#Internal Communication

[multiplicity-positivity]

Bonding as a System

Hello! This post will discuss the importance of bonding as a system, and some activities you and your headmates can do to try and grow closer together. We’re writing from our own experience as a system with members who, at this point, tend to get along much better than we used to due to the progress we’ve made trying to bond and get to know each other! These tips and suggestions may not work for everyone, but we still hope they’ll be useful to some folks. Let’s get started!

If you’re new to connecting as a system, please check out our post on establishing contact with headmates before reading this one. The post you’re reading now assumes that you already have some level of communication abilities with your headmates.

Having a headspace where your system members can interact internally can also be a useful tool, and building a headspace together can be a bonding activity in and of itself! If you’re interested in creating a headspace, our headspace post might also be beneficial.

Trying to bond as a system may be useful if:

- your system’s communication is shoddy at best

- you disagree or fight a lot

- you can’t seem to enjoy time in each other’s company

- you want to strengthen already established connections

- you need to lower dissociative barriers

- you just want to get to know each other better as system members!

All in all, we think that trying to bond as a system can be helpful for almost any system in almost any circumstance. As headmates, we share the same mind and body; why not take steps to ensure we can feel close and comfortable with each other?

We’ll break down potential bonding activities into two groups: internal and external.

Internal

Bonding internally can look incredibly different from system to system and even from headmate to headmate! Our system spends most internal bonding time in our headspace, but we do believe it is possible to bond without one. Here are a few bonding activities that your system can practice internally, in the safety and comfort of your own mind!

Talk to each other!

Seriously, just spend time having conversations and trying to get to know each other! Ask each other questions, or fill out the questions from plural ask games if you’re struggling to think of things to ask. Create inside jokes, goof off, have serious debates, confide in each other, and share as many moments together just talking as you can! Trust and communication won’t always come naturally overnight, but regularly making attempts to talk, laugh, and share with your headmates can be a fantastic way to bond.

You don’t have to talk with fully formed, complete thoughts! You can use the unique ways your system thinks and behaves in order to communicate. Sending emotions, images, or simply vibes are all great and valid ways to communicate!

It’s okay if your headmates can’t find much to talk about at first or have difficulties getting along! Practicing being an active listener and attempting to be receptive to your headmates’ ideas, even if you don’t agree with them, can ultimately help you all grow closer together as a collective.

Learn about each other’s interests!

If your headmates are distinct individuals, try spending time teaching each other about your own individual skills and interests. Ask your fangirl headmate to explain the plot of her favorite show to you. Ask your headmate who does homework to try and explain the concepts to you that they’re learning in school. Ask your headmate who loves Legos to talk about their favorite sets or what they like building most. Try treating each other like people who you genuinely want to get to know!

If you are having trouble finding common ground, expressing interest in each other’s interests can be a fantastic way to warm up to each other and help your whole system feel loved, wanted, and included.

Even if your system does not have distinct members, you can still try bonding over shared interests and having conversations with each other that pertain to the things you all like to do! You don’t have to be completely distinct or individual in order to bond and grow closer together over interests and activities.

Spend time together in headspace!

If your system has a headspace, there’s all sorts of fun activities y’all could do together within it! Headspaces are visualization tools and exercises in imagination, so if you can imagine it, you can include it in your headspace. Your system could go on a high fantasy adventure together, a deep sea diving expedition, or a horseback ride in the mountains! You could build a treehouse or clubhouse together, have a fashion show, or visit a castle in the clouds. The only limits are your own imagination! Try collaborating with your whole system to think of some fun, cozy, or exciting ways y’all could spend time together in your own headspace.

Of course, it doesn’t always have to be high action and excitement! Our system’s favorite way to bond internally is just chilling out in a cozy living room space that we designed together. We put on some relaxing music and just talk or spend time in each others’ presence. Even something small like this could prove to be a immensely uplifting bonding experience!

External

If your system experiences lots of cofronting or coconsciousness or if visualization and imagination don’t come naturally for you, external bonding activities might be a good way to go! Nearly anything that you do on your own can be modified into a group activity for your system. Here’s a few ideas to help y’all get started!

Make art and be creative!

Bust out your pens, markers, crayons, and paints, and start creating something new with your system! Each headmate can add their own unique element to the artwork. If you don’t cofront often, just keep your art piece out in a visible space with a note nearby encouraging others to take part if they wish. You could also try writing a story, song, or poem together, with each headmate adding their own ideas and contributions. Allow your headmates each to express themselves in ways they feel comfortable, and surprise yourselves with the beautiful masterpieces you come up with!

