#men problems

[r3n0-5]

You all are getting too comfortable with sexism and bio-essentialism in trans spaces. A place where it’s supposed to be safe, our own community tears itself apart trying to tell us who/what/how we should be. Isn’t that exactly what conservatives do? The so-called open-minded always accepting lgbtqia+ community doesn’t feel like home anymore thanks to people who practice terf/radfem rhetoric and don't realize it calling themselves woke and progressive in the process. You’re not better saying things like: “All men are rapists, including trans men” “You can’t wear dresses and skirts if you’re a man” “You can’t identify as a lesbian if you’re a man” “Men don’t suffer from sexual abuse” “Real men don’t cry or show their feelings, they man it up”. When you grow up and understand that these statements are wrong, you can go back to put a star on your forehead for having basic human decency.

[asmutwriter]

Last night I was sexting a boy - both sending explicit consensual pictures and videos, being (what I deem) to be fully into each other. Today he seems completely uninterested and is making no showcase of ever even liking me in any romantic or sexual manner.

Men confuse me is the conclusion to this story

[closetohearts]

When His Happiness Doesn’t Matter Anymore: A Missing Piece in Modern Relationships.

In today’s world of evolving relationships, freedom, and fierce independence, one silent truth often goes unnoticed.

Many relationships are failing because a man’s happiness is forgotten.

We talk a lot about women reclaiming their emotional space (and rightly so). We encourage them to express, to set boundaries, to prioritize their mental health. But in the midst of all this progress, an unintended imbalance has emerged men are increasingly feeling invisible in their own relationships.

The Quiet Emotional Withdrawal.

He doesn’t always shout when he’s hurt.

He won’t always write emotional texts.

He won’t beg for attention when he’s starving for love.

Instead, he goes silent.

He starts saying, “It’s fine.”

He becomes the provider, the protector, the one who “handles it all” while slowly breaking inside.

Why?

Because somewhere along the line, his happiness stopped mattering.

Men Feel. Men Break. But They’re Taught Not to Show It.

There’s a common belief in relationships today:

“He’s a man. He can take it.”

But man or not he has a heart too.

He gets tired of being strong all the time.

He gets hurt when his efforts go unnoticed.

He feels invisible when the relationship becomes one-sided.

Many men in true love give everything time, money, energy, peace, protection, attention, even dreams.

But still, some women act like it’s never enough.

Situationships in the Name of Love

Let’s face it many modern relationships aren’t really built on love anymore.

They’re built on convenience, expectation, conditions, and emotional manipulation.

It’s not always love it’s often a situationship, disguised with love language and selfies.

And here’s the hard part:

In many of these, the man gives everything and still ends up being misunderstood, emotionally abandoned, or labelled as toxic just for having feelings.

There’s a sad truth here, and it’s painful to admit:

Some women, in today’s culture, have become selfish in love.

They care deeply about their side of the story. Their pain. Their version. Their emotional needs.

But rarely ask:

“How is he coping?”

“What does he feel when I ignore his efforts?”

“What does love look like for him?”

Boys and Men Are Different.

Let’s not forget:

Boys crave attention. Men crave peace.

And when men love truly love they love in silence, in action, in sacrifice.

But when that love isn’t returned…

When his emotions are invalidated…

When his role becomes just “a provider” or “her emotional punching bag” something inside him starts to die.

Real Love Is Mutual, Not One-Sided.

This isn’t about blaming all women.

It’s about reminding everyone especially in love that both sides matter.

A healthy relationship isn’t one person constantly pouring while the other receives.

It’s two people who Check on each other, Protect each other’s peace, Respect each other’s struggles, And never forget that happiness should be mutual.

Final Thought.

Modern relationships fail not just because of arguments or distance They fail when one person’s feelings become invisible. So to anyone reading this especially women in relationships. If your man is loving you with all he has… don’t make him feel like that love is invisible. Because when he walks away, it won’t be with anger. It’ll be with silence the kind you’ll never hear again.

-AK

[themaninmarrieds]

What about my wife turning in to a asexual person ,and i got a libido of a young tiger.

