#overcoming codependency

[cyber-soul-smartz]

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[lifeinspiration4all]

Breaking free from codependency isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Love should never require you to disappear. You deserve relationships where your needs matter, your voice is heard, and your wholeness is welcome.

[theindomitablewoman]

“You don’t have to be NEEDED to be LOVED.” -Colette Baron-Reid

[mortysmith]

Fuck you season five episode nine genuinely some of the worst shit they clobbered together

[jonathanbyersphd]

Jonathan and Nancy give each other multiple chances to back out but both of them choose to do the hard things together every time 🥺

[tennessoui]

the to the point of distraction au is incredible and i have so many thoughts,,, is tatooine working on taking down any of the other hutt systems, and are maybe trying to like, seduce the jedi and the sith back to see who will help their anti-slavery quest??? is kitster like, making fun of anakin in the evenings while they watch their coruscanti day time holos together? is obi-wan gonna be the jealous one this time?

oooohoho good thoughts!! to address in order,

i think any new kingdom of tatooine is going to have to eventually take down the other hutt systems, but also they'll need to strengthen themselves first - which is probably why shmi is entertaining both the jedi and the sith right now for sure. if neither faction feels good to her, she'd be fine going alone, it'd just be quicker to allow one to help her.

kitster and anakin definitely get together at night and kitster drags anakin for filth over all the shit he's said or done with darth solence because it's genuinely hilarious. kitster's never really seen anakin like this with anyone. half the time he's mooning over solence and the other half he's trying to stab him with a knife. kitster was half afraid anakin would stab him with a knife during a banquet where darth solence had, apparently, remembered his mission and was showering kitster-who-is-pretending-to-be-prince-skywalker in attention and flirty asides

which brings me to the last point where honestly i think my understanding of anakin's character in general is that he's jealous. or greedy. or possessive, which is why it shows up in my works so much. i think he's irrationally jealous a lot which then sneaks into his narrative when i write things from his perspective. im sure people are sick and tired of this facet of my anakins, but honestly it's one of the things that, for me, make his character read as a version of anakin skywalker, despite the crazy situations i put him in. sorry!

at the same time i really don't see obi-wan kenobi's character having that same nugget of irrational jealousy or greed or possessiveness that i see anakin skywalker having and that's why a lot of my fics have elements of jealous anakin but not jealous obi-wan - jealous/possessive obi-wan is more au dependent than essential to the character for me

that all being said, for this au i do think obi-wan would be jealous or possessive - after all, he's Fallen! He's dark! he can allow his jealousy to run rampant! now...how many situations crop up where he can really be jealous or possessive? like it's not kitster the manservant that anyone's trying to seduce, it's the prince! obi-wan's kitster isn't in the line of fire, so to speak, so while i'm sure there are moments where obi-wan feels that sweet sweet green-eyed monster, the plotty identity shenanigans really thwart more openly jealous obi-wan here

[eileennatural]

i hate seeing bros on twitter mischaracterize gon... like yeah maybe he did do all that but have you considered he's just a little boy ? A grieving little boy? He's a very sweet kid with just like. two things incredibly wrong with him

[dein-wille-geschehe]

Honestly, no.

Maybe staying calm is better than instantly becoming reactive, defensive or aggressive.

But:

Staying calm when someone disrespects you most likely means that you have unresolved people-pleasing issues, deep-seated codependency and a (common but) pathological fear or people. You most likely had to endure disrespect from your caregivers, teachers or classmates as a child that taught you that your best survival strategy is to keep quiet and suffer silently.

So what's the healthy response to being disrespected? Assertion. (Assertion does not mean aggression or passive-aggression).

How to deal with disrespect:

1. Assess the situation: How safe is it? Are you talking to strangers or people you know? Is it worth spending energy?

If the situation is unsafe, the person is a stranger or it's not worth resolving: Disengage as quickly as possible. Grey-rock or fake-people-please the other person into not harming you, if necessary.

If it's safe, and you care about the person: With a firm, medium-loud voice, state how you're feeling and that the other crossed a boundary. You don't need to be calm if you're genuinely angry, just stay civil. It's ok to sound intimidating to them if they intimidated you first. Say you won't tolerate boundary-crossing and tell them what consequences this would bring in the future. Assertion is key. Then disengage, if possible.

