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Hey all,

There's a blog called @worstpostsonhere going around reblogging random posts from people's blogs, mostly involving astrology but other topics pop up too. Most of these posts are harmless or specific to fandom spaces. No one deserves to be targeted for things like that.

For example, they reblogged a random ask from me about astrology headcanons for a fictional character. It was all in good fun, and did not involve saying or doing anything harmful to anyone. But their whole concept seems to be shaming people for posting about things they don't like.

If you want to protect your blog from this nuisance, I'd suggest preemptively blocking them on all of your blogs. I personally don't care if someone views me as cringe for enjoying myself in a space that I curate for myself, but that doesn't mean that I'll tolerate people doing this kind of thing.

Protect your space. 💜

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This is just some general fandom advice…

Don’t worry about your follower count in any fandom. Don’t measure your worth in relation to the perceived popularity of another person in the fandom. Don’t demand interaction from people you’ve never taken the time to get to know beforehand. Any relationship you have with another person in fandom takes effort. It’s okay if your interests change. You can have different opinions from your mutuals. You can have different preferences in shipping dynamics. You can like different styles of writing and art. Etc.

Don’t force conformity on yourself or on others. It will just make everyone miserable. Don’t put anyone in the position where they feel like they can’t say or do anything but appease you. It is not anyone’s job to be a perfect model of a fandom member 24/7. Build your own friend groups in fandom before seeking out the most “popular” people to befriend. Fandom is what you make it and making it meaningful takes time and effort. It’s not just handed to you.

You are not obligated to like or follow any one person. You are not obligated to share the same headcanons. You are not obligated to speak on topics you don’t want to. You are not obligated to publicly like or dislike certain characters or stories or whatever. Engagement is a choice. If you feel like you’re not able to make the choices you want in a fandom, then you need to evaluate whether or not that’s because people are truly forcing you to hold a certain position in fandom or if you’ve forced it upon yourself and perhaps other people.

The obsession with occupying a specific role in fandom and wanting to be perceived a certain way by fandom peers and the curation of those peers to most benefit you personally and so on and so forth - that’s not fun. That’s exhausting. For everyone. If I thought about how people perceive me in any given fandom, I wouldn’t sleep. It would plague me. I can’t control whether or not people like me or the stuff that I contribute to fandom so there’s no point in tormenting myself or others about it.

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As someone who has owned two dog reactive dogs (one who has passed away a few years ago and one mum and I adopted back in 2020), it is annoying as fuck when people say that their dog is friendly when abundantly ignore the fact that my dog isn't and continue to argue that their dog is friendly when my mum or I say ours isn't.

The current reactive dog mum and I have, unlike the previous reactive dog we had, he isn't just talk. He will unalive another dog *if* he was given the opportunity.

That is why mum and I try to be very fucking cautious when we take him and our other dog (this dog and the reactive one came as a bonded pair) for a walk/run.

I say to anyone who sees this, if someone says their dog is reactive, do not respond with that your dog is friendly cause that does not translate to the reactive dog. A reactive dog remains a reactive dog unless training is done, even then, what has been taught could be forgotten.

YES YES I NEED THIS SIGN IN EVERY SINGLE PARK PLEASE

This is my daily struggle, I had so many arguments with people with off-leash dogs (in a mandatory leash area!!!). Thanks to this behavior I'm struggling with Kim being anxious/aggressive with other females as she often gets involved in unpleased interactions with free females while on leash. And every single time that I ask for the dog to be at least recalled, I'm being called names and insulted of course.

Also 9 out of 10 their dog isn't really that friendly at all.

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how do you watch supernatural and leave without an all-consuming unhealthy obsession with sam winchester how do you go through life without thinking about him and his sparkling puppy eyes and his baby brotherism do you even fucking get it how are you not getting it

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yes, sam winchester is my favourite character and always will be. the boy who didn't choose to be bad. he is unclean from birth, it is written on his destiny to be the original evil and he manages to avoid it. he literally made himself be good against all heavens and hells. isn’t it fascinating to watch him in later seasons? his calm demeanor after years of running in circles. after years of tearing himself apart. because of things he did and didn’t, because of witnessing how his life has been torn to shreds. he just wanted to go to college at the end of the day. he wanted to be his own person. and his closed people made him feel ashamed of it. after all of it he chose family anyway. family that tried to change him to the core. he made peace with this life he tried to escape and found forgiveness. he managed to find happiness, and sympathy and hope. he managed to have enough for two. isn’t it pure devotion and goodness?

