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its a lil weird to actively seek out radfem blogs just to get upset and mad at the owner. i have no real power, i'm literally just a teenage girl with a blog where i share my opinions to others with similar values. you don't have to interact, its that simple

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please do not forget that the gaza genocide is REAL. no matter how much the algorithm is placing clips of the genocide in your feed along with memes and funny tiktoks, remember to not get desensitized. real people are loosing their families and their lives. real people are starving. real people are getting bombed. never forget that.

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@itsalpenglow i thought it would be better structured to just respond with a post, this is not only targeted towards you, in this post i will further express my worries concerning cnc and kinks that revolve around aggression or some form of 'simulated' assault. I am also still new to this and learning as i’m admittedly still an inexperienced teen 

I wonder about the motives of cnc and kinks similar to it because these things have overarching effects in the long run, if you associate simulated rap3 or lack of consent with pleasure does that not ultimately change your overall perception of the concept? You (being a generic you) are risking desensitization. Even if someone insists that it won’t affect their real world understanding of boundaries, the mind is malleable, desensitization is a real possibility. Reassurance alone isn't proof that there's no impact.

If kink truly aims to be a safe, consensual, respectful environment and community, then critical discussion and evaluations should not only be allowed but encouraged. Questioning the cultural norms within kink isn’t an attack; it’s a path toward making these spaces more inclusive, safer, and less likely to unintentionally reinforce aspects of rape culture or misogyny. 

The only scenario you proposed was that of "my partner likes this, and I'm happy when they are happy". That framing positions cnc as a kink belonging to the submissive, with the dominant merely accommodating it, even in which case, my question still stands. How does one roleplay the perpetrator of a despicable act without feeling discomfort, guilt, or even revulsion? Shouldn’t they feel some level of unease and unwillingness to continue? Furthermore your response doesn't even consider the scenario where cnc is the dom / person playing the perpetrator's kink, i still wonder what gratification can be derived from that. I think its honestly quite dismissive and unsafe to compare a scenario of simulated rap3 to something as simple as doing a mundane task for someone else, like setting the bath for them. One is a favour or act of affection while the other is a complicated and controversial scenario that has the potential to be damaging or scarring. 

If you can't be bothered reading this, i’ll compile my concerns with the concept of cnc in some brief dot points: 

It may desensitize people to the trauma of real life s3xual violence.

It has the potential to reinforce harmful associations between dominance, violence, and s3xual gratification.

cnc doesn’t exist in a vacuum. We live in a world where rap3 is often minimized, disbelieved, or even eroticized in media.

Oftentimes victims struggle to be heard, and perpetrators often go unpunished. In this context, simulating rap3, even consensually, can be seen as culturally insensitive or potentially complicit in reinforcing norms that trivialize s3xual violence.

Even with consent, cnc can trigger trauma, especially for survivors of s3xual assault (sometimes unknowingly) or even cause further trauma or new trauma in those who haven't experienced sa prior 

In some cases, cnc is used as a cover for abuse, abusers may claim it was “just cnc” to excuse coercive or non-consensual behavior.

Vulnerable or less experienced partners may feel pressured into participating to “prove” trust, submission or to even compete and prove themselves to fit into the role of being kinky and fun 

The concept still begs the question What does it mean if someone enjoys playing the role of a rap1st? Whether its their idea or not

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genuinely, in your position as a 'dom' what gratification could you possibly get from hearing someone say 'no'. even if it is consensual, even if it is cnc, even if it was planned beforehand, how can you be sure that that will not change your perception of the word 'no' in the long run? how can you be sure that it won't negatively affect the person saying no? what is appealing about someone telling you that they don't want to do that with you? how would that not make you feel repulsed or guilty?

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exactly what i've started thinking about

It’s crazy how as soon as I started reframing the way I thought about BDSM to focus on the “dom”’s role, I started being far more critical of BDSM.

Nevermind that the “sub” likes the feeling of being hit. Why does the dom enjoy beating their partner? Sure, the sub’s trauma is healed when pretending to be a child. But why does the dom get off on their partner pretending to be a child? Maybe it’s true that a rape fantasy gives the sub a sense of control over a traumatic event. But what does it say about the dom that they find it hot to pretend to rape somebody?

Once you start asking these questions, BDSM seems a lot less innocent and much more harmful than we’re led to believe by the narrative of “sub seeking pleasure or healing from an all-benevolent dom who we’re not really going to talk about”.

Whenever you see something relating to BDSM, ask yourself: what kind of person enjoys being on the giving end of this? Nevermind the sensations or experiences that the receiver is seeking. What’s in it for the “dom”?

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"who hurt you" as a response to my feminism is not the comeback you think it is. Men have hurt me, the patriarchy has hurt me, society has hurt me, so of course i'd want to advocate for change. Of course i don't want other girls to get groomed like i did, to get abused like i did, to starve themselves like i did, to fetish their own suffering like i did and to allow abuse towards themselves like i did. I don't want others to hurt like i did.

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sigh

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sabrina carpenter's shitty execution of satire is a marketing tactic to sell to as many people as possible. it's supposed to double down to sell sex to men and "feminism" to women. the reason why she didn't do something more uncomfortable to men is because they're a part of her consumer base.

sabrina isn't innocent or incompetent. she has been marketing herself as a sex symbol (like every former disney star) since her short n sweet album.

she doesn't want the reaction beabadoobee got when she dissed men so she's distracting them with (classic patriarchal) sexiness while still trying to lure in a (white liberal) feminist consumer base.

sabrina carpenter doesn't care about women. pop stars aren't real reflections of human beings, they are products.

this isn't some sort of "puritantical" craze. making yourself sexy *specifically* for the patriarchy is not empowering. it's also damaging to the women around you because it makes men think that women will take abuse and objectification.

