#fear of missing out

[artistic-asexual-raven]

really fucking sucks that i have to get a nintendo switch 2 just so i can play splatoon raiders. will have to wait like a year anyway but still it sucks man. im having a big case of fomo rn, lol

[askagamedev]

A twofer but they're related. Why in games, where nothing needs to be shipped, do shops "rotate" things in purely digital storefronts as if they can't exist for sale perpetually? And why can't battle pass items just be bought outright in most cases? F2P games make it so arduous to get things you want today even if you just want to pay up front and it's infuriating. It's always lottery and long term investment to get a single thing now. I don't buy cosmetics often but sometimes I see something I want and *would* buy but woops! Sorry, you missed the battle pass! Why is this the meta?

There's a couple of reasons why we don't put everything in the store forever. Having too many things for sale is a recipe for [decision paralysis], which basically means the player has way too many options and feels overwhelmed. Having too many things for sale clutters up the UI and makes it significantly more difficult for players to find the thing they want. There are also some darker design patterns associated with it - making items not always available makes players value them more and more willing to spend on them. Disney famously did this with their ["Disney Vault"] policy for decades.

As for why we don't let players buy out battle passes... it's the same reason why some gear is only available via certain gameplay avenues like raiding, pvp, or even calendar-constrained events. Designers usually want certain rewards to feel special and exclusive. Battle passes are there to encourage engagement - players who play regularly get the rewards, similar to how players who are playing during the anniversary get the anniversary items or players who play during Halloween get the Halloween themed rewards.

Explicit rewards are often a large motivation for players to engage with particular types of gameplay. Creating rewards that players want is the point - we want to make content players want to engage with. I understand the frustration of wanting a reward but not wanting to engage with the gameplay (or spending) to obtain those rewards. It's always a delicate balancing act between monetization, player engagement, player frustration, and the particular exclusivity to drive that engagement.

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[underground-whispers]

life passes me by like

a stranger on the train;

i am scared that i will

never get to know them.

[someoneverypotter]

there is JOMO (joy of missing out), FOMO (fear of missing out), and HOMO (no explanation needed)

[googlyeyesonmagiccards]

It's almost time, come join the premier! I'll be live chatting along.

[mattsmemes]

[itsacruelsummerwithyou2]

“it’s so hard to tell the pressure and desire apart” ben platt did not have to call me out like that

[xxdreamscapes]

diary 061525 | 10:00 pm

re: feeling left out + protection;

awhile back, I made a post about feeling left out, replaced, and not having all the information.

I wanna reiterate, being left out might feel shitty in the moment but you never know worse kinds of fate you’re being protected from.

It could be inner-group conflict, gossip, triangulation— worse than anything you've experienced or witnessed. Now that they don't have a scapegoat, a main person to have their pecking parties/dogpiles on, it'll transfer to another member. Maybe not initially, but with these kinds of personalties, bullies and abusers who value power and control, there's always another victim. You can try warning them, but it's usually not effective. Let people learn their lessons

Another thing you could be spared from could be pick-me friends putting you in dangerous situations regarding men or substances. You could be spared from the responsibility of girls who wander off drunkenly, having to resuscitate someone overdosing, or worse.

Maybe someone else is now shouldering the burdens you did as a friend. The mom friend, the personal therapist, or all of these other roles that no one should ever have had to fill besides friend. Someone else is now putting up with the antics of a serial dater, or an attention deficit, chronic complainer whose entire family probably needs to be institutionalized. People who ask for advice then complain about it.

Here's the thing. I'm the solution friend. I've been for a long time now. Over the years, I noticed how letting my friends constantly complain about their privileged lives and families made me start complaining about my own ! Granted, I should have been the one to establish boundaries, but in my experience people don't take well to hearing "no". The irony being, once they wanna establish "boundaries" it's usually just disguised control. Any way, with my parents, as imperfect and flawed as they have been, I've done all the work I've needed on my end to make peace with it. These people believe complaining makes them special, it validates their incessant need for attention and to stand out. Contrarians. Pick-mes. Eternal victims.

Continuing on, maybe that group trip to Miami isn't exactly what it seems. Maybe everyone's miserable, unhappy, or passive aggressive. Boy-crazy women chasing over bums. Friends who need babysitting, or neurotic, overzealous FOMO-driven friends who don't know how to relax. Maybe resentment has built up over years of micro cuts and results in a blowup. Posting highlights in your social media and being genuinely happy are two completely different things

It could be a car accident or bizarre situation. People speed, social media and drive, or drive on substances all the time. You're a better person for acknowledging these things and not endangering your friends. And the people who excuse these behaviors for the sake of friendship, be wary of. Low self esteem is a bitch.

People sometimes accept the most insane behaviors from people they have something to gain from. I'd know.

I see you. It's more than transparent, predictable even. I think it's pathetic. It's useless seeking company from people can't even give it to themselves. And truthfully, I've felt more alone in groups of people than I ever have in my one-on-ones, my facetimes, calls, and on my own. To giving and receiving. To reciprocal, healthy relationships.

[sagekid]

The Fear of Missing Out: Overcoming and Understanding it

The fear of missing out (FOMO) is the anxiety that one might miss important events, experiences, or opportunities that other’s might be having without them.

These days, it seems like a constant emotion in my life, especially now in my adulthood as I’m growing to be more involved socially unlike the way I was when I was younger.

It was certainly a thing it got exposed to a lot as in the university, always hoping not to miss a class in case something important might happen such as a surprise test or free marks in a class.

The thought of not being out there knowing what’s happening alone kills me, this feeling was also present in my friendships as I never wanted to miss out on an important hang out and hot gist I need to hear.

