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aromantic spec flavored post

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shipping isn’t about what the writers or actors say is or isn’t romantic. shipping isn’t even about romance a good percentage of the time. shipping is about seeing The Dynamic and going absolutely hog wild in your mind and your friends dms about it.

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I wish TERFs would read this and really internalize it. You’re not wrong for leaning into ‘gender is a construct’ or being ‘gender critical’, or even gender abolitionist. you’re, instead of turning it outwards towards larger society, wrong for WEAPONIZING it a particular way against particular people.

Unpopular opinion time.

And FYI, this is not an entreaty for trans women or trans men to DO anything different or LIVE any differently. Nothing to do with external presentation or moving about the world.

thing is,

I think that, to use specifically modern, Westernized linguistic constructions, a well-rounded person is going to end up, internally, psychologically, being some form of genderfluid, bigender, or agender. And this includes conventionally cis people too!

I would actually be rather concerned if any person on earth didn’t EVER experience some transient state where they related to the other gender. Now, cis men particularly can be embarrassed about it and not talk about it, or deny it, but I’m nearly 100% confident it does in fact happen to anyone who has even a smidge of self-awareness.

It’s all concepts and subjectivity. I simply don’t believe in the “core gender” or “unassailable gender” or whatever is claimed to underlie gender identity. We’re all people. “Gender” is not a “thing” that “exists.”

It’s a cultural construct.

Now cue the booing ig.

Whether or not one believes in the literal concept of yin and yang energy, I think it’s an extremely useful construct to understand individuals and have a balanced perspective of the mind.

We all started as female and each have behaviors that might be classed as the other gender IF taken in isolation. No one is wholly black and white. The only thing I might tweak with regards to the biological rhetoric here is, the two blueprints of the genders are a lot more alike than they are different (think homologous structures, both testosterone /and/ estrogen being present in both systems, which seems to boggle the minds of uninformed conservatives, lol. Never mind cis women and men having overlapping levels collectively) They’re not ‘opposites’ at all, and not even clearly demarcated categories. So the same should apply to the mind. No walls. Be free.

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THISSSSSSSSSSS

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It’s funny because pre-47, ABSOLUTELY it was true that corporations were just following the buck and doing rainbow capitalism. But NOW, the wind has shifted, and those who dropped it have shown their true colors, and those who stick to it are doing REAL stances.

Update your worldview, things have changed!!

hey sorry not to be an asshole but I saw someone say that a sports team posting about pride month was "pandering" and I need you to log off and touch grass because now more than EVER it's important that large institutions (and especially those that could easily be right wing like sports teams) show the fuck up for queer and trans people. especially trans people. so no it is not "pandering" to take a stand for a marginalized group of people that are currently under attack for trying to play sports. be so fucking for real

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Lotta confusion as to "why are the granola save the whales hippies right wing conspiracy theorists now?" And I think the answer is twofold:

Any social movement in the anglosphere is gonna have a certain amount of reactionaries who happen to be temporarily aimed at a good cause. A lot of them were always low-key right wing.

When you have no ability for class analysis, it is a very short idealogical step from "distrust of pharmaceutical companies" to "distrust of modern medicine as a whole" to "judeo-bolsheviks are poisoning white babies for profit"

This trend will continue until people have access to non-predatory healthcare. Conspiracism thrives when people are failed by the systems they rely on.

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*me just minding my business online

“aw dope, non-sexualized full-body contact is so rare”

“oh, of course the allos fucked it up. Welp.”

nothing sexier than that picture with the italian players on top of eachother after the win and the english ones going through the 5 stages of grief in the back

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Reblog if you’re 30 or older

This is an experiment to see if there really are as few of us as people think.You can also use this to freak out your followers who think you’re 25 or something. Yay!

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this post is uh desperate need of a TLDR or two

…wasn’t it though? Every deep dive I’ve seen says that men who fancy fat women were a big part of the movement’s beginning.

Am I looking at biased sources?

(Please note thst “the origin of this movement was people with kinks” does not mean “this is mostly people with kinks now.” Kinky people are very often driven out of movements they helped start. Pride would be another one.)

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the allos can make anything into erotica, lol

I watched the 2009 movie fight scene again and.. good heavens

Some screenshots I took of the scene- purely for reference you understand, yep, nothing else

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But ‘being a dick’ means being an asshole.