(you know, like men choking women irl without consent because pornstars pretend to like it?)

this is also part of a worrying trend of famous women heavily degrading themselves sexually for the capitalistic patriarchy in order to sell products that has reared its depraved head recently with bonnie blue and sydney sweeney

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I'd love to hear some opinions on kink and bdsm culture, it's something i feel i'm only mildly informed on but i really wanna hear other peoples thoughts so pls lmk

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edit : to clarify, i only want the opinions of feminists / women, not creepy dudes who get off to 'simulated' rap3 or brutalised women

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How can you justify the elimination of vast numbers of civilians, including children, unless you reduce your victims to the level of sub-human? Israel's dehumanisation of Palestinians manifests through various policies, practices, and rhetoric that strip Palestinians of their humanity, thereby facilitating systemic oppression and violence. Ambassadors and representatives of the State of Israel have perpetuated and demonstrated acts of dehumanisation by reducing Arabs, particularly Palestinians, to something lesser. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu referred to Palestinians as “wild beasts,” Israel’s Defense Minister Yoav Gallant claimed they were fighting “human animals,” and former Israeli Ambassador Dan Gillerman openly called Palestinians "inhuman animals." Such language strips Palestinians of their humanity, reinforcing the notion that they are inherently inferior by virtue of their race or ethnicity. This rhetoric echoes colonial practices, where empires dehumanised colonised people—often labelling them as "savages" or "beasts"—to justify violence, exploitation, and domination. By likening Palestinians to animals, these officials are invoking a dangerous historical pattern, where marginalised populations are framed as biologically inferior, less human, and thus brutality is justified. 

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I genuinely do not think you can label yourself as a feminist if you support and indulge in fast fashion. Fast fashion is a concentrated reflection of global systems of exploitation – systems that disproportionately harm women and children. It is an industry deeply rooted in racism and misogyny, where the overwhelming majority of garment workers are young, impoverished women of color in Asian countries, laboring under the control of wealthy Western corporations. These women often face appalling working conditions: low wages, long hours, unsafe environments, and, in many documented cases, sexual harassment and abuse. Supporting fast fashion means turning a blind eye to these systemic abuses.

And while some may argue that they cannot afford more than shein or temu, I have no sympathy for these people, thrifting is available and arguably cheaper. If you indulge in fast fashion purely to chase aesthetics or fashion trends, that means you are valuing human life below cheap polyester. Fashion is a privilege, not a necessity

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Saying ‘i don't see colour’ is not progressive or something to be praised and awarded, being a poc is an integral part of many people's identities and experiences, you can't just ignore these differences because you fear you may potentially look racist. You are allowed to acknowledge our differences! People are far too concerned with being perceived as racist and not concerned enough with actually educating themselves and uplifting poc

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21 Reasons I'm Against Porn

Porn as an industry is exploitative.

It creates a market for human trafficking.

It is degrading and objectifying towards women.

It eroticises misogyny and female humiliation.

Popular porn categories eroticise things such as racism, paedophilia, domestic abuse, and infidelity.

Lesbian porn is primarily consumed by straight men and presents lesbians as a commodity for male sexuality.

Sites such as Pornhub have hosted videos of real rape and child sexual abuse material.

Studies indicate that prolonged exposure to pornography desensitises both men and women to sexual violence.

Although pornography addiction is not currently recognised in the DSM, there is evidence to suggest that watching porn creates a compulsive habit.

Porn causes self-esteem issues in both sexes.

Some studies suggest that men who watch porn have a harder time maintaining healthy and happy relationships.

Porn consumption has been linked to erectile dysfunction and anorgasmia in men, and vaginismus in women.

Porn actresses are often drugged.

Porn consumption is known to cause relationship problems.

The rise of 'interactive' porn sites like OnlyFans has encouraged parasocial relationships.

Young girls are being pressured to do OnlyFans.

There have been cases of children sexually assaulting other children because they had been exposed to porn.

Porn has normalised violent sex acts such as sexual strangulation.

Porn encourages unsafe sexual practices such as having intercourse with multiple partners with no protection.

The accessibility of porn has normalised fetish content, including potentially dangerous fetishes like knife-play, feederism, etc.

Revenge porn and non-consensually posted porn is rampant.

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I've noted quite a few liberal and choice feminists using the term ‘white feminists’ in order to dismiss and ultimately villainise radfem ideologies, majority of these feminists being white women themselves. As a poc, it's disheartening seeing this term being appropriated just so some feminists can demean other feminists. Not only does it water down a phrase used by poc to draw attention to our unique struggles but it means this term will be less likely to be taken seriously in the long run. You as a white woman aren't inherently morally better than another white woman for using this term, just because you use it does not mean you understand or sympathise with poc’s struggles, it feels like lip service to boost one's own moral high ground and excuse a lack of understanding of radical feminists values

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To say porn doesn't affect the mind and skewer one's perception of intimacy is naive at best and willfully ignorant at worst. Not only does it affect men and their actions and beliefs of how to treat a woman and even what she enjoys, it affects what women believe they enjoy. I was exposed to pornography fairly early as I was groomed by a man who would share it with me. From then to even now, I struggle to discern what was instilled in me from an impressionable age, and what I truly enjoy. Porn is damaging.

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I find the readiness of so many, especially self proclaimed feminists, to protect and defend sw (being the industry) and p0rn astounding. I oftentimes find their defense is under the guise of protesting purity culture. As they state that it's an alleged scary and dystopian concept to condemn something that implies consent can be bought, as if its disgustingly conservative to stand against the commodification of women as a whole, as if opposing something that further fuels rape culture and hatred towards women is suddenly more damaging as opposed to the industry that does just that.