[silly-slasherisms]

talking about my legion is such a double-edged sword bcuz i love remembering stuff and knowing things about them and !! just loving my legion !! but then i miss them more :((((

the cuddle pile thing specifically i can't get out of my head 😓 i almost wanna lay on the ground with a plushie rn (and cry 😓)

i was thinking abt the "frank kicks" thing and i'd probably snuggle between julie & joey or julie & susie if i actually wanted to get good sleep lol. and for the record julie definitely kicks frank back

[figthefruitfaeth]

obsessed with the way that Lisa Frankenstein answers the question of “how will Lisa overcome her trauma” not with “by putting her morbid tendencies aside and rejoining society as a normal girl” but having her relive it as the perpetrator instead and being rewarded with a messy codependent husband

[uhmusingmon]

looking beyond the presenting problem

two months ago, I moved into a new apartment. I was excited for the freshness it offered me. And I was excited to terminate with the former property management. I knew I had left some damages and I did not leave it sparkly clean as their move out instructions requested. so I wasn't quite expecting a return on the security deposit.

what I did expect, however, was to receive notice within 45 days per state law. 45 days passed, and nothing. a little irritated, because I had to comply with their move out timeline, that they have failed to comply with the law. so I left a voicemail, and not to my surprise, it was not returned. so I called again. I was given the number of the manager in charge of the property, contacted them, and they told me they would follow up the next day..........nothing.

a week passes, I call again. I leave a message and the call is not returned. I call the office and speak with someone who said they will have the manager reach out to me. and you guessed it...nothing!

And then comes the email. The email that lists their vague charges for general cleaning and labor. At this point, I'm furious because they fail to abide by the law, their communication is shit, and they face no consequences. if I were to move out 8 days past my scheduled date, I would face retribution. Why should they be free from this!? ugh, f**k capitalistic garbage behavior profiting off the disadvantaged.

I couldn't shake my frustration, and my nervous system fell out of wack. This lead to frustration with myself for allowing it to trigger an emotional spiral. The privileged must be held accountable!

Now, while all this is upsetting, I did not understand the dark looming cloud over my head the next day. "why can't I shake this?" I thought. Conveniently, this was also therapy day.

Oh, therapy. this current therapist is about a month and a half new to me. and boy, do I have a tendency to wear my "life's tough but I've got this" mask into session. I wore it all up until this point. Maybe I shed a few tears here and there, but I kept it pretty controlled. (Mostly because I criticize myself out of crying over something that's nOt ThAt SeRiOuS or NoT tHaT bAd). This session was not like the rest.

I did not want a dark cloud following me the rest of the day. I knew I had to get comfortable with an honest display of my emotions if I wanted to change it. So I went in knowing I've gotta utilize this therapy thing (and I didn't have the energy to mask). One of the last things I texted my friend before I walked into the building was, "I hope she has a lot of tissues ready."

the session began. we got to talking. I brought up my capitalistic garbage drama and soon began the waterworks.

as I continued to talk about the situation, I began to realize -- while yes, screw capitalistic garbage (and that anger is valid) -- I was really mad about the lack of communication and no one following through with their word. it awakened an old wound for which I could finally articulate in words: my existence doesn't matter.

it was intense and a relief as I identified other events that echoed that same fallacy. I thought I had already understood the impact of these events and was aware of the lies they taught me. but not quite. this was a new layer that has been waiting to be uncovered. even though the wound has existed for years and been reopened a few times, I did not have these exact words to express the pain I felt. I had other variations, but none so blunt and to the point.

my existence doesn't matter.

cognitively, I know that is not true. but subconsciously, this wound reinforces a block in my pursuit of an authentic life and actualizing dreams. it feeds the depression, the anxiety, and self-sabotage.

by naming this once hidden thought, I can cancel it out with truth: my existence matters. I matter. I have purpose. I belong here. those who do not value me may not appreciate my existence, and their lack of appreciation does not diminish my power, my place, my purpose.

when I'm having big feelings over a presenting problem, I am reminded I can either spend energy trying to solve/fight it OR I can use it as an invitation to dig and explore to find its roots. Editing this post 8 months later to say, both can be done. Digging helps to decide which problems are worth solving.

When is the last time you felt worked up about a situation? What do you think your feelings were trying to show or tell you?

[literaryvein-reblogs]

Writing Codependent Characters

Codependency

The state of being mutually reliant (e.g., a relationship between two individuals who are emotionally dependent on one another).

A dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual is psychologically dependent on (or controlled by) a person who has a substance use or non-substance-related disorder (e.g., alcohol use disorder, gambling disorder).

