#aspd safe

[thehellsaint]

being an endo is some of the most white ppl shit I've ever heard 💀

wdym you're so privileged with spare time and energy that you roleplay being disabled to get chronically online social credit

[bpderanged]

If I open up to you and you start mentioning god or some other spiritual bullshit I'm gonna fucking shoot you

[a-sip-of-milo]

Abuse isn't only physical. Sometimes it is...

Shouting at them until they cry/retaliate.

Humiliating them in front of friends and family.

Refusing to let them see friends and family.

Isolating them from what's outside.

Refusing to let them have control over their own finances / keeping it all for yourself.

Belittling their looks, their personality, their thoughts, etc.

Bullying them in any way.

Purposely pushing boundaries.

Threatening them, either physically, verbally or emotionally.

Controlling what and when they eat.

Locking them in rooms so they can't escape.

Refusing to let them use the toilet/eat/sleep/etc. after or before a certain time.

Gaslighting them into questioning their own reality.

Lying to or manipulating the people around them so they look like the abuser.

Purposely breaking their belongings, especially in front of them.

Ignoring safewords/"stop"/anything that indicates they're not okay with what's happening (in general, not just in the bedroom)

Giving them zero privacy. That means going through their diaries, tracking them, attending their therapy/doctors appointments when they don't want you to.

Setting them up to fail for the sole purpose of getting to punish them.

Obvious favoritism of one child over another/the others.

All of these are things that I have personally been through. They contributed heavily to my eating disorder, my BPD, my anxiety and my depression.

[heartstillmissing]

OH! This is really similar to how I've heard people with ASPD and NPD talk about their experiences! Like, they're not evil. They can be assholes, sure, but that doesn't mean they won't ever do nice things or help people. It just means you need to be realistic when you're talking to them and interacting with them. Put yourself first. If it starts to turn out that you need to protect yourself? Do it.

Itsumi Toudou is simultaneously the worst and the coolest motherfucker on the planet. Easily the most interesting yuri protag of all time.

[carnage-cathedral]

>"cluster b demonization isn't real! you're just making that up because you're attention seeking and wanna be a victim!!!"

>open internet browser

>"how to defeat narcissists" article is on the front page in the health tab

[bornfreediedcaged]

good morning to all the narcissistic antisocialites who don’t give a fuck about people’s feelings or perceptions but care immensely of their opinions of your own opinions because while you’re definitely right and nobody in the world matters; they’re going to tell you what they think of your opinions or you’re going to kill them.

also neurotypicals are always afraid of us because “x disorder makes you more likely to kill people” have you ever considered that people are insufferable with their feelings and beliefs that go against everything i’ve ever known or cared about? maybe because we’re not you, we see how annoying, condescending and hateful you are to everyone different despite your attempts to act like we’re always the bad guys and that you guys don’t purposefully wind antisocials and narcissists up with morality bullshit that even you don't follow.

anyway fuck everyone else but me, nothing matters in the grand scheme of things but me, yeah, that tiny dot? that’s the most important thing in the universe, the world DOES revolve around me and YES i am TOTALLY manipulating you by expressing my own view on the situation and or telling you i did something on accident

[npdemu]

reblog to blow up an ableist

[aspdshibusawa]

"i love you" until i unmask

"i wanna know the real you" until i unmask

"you can be yourself with me" until i unmask

"you can unmask with me" until i ACTUALLY unmask

[asexual-amanita]

Friendly reminder that your mental illness acceptance is not true acceptance if it ends when someone has

- Narcissistic personality disorder

- Factitious disorder

- Body integrity identity disorder

-Substance abuse disorder

-Antisocial personality disorder

-Schizospec disorders

You can’t pick and choose which mentally ill people are worthy of your acceptance and support. That’s just ableist.

[ladygrey111]

The whole, "K*lling urself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" bullshit is spouted by the ignorant lucky ones who have only had temporary problems. Some people's problems are permanent so maybe try offering actual help and support to them rather than regurgitating an overused phrase that means nothing to people with real struggles.

[npdculture]

npd culture is having a REALLY hard fucking time admitting when you're wrong. its always "well-" "but-" "actually-"

just accept ur wrong bro 😭 (at self)

spurred on by me reflecting on a convo i had with a friend where i was so wrong, but didn't admit it (apologizing as we speak dw)

💜

[bpderanged]

One of the reasons why I stopped opening up is because people tend to treat trauma like a competition. But what even is the purpose of insinuating you suffer more than everybody else?

Is it supposed to make you feel powerful? Do you think it makes you special? Or is it the only way you get to feel superior because deep down you always feel insecure and small?

I'm sorry, but when someone opens up, the last thing they need is your ego hijacking the moment. Nobody wants to be told their pain is small just so you can feel big. It's dismissive and invalidating and makes you come across as self-centered.

[a-sip-of-milo]

Things people label as abuse when it's done to a partner that parents somehow get away with

Hitting/spanking. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but fair discipline when it's a child.

No privacy (no privacy = going through their phone, tracking their location, attending therapy appointments, etc.). Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but good parenting when it's a teenager.

Emotional neglect. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but "not the parents' fault" when it's a child.

Overworking them. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but earning their keep when it's a child.

Doing things to purposely make them cry. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but hilarious when it's a kid.

Breaking their stuff/deleting video game progress. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but fair discipline when it's a child.

Forcing affection when they don't want to. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but teaching them good manners when it's a child.

Locking them in a room that they can't escape. Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but "they've got to learn one way or another" if it's a child.

Expecting them to suppress their emotions. Abusive/toxic if it's a partner but teaching them to be mature if it's a child.

Getting angry when they ask a question/challenge your logic/need clarification. Abusive/toxic if it's a partner but teaching them to not talk back if it's a child.

Not letting them eat anything unless it's what you put in front of them (that includes not letting them get anything for themselves). Abusive/toxic when it's a partner but teaching them to be grateful if it's a child.

If you've ever labeled any of these things as abuse when an adult opens up about their experiences but will defend parents who do the same thing, you need to reevaluate yourself.

DNI: Narcissistic/Borderline/Anti-social/Histrionic abuse believers.

[mxlign]

I hate when people go “Well, why didn’t you fight back/tell someone?” Or when they tell victims what they should’ve done. You were not there so how would you know if these things that you’re throwing out were even possible? Have you even considered the fact that there’s a possibility that we’ll be put in more danger if we do xyz?? Can we just support survivors without telling them what they could’ve done differently to hypothetically get out of a situation that was already out of their control?? It’s never as black and white as people make it out to be and it really shows their ignorance towards the situation at hand.

[yippeeimmentallyill]

How I feel when I unmask