#boundary

[dk-thrive]

Anger is a cousin of intelligence. If you are not revolted by certain things, you have no boundaries. If you have no boundaries, you have no self-knowledge. If you have no self-knowledge, you have no taste, and if you have no taste, why are you here?

― Sloane Crosley, Grief Is for People (MCD, February 27, 2024)

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dark void against light void

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HOW TO START SETTING BOUNDARIES

1. Identify them and the reason why you want this boundary. Usually your boundaries are those that aligns with your needs or values.

e.g my boundary is people constantly swearing, because I’m a Christian and it conflicts with my beliefs

2. You would want to build boundaries in aspects of your life where you feel taken advantage of, tired, bitter etc.

Communicate these boundaries with others. They mean nothing if you fail to tell anyone them.

It is not your fault or responsibility to take care of others feelings if they’ve crossed a boundary. If they don’t accept your boundary, leave them alone.

3. Before you set any boundaries, be aware that the aftermath may not always be expected.

Not everyone is willing to follow your every boundary, even without malicious intentions. Thats okay, you can compromise, or ideally, just leave them alone.

4. There is going to be feelings of guilt after setting a boundary; That is completely normal.

Setting boundaries are uncomfortable, but they are necessary to our well-being. Having said that, not all of your boundaries will remain the same. You may become more hardcore, or more lenient, and that’s okay.

[healingechoes]

Setting Healthy Boundaries: Phrases to Protect Your Energy

Boundaries are necessary. They’re how we protect our time, energy, and emotional well-being while also teaching others how to treat us. But let’s be real—setting boundaries can feel awkward, especially if you’re not used to it. To make it easier, here’s a guide to some phrases that can help you hold your ground with grace and clarity.

For Overcommitment:

• “I really appreciate the invitation, but I won’t be able to make it.”

• “Thanks for thinking of me! I’m focusing on my current priorities and can’t take on anything new right now.”

• “Let me check my schedule and get back to you.” (This buys time for a thoughtful “no.”)

For Emotional Overload:

• “I understand this is hard for you, but I’m not in the right headspace to help right now.”

• “I care about you, but I need to take a step back to recharge.”

• “I’m not comfortable talking about this. Can we focus on something else?”

For People Who Overstep:

• “I prefer to handle this in my own way, but thank you for your concern.”

• “That’s not something I’m open to discussing.”

• “I need some privacy around this. I hope you understand.”

For Work or School Requests:

• “I can do [specific task], but I don’t have capacity for more at the moment.”

• “I’d love to help, but I need more time/resources to make that happen.”

• “I’m unable to take that on right now. Have you considered [alternative solution]?”

For Protecting Your Time:

• “I can meet, but only for [specific time limit].”

• “I’m not available then, but I’d love to connect another time that works for both of us.”

• “I’m trying to keep this time free for myself, so let’s plan for another day.”

For Toxic Conversations:

• “I’m not okay with being spoken to like that. Let’s revisit this when we can talk respectfully.”

• “I value our relationship, but I need us to communicate without [yelling/blame/etc.].”

• “I don’t think this conversation is productive. I’m going to step away now.”

For General Boundary-Setting:

• “This is what I need right now, and I hope you can respect that.”

• “I’m making this decision because it feels right for me.”

• “I need to honor my own limits, and I hope you understand.”

A Few Tips to Remember:

• Boundaries don’t need explanations. “No” is a complete sentence.

• People who respect you will respect your boundaries.

• Practice makes perfect. The more you set boundaries, the easier it gets.

Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s self-care. Try these phrases, tweak them to fit your style, and watch how much better life feels when you’re in control of your own energy. 💜

What are your favorite boundary-setting phrases? Let’s share in the notes!

[huariqueje]

At the Boundary. - Ilya Repin , 1879.

Rusian , 1844-1930

Oil on canvas ,  61.5 x 48 cm 24.2 x 18.8 in.

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More userboxes!

Boundaries, discord status, idk.

"This user is constantly on Do Not Disturb, please ping / please do not ping / they do not want to be bothered " with headphones / earbuds.

Self indulgent, I guess ? Technically not though cuz uhm. yeah anyways. Do not disturb userboxes.

Reblog if you use! Credit is appreciated but we do not mind if we aren't credited, so long as you don't claim you made it. :)

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hello!!! can i repost your art?

Hi hi!

You totally can! All I ask is to please send credits to me so if they'd like to see more of my art then they can come my way ^^

[t-hiswifey]

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IWC (Interact With Caution) Indicator/Boundary Flag

Potential uses:

Custom Front for SImply Plural

Status image for templates

It can also be repurposed for nonverbal communication.

Originally coined by us on Pinterest.

0 notes

[positivelypositive]

🌵

setting boundaries...

...is the easy part. what's really difficult is making sure your loved ones respect those boundaries.

sometimes you know that even though a person cares for you deeply and only wants the best for you, they have trouble maintaining the boundaries that you've set.

while you don't need to lower your boundaries for anyone, it's better to remind such people again and again, why that is not ok. if they really care for you, they'll slowly learn to remember.

you can have boundaries and still be kind. you don't have to choose. be kind ✨

[themanirealityshifter]

Setting A Boundary

to all my besties on here, and randos on here as well, who may interact with me.

first of all, love y’all. not mad at any of you.

buuut i do wanna say that i’m not so comfy with y’all calling me “pookie” “gorgeous” “beautiful” or anything of the like that is more traditionally romantic. i know y’all mean it in a platonic way, but i always get a bit uncomfy about it, plus my partner is uncomfy about it, soooo i would appreciate it if you peeps used more traditionally platonic/non-romantic nicknames instead in the future when interacting with me!!

some examples of things i’m comfy with are: bestie/best friend, bro, dude, father, dad, etc.

if y’all have any questions to make sure if something is comfy or uncomfy, just ask!!!

love y’all <3

[fieriframes]

[We have just gone into a boundary yet, gentle curves that had not been. Salt.]

[skyexrose]

I would rather adjust my life to your absence, than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect. 🤌🏻