Signs of Codependency

Some things found to correlate with codependency include (Marks et al., 2012):

Low self-esteem

Low levels of narcissism

Familial dysfunction

Depression

Anxiety

Stress

Low emotional expressivity

Other signs of codependency (Lancer, 2016; Mental Health America, n.d.):

Having a hard time saying no

Having poor boundaries

Showing emotional reactivity

Feeling compelled to take care of people

Having a need for control, especially over others

Having trouble communicating honestly

Fixating on mistakes

Feeling a need to be liked by everyone

Feeling a need to always be in a relationship

Denying one’s own needs, thoughts, and feelings

Having intimacy issues

Confusing love and pity

Displaying fear of abandonment

Differentiate between a Healthy & a Codependent Relationship

In a healthy relationship, both individuals have a sense of autonomy and independence. Both are able to maintain their own identities while still being connected to their partner.

While in a codependent relationship, one person may sacrifice their own needs and wants in order to please their partner, or they may become overly enmeshed and lose a sense of self.

Additionally, in a codependent relationship, there is often an imbalance of power, with one person being overly controlling or dominant.

Overcoming Codependency

Research has been conducted into group, individual, and family therapy modalities for overcoming codependency, with one systematic review showing a significant reduction in symptoms when long-term post-intervention follow-ups were conducted (Abadi et al., 2015).

The main emphasis of these various treatment modalities is on altering how the codependent person views themselves and their relationships.

This can involve interventions with various (or numerous) goals:

Building Self-Esteem. Low self-esteem is a well-established symptom of codependency (Cermak, 1986; Whitfield, 1991). Building the codependent person’s self-esteem is a main focus of many counseling interventions, with evidence supporting their efficacy (Abadi et al., 2015).

Improving Boundary Setting. Weak or unclear boundaries are another reason codependent people are often willing to compromise their personal needs and happiness to satisfy a partner. Interventions aimed at building self-awareness, self-expression, and communication skills can help an individual’s ability to set and enforce healthy boundaries (Abadi et al., 2015).

Encouraging Self Care. Boundary-setting is just one form of self-care. People with codependent tendencies can also benefit from learning to prioritize their self-care, needs, and happiness before taking care of others (Beattie, 2008).

Originally, “the term ‘codependent’ described persons living with, or in a relationship with an addicted person” (Lampis et al., 2017).

A psychological construct involving an unhealthy relationship that people might share with those closest to them.

It was originally thought to involve families of substance abuse but has since grown to include other types of dysfunctional relationships.

Modern understandings of codependency: “a specific relationship addiction characterized by preoccupation and extreme dependence—emotional, social and sometimes physical—on another person” (Lampis et al., 2017).

The concept of codependency does still apply to families with substance abuse issues but is also used to refer to other situations too.

The main consequence of codependency is that “[c]odependents, busy taking care of others, forget to take care of themselves, resulting in a disturbance of identity development” (Knudson & Terrell, 2012).

To sum up, codependency is a psychological concept that refers to people who feel extreme amounts of dependence on certain loved ones in their lives, and feel responsible for the feelings and actions of those loved ones.

Codependency is not recognized as a distinct personality disorder by the DSM-5.

That said, research shows that while codependency does overlap with other personality disorders, it appears to constitute a distinct psychological construct. The best way to learn about codependency is to review some signs of codependency (examples above).

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[astroxrion]

Align with your Emotions__ overcome Codependency | Astrology 🫐

Moon in 1st House

You absorb others' emotions too easily. To align, name your feelings before anyone else's. Self-reflection is non-negotiable. Own your mood. Stop shape-shifting. Lead with your truth. Your presence is enough without emotional approval.

Moon in 2nd House

You tie worth to emotional validation. You align by building a steady inner value system. Choose stability over emotional reward. Create routines that regulate your nervous system. Don't seek safety through others' praise. Know you are already enough.

Moon in 3rd House

You over-communicate to feel connected. You align by pausing before reacting. Observe your thoughts instead of rushing to explain them. You don't need to prove your feelings to earn love. Listen to yourself louder than you listen to others.

Moon in 4th House

You cling to emotional familiarity. You align by healing childhood wounds without recreating them. You are not responsible for holding everyone's pain. Build emotional independence by choosing peace over comfort. You don't need chaos to feel at home.

Moon in 5th House

You seek love through performance. You align when you express emotions without needing a response. You are enough without applause. Validate your joy privately. Don't wait to be adored to feel worthy. Choose love that lets you feel, not just shine.

Moon in 6th House

You over-function to earn closeness. You align by honoring your needs as equal to your duties. Stop fixing others to avoid feeling your own emotions. Your worth is not in how useful you are. You are allowed to rest without guilt.

Moon in 7th House

You mirror others to avoid being alone. You align by building emotional solitude. Know who you are when no one's around. Relationships should enhance you, not complete you. You don't need to be chosen to validate your existence.

Moon in 8th House

You attach through emotional control. You align by letting people have their own emotions without absorbing or managing them. Intimacy is not ownership. You don't have to lose yourself to merge. Trust requires release, not constant depth.

