#from an actually disabled person

[emberphoenixisgoingtolive]

N6 disability headcanons!

Darius

Autism, PTSD, depression

Covid conscious (for Ben)

Brooklynn

Limb difference (canon), chronic stump pain, occasional phantom pain

PTSD, anxiety

Covid conscious (for Ben)

Yaz

Chronic ankle pain/instability, uses ankle braces and sometimes a cane (or Sammy’s arm if she doesn’t have her cane on that day), TBI from the suchominus (???) tail in chaos theory s3 and the van crash in ct season 1, gets pretty frequent headaches, sometimes loses her balance, has leg weakness (same girl same)

Autism, PTSD, anxiety

Covid conscious (for Ben)

Kenji

Covered in burn scars from the fire incident in CT, very sensitive skin

ADHD, cPTSD, PTSD, Dyscalculia, history of suicidality

Covid conscious (for Ben)

Ben

Asthma, chronic fatigue, chronic wrist and shoulder dislocations from the pteranodons dislocating his wrist and it never healed properly (hence the wood arm guards on his left hand), TBI from the van crash in chaos theory s1, has light and sound sensitivity

Autism, PTSD, anxiety, paranoia, past OCD

Dad died of Long Covid in 2020, Ben has been very Covid conscious since

Sammy

Chronic stomach cramps from the Scorpios Rex quills, sometimes struggles with digestion, TBI from the van crash in chaos theory season 1, has chronic headaches and occasional tremors

ADHD, PTSD

Covid conscious (for Ben)

[giantkillerjack]

You shouldn't get a wheelchair, walker, cane, shower chair, or any kind of assistive technology mobility aid because then you might become dependent on them. Just like how you also shouldn't get glasses if you have bad eyesight because then you might become dependent on those.

For instance, if you end up stuck using corrective eyewear, you could actually lose your ability to tell what things are even when they are extremely blurry! You need to get used to having migraines from seeing unclearly because if you wear glasses all the time, you are basically giving up!! You don't need to see things coming at you from far away! You just need to get good at dodging, and if you can't, then you have no one to blame but yourself!!

For example, I read a really heart-worming article recently about a girl who was stuck using glasses - just absolutely, tragically trapped in her eyewear from dawn to dusk, even though she was good and never ever complained; and I heard she trained herself to discern the blurry faces of her loved ones with 60% accuracy! - she was even able to walk down the aisle at her wedding WITHOUT forcing the discomfort of seeing a woman in glasses on all her guests!!

Sure, she had to give her vows with a splitting headache, and she couldn't see her husband's expression when he said "I do," but overall, SO inspi-ration-al!!! So up-lifting!!

(She didn't even have to use a seeing eye cane, which would have been the worst-case scenario, obviously, because she worked hard to make sure she looked LESS disabled, not MORE disabled!!! Everyone knows blind people exist solely to be a cautionary tale to sighted people!!)

Also, did you know some people get glasses when they only need them a little bit?? How selfish of them! Sure, there's not a shortage, and an increase in demand would result in overall increased accessibility to glasses--but emotionally it's like taking glasses away from someone who needs them more! After all, if everyone who needed glasses got them, then...... um...... more people would have glasses! Which is probably bad!!!!

I also had a friend who was trapped in glasses who saved up all her money for laser eye surgery, and I don't know why everyone doesn't just do that! Sure, some doctors say some people don't "qualify" and it "won't help" those people, but that's why you can't give up!! You don't want to be one of those people!

After all, what's the worst thing that could happen with an unnecessary laser surgery to the face that comes with crippling debt??? It's worth the risk to gain your FREEDOM back, and I'm so proud of my friend!!

Tragically, she did die later that year while driving Uber and squinting at street signs, but at least now I know my friend is finally free from the shackles of her terrible eyesight. #ripAshley #rippedAshley #justripit 😌😌😌❤😇😇😇

And that's why you shouldn't get used to using a mobility aid!! Because, like glasses, they are inherently embarrassing to be seen with; and - like glasses - it is more noble to suffer silently than to depend on unnatural technologies that force you to rely on them; AND - just like glasses - by abstaining from using them, you DEFINITELY benefit SO many people in tangible life-changing ways!!! (Besides, everyone else will be so much more comfortable if you just look normal! 😊)

I hope you learned something today. 💖

[sharksfrommars]

Hiii I rlly love ur asylum ford au and was wondering what stans reaction is to finding out where ford has been throughout his time in the portal🥹 apologies if its already been answered🫂🫂

Hi! I’m glad you enjoy it so much!