Nothing works , all my efforts

When i want too play , i got sunday evening ( if i'm Lucky) too try-out to get some .

If i dont do enything,nothing happens for months.

And the only thing i get to hear is ..

You only wanna fuck , you think with your Dick etc.

Question : what to doo , in my case

[donnieisaprettyboy]

can we stop pretending like it’s so super easy for trans men to pass. “oh just put on a baggy shirt and cut your hair-“ it literally doesn’t work like that and I refuse to believe you actually think it’s that easy

[mikehasfleas]

Most annoying thing to remember is that you're litterally just a homosapien. You're just a very smart animal. If you feel like shit, imagine you're an exotic pet for some alien species and do what they'd do to keep you healthy. You gotta be well cared for. Animal abuse is a crime for a reason

"My pet human, Greg, hasn't left his bed in a long time. He's just scrolling his phone all day" Greg needs enrichment. Add enrichment in his enclosure and take him on walks

"Greg has been super lethargic and sad recently for seemingly no reason" Greg need vitamins, take him outside for some vitamin D and fresh air. Perhaps a picnic

"Greg won't sleep even though he's been super lethargic" Greg needs a schedule, especially for the lights in his enclosure.

"Greg has been super distant recently and keeps crying to sad music" Humans are pack animals, he needs to hug another human and hang out. Perhaps pack bond with a rock together

"Greg has been flailing around and panicking, his breathing is way faster than it should be" Greg is overwhelmed. Take Greg out of the situation and give him time to calm down. Perhaps somewhere cozy with tea and a movie

"Greg won't do what he needs to do" Train him. Humans do great with positive reinforcement, give him little treats when he's doing good

"Greg he's been super anxious and tired, he can't seem to enjoy his days" Humans needs to move around. Give Greg something to exercise with. Things like stretching, weight lifting, walking, or even dancing will help

"Even though I've taken really good care of Greg, he still has been having issues" Greg is ill, take him to the doctor. You might need a specialist (therapist, optometrist, oncologist, etc)

I know it feels patronizing, and I know it feels embarrassing or that you're "just giving into the clichés", but you are literally just a creature. You need to sleep/eat on time, you need enrichment, and you need to take care of your social needs. Humans are complicated animals, but they are also beautiful and all deserve proper care. This obviously isn't a perfect analogy, nothing is, but if you saw your friend taking care of their pet the way you take care of yourself, would you be concerned?

[attemptedsaint]

dream closet . ݁𝜗𝜚˚

[krysmcscience]

Did somebody say Bill shouldn't be allowed to swear? I think somebody said Bill shouldn't be allowed to swear. Thanks to that, have these retooled The Good Place jokes:

The "powers that be" can refer to either the Theraprism staff, the Axolotl, or just. Ya know. Disney in general. Or all three! Whichever you think is funniest. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

The "party" Bill's referring to is Weirdmageddon, of course. He was quite the ashhole to everyone back then.

Ford has probably gotten pretty good at the 'tune out your psychopathic ex with dank memes' challenge.

It must be very cathartic to be able to make Bill shut up whenever you want with just the press of a button. I'm sure Ford doesn't abuse this ability at all.

Oh, sure, 'Not now,' he says, before he immediately backs out of the newly-made hole in the Theraprism wall. 🙄

Don't worry, Bill doesn't get far.

also yeah i know this one doesn't have an attempted swear - i just wanted to use the joke because of the massive stink-eye involved in it because it makes me laugh

⬇️ More goofs beneath the brief ramble if you wanna skip it lmao⬇️

Why is Ford even there, you might ask? Well, he either decided he preferred to watch Bill suffer in person over being distantly and repeatedly harassed with the same evil desperation book for the rest of his life, or he got roped into some kind of contrived community service for 1.) all his many counts of interdimensional thievery, and 2.) his ignoring all the very clear warnings to NOT summon Bill in the first place (which I like to imagine is also illegal). Theraprism staff were just like, 'Wait, this guy matters to Bill? Ooh, we can USE that! It might be the only thing that can help him want to get better!' It is not considered that throwing Ford at Bill so soon after Weirdmageddon could instead make them both WORSE - in new and altogether special ways! :D

Anyway, I'm calling it the Community Service AU, and I am most likely not going to do anything else with it beyond appropriating these silly Good Place jokes. So, feel free to adopt the concept if y'all wanna??? Just make sure that Bill is still not allowed to swear, no matter what, full stop. It's gotta be a real linguistic corkblork of a situation for him, is all I'm sayin'.