The feeling is also there when I look on social media, seeing people out traveling, partying, out in shows and having fun, making me feel I’m not really living my life to the fullest.

These feelings have hardly ever been good for me, as I get intense anxiety overthinking and overdoing in my life sometimes, especially after watching the 17 year old Lamine Yamal whom I’m older than playing in the Uefa Champions League while I’m laying on my bed watching Youtube videos.

At times, these feelings could trigger my stress eating or compel me to engage in one money scheme I may not be really interested in committing to. Lastly it fosters social comparison, which can make me feel like I’m not enough nor can I ever be.

A way I could learn to stop feeling like this is by not worrying so much about what others are doing and more on what I’m doing, cause what someone else be doing doesn’t really benefit me in any way.

I recognize that it’s not possible to participate in every experience that goes on, if I could it’ll mean I was God, instead I can focus on my own life and try to build it as best as I can. FOMO is a common experience in today’s digital age.

By understanding its causes and effects, and implementing strategies to overcome it, individuals can reduce anxiety and stress, and cultivate a more fulfilling life. By focusing on what truly matters and prioritizing self-care, we can break free from the grip of FOMO and live more intentionally.

--- The Sage Kid

[hompunkulus]

Intellectual FOMO...

This video did two things - called me out on my internet tabs and books I haven't even touched in several months. It also made me realize I am not alone with feeling inferior intellectually.

We each have a strong knowledge base that may be taboo and fringe to some, but are deepely rewarding to ourselves. Whatever that is, revel in it. Love it. Share it.

Don't stop learning new things by any means, but take your time. Enjoy it.

Fall back on your interests. There is nothing wrong with being infatuated with something strange and different that you can pick apart every detail. Something that consumes you and drives you to express through art, conversation, or other action.

Those are often the best people to have a conversation with because there is so much to learn when you engage with someones special interest.

[zettatoad]

i've developed a new technique i call "the nihilism of missing out" in which i don't play a game with a battle pass or some other form of time-limited unlocks and miss out on one of them and then go "well, since i didn't unlock that thing, there's no longer a point in me ever playing this." like i missed out on goku in fortnite so why bother. why even bother. saves me a lot of time and money

[moonylouwho]

my fear of missing out is so astronomically bad that every thursday i have this insane amount of anxiety about not being able to find a link to watch the episode live. i’ve found one for every episode this season so far, so i really need to relax, but my brain immediately goes into doom mood and i convince myself i won’t get to live react. hoping i didn’t just jinx myself for tonight’s episode…

[almostlookedhuman]

[nerdynachodaze]

Time Capsule: Euphoria's Rise & Fall (2019 - 2022)

Euphoria was a smash hit teen drama when it premired in 2019. I pirated the first season with this crappy box that my dad bought that has access to any channel but has such a bad signal that the show kept freezing and buffering and crashing

The first season was good! I loved the story, I related to Rue (her depression not addiction), and the found the story and characters compelling, and like always, it was fun to see how ppl on Twitter were talking about it. I never saw the finale cause by that time I was done with that crappy box, so I just looked for spoilers on Twitter.

By the time season 2 rolled around, however, the box was broken, so I "watched" the show through my Twitter timeline and hoooooooly shit "Euphoria Sundays" was one of the funniest eras on that app 😭😭 The show's writing took a NOSEDIVE cause Sam Levinson'a stupid, creepy ass was the only one in the writer's room skkskskskskksksjj

Even though some of those memes were dumb as fuck it was simultaneously beautiful and obnoxious to see ppl unite to drag the shit out of Euphoria 🥰

[annisrealandsoami]

I don’t have a proper review of it yet. Technically, my brother is watching it. That being said, I just watched an episode of Carol & The End of the World.

I’m not sure which one. I am not really sure why the world ending or whatever. I have no context, but I just started crying because of a random episode.

Donna, I think her name is, was visiting her family. She worked through most of their childhood. She doesn’t share their stories or feature in a lot of their memories. She feels like she missed out and she should’ve been there.

I relate to that, for different reasons. At the end of it, her kids tell her that she did enough. That she was still apart of it.

I don’t think that spoiled it. If it did, I’m sorry.

So yeah. I am most likely going to binge it later. You should probably check it out.

[firsttarotreader]

Can you do a reading on P’s fear of missing out and if it affects his career choices? Thanks! 🤗

Hello! I asked the cards your question and the first pull was the 5 or Flowers, Ace of Hedgehogs and 4 of Teacups.

5 of Flowers represents conflict and rivalry. He might feel conflicted about the idea that there are always other people who can do what he does, even better, like a competition he feels like he needs to win. Ace of Hedgehogs is about potential, especially material, financial, in terms of career. It’s like the idea that everything can have potential and he cannot waste it. 4 of Teacups points to the feeling of stagnation, being uninterested, a lack of progress and dissatisfaction, even apathy. He could be afraid of having people lose interest in him, not choose him, or even him being left with no options or only uninteresting options.

The second pull was the 10 of Flowers, The Chariot and 5 of Teacups. 10 of Flowers shows him feeling overwhelmed, like carrying a lot of weight and doing too much. This could be the way he feels like he needs to work as much as he can and do even more than he can for his career. The Chariot is about being in control and knowing what you are doing and where you’re going, taking the reins of his career. Our control freak wants to be able to make his decisions, he doesn’t want to be left, again, with no choice and just be taken by the flow. 5 of Teacups might be pointing to him being scared of having regrets, of things not working out his way and then he would look back and see he missed something. And if something doesn’t work, at least he knew where he was going and what he was doing.

So this is what the cards are showing us about his fear of missing out. 😁