normal to everyone until they can actually do that.

And remember, they consider depictions of gay characters and transgenders characters "pornography" in any context, including platonic.

They have been working on this for a decade now and it has been working.

If you are one of the people in fandom who thinks that "nasty" porn on AO3 should be banned because it's "icky" or "immoral", then this mental scam is working on you.

Censorship is never about protecting people.

Censorship is always about control.

Do not let the rising moral panic affect your mind and make you weak to propaganda that lets others control you and control what you watch and read.

Do not fall for the scam.

When they say they are going to ban "pornography" it means they're going to ban anything they don't like by calling it "pornography" and they don't like you!!

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not gonna get too specific but the “head” of one of the local orgs around me for things is so deadset that anything but peaceful protests/demonstrations will only bring harm and it is SOOOOO frustrating to hear constantly. and this person is definitely someone who does not experience some of the stuff minorities face (of all kinds, like theres a Lot of privilege…) and for there to be such insistence that academia says that stuff that might remotely be considered “nonpeafegul” is going to cause failure is… infuriating. When we just had Stonewall’s anniversary. When there’s multiple people bringing up that MLK wasnt the ONLY person majorly active in the Civil Rights movement and that those aspects are very whitewashed.

Is anyone actual advocating for violence? No! But some of us are a bit sick and tired of hearing that these demonstrations will The Thing that saves us.

No. Marching, protests are good, but ultimately unless we manage to get them large enough and sustained to actually scare the people in charge… they’re good for morale, and a good place to built from but in America, we need more right now.

I’m not going to stop participating in the group and the protests but dammit if this doesn’t really frustrate me. I genuinely have been looking for groups that HAVE been planning for things like sit ins or other steps of disobedience (or have some experience!) because near as I can tell, this one isn’t and that means we might be behind if/when those do become necessary. Got connected with some other folks but this is just. Frustrating. Digging our heads in the sand isnt going to help us what so ever.

And then they get upset when a few of us DISCUSS NONVIOLENT METHODS BECAUSE IT COULD HINT TO IT.

Maddening.

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oh and also, trans women/fems should NOT be coining terms to describe the oppression that primarily trans men/mascs face. that is so incredibly fucking scummy on so many levels.

imagine i go "hm. actually, 'transmisogyny' is Bad and I Don't Like It so im going to decide on the word you should be using for yourselves because yall arent capable of meaningfully coming up with a word to describe your own oppression. i think 'transobjectification' is a better word for you all to use so stop using transmisogyny to describe your experiences now, thanks : ) "

that would be BEYOND disrespectful, it would be so extremely transmisogynistic of me to do that, so why is your coining of "transemasculation" not seen as RIGHTFULLY and DISGUSTINGLY transandrophobic.

AND THATS NOT EVEN MENTIONING HOW TRANS MEN/MASCS HAVE COINED SEVERAL TERMS TO TRY AND DISCUSS OUR OPPRESSION LIKE 'ISOMISOGYNY', 'TRANSMISANDRY', 'TRANSMASCPHOBIA', 'ANTI-TRANSMASCULINITY'. AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM HAS BEEN MET WITH THE SAME FUCKING RESPONSE. AT SOME POINT YOURE JUST GOING TO HAVE TO COME OUT AND SAY THAT YOU JUST DONT WANT US TO SPEAK ABOUT OUR OWN OPPRESSION AT ALL AND QUIT PLAYING THESE SHITTY SEMANTICS GAMES.

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Does it make me a bad person for not wanting to forgive her and not wanting to reestablish a relationship even if she did become a completely new better person who wouldn't ever hurt me again? If she was truly apologetic and i knew for sure she understood the harm she caused, and was sincerely doing her best to make amends? Does it make me a bad person for NOT wanting to reconnect for her sake? Does it make me a bad person for knowing I probably won't ever be able to forgive her? 