Divvy up actions!

Work on building a new hobby or skill and designate tasks for different headmates to do! Want to bake cupcakes? Have one headmate read the instructions, another assemble the ingredients, another mix and pour the batter, and someone else keep track of a timer while it’s in the oven. You can break up activities and tasks in this way for almost anything, making group activities that your whole system can take part in every day! You can even do chores or obligations in this way to help make daily life less exhausting or monotonous for your whole system.

If your system is struggling to have multiple cofronters remain present when doing activities together, remember that practice makes perfect! It’s okay if you all find this sort of exercise challenging at first. The more you all commit to working on being present together, the easier it may become in the future!

Have fun in cofront!

There’s a bunch of things you can do when other members are fronting together in order to have a fun, bonding experience with your headmates. Put together a movie night with popcorn and a pillow fort! Go for a walk at a nearby park or spend some time in your local library or coffee shop! Play videogames together! Host an in-system book club! Pamper yourselves with an at home spa day! Throw yourselves a fancy tea or dinner party!

Brainstorm with your system to come up with some fun ideas that y’all can do to bond together whenever multiple members are cofronting together! And remember that cofronting is not always a requirement for these sorts of things! Members can be coconscious and still able to enjoy and experience these bonding activities. Even if both cofronting and coconsciousness are impossible for your system right now, you can commemorate your positive experiences with collages, scrapbooks, pictures, and journal entries to help share your life with your headmates.

Wrapping Up

It’s never a bad idea to try to connect with and get to know your headmates better! Keep in mind thought that many systems may find it easier for their headmates to bond with each other in a plethora of different ways. If nothing we’ve mentioned here will work for your collective, why not try to collaborate to think of fun, interesting, achievable ways for your whole system to have fun and bond in ways that work for y’all? It may take time, effort, and practice, but we truly believe that your system will be able to establish ways to bond that work well for y’all!

If you’ve made it this far, thanks so much for reading! Our apologies that this post got so long. You’re welcome to share in a comment or reblog the ways in which your own system bonds and grows closer together. As always, thank you so much for reading, and have a wonderful day!

[pluralprompts]

Prompt #2,237

"Yeah, I thought it was just my inner voice, too, but whenever I thought that, it would say, 'I have a name, you know.'"

[system-of-a-feather]

Alternative System Mind Mapping Method for Communication

[DISCLAIMER: This is not a professional or scientifically or anything really backed method, this is something coming solely from peer / personal experience.]

In regards to an anon ask earlier, I was thinking about it and one of the ways we've approached improving communication - particularly internal - in a way that is a lot less prone to flooding or dealing with trauma or anything too overwhelming - is by approaching it following the concept of Memory Webs

I haven't read up on them recently, but "Memory Webs" were a thing that our AP Psychology teacher in highschool made us do because the AP Psych test was term / jargon heavy. Memory in the human brain has been shown to be HEAVILY associative and the ability to remember and connect things tends to rely on following a "web" of connected topics, ideas, concepts etc from one idea to the next.

So in our AP Psych class, she gave us these GIANT books for Vocabulary Webs that we had to slowly work on, each of which required 6 other vocab words / related concepts, a summarized definition, and an image to represent it. By doing this, you added 6 cues to recall the word (increasing the chance you'd remember it), a visual cue, an episodic memory of working on it, and a definition - all in all improving how connected the word is to other concepts in your brain and making it easier to recall it.

I personally like to look at DID and our parts in a similar manner sometimes where the large issue is that a lot of the nodes in the web of associations are either disconnected or connected through a hard-to-find and/or small chain. In that sense, parts struggle to be held together because they are not associated concepts. It's hard to reach other parts because the dissociative walls (which in our unsubstantiated opinion is less a 'wall' and more so a lack of reinforced neural connections, so I would call them dissociative caverns) keep associations from forming

As a result, alternative to more traditional ways of mapping your system and parts, a method I've liked to internally visualize systems and navigating system dynamics is through a memory web manner. (I actually have never done it physically cause the Ray part of my brain - also the most prominent part writing this rn - rarely liked to front if he didn't have to and did a lot of stuff internally)

Here's a bit of a breakdown using six of our parts if any of you want to try it out.