Finally, have these bonus Good Place jokes, but with Handyman!Bill this time:

'Opposite tortures' doesn't sound so bad...at least until it's an all-powerful chaos entity known for torture saying it.

you may think i forgot mabel's cute pink cheeks but the truth is that i did in fact forget but then immediately stopped caring which makes it okay, SHHHHHHH

And, finally:

lmao this is shit

True facts, if you cram Season 1 Eleanor Shellstrop and Michael into a singular triangle shape, they turn into Bill Cipher. This is science, look it up. Or don't, and just trust the source that is me, bro.

Anyway, I should be in bed, y'all have fun with these, I guess. Tune in after like a week or so and maybe I'll have an addendum to my comic about how Bill was drawn naked for karaoke night. Because him actually being naked was not the only thing I considered as a plausible explanation. XD

Also if you see any inconsistencies or errors in any of these comics, No You Do Not :D

Also also, reblogs are rad as hell and I appreciate every single one, just don't repost, please and thanks. Every time a repost is made, an artist somewhere cries. :,)

[blessyouhawkeye]

i love that every time magneto loses his helmet in the x men movies he immediately starts going charles you could make me do ANYTHING YOU WANTED right now......... i'd be POWERLESS TO STOP YOU........ you could GET IN MY MIND and HAVE ME AT YOUR MERCY..... i think a lot of their problems could have been solved if charles just took him up on what was a very blatant proposition

[d0llcevita]

fuck nudes send bicep pics pls

[why-lamp]

MOOOOOOOOOoooom!! Misha Collins and Jensen Ackles are causing chaos in the supernatural fandom again!

[lazylittledragon]

i love my tavs but also i think they should kiss

[unforth]

Y'all have got to stop virulently hating men. Like, I'm sorry, I fucking hate the patriarchy too, but the patriarchy isn't just men and saying it is just exculpates complicit women. I am the mother of a young boy, and I look at this precious, empathetic 8 year old boy I'm raising and I don't know where online is safe for him. Places like this will say he's evil just for his gender, and other places will say "we'll be your friend if you hate with us," and still others will radicalize him in other ways. Where is he supposed to go? Why are we saying the radicalization is the fault of the kids just trying to find a place to hang?

Like this is seriously getting urgent. You have got to fucking stop conflating the patriarchy and men. 53% percent of white women voted for Trump. Men aren't the problem. White supremacy and Christian patriarchal structures are two examples of patriarchy-reinforcing structures that aren't solely couched in maleness. Men aren't the problem, and pretending they are drives more men into more welcoming extremist spaces and also ignores all the parts of this that are forwarded by people who aren't men.

What I see happening all over is scared, depressed, lonely people looking for someone they're allowed to hate automatically, unquestioningly - someone they're allowed to place all the blame on. Fascism says people of color, non-Christian people, queer people, etc., are the ones they're allowed to hate.

And way too many of yall answer that no, it's leftist to hate men instead. You are doing *the exact same thing they are.*

Fucking knock it off.

The answer is we're not supposed to hate anyone automatically based on their immutable personal characteristics. Hate the specific people who've hurt you. Hate the self-reinforcing systems that let them get away with hurting you. Hate the strangers who prop up those systems. Hate the fascists. Hell knows I hate Donald Trump, but it's not because he's a man, it's because he's a piece of shit.

Hate the pieces of shit, not the gender.

But don't hate men just because they're men. That's unhelpful, stupid, insane, and entirely counterproductive. Fucking. Stop.

[puppyplastique]

Kill yourself Terfs now and forever. Trans women are women.

[anundyingfidelity]

(drawing too)

[attemptedsaint]