I dont want to forgive her, or at least i never will forget and i won't be able to let it go because it changed me so much. Does that make me a bad person? Its not fair to her if she did put in the work for me to keep holding that grudge but is it my responsibility at that point to work on that myself? Am i a bad person for not wanting to wait and see if she can? Am i a bad person for not wanting to give her another chance? 

I don't care about her much anymore. She's a stranger to me. She's not the mother i thought was there. I wont ever be able to tell her i love her again. I dont want to hurt her but is that because of normal empathy or because im still scared of her? I don't even like her. 

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Seeing trans masc kinks being called ""gentrification of a fetish" in the same response that claims to be discussing things in respect to intersectionality was certainly something.

But yeah. That was ridiculous. "Standing on the shoulders of trans women?" And the earlier on the accusations of "man-splaing" out of nowhere?

The fuck.

I think the accusations against forcemasc kink of "just being a copy" of forcefem are so fucking funny. Like this is just how kinks work. Sometimes people are like 'Oh that's neat, but I'm not quite fully into it' and then they make it their own taking whatever appeals to them about it + adding some new stuff, altering the theme, etc.

Sometimes that just results on someone's personal kink, and sometimes it resonates with lots of other people and becomes its own little niche kink community. There's literally nothing wrong with this process, and trying to gatekeep kink like this makes you sound absolutely ridiculous!

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low-key I'm wondering if when I move out if I should see if any thrift shops or stuff have secondhand wheelchairs. I think I would only need it for like, DragonCon, but idk. Maybe it would be useful other times too.

My cane was good and my braces were helpful but they weren't enough this year. I didn't do enough sitting either this year and I did sit last year. Idk, just thoughts.

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it is really weird what like. 4 years perspective on something you believed fully to your core will do

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People should be allowed to think Taylor Swift's old music sounds better without being seen as evil for it.

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Lowkey I really hate that I tend to be right when I have a "something is wrong" niggle. Like. I just know something is off and I try and brush it off as paranoia or overreacting but usually I'm right.

I don't hate that I know so much as I just hate that bad things keep happening to people I care about, really.

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fucking love fucking something up without realizing I fucked it up

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I might not get to see my girlfriend tommorow and I am now Sad. It's probably bc we're back to twice a week in person visits from me staying up there a whole week and then this past Saturday but I am Sad. I'll see her Monday probably but it's not the same :(.

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Lmao just found out I'm on the 2nd Blocklist. I'm still stunned that I made it on there considering all I do here is vent and I'm very explicitly clear who I am and am not talking about.

If you're coming because of the blocklist, yep, I do believe in the existence of transandrophobia, have experienced some bits of it myself, and would like to politely be left alone if you're here to harass me about it. If you're here because you would also like to be able to talk about it in peace, welcome :).

I'm just a dude making his way through life, and occasionally people are shitty enough for me to desire a place to get it out. Here is that place.

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My girlfriend may or may not have covid again (which sucks she's had allll of the strains so far it she does) and I miss her a lot, I'm worried about her, and I really wish I could give her a hug and just cuddle with her and forget everything at the moment :(.

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My dad can't get his head around labels and "doesn't understand why we have to force ourselves into them" and "if you're born a girl you're born a girl" but "wants me to me be me" but my figure skating coach can apologize for calling me ma'am and surprising me with that despite knowing nothing about trans people except for me and me maybe mentioning it once several months back.

look I'm glad my dad "has no issue/sees nothing wrong" with being "gender nonconforming" (in his view) and that I'm not having to hide that I use he/him outside the house and that he basically knows but I hate having to "reassure" him im not getting surgery bc it's expensive and unattainable anyways and hormones for the same reason. I just wish he'd try a tiny, tiny bit harder and stop calling me girl.

I'm not obsessing over labels but the one you're trying to force on me and saying it's not one is going to break me, daddy.

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queer trans love can be sending your girlfriend anonymous Tumblr messages late at night :)