We personally like it because it strips a lot of trauma and stress off of it and makes it a lot more of a positive and present engaging activity. For the purposes of this, I'll be using the free online app of Milanote cause we've used it before for OC associative webs and I think it'll do fine enough. (Honestly it actually might just be a good way to log alter information now that I'm looking at it if you are at a place in recovery where keeping track of that physically helpful)

So we can start by dropping down the parts we want to include in the form of boards

So from here, we have a bunch of disconnected parts. However, we find that a lot of these parts have things that mean a lot to them, that illicit a strong emotion or reaction from them.

Some parts may lack it more than others (often in our case trauma holders and/or trauma locked parts) and that's okay and to be expected. This is a visualization method and if there isn't much connecting a part that is 100% okay.

For demonstration sake, I will now add bubbles around each part of things that were pretty early apparent that each individual liked.

Also for the purposes of how I know our system works and how I plan to do this, I am actually moving Riku to the center and you will all see why Riku is such an S tier center point with this model

So you can see some connections forming.

Some key things you can take from this visual that also applied to earlier stags of how we connected

Lucille and Riku are and have always been pretty darn connected, they go back as one of the longest duos and were split almost as a pair to deal with academics

Chunn and Ray have a very shared interest of "I don't want to do anything leave me alone"

XIV literally was just a piece of shit early on and didn't have any immediate HARD connections with anyone largely because he never was interested in actually engaging in things he liked in a positive way as his "favorite emotion" at the time was "being pissed off"

Lin - an originally trauma stuck / loop - is very very poorly associated with anything that isn't overtly trauma related (and that is saying something cause Vocaloid is trauma related) and thus has very few connections to other parts

So looking at this though, there are a few things that have some similarities between parts. What you can do is make plans to try to foster the interests that you do have and try to generalize it a bit more to also encompass what interests other parts have. So lets engage in hobbies a little more - explore a few concepts that mean a lot to parts independently - and find some more generalized version of those hobbies

(forgot to add easy listening to Ray's and "only wearing monochrome*" to XIV's earlier) (*there are a lot of nuances and caveats)

Damn, look at that. It's messy and ugly to have in a 2D form. I absolutely hate it, this would be so impossible with our whole system. But HEY, it's very connected - and that's the goal.

Compared to the previous one, you can see how easily it can be for one part's interests to start to drift into another. Because they are largely and strongly associated features to each part, they are a lot more accessible when engaging in their shared / associated connections and interests which makes it easier for the them to stay together near the front, stay associated with one another, and work with and communicate with one another.

Of course anyone following this blog goes "Where tf is Birds" and that I left out because it would ruin the point of the web as it actually is one of our traditional "you are around the system a lot? okay pick a bird" which serves to 1) be a fun system culture thing 2) be a means of welcoming a part in and 3) helps establish a foundational connection; we do the same with music but with music its a lot more elaborate and I probably wont explain it for other reasons.

But overtime, by fostering interests that were already present and encouraging parts to broaden and generalize their specific interest a bit, you end up with a lot of overlapping associations that can greatly improve internal communication, co-fronting ability, and just general fluidity and easy of moving around the brain web.

It becomes a good way of trying to figure out what you can do to encourage and help build connections and associations between parts by seeing where things are similar / could have more overlap (combat and martial arts, different types of fashion, different types of music, different appreciation for arts, taking over the world, yada yada yada)

And you wanna know the coolest thing? When you step back from the whole web you can see certain things appear that stand out the most and have some of the most connections.

If you ever intend to go to Final Fusion, those are the things that will likely be the most prominent traits of your whole self

For us? [REDACTED BIRDS for the point of the demonstration], Music, Fashion, Taking over the World, Recovery and Healing, Buddhism, Martial Arts, Arts in general - they're all some of our largest traits that persist in almost all forms as individual parts, partially fused parts, and fully fused parts.

And the BEST part? Doing this didn't require us to touch trauma at all.

Of course in recovery that will come up cause PTSD doesn't ask permission, but its a very low stress way to help improve internal communication and engagement with one another.

[unwelcome-ozian]

Systems that have a lot of parts may take longer to be able to communicate between all or many of the parts. Additionally, some systems can only communicate through parts, meaning part A can communicate with part B but not part C; however, parts B and C can communicate, so part A gives a message to part B and part B passes this on to part C.

This acts as a sort of filtration system. Part A may have minimal awareness of the trauma they went through, and part C may hold the majority of trauma details, meaning communication between A and C could be overwhelming. Part B then acts as a protective messenger with a middle level of knowledge for trauma and can determine if the information being communicated may be harmful.

to suppress intense, consistent, overwhelming trauma, many hoops are created to keep the system working, and this is why DID often takes a long time to be diagnosed and recognised.

