#ace things

[peregrinethegryphon]

I think this is something...

[jax-likes-snax]

I hate how oddly sexualized breasts are, and how oddly sexualized bedrooms are, and I hate how anything not inherently sexual gets sexualized, it was hot outside and me and my boyfriend were watching his friend repair his truck at my house and I had a shirt off and only my binder on since yk it was hot out, and the other guys also had their shirts off and it was considered fine, but when me and my boyfriend went to go relax in the ac in my room I changed from my binder to a sports bra cause my ribs hurt and kept a shirt off cause I was still sweating a lot and really hot, and my mom came in complaining about how I need to wear a shirt and how it's weird to wear only a bra in a bedroom with your significant other even though she knows I'm ace and she thinks it's weird since he isn't ace and I have breasts and bedrooms are sexualized, why is it okay to not have a shirt as one assigned gender and not the other, why are certain environments more sexualized than others, it makes no sense especially since we weren't doing anything sexual, neither me nor him made it weird, but my mom was making a huge deal out of having tits in a bedroom

maybe it's cause I'm autistic or maybe cause I'm asexual but I think the oversexualization of literally everything is weird

[aromanticduck]

"Just because you're aroace doesn't mean you can't have sex or date!" True! You got me. Anyway, remember how in Twilight the vampires technically can eat human food but it tastes like dirt and eventually they have to throw it up?

[merely-a-caricature]

Society: *teenagers are crazed, horny, and lovesick animals*

Me: “Romance? Sex?! Such desires mystify me…….”

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[the-tenth-arcanum]

t-shirt that says "I ❤️ strange off-putting asexual-coded characters"

[unequipped-shield]

Good beans, I really am ace.

Every time a sister told me they were spending the weekend at their partner's house... I was thinking that it was a slumber party. They'll have some food and game. At night they'll cuddle in the same bed.

One was engaged. The others were dating. And it never occurred to me that they were also having sex.

Then I'm confused when I find out they're sexually active.

Apparently I take things however they're presented to me. Or that stuff just never comes to mind when someone says it. Hell, both.

[ramblesanddragons]

Aces flock to Gravity Falls apparently lol

Hey @artsymeeshee that Ford looks familiar.

[thearoacemoon]

Can we take a moment to appreciate…

… how much we aspec people just love our pride flags and want to use our colors in everything possible?

[skygemspeaks]

I think the funniest genre of post we get on the aspec subreddits sometimes is a post that will have a title like "saying goodbye to the community" and you click on it and the OP will be like "i've considered myself aroace for a long time but recently i've realized that it's not really true because xyz" and then they go on to describe someone that is definitely aroace

This morning i saw a post where the person was like "yeah i don't feel sexual or romantic attraction, but i do want to be in a nonsexual and nonromantic committed relationship with someone where we hug and cuddle and live together. Also, sometimes i fantasize about sex or romance, and i like reading books about romance. People have told me this means I'm not aroace. Thank you to the community for being so welcoming until now, I appreciate it"

And everyone in the comments was like "babygirl no, ur definitely still aroace, i think you were just talking to people who don't actually know what aroace means. Also, the relationship you're describing is a queerplatonic relationship"

[r-u-living]

I hate how booktok has made all books have romance in them like no- your fantasy dragon riding adventure book where there's a great plot without the romance. You don't always need it.

[sebsreflection]

Non-shifting related, but I wanted to speak about it.

‼️FYI: I am talking about the subject of sex, sexual attraction, sexual arousement, etc.‼️

I don’t think a lot of people, especially allosexuals or those whom are not strictly asexual, understand sex-favorable asexuals.

I think of myself as one, or am slowly starting to accept myself as one, and the thing is this:

I have desire for sex. I can be sexually aroused. I can know what I want in bed.

But I don’t have sexual attraction towards the person in question. I don’t experience sexual attraction towards anyone. I don’t look at a person and go I want to have sex with that person.

I can have someone I feel safe enough to have sex with. Or someone I could choose to have sex with.

But I don’t experience sexual attraction towards them. The person in question doesn’t turn me on/make me sexually aroused.

Basically, it’s like this:

So, say cake is sex. And the fork you use to eat it with is sexual attraction.

I can want cake. Cake is very nice, I don’t mind cake at all. Sometimes I crave cake. I even know what kind of cake I like more than another kind of cake, and some kinds of cakes I will never ever touch no matter what.

But I don’t particularly have to use the fork to eat the cake or enjoy the cake. In fact, I don’t even own a fork, and I don’t think I ever have or ever will. I honestly just use my hands to eat the cake.

If you’re wondering how I decide what person I eat cake with (have sex with), it’s as simple as this:

It likely would be someone I trust and someone I’ve bonded with emotionally (I’m also aromantic, so it wouldn’t be romantically, but that’s another conversation for another day). This way I know I like the person, they’re someone I wouldn’t mind having cake with, and I would more than likely enjoy the cake more with them than with someone random.

Of course, this differs from sex-favorable asexual to sex-favorable asexual, but I’m sure you can understand the mechanics of it now.

That’s all! Any and all questions are welcomed, as long as you’re meaning to be respectful and genuinely curious.

[merely-a-caricature]

Anyone else who thinks people are hotter with their clothes on?!?!!!? Σ੧(❛□❛✿)

[dross-the-fish]

minor irritation vent. I get so sick of seeing fandoms rabidly defend shipping canonically ace characters in sexual relationships. There is so little canon ace representation and seeing people who would burn shit to the ground if someone implied a gay character could be bisexual default to "Ace people can have sex" to defend their usually m/m ships is exhausting. I see it a lot in the Dishonored fandom. Daud has no canon love interests or sexual partners and is explicitly stated by the devs to be asexual and there's even, I think, a book you can find in game that says outright "Sex had never interested him," And yet the fandom is flooded with art or fic of him and Corvo. I try not to take things personally but after another instance of having to hear "Well maybe you should see a therapist, how do you know you're asexual and it's not just trauma or something?" from a queer person and having to sit through an episode of House MD where aceness was treated like something that isn't real or needs to be cured I'm feeling a bit raw. Gay characters are usually protected by the LGBTQ community, people will go to bat to make sure their sexuality is respected. While aceness is never afforded that kind of respect or consideration. I feel like every scrap of ace representation we get is up for some kind of negotiation so allo people can justify shipping them and the defense is always "It's just fiction! It's not serious," or the old default "Ace people can have sex" despite the fact that even those of us that do don't always experience sex the same way allo sexual people do and our relationship to sex can be complex and nuanced in ways it isn't for folks who experience sexual attraction. You wouldn't have that reaction if the character was gay, bi, or lesbian. If someone said "But gay men sometimes sleep with women," there'd be some kind of backlash and people explaining that it's not the same and you certainly couldn't get away with shipping a gay man with a woman. Why is that energy never there for ace characters except from people who are ace themselves?

[oddball-artz]

She doesn't do anything on my anything till I anything. I'm ace. I ramble autistically and she's charmed by it.