(yes it doesn’t punch as hard as ‘b*%$@,’ but still)

I don’t like (but understand- since women shouldn’t be shamed for how much sex they have) reclamation of hoe or slut, but at least they aren’t like THE worst insult there IS

tbh I don’t have a problem with the word queer, but I also don’t 100% think of myself as queer (and a lot of other aces don’t, esp older aces) because we weren’t welcomed into queer spaces initially.

ha yeah sorry i don't actually find it funny that one of the grosser misogynistic slurs is now a meme-y way of saying stylish. yes i know, i know. australia and drag queens exist. and getting offended isn't very reclaimful or demure of me. or whatever.

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You know ….. This is especially upsetting as an AFAB ace person. This may seem weird, but sexual repulsion can go for one’s own body as well. For me, it’s much more slight and mild than repulsion for other peoples’ bodies, and more infrequent, but nevertheless. Most of the time I don’t even think about and/or forget the fact that I even have one down there. Being reminded of it (OR pregnancy- tokophobia’s a b@*!#) in reference to myself is an unpleasant experience that ranges from irritating to midrange dysphoria.

I am ‘turned on’ probably less than once per year. And yes I’ve extensively compared the piddly sensation I get with peoples’ detailed descriptions of what it’s like just to double check question my own validity over and over. It is just not part of my life. I’m a person first and a body second. Calling me or anyone else a literal vulva is jarring, like nails on a chalkboard.

Don’t care if it’s autism a la taking things literally, it’s not going to stand and we’re not going to be friends long even if you’re a literal feminist activist if you push on this interpersonally. ‘lighten up’ No how bout YOU find another word in the thousands of adjectives and compliments in the English language??????

Do NOT normalize this! On behalf of people who don’t have any of these 3 problems, too!

ha yeah sorry i don't actually find it funny that one of the grosser misogynistic slurs is now a meme-y way of saying stylish. yes i know, i know. australia and drag queens exist. and getting offended isn't very reclaimful or demure of me. or whatever.

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I don’t agree about q but yes to all the rest. All this historical progress for women to be seen as more than their reproductive parts, and you SOMEHOW bring back referring to her as her genitalia?

How would men feel if we started saying ‘omg you’re looking so dick-ish today!’ Totally mean it in a positive way tho!!! tee hee

ha yeah sorry i don't actually find it funny that one of the grosser misogynistic slurs is now a meme-y way of saying stylish. yes i know, i know. australia and drag queens exist. and getting offended isn't very reclaimful or demure of me. or whatever.

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The fact that people don't think friendship is enough to justify characters doing insane acts of love for each other baffles me. Like have you never loved your friend so so much you want to live in their ribcage. Have you never been really weird about a friend. Have you never wanted to bite your friends parents or shove them down a staircase. Have you never wanted to be buried in the same grave as a friend. Have u never. How do u people live like this.

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shout out to all the bitches NOT having gay sex this pride month

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This is Jim Sinclair, at the time going by Toby. They are a neuter, asexual and intersex enban, and a seminal autism activist. They have been an educator on transneutral nonbinary identity, non-binary transition, the anti binarist position and intersex issues for decades. This is an interview with them from the 1980s, talking about their experience as a non-binary/genderqueer person at a time where the community was just coming together.

"In a 1997 introduction to the Intersex Society of North America, Sinclair wrote, "I remain openly and proudly neuter, both physically and socially."

Nonbinary people have always existed, and will always exist. Happy Trans History Week! 💛🤍💜🖤

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I feel like, as the rush of "Love Wins" slogans pop up everywhere, that that is important to recognize that as not just talking about the romantic or sexual love of same-sex couples. It includes that, but it also includes the love for our trans sister, brothers, and siblings, our intersex, genderqueer, gender non-comforming friends, and any other person of any sex or gender. It includes our love for our bi friends, fellow aces, aros, pans, any combination of sexual, romantic, platonic affection. Love for our cisgender, straight allies, and anyone who finds meaning in the community. Division will never help, but connection and unity always will.

Because it's not as much about love winning, but about hate losing. It's our love for others, as well as ourselves, that will defeat hate.

Now this anon, v smart, v correct, <3

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sigh

allosexuals need to understand that boundaries or repulsion =/= judgement

People are always so scared that bc I'm ace I will judge them for being into weird shit like. hon, I'm a freak too and it's not even a sexual thing. Which is arguably worse