[pdid-positivity]

Hello! We saw you talking to The Question Mark System about headspace and communication and the such and was just wondering if you had any tips about communication specifically? I don't think we have a headspace (to be fair it's not like I can go back there and look myself lol) so there's not really any gathering around a table per say, but even then, it's hard to try and get clear communication other than just assuming things through feelings and vague thoughts. Thank you in advance, we appreciate this blog a lot as well :-]

i'll be assuming for the sake of this response that for whatever reason, headspace is completely impossible. (i'd recommend looking to systems with aphantasia too, if headspace creation is impossible/difficult for you, but you still want one. even if you don't have aphantasia, it could still prove useful! they may also have better communication tips than me if you send asks to them, lol)

i'm going to assume that you're starting from nothing when it comes to headmates too.

we never *actually* started from nothing. like we had headmates introduce themselves to me before i was ready to accept being a system, so i already knew some basic information about them when i was finally ready.

despite that, we still have some advice!

the brain puts a mental block between headmates, so it is hard to communicate. communication is still possible, but everything might feel all muddy and fuzzy. they'll try to talk, but no noise comes out. they try to share their emotions, but in the process, the emotion is dulled out to the point where you can't feel much of anything.

you say that you can only communicate with them via vague feelings and thoughts. that's how it started for us too (when i reached out to them myself. because i repressed my headmates for a couple years so they couldn't communicate with me easily anymore)

so, i believe the best course of action would be to ask them simple questions about themselves. questions that the mainly feelings/opinions based communication you have going on now will work fine with.

for example: ask them their favorite color! maybe they can't speak yet, but they'll respond by projecting a specific shade of pink. or maybe it seems like they didn't respond, but you start thinking of the color green.

as you interact with them more, it should get easier to understand them. it will get easier for them to communicate with you. the block that the brain put between you and your headmates will eventually start to wear down.

and then the more the block wears down, the more complicated questions and conversations you can have.

i will say. there are quite a few systems who *only* communicate via emotion sharing, and are unable to speak. this might make it trickier, but is completely normal and possible to understand. you just gotta play with the hand you've been dealt! it is still completely possible to have strong communication without speech!

there has been times when i wasn't sure if i was saying something, or if my headmate was talking to me. in those cases, i would empty my mind, calm myself, and ask them if they said that or if i was talking to myself. this especially happened in my first year of syscovery. it could also help with how your main method of communication is so vague currently. do some light meditation before reaching out to them, so your mind is clear enough to talk.

in fact, i'll make it its own paragraph. learn to meditate, and meditate each time you want to reach out to a headmate! (if needed, i can try to make a post about how we meditate? we have slightly different types depending on what we specifically need.)

oh, also! if you have *any* ideas on their names and/or appearances, or even things that they showed interest in, i would highly recommend doing little doodles for gifts! or write positive little notes for them! (even if they can't front to see it in the real world)

it might not necessarily help with communication for all systems, but i remember whenever i would do doodles of my headmates, they would pop in for a moment to either compliment my work, or say that i drew a feature wrong lol. it also makes them feel appreciated and safer to interact with you.

sending positive energy towards them may not always reach them, but there is times in which it will, especially if you do it a lot!

the time it will taks to improve internal communication will vary system to system. the most important thing, though, when you're first starting out, is to make sure you're being consistent with reaching out to them. i always tried to do it once a day, before i went to bed, until i became confident enough in my abilities.

i hope this helps at all? if needed, the tag #internal communication may have some more stuff to help! :3

[katbuggie]

reminder to listen to your alters and give them time to express themselves!

[thrivingwhilemultiple]

Swallowing volcanoes is never a good idea.

Meeting

[sophieinwonderland]

do you have any tips or sources on internal communication? i do use sticky notes and the chat feature in simply plural but i see a lot of people talk about how they can hear their alters and talk to them in their head. i’ve done it a few times but its really difficult.

i have wanted to be good at it for literally years. but every time i ask people they just tell me to get a professional in DID. i understand that but im poor so. LOL /lh

(and btw tysm for just having your blog and spreading positivity as well as insanely helpful recourses, comfort and advice. as a traumagenic DID system, i always feel safest interacting with pro endo blogs. and also, you are very well worded. tysm for your work. <3)

Not too much, unfortunately. The thing about tulpas is that we're largely created through communication, and so as a result, communication difficulty isn't really something we've experienced. This doesn't apply to all tulpamancy systems, but it does for us.