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Fandom PSAs

Dont’ Like, Don’t Read

or DL; DR

You are responsible for curating your own online experience.

If something upsets you, makes you angry or queasy or triggers you, stop reading/looking at it. Avoid things that might make you feel that way.

Learn to use the Sort and Filter function on AO3, especially the Exclude tools.

On social media, block and mute accounts / tags / words when necessary.

If you hated something, you don’t need to tell that to the creator or start pointing fingers at them publicly.

The Back button is free. Use it.

Addendum:

Yes, for this to work, creators need to tag their works accordingly, so that people know what sort of content they are about to engage with and can nope out if necessary.

I will probably make another PSA about the importance of proper tagging later.

Ship And Let Ship

or SALS

You are allowed to ship whatever you want.

Everyone else is also allowed to ship whatever they want.

You are entitled to dislike or even hate a ship. If you want to do this online, in public, don’t use the ship tags for hate posts.

If you see someone posting about a ship they like and you don’t, there is no need for you to start arguing with them in their replies / comments / QRTs / reblogs. Don’t throw your hate in their face.

Do not harass fan creators or fans for shipping something you disapprove.

All of this also applies to liking / disliking an individual character.

Addendum:

”I agree with this, except when…”

No, then you are NOT agreeing with this.

Let me make this VERY clear. There are NO exceptions. None.

You don’t EVER harass real people over pixels.

If you disagree with this, kindly block and move on.

Your Kink Is Not My Kink

or YKINMK / YKINMKATO

The longer version is ”Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That’s Okay”.

People have different tastes. Not everything is for everybody.

Even if you don’t like a specific kink, other people are still allowed to use it in their creations.

You are entitled to dislike kinky content and think that it’s ”weird”.

Don’t kink shame or judge people based on their kinks.

This goes both ways: your kink is not someone else’s kink, so don’t push it onto those who are not into it.

Be Kind

or Don’t Be An Asshole

Focus on the things you like instead of the things you hate.

Create and unite instead of destroying and dividing.

Don’t harass real people over fictional things.

Stop stirring up petty drama just to get some attention on social media.

Stop trying to ”win”. Fandom is not a competition.

Remember that your own experiences aren’t universally shared. Your perception of things can differ from someone else’s, but that doesn’t mean either of you is necessarily wrong.

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IM NOT READYYYYYY

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It's actually really ableist that I have several expensive interests and no money. I should be given 5k a month just autism related spending money

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Mutuals I want you to know that if you are feeling down I am handing you little heart stickers through the computer

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People who say bi erasure doesn’t happen need to realize Freddie Mercury is known as the most famous homosexual man when he identified himself as bisexual. If that’s not bi erasure I don’t even know.

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stop telling your teenage daughters who say they don't want kids that they'll change their mind

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It is funny. Recently I had a transphobe argue to me, that "well, it is all made up! Animals will still not know that you identify as a man". Which to me is so funny, because while there has never been extensive research done on this topic, there is a lot of anecdotal evidence showing the exact opposite.

As someone who has done a lot of work with animals, I can tell you, that those animals that for one reason or another like one gender more or less than another often show the same loving or hostile behavior towards people completely depending on the gender the people actually identifies as.

"Sure," some people might say, "because if you take hormons you gonna smell like the gender to an animal." But that is the funny part. Animals often act according to that with trans adults who are still in egg mode. Who have not come out yet. And nobody knows why and how they can tell.

But some of the harsher animals with a "gender preference in humans" are like the best trans indicators. You have not admitted to yourself you are a guy? Yeah, this cat is gonna hate you anyways. Because this cat hates men.

Sincerely the guy who got attacked by this one fucking bunny, who didn't like dudes, several times

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All amazing points and so important to take in. I think I have done a couple of these, but not habitually or intensely. But it's good awareness for me.

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Thank you @luckylocus for bringing this back to my attention (a while ago but I haven't stopped thinking about it)

I don't have to say it, right? "It's literally just a jacket-" sshhh, it's Billy's jacket, the duffers told me

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LGBTQ Muslims have and always will exist—we aren’t haram and we aren’t alone.

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I don't know if this is an autistic thing or just something I do naturally. But when I like or love a character from somewhere, I can sometimes take heavy comfort in them.

Like, recently, I found that I take heavy comfort in Leon S Kennedy from the Resident Evil. The amount of serotonin I get from simply seeing him. And I find him to be a huge comfort character.

Is this an autistic thing or just a natural thing anyone can experience?

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