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How to Have a Love Life (from someone who actually has one)

Step 1. Set Your Standards

Because if you don’t, the universe will send you men who text “wanna hang?” at 11:52 p.m.

Know what you want, even if it’s irrational. Tall, plays piano, Catholic guilt, looks good in black. Whatever. You’re allowed.

No chemistry? No deal. A good résumé means nothing if you feel nothing. You're trying to find love, you should feel something. A spark, a shiver, or a silly smile when he texts.

He should be a bit obsessed. Not restraining order obsessed, but “sent you a poem at midnight” obsessed.

“Busy” is a myth. If he wants to, he will. If he doesn’t, he won’t. There’s no mystery.

Step 2. Prepare Yourself

Not in a “fix yourself” way. In a “become so hot and self-possessed he can’t think straight” way.

Update your social media. Post hot pics, read pretentious books, quote Sappho. Let them suffer.

Romanticise your routines. The skincare, the gym, the getting ready playlist, it’s part of the charm.

Don’t try to be chill. Be passionate, a little dramatic, slightly impossible to forget. (we hate nonchalant here.)

Have a life. Not to impress him. To survive him. Join a class, go dancing, make art. Text your friends more than you text him. You need something to come home to if it falls apart.

Step 3. How to Actually Meet Guys

Yes, unfortunately, you do have to leave the house (or at least open your DMs).

Be online strategically. The story with the books, the wine glass, the dangerous neckline? Essential.

Go places alone. Cafés, galleries, vintage bookstores. Hot people live in those.

Talk first. Say something weird. Say something dry. Say anything at all. Most guys are just relieved. He won't think you're weird, and if he does, that's useful data. You don't want someone who's scared of a girl with opinions and a personality.

Mutual friends? Ask. Being set up is underrated. Just make sure it’s not someone who still says “epic.”

Step 4. Surviving the Talking Stage

Also known as: limbo, hell, emotional roulette.

Keep texting fun. You’re not here to conduct an interview.

Match his energy, then go slightly colder. Mystery keeps the plot alive.

Don’t over-invest. He’s cute, not a life plan. Don't build an entire narrative off a playlist and three emojis.

Pull back if needed. You’re not being “too much.” You’re being someone who doesn’t beg.

Step 5. Dating 101

Congratulations. You’ve made it to the main event. Don’t panic now.

Look stunning, obviously. Even if you’re just getting coffee. Especially then.

Ask good questions. The goal is connection and psychological evaluation.

Stay unpredictable. Be kind, funny, engaging, but also allow for some silent moments. It shouldn't feel awkward.

Know when to walk away. If it’s not fun, not flirty, and not fulfilling, you can go.

Step 6. Debrief & Detox

Even CIA operatives get to talk to someone after a mission.

Tell your friends everything. Especially the ridiculous parts. Especially the unhinged texts. Your group chat is sacred.

Let them reality-check you. They love you. They see the red flags when you’re busy romanticising the beige.

Don’t skip the closure. Even if the ending was awkward or slow-fade. Name it, process it, laugh about it. Then leave it.

Step 7. If It Works Out

Not every story ends in disaster. Sometimes it actually gets good.

Stay a little delusional. You still get to romanticise it all. That’s half the fun.

Keep your identity. Don’t fold into each other like laundry. Stay weird. Keep your rituals. Be your own person with someone.

Let yourself be happy. Not suspicious. Not waiting for it to crash. Just happy. Let it feel real. You don't have to apologise for being loved. You don't have to brace for impact. allow yourself to enjoy.

Still debrief with your friends. Even in love. Especially in love. They were there before, and they’ll be there after—if it ever comes to that.

And if none of this works? Post a blurry photo in your favourite outfit, listen to Norman Fucking Rockwell, and disappear for 48 hours.

lots of love (literally) to all of you and if anyone has a question or request feel free to submit it here -> <3

also, my insta hehehe

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THE ART OF FALLING ! pt 5.

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part 3 | part 4 𓂅

[ 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒆. ] — the end is here guys 🤩 it’s kinda bittersweet that it’s now finally complete but i enjoyed making this and i hope you all liked this as well ! also, there will be a new smau series coming vv sooonn :))

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hynjinnnn instagram update: 🎶 my chemical romance - teenagers

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Abs racha? Muscle racha??? MUSCLE RACHA 1000%

Cause they are all in it 🤤🥵

Credits to the owners of the pictures

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srry just came here to say that i’ve been drooling over this pic for the past 10 hours and i actually need him so bad it’s not even funny no more

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⋆ ❀⋆.ೃ Girly things I love as a woman ⋆. 𝜗𝜚 ⋆˚ ⊹

Sweet cakes, tea, morning coffee, skin care, flowers, sweet scent candles, fluffy blankets, mascara, pretty things, summer dresses, gifts, all things pink and cute, kind people, pretty eyeshadows, affirmations, universe, manifesting, listening to music, compliments, anything silk, 2000s movies, shopping, hyper feminine things, pink wins it all ໒꒱ ⋆ﾟ⊹

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me after ghosting tumblr for days

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HAN JISUNG — NYLON JAPAN MAY 2025

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Icon: Yang Jeongin ⌦ .｡.:*🎀

As a fan of Kpop for about 3 years, I've never really paid any attention to idol's outfits/personal styles-- especially not when stylists exist for them. Praise them for wearing the pieces well, but I never really praise the individual on their "chosen" aesthetic for their airport looks and keep the use of a company stylist in mind to avoid glazing, no matter how pathetic that sounds. Until I found myself in the fandom of Stray Kids, (to explain briefly) an 8-member (simply fashionable) boy group who are: Bangchan, Lee Know, Changbin, Hyunjin, Han, Felix, Seungmin, and I.N or Yang Jeongin whom I am going to discuss today in this personal log.