Moon in 9th House

You chase emotional freedom through others' beliefs. You align by trusting your own experience. Stop escaping hard feelings with philosophies. Explore, but come home to what's real inside you. Meaning must come from within, not borrowed ideals.

Moon in 10th House

You crave approval through success. You align by separating public image from emotional truth. Don't perform feelings for validation. Be honest. Your reputation doesn't define your worth. Feel first. Then act. Not the other way around.

Moon in 11th House

You lose yourself in community expectations. You align by letting go of needing to belong to feel safe. Be in group spaces that honor individuality. You don't have to blend in to be loved. Lead from emotional honesty, not social survival.

Moon in 12th House

You bury emotions to avoid vulnerability. You align by naming what's been hidden. Feel without shame. Stop disappearing when things get intense. Your emotions are sacred, not burdensome. Let your inner world have space to exist outside your mind.

[divineawakeningoracle]

North Node in the Composite Chart✨

House placement of the North Node in the composite is the purpose of the relationship and why the universe brought the two of you together.💕 The composite chart is the "relationship" and is activated within 6 months of the connection, a consistent connection meaning both partners must be invested mentally, physically and emotionally. The composite outcomes are not guaranteed as we all have free will and ultimately our individual actions and decisions decide the fate and outcome of the connection. The composite like synastry is a guide to the energy that is present whether it is utilized or not. 🕊️✨

1st House- (Autonomy, Self Reliance, Freedom, Independence)- This connection is here to teach both partners the importance of interdependence, one or both partners may struggle with codependency or insecurities and must learn the importance of autonomy within a partnership.

2nd House- (Financial Gain, Financial Stability, Financial Empowerment) One or both individuals may be financial focused, there may be indications in synastry and composite of starting a business together or the goal maybe generational wealth or financial stability.

3rd House- (Communication and Learning) One or both partners may struggle with communication or mental processing. This connection will give them the confidence to fulfill their dreams or tap into their learning abilities or the abilities to teach others, or learn important lessons through this connection.

4th House- (Family)- The purpose of the connection is overcoming and healing childhood trauma and wounding. The couple wants to live together and or desire to build and start a family they never had with one another or they may feel like home to one another. There is a lot of triggering and healing along the way.

5th House- (Children)- One or both partners may see each other as the ideal parent or may desire to have children with one another. If not, creative projects can be birthed as a result of this connection. This connection may also be a situationship, friends with benefits, sneaky link, here for a good time not a long time connection, or baby momma, baby daddy situation.

6th House- (Health and Wellbeing, Nurturing One another, Stability) This house is about the day to day routines, and wellness this couple maybe into fitness or wellness in some kind of way. This is not the most exciting placement. But the purpose is nurturing one another and adding value where it counts in the connection.

7th House- Fated Relationship (Divine Connection)- This placement is ideal for soul mates and couples who are both ready for love and ready to do "the work" necessary to keep a connection going. This aspect is guaranteed to last a lifetime, as the odds are in both of your favors and the universe is conspiring to keep you two together to see it through.

8th House- (Transformation, Karmic Lesson) This connection is sure to be transformative for both individuals, no one will be the same as a result of this connection. This connection may be short-lived and is not sustainable for long term. The connection may end once one or both people have evolved or learned their lesson(s).

9th House- (Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Connection, Spiritual Lessons)- This connection is about self actualization, and exploration. You feel like you are with someone who just gets you. One or both people may be travelers or may not like to stay in one place for two long. They can both be into spiritual pursuits or may have similar beliefs. Both individuals may be from other countries or states.

10th House- (Business Partnership) This couple may have met at work or one or both individuals are career minded and career focused. The connection can somehow be in the spot light or on a stage for all to see. There may be no privacy in this connection. As business is mixed with pleasure with this couple.

11th House- (Friendship) This couple may have been friends turned lovers, or known each other awhile or ran in the same social circles before getting together. This placement has a strong foundation rooted in respect and admiration. Friendship will always be at the core of the dynamic, no matter the outcome.

12th House- (Past Life Karma Clearing, Shadow Work, Catalyst) This connection may feel spiritual or ethereal to one or both partners, the couple may not fully understand their connection to one other and this connection may trigger subconscious fears or soul healing. There may be a lot of delusions or projections from outsiders onto this connection, there maybe secrets or hidden agendas in this connection.