Stan’s reaction to Ford’s life since the portal would be sad, mostly. I imagine Ford didn’t want to tell Stan, but Shermie would’ve taken him aside and told him anyway.

Stan gives Ford a massive hug upon finding out. He kind of blames himself, and he apologises. Ford is a little confused because Stan doesn’t explain what he’s sorry for, but they hug none the less.

Stan is also angry. He already hated bill, but now it’s personal. If Stan ever sees that one eyes bitch again, he was going to rip him limb from limb.

Stan walks on eggshells around Ford for a while. He tries to be gentle (he’s not good at it) and really avoids bringing up things that might upset him. He’s not quite sure how to act around Ford, after 40 years apart, especially after finding out what Ford has been through. It’s obvious that they’ve both changed so much, but Stan isn’t sure what to do about it. So he does what he always did, and vows to protect his brother.

Ford didn’t think about how they both changed so much. It’s upsetting, not immediately falling into the same dynamic as when they were kids. He doesn’t like that Stan is so careful around him. In fact, it pisses him off a lot. Ford has spent 30 years being treated less than human. People never really saw him as a full person. He never expected his brother to act the same way.

it leads to conflict between Stan and Ford. Because neither of them are capable of just talking things out.

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thanks for the ask! It was interesting to think about.

[rambles-of-mental-illness]

Cluster B Pride/Support Flags

Antisocial Personality Disorder

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder

Histrionic Personality Disorder

ASPD Flag NPD Flag BPD Flag + BPD Flag Update HPD Flag

[iamfuckingsorry]

"Do you know where we are going next?" I asked ART.

Y'know what, I think maybe I don't need any more Murderbot books. I think maybe ending things here is fucking perfect and as much as I love Wells's writing I'm genuinely not sure it can get better for me.

Like, so much of the books are about MB learning how to be a person, about becoming okay with being a complete individual with everything it entails. The first thing it does once it's actually allowed to decide on its own is it runs away from it all (admittedly to go on a mission to confirm some things about its past, because it genuinely just wants to be *good*). It shoves all its emotions away as much as it's able to. Then shit happens, and it makes its first friends, makes decisions based on these friendships, goes through a lot of emotionally intense situations...

And we get to this point here. MB having zero doubts about going with ART says a lot about its relationship with ART, but it also says a lot about its relationship with its humans - it knows that wherever it goes, when it comes back, the humans will still be there. Its humans actively acknowledge its struggles with being a now-free SecUnit and MB is willing to entertain the discussions to an extent and share information about its deeply personal experiences. Hell, System Collapse ends with MB admitting it might be somewhat broken, but that's okay as long as it can keep doing its job, and agreeing to basically do counselling - this is the guy what would rewatch its favourite TV show again and again in order to avoid acknowledging it even had Emotions a couple books back.

Reading this, I know that MB will be okay. It has hopes and goals and genuinely believes in itself and it has an amazing support system that its willing to lean on for the first time in its life. I'm convinced it'll go on to do great things with ART. And that's really the only thing I need to know.

[sarafangirlart]

I get especially frustrated when retellings and online hcs state that Hephaestus isn’t bothered by Aphrodite’s affairs, not only does it straight up contradict the ancient texts, but it low key feels ableist.

Hephaestus isn’t allowed to feel insecure about his body and sexuality, he isn’t allowed to be angry and sad about the ableist abuse he faces from his family, he isn’t allowed to feel suicidal, he isn’t allowed to complain about his mistreatment he has to be strong and keep his chin up through all of it to be clean and “good” representation.

[wackpedion]

Hey can we talk about how disheartening it is when as a disabled person unable to work you're given money to live off of but its actually nowhere close to being able to live off of? And how it makes no sense? I am disabled, I have been officially judged by the welfare department as being unable to and/or impacted in my ability to work, so theoretically the money I recieve is to make up for this and ensure that I can live, but it's literally not even enough to cover rent most places let alone other bills and food. I am lucky in that I live with my mom and she covers many costs, but not everyone has that option, that or staying with their parents or a partner means staying in an abusive or harmful environment, studies show disabled people are more likely to be abused. This system is trapping them. And so then you're presented with two choices: Work, no matter how hard and damaging it is to your mind and body and health so you might be able to live, or do what you can with what little money the government gives you, if it's even possible, at detriment to you and your quality of life.