I looked it up, and found this guide that has a whole lot of different communication methods for you to try.

It doesn't focus on the internal communication you want very much though.

If you want to build internal communication, my advice would be to start with meditation. Use earplugs or white noise or whatever you need to block out the outside world. Communication is always harder, even for those experienced with it, when there's noise in the outerworld to act as a distraction.

Close your eyes, and try to imagine yourself with your headmate in your inner world. (If your inner world is just a complete blank void, that's totally okay. It doesn't need to be detailed.) Don't merely visualize their appearance though... Try to find their... essence.

Visualize your headmate, then think about how they acted and felt when they fronted, think about their memories, and try to put the essence of who they are into the imagined body. Now try to talk to them in this form and listen for a response. Their response may be light, like a passing thought. You may be unsure if it's actually them, but if you do get a response, keep talking to them. You can try poking their mindform or otherwise interacting with this form physically (in the mental space you create.)

I can't promise results, but I would at least try exercises like this, tweaking them as needed.

Hope this can help. Good luck! 💖

[system-comforts]

Hii! Just wondering if you had any advice for improving system communication inside your head?? We have notes all over our room that help with external communication but we’re just struggling internally right now.

Hey anon, we understand that difficulty. We find it hard to communicate internally when externally things are chaotic. If we are too busy with work, school, etc, it can be hard to realize when we switch, what people are saying, and what happens at the front.

If you find yourself very busy, try to find some time to relax. For you, relax might mean drawing, listening to music, etc. Anything where you can clear your mind and not have school, work, etc on your mind is good. This gives you mental space to listen.

Sometimes it is helpful to try and learn if there are specific reasons for why communication is hard. Is someone preventing it? Is someone too stressed to speak? There might not always be a cause, but if a person is unfamiliar, untrusting, etc, it can make communication harder. Being open, and expressing that openness can help. "I'm here to listen," "what did you think about..." and similar ideas can foster that environment. This might also mean setting specific time dedicated to talking, so people know that you are and when you are available.

And sometimes, having something to talk about is important. Headmates that don't share hobbies or interests, or who don't have similar personalities- at least in our system- don't tend to talk much. If you want to talk with your headmates more, first try to talk to ones you share common interests, hobbies, activities with. If you're both extroverted, maybe plan to go out somewhere, and ask where they'd like to go. In these cases, it's often important to listen for not just words, but also emotions and actions. If you feel a slight change in mood while mentioning a place, consider if it was the influence of a headmate. Communication can happen in many forms, from feelings to images to even music and bodily movements. These can be some of the best first stepping stones to communicating.

We hope some of these ideas helped! Internal communication is one of the hardest parts about being a system! But you're doing awesome!

-mod moon

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for systems who struggle to communicate with other people!

Many systems may find communication with other people outside of their collective to be challenging, confusing, or distressing. Struggling to communicate effectively is not a moral failing, and systems who don’t communicate well are still deserving of support and celebration within system spaces! If you or your system has difficulties communicating with others outside of your system, this post is for you!

🗣 Shoutout to systems who have excellent and positive internal communication, but can’t communicate nearly as well with other people!

💬 Shoutout to systems whose struggles with communication are linked to autism, anxiety, or some other form of neurodiversity!

☎️ Shoutout to systems who don’t make friends our form close bonds or attachments outside of their system!

🗣 Shoutout to systems who can’t find the right words, stammer or stumble over their words, ramble, speak in fragments, or otherwise have trouble conveying their ideas when speaking to other people!

💬 Shoutout to headmates who find safety, comfort, and security in solitude, or in the company of the rest of their system!

☎️ Shoutout to systems with trauma histories that have largely impacted their abilities to communicate with others!

🗣 Shoutout to systems who could communicate with people outside their system, but who choose not to or don’t want to for any reason!

💬 Shoutout to systems who are too scared, nervous, or terrified to easily converse or socialize with other people!

☎️ Shoutout to those who have been called a loner, hermit, recluse, or lone wolf by others due to preferring the company of their own headmates over other people!

🗣 Shoutout to systems who wish it was easier to engage and communicate with others!

💬 Shoutout to systems whose difficulties communicating with other people cause them to regularly feel isolated, lonely, downtrodden, or depressed!

☎️ Shoutout to systems who find internal communication overwhelming or challenging, but still prefer it to communicating with other people!