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[astrosouldivinity]

12H 𝐇𝐢𝐝𝐝𝐞𝐧 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐞𝐬: 𝐌𝐚𝐣𝐨𝐫 𝐀𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐨𝐢𝐝𝐬 𝐄𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧

The placements in your 12th house can reveal your karmic hidden enemies. By understanding the energy the placements bring, you can gain valuable insights and better protect yourself from future challenges. 🧿

12𝐻 𝐻𝒾𝒹𝒹𝑒𝓃 𝐸𝓃𝑒𝓂𝒾𝑒𝓈 😈

7𝐻 𝒪𝓅𝑒𝓃 𝐸𝓃𝑒𝓂𝒾𝑒𝓈 👿

12H Chiron: Your hidden enemies may be individuals who trigger your unhealed wounds. They might also be in need of healing themselves, reflecting your own struggles. However, you might find that toxic people will often project their emotional burdens onto you, leaving you feeling drained and overwhelmed.

12H Lilith: Your hidden enemies may project their internalized shame and insecurities about their suppressed sexuality onto you. They may envy your nonconformity and confidence in expressing yourself, viewing it as a challenge to societal taboos. As a result, they might even try to stifle your self-expression and autonomy.

12H Ceres: Your hidden enemies may appear as individuals who undermine your ability to nurture yourself and connect with your inner child. They might embody codependency, triggering feelings of neglect or abandonment that reflect unresolved issues from your past. Their behavior can create emotional dependency and confusion, making it challenging to establish healthy attachments.

12H Juno: Your hidden enemies may manifest as individuals who challenge your ideals of marriage, commitment, and relationship security. They might project their own insecurities or fears about commitment onto you, creating confusion and doubt regarding your romantic desires. These individuals could undermine your sense of stability in relationships, making it difficult for you to trust others and fully commit.

12H Pallas: Your hidden enemies may be individuals who embody patterns of self-sabotage or past disappointments, ultimately seeking to undermine your ability to achieve your goals. They could challenge your independence and creative expression, deeply envious of your resilience in overcoming adversities.

12H Vesta: Your hidden enemies may manifest as individuals who seek to undermine your sense of purity and have a desire to pollute your energy. They might try to steal your light and lead you down a darker path, distracting you from your sense of self and higher purpose. Their influence can create confusion and doubt making it difficult to trust yourself.

12H Eros: Your hidden enemies may present themselves as individuals who engage in sexual manipulation or exploit your intimate desires. They might reflect unresolved issues related to your sexuality, attempting to distort your understanding of love and attraction. Additionally, these individuals could create confusion around your deepest yearnings, drawing you into unhealthy dynamics.

𝑀𝒶𝒿𝑜𝓇 𝒜𝓈𝓉𝑒𝓇𝑜𝒾𝒹𝓈 - 𝒲𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝒯𝒽𝑒𝓎 𝑅𝑒𝓅𝓇𝑒𝓈𝑒𝓃𝓉 ☄️

𝑀𝒶𝓈𝓉𝑒𝓇𝓁𝒾𝓈𝓉 - 𝒲𝑒𝓁𝒸𝑜𝓂𝑒 📝

𝑀𝒶𝒾𝓃 𝑀𝒶𝓈𝓉𝑒𝓇𝓁𝒾𝓈𝓉 📋

𝔁𝓸𝔁𝓸- 𝓚𝓲𝓴𝓲 🌙

©𝚊𝚜𝚝𝚛𝚘𝚜𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝙰𝚕𝚕 𝚁𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝𝚜 𝚁𝚎𝚜𝚎𝚛𝚟𝚎𝚍.

[twistedpink]

do NOT wish this kind of love on me. (I’m still allowed to talk abt it tho 😈) CW: TOXIC!!! @bju3c0re

Ugh, just thinking about you and your poor, codependent!partner living in the woods :) They’re absolutely using incompetence as a weapon- and even though you’re getting closer and closer to just dumping their body and being done with it, they’re thriving,, After all, don’t you owe them for the beautiful home they bought you? (The one you’ve spent years flipping and making livable in hopes of moving back to see friends/family again; SPOILER!!! You’re not leaving) What about the family you’re supposed to make? What about your love, and the sanctity of your marriage? They don’t trust you in the city, where just anyone could steal you away.. Besides, if you got back to “living comfortably”, then how are they supposed to watch you do hours of chores while they get to enjoy retirement? It’s their favourite hobby, and while they don’t plan on asking- they’re sure you enjoy it. God, you want to just wipe that stupid smirk off the face of the earth forever,, But you know that for all their lazing around, no matter how you went about it, they’d still manage to overcome you. That’s just the way it is- and just the way they like it </3

This w/.. Ace Trappola, Leona Kingscholar, GEORGINA LEECH, Floyd Leech, JADE LEECH, ROOK HUNT, LILIA VANROUGE