#attraction is a spectrum

[loserkaleidoscope]

It's still pride month 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

We deserve to exist!

We deserve to be seen!

We deserve to feel safe and comfortable!

Queer people always have and always will exist!

It's not new, it's not trendy, it's not "because of the internet"!

It's because queerness is natural! 🗣

Humans are the only queerphobic species on this planet, while queerness exists in multiple species!

[ceasslesscloud]

my mom when I told her I was queer: as long as you're happy

my mom when I told her I was genderqueer: just be yourself

my mom when I told her I was aroace: WELL YOU'RE STILL YOUNG IT'S TOO EARLY TO TELL

[merely-a-caricature]

Me, an aroace: (*ﾟ▽ﾟ*) they’re so pretty >///<

Also me: I literally cannot fathom being in a relationship

[a-walking-fandom-reference]

it’s gross that every aroace character’s identity is seen as a threat to fandom… that it becomes a battle of semantics and excuses to find ways to ignore it… maybe think about why a character not feeling romantic or sexual attraction (and possibly not being interested in those relationship/partnering) is so scary to you… why it threatens your enjoyment of media/fandom…

[aspec-helpless-romantic]

I wish there was a dating app/site that focused on people on the aroace spectrum.

Like, not a full-on dating app.

Just somewhere where it'd be normal for me to come on and say "Hey, I'm demi-aroace, so I don't like you like that right away, but I'd love to meet new friends, and have a chance to develop deeper feelings while the other side is aware that it's a possibility and something I'm looking for!"

Somewhere for other aspec people to come to look for platonic/queer-platonic life partners.

Somewhere where it wouldn't be weird to look for purely platonic relationships with sex and relationships that are romantic but without the sexual aspect.

Somewhere where being open about being queer (with a focus on the aroace spectrum), being disabled, or any other thing that isn't "normal" and accepted in the typical dating pool, y'know?

Maybe we should all go back to making and being active in forums so it wouldn't be tied to someone having to work for hours to create a functional and marketable app :/

[acexualien]

Aesthetic attraction is wild!!

You could just stare at that person for hours and admire their beauty, their facial structures, the way their hair looks and you could get lost gazing into those beautiful eyes.

It’s like, “Damn!!! You’re so gorgeous there should be a picture of you in an art museum”.

Tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way 🥹

[dykespec]

i love being an aspec lesbian.

my love for women may not be romantic or sexual in nature most of the time, but it’s still there. quiet, but comforting. like an old friend.

it’s soft and gentle. tender, like fairy lights inside a blanket fort. unidentifiable, but warm. affectionate, and nothing more. fingers ran through hair, a hand brushed against a cheek, a bear hug on a bad day. kind gestures and silly remarks. protecting each other in our own way. comfort in companionship.

i truly, truly love being an aspec lesbian.

[show-us-kaidenshenandoah]

every time i watch anything with him in it (admittingly, predominantly from the Dropout app), i am reminded that Lou Wilson is the most handsome man to have ever lived. like, objectively. he just is. i will hear no arguments for any other person to be ranked higher. Lou Wilson: whose face single-handedly shows humanity can go no higher in beauty. he is THE most attractive man in the world. argue with the wall lmao

[lovesick-coining]

Intusplatonic / Intraplatonic

[pt: Intusplatonic or Intraplatonic /end pt]

Intusplatonic / Intraplatonic - A term for when you only feel platonic attraction to those in your own system.

(No spoons for ID, sorry!)

Self indulgent coining

The flag layouts used are the ones I saw in this post made by @extranthaeic

The colors used for this are from this Aplatonic Spectrum flag made by @acore-ballt

One does not need to identify as being aplspec to use this term/flag, our headmate we made this for just happens to identify as aplatonic/aplspec so we went ahead and used that flags color palette for this term

We are anti-syscourse, keep syscourse related tags off of this post if you reblog this. Thank you.

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[9narly]

i see my future and it is bright ☆

[saturnniidae]

I love how like, ambiguous so many Studio Ghibli 'couples' are. They're primarily male/female duos, and it's clear how much they love and care for each other, but more often than not it's never explicitly stated to be romantic. And their bonds aren't treated any less for it.

Idk it's just something I've always held close to my heart as someone who grew up not feeling romantic attraction the way most do, it made the characters feel more relatable and human to me, and while I still didnt fully understand my identity (didn't know being aro was a thing), it helped me better reconcile with it. And I feel that's incredibly important.

(And not just from an aro perspective. portrayal of m/f friendships is rare and something we desperately need more of)

Yes, they love each other deeply, but they don't need to kiss or be a couple for that love to be agknowledged and treated with importance. It's not any less than it would be if they weren't platonic. Hell, it doesn't even need to strictly be platonic or romantic. It could just be somewhere in between and that's okay.

Studio Ghibli fr out here making the most alterous duos I've ever seen.

[muchlovefleursblog]

[merely-a-caricature]

When people are so pretty I wanna gobble them up but also aroace:

[yourgirlbl0gger]

[stellocchia]

I think Color would find Killer's creepy ass smile creepy just like everyone else. The difference here is that he likes creepy things. The fictional character he got his first ever crush on is probably Mothman or some shit

[aro-but-not-ace]

Just explained to my crush what being greyromantic (and particularly romance neutral/favorable) feels like in the best analogy I have ever used:

So, if you’re familiar with battery health on phones, then you know how if it says your battery is at 80% capacity, it only charges up to 80% of the original charge. So your phone will say it’s charged to 100%, but it isn’t the most it can be compared to when you first got it as a brand new phone.

Being greyromantic is like having a romantic attraction capacity set at 80%. When you’re charged to 100%, that’s the most you can feel and have ever felt. To you, that’s a lot.

However, by alloromantic standards, your 80% capacity means you feel less than their 100% capacity. You feel 20% less attraction than they do. Which is fine! To you, that’s the most you can experience, and that’s still enough for it to mean something. Just because you have less capacity than the people who feel romantic attraction at a 100% charge doesn’t mean you care less than they do about a partner.