#discourse cw?

[chronically-depressed-satori]

Being factkin is feeling like you're invalid for existing

Why is it that others feel it necessary to put us in their DNI, to exclude us from the otherkin community, to punish us for something that, truth be told, most of us can't control. If not all

I did not choose to feel this way. If I could, I'd choose to be my own person, someone who doesn't lament the death of my friends, my family, everything I knew. Not even the country I lived in exists anymore. I grieve these things just as much as fictionkin, for example, grieve losing the things they had in source.

I'm tired of chasing for things that have been long gone, tired of feeling like my body doesn't belong to me. Just as everyone is. And yet they tell us we're creeps, we're identity thieves. As if we had a choice. As if we woke up one day and thought, "wow! I shall now pretend to be this long dead man from history who no one remembers and no one cares about," "I may now pretend to be this YouTuber I am deeply attached to", etc.

It's not a choice. It's not play pretend. We're just as serious as any other kintypes and I'm tired, I'm tired of having people talk down to me for it

"we love all alterhumans and are accepting of all" and "factkin dni" are mutually exclusive. Pick one and don't be mad at me when I call you a bigot for picking the latter.

fucking stop invalidating people's experiences for god's sake

This goes for any other fact ID too by the way 🩷 you matter

[kata4a]

"I am jealous of the dog that my wife is having sex with" feels sorta wild? like that is being jealous of the vibrator it seems?

right, I too believe that jealousy would not be the most appropriate response to learning that your spouse is having an affair with a dog

[linktothecats]

Hey perisex people, who the fuck cares what intersex people identify with. It's not your fucking business. In general, stop fucking asking people about their agab and body parts. People will identify with whatever feels comfortable and if you don't like it, it's no one's problem but yours. Stop trying to be the HOA of identity.

Also while I'm here please stop using slurs.

[furiitha096]

why do anitshippers gravitate to dark media so much

[clowncarfullofrats]

important note of if you hate trans men on the basis of them being men, you are transphobic.

"oHHH BUT MASCULINITY IS PRAISED BY SOCIETY"

my mother hated that T made me look like my father and used it to put me down at any opportunity.

I have been denied queer spaces because I made people 'feel unsafe' [i didn't say anything, I just was masculine]

I've been yelled at for being a 'gender traitor'.

I've been told that I was grooming my little sister into being queer.

Queer masculinity is not universally loved. Stop making unnecessary fights and actually go out an do something.

edit: REBLOG PRIVILEGES ARE BACK FOR PRIDEEEE ! behave.

[minecraft-sex-mod]

dear god please take all the pain from every female member of the dsmp, double it, and give it to dream was taken. amen & godbless

[a-moth-called-mof]

[alexandraisyes]

It's not normal to send people death threats over fiction 👍

If you're so bothered by a piece of fiction maybe you should go to a therapist and talk about why it bothers you

Not send death threats

Authors and artists are real people, not machines for you to abuse

[purpleblanketz]

Dear 15 y/o darkshipper who gets death threats from grown adults,

Please. PLEASE. Do NOT come out and tell people about your CSA/grooming trauma in an attempt to get people to understand you.

They will not care. They will use this new information against you, actually. The death threats will turn into "You probably liked what happened to you"... "I hope you get raped again"... and worse !

This moment will haunt you forever when you realize people online dont give a FUCKKK about victims

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for 'outing' someone for writing inc*st?

I (20F) am in a moderately large fandom that got popular during the pandemic. Most of the fic for this fandom is gen and platonic pairings, which is a rarity and fantastic. One of the most popular creators in the fandom puts out a ton of gen fics that I really loved. Unfortunately, I learned after that they write fics on a different account, and not just any fics, but inc*st. I'm not talking about found family. These characters are literal brothers in canon. I can't believe anyone would ship them together, much less this person. I unfollowed them and now, whenever I see anyone talking about how much they love this creator, I inform them about the alt account and their ships. Ignorance may be bliss, but I felt awful when I found out and realized I'd been supporting them for so long and I don't want anyone else to feel that way. But someone replied to one of my comments calling me the asshole, telling me I was outing the creator, and to mind my own business. AITA?

What are these acronyms?

[aromantic-pantyanarchy]

I wasn't sure if I wanted to be the one to bring it up. But, I think the news has spread anyways.

I guess I would just like to say that I would caution against defending asexual people by saying "what are you mad about, they literally don't even DO anything!"

For one, that's their argument, right? That ace people don't do enough, that they haven't "proven" that they've "earned" the right to claim oppressed status or whatever? I think this line of discussion is only going to bolster TERF and exclusionist talking points in the future.

But also, like, trans people don't DO anything, gay and bi and queer people don't do anything, not in the regards of what gatekeeping transvestigators ought to care about. Everyone here is just minding their own business. Ace people DO what any other queer person DOES, publicly advocate for a life and relationships that make them comfortable and happy. That's the point which makes these people outraged.

Jokes are fine and all, and I'm not trying to hold anyone accountable, I'd just like to put this into the conversation and maybe curb some statements which maybe imply that ace people, like, should be unseen? Won't become visible targets in the coming years? That kinda thing.

[made-nondescript]

hi welsknight?

[doodlelesbians]

"this person made choices that made me no longer want to watch their videos" isn't a boycott but it's also completely normal, no one is owed your attention or support

[kata4a]

yeah this is the kind of thing that inspired me to make this post way back when, which I think remains as relevant as ever around these parts

Theres a flavor of rationalist who sees all the suffering the natural world and concludes that if we knew humanity was going to go extinct we should torch the biosphere first, so the biosphere doesn't go on being a ball of suffering forever. And this is a perfectly consistent position, most animal lives are pretty bad. But I think it's the sort of position that should make you realize you've made an error somewhere. Like, when you derive a formula, you check it on a known example, to see if you made a mistake. Or in physics, you know if your logic leads to a result that breaks conservation of energy or momentum, you've gone wrong. And this is that, for ethics. "The natural world is a good thing to exist" should (imo, obviously you're ALLOWED to believe otherwise) be one of your check-examples. And if you end up concluding that the natural world is bad, then you know you have an error somewhere.

[januscorner]

It’s so weird when people act like cishet people know about queer discourse, I don’t think that frat bro hit on you cus of bi lesbians he hit on you cus he’s a dick

[velvetvexations]

'i have trauma from men so i should be able to [insert cruel thing here]' is low key hilarious to me

i was trafficked as a child. a lot of the people who hurt me were men.

does this mean all men are evil? no. it means that more white rich cis men have the privilege required to get away with abusing children. because there were a significant amount of women who also hurt me

somehow, miraculously, me having trauma caused by men has not led me to hate every single man ever and decide that every single man on the planet is evil and irredeemable. if i can be literally trafficked by men and still not decide that i should be allowed to be as cruel and rude as i want then i think it is genuinely a skill issue when others decide they should be able to be as mean to men as they want

like. random individual men are not the problem. and irrationally hating every man ever is not going to solve anything

you're stronger than any US marine or radfem, anon