Aside from being a Kpop fanatic, I also tend to hyper-fixate on topics relating to identity and forms of expression like art and fashion styles. Any person wearing fashion pieces that pique my interest in a way other micro-trends have not, I will always, always overanalyze their practiced styles to just end up on spitting an uncreditable opinion on it. So when I first took a look at the members of Stray Kids, I obviously noticed their concepts and aesthetic as one group: a mix of edgy and hip-hop streetwear that seems to fit them naturally, one that I find standing out the most (in terms of personal style): Yang Jeongin.

Looking at his Instagram page, there is no doubt that Jeongin has become very keen on what he wears. Like a personal style, Jeongin finds ways to cater the streetwear, and hip-hop-like styles to his own preference, moreover finding ways to make every baggy jeans/jorts, messenger bag, New York Yankees, chunky/flat sneakers, and oversized coat look so effortlessly trendy and stylish. As Joseph Kocharian in a Rolling Stone article for Stray Kids writes:

"Hyunjin said that if he could share a wardrobe with any other member, it would be I.N. It’s clear from how he works today’s choice of outfit that he has a considered understanding of fashion and an eye for up-and-coming trends."

Jeongin not only has the ability to embody his preference for aesthetics with ease (which I personally still struggle with) but also make unusual fashion statements look all so natural. And as Teen Vogue once said: "Cool, casual, effortless", it amplifies to the statement that his outfits are eye-catching and captivating but at the same time-- very simple and casual. Just like his older member, Hyunjin, they both can perform the chill, laid back persona that seem to fit them and their built duality for other fashion related agendas, such as fashion weeks and magazine issues easily.

Jeongin's ways of dressing can help encourage aspiring fashion icons to start experimenting even with the things they might already have. Despite his partnerships with Bottega Veneta and a network that can help him with the fast-paced trends of 2024, he certainly still remembers to incorporate accessories that he already has with his outfits (e.g black tie, black framed glasses), just like his hyung Han with his Still Life Supreme black shirt he often wears back in 2019-2020; it isn't hard to just grab some pieces of old pieces of jewelry, your fresh jeans and your favorite go-to t-shirt to make an outfit that'll lure in curious glances and impressions like I.N does!

Hi cuties!! I am back with a long-written post I wrote just because I saw I.N's most creative outfit yet yesterdayy... anyways, I'm also planning on making a blog for more personal posts, like a second journal/diary-- but exams are probably going to halt the process of setting up that profile, but I'm still going to give you all a heads-up anyway! I know this isn't my usual posts, but I really like to expand my postings other than tips and experiences, so if you all like this, leave a note! Thank you so so so much for reading!

Sugarcoat (NATTY Solo) - Kiss of Life

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how does tumblr even work do you just like talk to yourself until people are like "i like this one"

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˚ ༘♡ ⋆｡˚ ❀🤍🩷↶*ೃ✧˚. ❃ ↷ ˊ-🍡🫧ₓ˚. ୭

13 by HAN

mood when it's almost my birthday... 🙂‍↔️🙀

chill - stray kids

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November will be full of blessings

November will be full of good physical health

November will be full of good news

November will be full of good luck

November will be full of good mental health

November will be full of good energy

November will be full of answered prayers

November will be full of peace

November will be full of love

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Playlist for your next thoughts 𓏲⋆ ִֶָ ๋💭𓂃 ⋆ᡣ𐭩

Chill but addictive songs to accompany your quiet time - from an intp, k-pop recommendations.

💤 replay - shinee

☕ 또 다시 밤 (twilight) - stray kids

🥛 try again - jaehyun, d.ear

🧸 허락 (consent) - baby V.O.X

🎞 love - wave to earth

💌 get up - new jeans

🍦rewind - wonder girls

📚 only - leehi

🚬 sour grapes - le sserafim

🐇 leave - stray kids

🎧 cover me - stray kids

🎹 here always - seungmin

🪞 stars and raindrops - seungmin

🍪 bad - wave to earth

🗞 miss you - hyunjin

🍮 bam yang gang - bibi

📷 ditto - newjeans

☁ moonlight melody - red velvet

🍂 whistle - blackpink

I practically sleep to these songs when I put it on a soft volume they're just super lulling 😭 also the subtle change of theme in this post is just temporary ik this isn't usually pink.

Fall is calling my name 🎃

또 다시 밤 (twilight) - stray kids

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