amousewithnocheese

[amousewithnocheese]

what’s visual static but also I love cornflower blue how dare you trash talk it

Pantone cornflower blue is the ugliest colour. Fuck you you dusty-ass blue pastel bitch.

[amousewithnocheese]

happy birthday to me! squeak squeak!

[amousewithnocheese]

i’m so glad i make you feel happy 🥹 one of my favorite things to do is stop by my favorite blogs every now and then and show a little love because the world could use more kindness <3

hope everything’s going okay!!! remember to take care of yourself and take breaks when you need them 💗

thank youuu!! you as well!

[amousewithnocheese]

hiiiiiii!!! little reminder that you are COOL 💗

YOU ARE TOO! everytime i see your asks i get really happy!

[amousewithnocheese]

see, i said that yesterday, and i still cant see a future with her, but why should i give up a good relationship that's happening right now just cuz im overthinking about the future?? like yea it might not work out in the end, but why should i breakup with someone who treats me well, is very accepting for the most part, and is overall a great person who me and literally all of my family like. if i can talk to her and compromise with her about me & the things im comfortable with, i'm staying with her.

sometimes i just get too much into my head and think too long about things i shouldn't be worrying about. i need to get better at keeping my thoughts in the present. if i ever start talking like that again, which is very likely, it's probably cuz im just stuck in my head.

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i get that 🫂🫂

[amousewithnocheese]

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO (it’s a Wednesday now)

you're cute and it's tuesday

[amousewithnocheese]

so. been thinking about things a lot. and. i cant see myself with her in the future. not just for the asexuality thing, but also because i cant tell her im ftm trans, and just general things too. and i dont know what to do. i dont know if these thoughts are a momentary phase so i dont want to do something i'll regret, but- like- i dont know how to go about this. she's awesome, her family's awesome, i just cant see myself with her for a long time. i kinda wish we had just stayed friends, because she's awesome like i said, i just dont think she's the one for me. if i do break things off with her at some point, i don't think i'll date for quite awhile. i just dont know what to do. i don't really expect you to know either, just need to get this out of my head.

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I completely understand that feeling🫂🫂🫂im here for you, and I’ve been through that exact thing with my previous relationship

[amousewithnocheese]

thank you for the advice! this has just been on my mind a lot even since the beginning, but recently it's just been a constant, overwhelming thing that won't leave my head. and i really don't like being uncomfortable so... better to say something now and hope she understands than wait and continue to be uncomfortable.

i revised the last paragraph with what you said in mind and this is how it turned out:

"if this changes your opinion of me or how you feel about me, I want to know. I don’t want you to be uncomfortable in this relationship because of me not wanting to do certain things; you deserve to have what you want from a relationship, and I understand if I cannot give that to you. I’d be more than willing to explain more if needed, and we can work on coming up with ways that I can show you I love you without putting myself in an uncomfortable situation. I’ve just decided to put my comfort first from now on. I hope you can understand. 

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sounds good to me!!

[amousewithnocheese]

ask #2 this is what i want to send to her:

"hey so I've been thinking about this a lot and i realized that i never fully explained my asexuality to you. You know what it is, but not what it means to me. To put it simply: i dislike sex and anything related to it (kinks, talking about it, sexual items, sexual comments/jokes, etc). I also don’t like making out. I don’t enjoy doing it, i think it’s boring, i don’t get any positive feeling out of it, and the times we have i’ve been doing it for you. And on a somewhat related note, i’m also not a huge fan of PDA. hugging is fine, holding hands is fine, and short kisses (only if it’s just us OR if it’s only us + friends, no adults) are also fine. But i don’t like kissing in public, having you in my lap, etc.

the making out is specifically what’s been on my mind the most. i don’t enjoy it, don’t want to do it, and i don’t like spending the time we have together just making out. it genuinely makes me uncomfortable, and has made me hesitate to say yes to hanging out because i know that’s very likely what you’ll want to do. i want to apologize for not saying something sooner, but i was working on coming to a complete decision before saying something. 

if this changes your opinion of me or how you feel about me, i want to know. I don’t want you to be uncomfortable in this relationship because of me not wanting to do certain things; you deserve to have what you want from a relationship, and i understand if i cannot give that to you. i’ve just decided to put my comfort first from now on. I hope you can understand. "

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I like this :3 you’re very good at setting this clear boundary!

if it were me I’d be like “id be happy to explain this more in person/find some way to make sure you still feel loved and cared for without disturbing this boundary”, but that’s just me

I’m proud of you for saying something!!! I’ve been in this exact situation before except I didn’t say anything and I totally should’ve, so I applaud you :)

[amousewithnocheese]

hii! i dont remember the last time i sent an ask to this account but i feel like the content of my next ask shouldn't entirely be on an agere account (as many of my other asks shouldn't have.. but i forgot i can send asks to this account too)

im going to send this in 2 asks because if you don't feel comfortable answering the second ask you can just delete it!

i would just like some advice if you have any. i've decided to come clean to my girlfriend about the things i've been uncomfortable with in our relationship and have written something out that i want to send to her. but before i send it, i wanted to see if you'd be willing to read it and give me your thoughts. what i've written out will be in the second ask so that, like i said, you can delete it if it makes you uncomfortable. thank you!

i hope you have an amazing (insert time you see this), and are doing well! :)

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o7 aye aye cap’n

[amousewithnocheese]

hi fool /r @bardmusing

a good gender neutral term to use is “fool”

[amousewithnocheese]

HE. IS. MY. EVERYTHING.

[amousewithnocheese]

anyone gonna talk about how this calendar starts each week on saturday..

(for someone in North America this is questionable and just a little painful)

everything else migjt suck but at least we have a perfectly shaped february to anticipate halfheartedly

[amousewithnocheese]

@bardmusing you sleeping

[amousewithnocheese]

ME AND WILL @caregiverlad

cosy ˖˚⊹

print ✶

! do not reupload/repost anywhere !

[amousewithnocheese]

@bardmusing this is how I feel about 80% of the people on wiztwt

Found several packs' worth of pokemon cards strewn across a target parking lot and took a pic to show my friends without realizing how much my outfit elevated the scene to "aftermath of a wizard duel"

[amousewithnocheese]

meow! 😸

just a friendly reminder, have you meowed today? it's very important that you meow at least once a day so I wanted to check