And honestly, this just feels like the government doesn't care and wants us to die. That's the message they're sending, when they say "we recognize you can't work, but we won't give you the money you need to be able to live". And what's sickening is that the people around us don't bat an eye about this and may even think what we do get we don't deserve or is enough. My own father went on an angry tirade to me about how he has to pay alot of taxes, a portion of which go to this, which just tells me he doesn't care about me or my disabled friends and familys wellbeing. That he would rather us die or destroy ourselves working so he has a bit more money in his pocket. It's a sick individualistic mindset, to only worry about yourself, and not care about having a functioning society in which everyone is taken care of, including your family, friends, and even yourself, in the case you become disabled or simply grow old. Who doesn't want that? To be against that isn't only harming your close ones but also yourself. Why are you so upset about the idea of contributing to a society that takes care of its people.

This is a bit of an unprompted post, this topic has just been on my mind for a while. I wish things were better for us and that we could all live the lifes we deserve

[yellowyarn]

the autistic urge to use overly formal language. wdym i'm being pretentious for saying "one", its so much faster then being like "somebody ... some people ... blah blah ... "

[wishchip106]

i’m getting pissed thinking about this one person i saw somewhere saying something about Charles loathing his disability so there’s no point in keeping him disabled in the comics

DUDE??? 😟

i feel like him being disabled is so important to his character and being able to show readers that having a disability doesn’t mean you can’t do anything

i wouldn’t say i’m fully educated in these areas and i don’t know how actual disabled people feel on the matter but representation is so important ���

i get really upset seeing “Charles can magically walk again” “He’s fixed!” things like WHY??? GIVE HIM A CANE ATLEAST I BEG OF YOU

do these people do this because its inconvenient he cant walk??? that makes me so mad honestly

i need krakoa Charles with a cane idc about them having his rebirth set from before his accident i need him to show that you can partially corrupt a whole nation while still relying on an aid

or even better yet KEEP THE WHEELCHAIR (not the banana one get a better chair Charles pls)

added bonus give Charles Xavier a gun. An “excuse” to finally get him in the field as if he can’t use HIS EXTREMELY POWERFUL PHYSIC POWERS?? MINDWHAMMY THEM OR SOMETHING PLEASE DO SOMETHING STOP BEING A DAMSEL IN DISTRESS

we need more disability rep please and thank you

gonna mind-whammy the ableists they don’t deserve their vital organs

me trying to defend pookiebear from the haters ^^^

[salt-baby]

today in my doctors appointment, my doctor explained my new diagnosis, then suggested I participate in their clinical trial for an experimental drug for 9000$... before mentioning any other treatment options

in case you're unaware, that's grossly unethical and a massive red flag

[carmillatism]

why does star trek: next generation actually have good disabled rep? i am so used to such atrocious representation that i am shocked a show from the 80s could do it so well. not only have i found the representation of geordi's disability to be well done (and there's parts that are so specific and relatable to disabled experiences that it makes me think someone disabled worked on this show). (however, please note i am only up to season 2, and that i haven't looked much into other people's interpretations of him and admit he may not be as good of rep as i currently see him). this current episode has a deaf character, riva, and the ideas and empathy extended to disabled people are so nice and refreshing to see, especially as facilitated through this character. i also thought geordi's b plot, where it shows his hesitation in giving up something so integral to him (especially when it could be dangerous), is so important to me. also, the fact that riva and geordi are shown to relate and deeply understand one another whilst listening to the other's own feelings was so relatable; it was crazy. (also, i always love seeing a deaf character and a blind character communicate with one another!) the concept was extremely cool and well executed, and, god, i know it's the bear minimum but highering a deaf person to play a deaf character and taking them up on their own idea they pitched and also listening to them when they provided much needed disabled insight! ugh. i love it