🗣 Shoutout to systems who often leave their comfort zone to practice communicating with other people, even when it’s hard!

It’s okay to have difficulties communicating with others. Struggling to have proper conversations, maintain connections, or express yourself to other people is no indication of your worth as a headmate or a collective. You are still valued, cherished, and loved, even if your system finds internal communication less challenging than communicating with outside folks.

We hope that you can find peace, happiness, and self-acceptance in your future! Maybe better communication can come to you with time and practice, but even if it doesn’t know that there will always be a place for you here in the plural community just the way you are. We care about y’all and we’re wishing you the very best in all that you do! Thank you so much for reading, and have a lovely day!

[anendoandfriendo]

<CN: a little less filtered, so you get more Rusanya bullshit than usual. Very unedited as a result, mind there could be a lot of typos here. Also jumps around and doesn't give in-depth context for stuff we'd normally give context for.>

Questions about "the most common phrase in your system" and stuff about language mannerisms in backspace we find could apply to us, if you count particular emotional "pings" as phrases since we don't usually communicate in words after a certain distance from the front (hell, even fronters will usually just use words for emotionally intense stuff).

Normally what fronter percieves from backspace is just...reminders and stuff. If we do a tad more than the bare minimum to check on certain folks though we CAN see what they're up to, independently of any other influence from frontspace besides.

Uhhhh the other set of pings lately has been a LOT of affection that would possibly border on physical. We don't know exactly how we're doing it, but have been aware of how to (again, at minimum) induce minor tactile hallucinations on purpose for a good few years by now + anything more encompassing we can just...use whatever else to get the effects we're wanting between headmates.

We hope this helps...something lol but mainly wanted to get that our there before everyone fucking forgot to say anything again.

[pluralprompts]

Prompt #2,193

"Okay, role call."

A series of groans came from all around the fronting room.

[granulesofsand]

It’s fairly easy to acquire an ouija board (it is ‘a’ because the ‘ou’ sounds like ‘w’).

It’s fairly difficult to learn internal communication.

So:

you take the ouija board, possibly with other bodies if you don’t think alters count towards the minimum players

you ask the questions as if it were a spirit on the other end

and let your body move the planchette as they answer

Is this efficient? No.

But it is novel, and that might be enough to convince your body doubles.

[system-of-a-feather]

Thank you for your answer! This is the anon who asked about front tiredness and your response was incredibly helpful, especially about figuring out our natural rhythm to help us have more control over the switching and more practice being present.

We've been working a lot on trying to let ourselves actually enjoy things, which means needing to be present and try to hold onto a sense of safety enough to relax enough to have fun. It's always been that even when we're doing our hobbies, we felt like a hamster on a wheel (running nonstop but getting nowhere), I guess as a way to dissociate or at least avoid being fully present in the moment.

And somehow, trying to be present in that way and hold onto the internal sense of safety we've been building does feel very taxing on our brain. I guess we're probably creating new neural pathways, and asking our body (brain and nervous system) to do something they aren't used to.

I feel better knowing we've got a path forward, in the short term and long term, so that not-dissociating can feel less exhausting eventually.

Hey no problem. Your reply here - particularly the way you talked about "creating new neural pathways" actually got me internally monologuing about a way we've approached system mapping so it's honestly a lot of fun to have these chats.

It's hard engaging in the world when shit's always been so dazed out but its honestly super worth it, even if it takes a lot of time and effort. Just remember to go at your own pace and don't demand more of your brain than it seems to be able to provide and things will get better over time.

[unwelcome-ozian]

Hello Oz, I am just now waking up to the fact that I may be a victim of TBMC. I have two questions.

1- I was thinking about my sexual abuse the other day when I heard a voice in my head say. "I'm a ruby". After some research, I discovered that ruby programming has to do with sexual programming. Do you think this could have been an alter coming forward?

2- I am very new to this. How do I know if an alter is communicating with me? And how do I start to discover the internal system and maps?

I don’t know enough about your history and experiences to answer this question. Hearing voices is a common experience: around one in ten people will experience it at some point in their lives. Research shows that many people hear voices and don't have a mental health problem.

Take your time in sorting things out. If you are able talk with a therapist or mental health provider.

Alters can communicate with each other internally. 

Corresponding in a journal. 

Communicating through another person.

Becoming co-conscious with them. They may block each other if they want.

Here’s a link to an article: Beginning an Inner Dialogue with Alters

Oz