[trans-axolotl]

oh my god. just got amazing fucking news. a bunch of things aligned perfectly and i will be GETTING A CUSTOM RIGID LIGHTWEIGHT WHEELCHAIR! I"M GETTING A QUICKIE QRI!!!! literally so fucking happy like i don't even have the words this is going to enable me to get back so so much and just so many more things and hopefully slow down the progression of some of my symptoms and just. i'm already spending so much time stuck in bed with worsening symptoms and falling and seizures and everything it's just. i'm literally so so so so so fucking happy and SO so grateful for the people making this possible.

anyway. have a few questions for any mutuals who are wheelchair users about measurements. most of the measurements have been taken, but there were some stuff they were leaving up to me so i wanted to get some feedback/ they were bad at explaining and i want to just double check that all the measurements were taken down right.

can anyone explain/provide resources on the difference between the front seat height measurement and the rear seat height measurement? right now rear seat measurement is 15" and front seat measurement is 17"--is the two inch difference reasonable/what is the reason for the difference? how does the height of my seat cushion play into what the final measurements for seat height should be?

what are the pros and cons of different frame angles? the person said anything from 75 degrees to 85 degrees would be good options but didn't explain the differences between the frame angles.

pros and cons of different size caster wheels? the person recommended 5" wheels but didn't explain why.

pros and cons of different center of gravity? the person measuring recommend 1.5" but didn't explain why.

for context about my mobility and what i'm looking for: i have pretty good upper body and core strength, no significant posture issues. pretty bad POTS, significant post exertional malaise, other issues with leg weakness, tremors, balance, seizures, neurological issues that currently make me a pretty significant fall risk. but i am still ambulatory, although it's pretty limited. will need to use chair outside the house and on public transit--navigating a lot of different types of sidewalks, lots of different hills, plenty of curbs with no curb cuts. so main things i'm looking for are a chair that's easy to navigate, turn, something I can learn to do wheelies in bc i will need that skill to navigate the city. etc.

if anyone has any advice or any resources for wheelchair measurement would be VERY appreciated bc i just want to double check everything and make sure it makes sense before the chair is ordered.

[mudlarkspur]

post/790136342154723328 ok but does this include tcesters???? 🤢🤢🤢🤢

this????

are you ...seriously asking me if I think people who crank their hog to drawings of a cartoon deserve to be homeless and starve? The people playing pretend on the other side of the playground while I'm drawing myself as a bug?

m8 I don't believe in the death penalty. I think the people who've done truly despicable things, including the people who have done despicable things to me personally, deserve food and shelter to live out the rest of their natural lives relative comfort.

so yes. I think that people who have ~whatever porn~ in their spank banks don't deserve to die.

That's what that post is about. It's saying every human being has a right to food and shelter.

Get some fucking perspective.

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, the craziest part of accessibility is that there aren't many abled people (and disabled people who aren't disabled in Every Way Possible) who wouldn't benefit from any of the accessibility options out there

ALT text has made it so much better to navigate image-based pages! I'm not visually-impared, but tumblr is terrible at loading images, and I'm not always connected to WiFi. People who add ALT text make it easy to satiate my curiosity when images don't load! This, coupled with actually learning how blind and visually-impared people navigate the online world, has inspired me to do my best to emulate the things I find helpful, even if the way it helps me is very different than theirs. Having a sense of scale in how it helps me versus how it actually makes the internet usable to the blind and visually-impared is something I do try to keep in mind.

Navigating a world with accessible options is primarily going to help the disabled, and it's imperative to keep this in mind. I do think, though, that illustrating just how much accessibility impacts even abled people's lives can help inspire people to think, "wow, I can't imagine a world without [accessibility option] and I don't need it, but it makes life so much easier." The more I interact with accessibility options I don't need, I still find it so helpful. I can't even imagine how amazing it is when you do need that accessibility and it's actually provided to you.

I don't think that abled people should only be in it for themselves. Again, accessibility should put disabled needs first and foremost. But I can't help but wonder how many people you can get to understand this by first saying how it impacts them, too.

[creepykuroneko]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. I fucken hate the Tumblr neurodivergent community.

[lovesick0cupid]

can ppl stop bringing hpd and munchausen up just when it comes to faking disabilities. like can we stop being the scapegoats for Every diasbility faker ever.

bitches when im actually severely disabled and im not faking it and even the sickness i do fake is via hurting myself. girl its a disorder for a reason ill drink straight poison for a little love and affection